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Happily ever after…

 

Happily ever after

After going through years of litigation to get royalties due to him,the guy who coined the term ‘ Happily ever after ‘ lived reasonably well for a while Demetri Martin     photo by Kumar Saurabh.Pexels

Merriam Webster defines Fairy-tale as

” A story in which improbable events lead to a happy ending ”

Is ‘fairy tale’ possible after the marriage ?

Happiness you see,it’s just an illusion of fate,a Heavenly sleight of hand,designed to make you believe in fairy tales.But there’s no happily ever after.You’ll only find happy ending in books.In some books Ellen Hopkins

Why can’t you be realistic rather than expecting Mills & Boons type of Romantic novel stories ?

Why do you…specially addressed to you,the young generation fall into this trap ?

You are wise enough to know that it is a myth and a thrash !

Then why you have great expectations ?

12 solid reasons why married people are not wholly happy

Why you HOPE to have an everlasting happiness based on your romanticism of future, only to be disturbed emotionally in the initial stages and later, get depressed,disappointed,dejected even divorced and crying all the time ?

I have a fairy tale for you.Short & Sweet and Please don’t cry !

Read this shortest fairy tale.

Will you marry me ?

Photo by Caleb Oquendo from Pexels

Once upon a time an average looking guy asked one beautiful girl ” will you marry me ?

The girl without hesitation said “NO”

And the guy lived happily ever after and rode motorcycles and went fishing and hunting and played golf a lot and drank beer scotch and his favorite tequila and saved plenty of money in the bank and left the toilet seat up and farted whenever he wanted and many times forgot to clean his shit as he was enjoying his life meant to be lived happily ever after.

The End

How to make the young couple understand that Life is not a Fairy Tale ?

Mirror sighed. “I believe everyone deserves a happily ever after. But I think that happy endings don’t just happen by accident- you can’t wait for one. You have to make them happen. Michael Buckley

A successful marriage requires falling in love many times,always with the same person. Mignon Maclaughli

It’s only possible to live ‘happily ever after’ on a daily basis Margaret Wander Bonnano

Wife & Husband-Can’t they be best friends for life ?

Any Lessons ?

‘And they lived happily ever after’ is one of the most tragic sentences in literature.It’s tragic because it’s falsehood.It’s a myth that has led generations to expect something from marriage that is not possible Joshua L Liebman

I must say that the biggest lesson you can learn in life is not castle in the skies,happily ever after.The biggest lesson we have to give to our children is the truth.we’re all built with illusions.And they break. Goldie Hawn

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Shortest fairy tale-inspiration-Mike Crafton,Azquotes.com,lifescoolquotes. PhotoCredits-Photo credits Kumar Saurabh.Pexels

Are you the ‘Difficult Spouse’ ?

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Real relationships are not perfect and perfect relationships are not real !!

 

It’s 5.4 minute read.

If you are a wife or husband and on many occasions you think you are disappointed because of the other…..and think the other is the ‘difficult spouse’…. then this article is for you.

I am thankful to you if you felt there is something wrong in either of the parties and the mistake can be rectified easily.

There are two types of marriages.( Marriages are made in heaven.Is itn’t ?)

1.Love marriage

2.Arranged marriage ( In most of the eastern countries )

Irrespective of the type of marriage,both the man and the woman of his love have to adjust with each other in order to be compatible.

In fact, post marriage life is full of challenges and it exposes the couple to myriads of issues.

But we all know the truth.

One day or other both the man & the woman have to face unpleasant situation of opposing & different opinions and views, in matters of their day-to-day ‘living together’

The reality of the so-called colorful future has to show its fangs,since it is waiting to strike first !

Once the misunderstanding happens and prolongs….There are two options available

  1. You decided you are not going to adjust at all…then Apply for divorce and probably matter can come to end to the mutual satisfaction,and thus ending the very discussion I am trying to make.
  2. If the above choice is not the option due to so many other pressing matters,( which is a bit lengthy topic, for some other time discussion ) and you both have to live together,and you have to go along with the spouse….thus making the ‘misunderstanding part’ useless and even unnecessary.

Why to quarrel at all in the first place ?

Now it’s time to think.

1.Realize that ‘ married happily ever after ‘ is an illusion ( Maya )
2.Understand that Wife & Husband belong to the same team and they have to work

together for the success of their married life.

“Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor. For if either of them falls, the one will lift up his companion. But woe to the one who falls when there is not another to lift him up.

Ecclesiastes4.9-10

3.We often hurt our spouse knowingly or unknowingly.Do you know the solution ? Ask for ‘forgiveness’ whole heartedly.

4.When Anger or Helplessness happens to one of you…just take a deep breath and allow the heated moment to pass.Don’t forget.. time’s the greatest healer.

5.Remember marriage is a vow,before God.

Now it’s time to put the following into action.

Don’t allow discord to remain ,not more than one minute,and your anger not more than a second.

Don’t be bossy and do not take one another for granted.

Respect individual feelings & make mutual adjustments

Make sincere effort to avoid jealousy and Ego & revenge,be the first to make the other win the argument.( small trick I tell you…remember whoever does most talking is the one at fault )

Don’t deprive each other of your needs just to take the revenge

Keep communicating,by which I mean try to find where exactly things are going wrong.

Constantly tell to yourself….

  • Forget & forgive,
  • I can go also wrong,
  • live & let live,
  • let us make best,out of the difficult situation,
  • I trust you.

Finally

I asked an old man “which is more important? To love or to be loved?”
Old man replied “which is more important to a bird, the left wing or the right wing?” – MarriageHumor, Instagram

A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers – Robert Quillen

A perfect marriage is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.-yourtango.com

A marriage is a like a house. When a light bulb goes out, you do not go and buy a new house, you fix the light bulb. – Happy Wives Club

Marriage is meant to keep people together, not just when things are good, but particularly when they are not. That’s why we take marriage vows, not wishes. – Ngina Otiende

 

Any thoughts on being the Difficult Spouse ?

which of the above quotes ,you think sends the perfect message ?

Thanks for being a patient reader and reaching this point.

Thank you

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