Are you the ‘Difficult Spouse’ ?

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Real relationships are not perfect and perfect relationships are not real !!

 

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If you are a wife or husband and on many occasions you think you are disappointed because of the other…..and think the other is the ‘difficult spouse’…. then this article is for you.

I am thankful to you if you felt there is something wrong in either of the parties and the mistake can be rectified easily.

There are two types of marriages.( Marriages are made in heaven.Is itn’t ?)

1.Love marriage

2.Arranged marriage ( In most of the eastern countries )

Irrespective of the type of marriage,both the man and the woman of his love have to adjust with each other in order to be compatible.

In fact, post marriage life is full of challenges and it exposes the couple to myriads of issues.

But we all know the truth.

One day or other both the man & the woman have to face unpleasant situation of opposing & different opinions and views, in matters of their day-to-day ‘living together’

The reality of the so-called colorful future has to show its fangs,since it is waiting to strike first !

Once the misunderstanding happens and prolongs….There are two options available

  1. You decided you are not going to adjust at all…then Apply for divorce and probably matter can come to end to the mutual satisfaction,and thus ending the very discussion I am trying to make.
  2. If the above choice is not the option due to so many other pressing matters,( which is a bit lengthy topic, for some other time discussion ) and you both have to live together,and you have to go along with the spouse….thus making the ‘misunderstanding part’ useless and even unnecessary.

Why to quarrel at all in the first place ?

Now it’s time to think.

1.Realize that ‘ married happily ever after ‘ is an illusion ( Maya )
2.Understand that Wife & Husband belong to the same team and they have to work

together for the success of their married life.

“Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor. For if either of them falls, the one will lift up his companion. But woe to the one who falls when there is not another to lift him up.

Ecclesiastes4.9-10

3.We often hurt our spouse knowingly or unknowingly.Do you know the solution ? Ask for ‘forgiveness’ whole heartedly.

4.When Anger or Helplessness happens to one of you…just take a deep breath and allow the heated moment to pass.Don’t forget.. time’s the greatest healer.

5.Remember marriage is a vow,before God.

Now it’s time to put the following into action.

Don’t allow discord to remain ,not more than one minute,and your anger not more than a second.

Don’t be bossy and do not take one another for granted.

Respect individual feelings & make mutual adjustments

Make sincere effort to avoid jealousy and Ego & revenge,be the first to make the other win the argument.( small trick I tell you…remember whoever does most talking is the one at fault )

Don’t deprive each other of your needs just to take the revenge

Keep communicating,by which I mean try to find where exactly things are going wrong.

Constantly tell to yourself….

  • Forget & forgive,
  • I can go also wrong,
  • live & let live,
  • let us make best,out of the difficult situation,
  • I trust you.

Finally

I asked an old man “which is more important? To love or to be loved?”
Old man replied “which is more important to a bird, the left wing or the right wing?” – MarriageHumor, Instagram

A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers – Robert Quillen

A perfect marriage is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.-yourtango.com

A marriage is a like a house. When a light bulb goes out, you do not go and buy a new house, you fix the light bulb. – Happy Wives Club

Marriage is meant to keep people together, not just when things are good, but particularly when they are not. That’s why we take marriage vows, not wishes. – Ngina Otiende

 

Any thoughts on being the Difficult Spouse ?

which of the above quotes ,you think sends the perfect message ?

Thanks for being a patient reader and reaching this point.

Thank you

Philosophy Through Photography

Pixabay,Curiano.com

Lifes Way of solving problems

Life is very complicated.

Don’t try to find Answers.

Because when you find answers,

Life changes the Questions.

Thank you

Philosophy Through Photography

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Global warming of different kind

Global warming of different kind

Don’t hesitate to spread the warmth whatever may be your situation ! 

“Warm weather fosters growth.Cold weather destroys it.Thus a man with an unsympathetic temperament has scanty joy:But a man with a warm and friendly heart is overflowing with blessings,and his beneficence will extend to posterity.” Hung Tzu-Ch’Eng

 

“Even more important than the warmth and affection we receive,is the warmth and affection we give,It is by giving warmth and affection,by having a genuine sense of concern for others,in other words through compassion,that we gain the conditions for genuine happiness.More important than being loved,therefore is to love.” Dalai Lama

 

“Each of us is responsible for creating an environment of warmth and consideration for those we love.I have always tried to define a good day not in terms of one in which all things were made right and comfortable for me but rather,as a day in which I have been able to make another’s day more loving,and special for them.We must treat each other  with dignity.Not because we merit it,but because we grow best in thoughtfulness.” Leo Buscaglia

 

Finally

“A woman at 20 is like ice, at 30 she is warm and at 40 she is hot.” Gina Lollobrigida

Thank you

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Happy World Philosophy Day ( Nov 15 th )

“I know that I know nothing” Socrates

Philosophy derives from Two Greek words,Philos (love) & Sophia(wisdom).

Philosophy sheds light on the causes of various situations happening in this world and when you start asking questions in the form of ‘Why’…. remember,you start thinking like a philosopher.

An unexamined life is not worth living” Socrates

By celebrating World Philosophy Day each year, on the third Thursday of November,UNESCO underlines the enduring value of philosophy for the development of human thought, for each culture and for each individual

“Philosophy is an inspiring discipline as well as an everyday practice that can transform societies. By enabling us to discover the diversity of the intellectual currents in the world, philosophy stimulates intercultural dialogue. By awakening minds to the exercise of thinking and the reasoned confrontation of opinions, philosophy helps to build a more tolerant, more respectful society. For UNESCO, it is also the way to unleash humanity’s creative potential and generate new ideas. Philosophy creates the intellectual conditions for change, sustainable development and peace. ”

Audrey Azoulay
UNESCO Director-Genera

This field, which sees itself as a form of “wisdom”, teaches us to reflect on reflection itself, to continually question well-established truths, to verify hypotheses and to find conclusions.

(UNESCO)
It is a day for people to share thoughts, openly explore and discuss new ideas and inspire public debate or discussion on society’s challenges.(timeanddate.com)

Do you know This day also includes

1.Clean your Refrigerator day and

2.Use less stuff day.

Thank you

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Thursday Thoughts

Good morning,Thursday thoughts,quotes

Good morning

Good Morning

Welcome Every morning with a smile.

Look on the new day as another special gift from your Creator, another Golden opportunity to complete what you were unable to finish yesterday.

Be a self starter. Let your first hour set the theme of success and positive action that is certain to echo through your entire day.

Today Will Never Happen Again. Don’t Waste it with a false start or no start at all.

You Were Not Born To Fail.

Og Mandino