Is your friendship is just an’Artificial Friendship’ ?

Artificial friendship

Does your friendship forge an emotional bond ?

 

Do you not long for that particular friendship which completes you ?

What is the definition of friendship ?

Voluntary relationship between people that lasts a long time and those involved are concerned about each other. It develops from shared interests and experiences and is mutually gratifying. source Psychology dictionary.com

Friendship is not based on sex,or age or other reasons

What is the best part in friendship ?

Don’t you think friendship in the form of shared interests and shared experiences which become memories over the time.

Are you not,the happiest when you cherish these wonderful memories of life,at the time of stress ?

Not just that,even when you both chat or speak to each other,recollecting some of the shared moments,shared jokes,even wondering how the time moving unusually fast,even making that moment wonderful !

What I am stressing is,the shared memories become a life’s Treasure.

Don’t you agree this is the best part in friendship ?

What happens,when friendship is forged ?

Definitely,the concern for each other increases.

Shared interest further strengthens the bond.

These two can happen only when you make a sincere effort to develop an emotional bond,by opening up,since you both are connected by mutual trust’ by this time.

How to make an emotional bond ? (somebody may even call this emotional link or cosmic link)

here I wish to make it clear that there is a difference between physical attraction and emotional attraction and physical attraction is a different subject for some other time discussion.

The efforts for emotional connection must come from both the friends,willing to make sincere efforts.

Four things are extremely important

1. Trust

2. Honesty

3. Sacrifice

4. Zero Ego

If these things are achieved from both sides,automatically emotional link is evolved

Trust – should be 100% .You can share your personal stories of mutual interest, and start bonding,and be sincere and frank.communicate regularly and develop mutual confidence

Honesty –  should be 100%.Be honest in your communications.Prevent miscommunications.

Sacrifice – should be 100%.If Friends happen to be in the same place ,make yourself available Never avoid or give excuses.If you both happen to be in different cities,provide moral support as much as possible constantly.

Ego – Here there is only one solution.. Destroy the ego feelings instantly.
Finally
No one is rich than a person who has a true friend

Just two interesting quotes

How many slams in an old screen door? Depends how loud you shut it. How many slices in a bread? Depends how thin you cut it. How much good inside a day? Depends how good you live ’em. How much love inside a friend? Depends how much you give ’em.”  Shell Silverstein

 

To the world you may be just one person, but to one person you may be the world.” Brandy Snyder

 

Thank You

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Why online friendship can fail ?

Why online freindship can fail ?

“life is a balance of holding and letting go”   Rumi

It is a common phenomenon that we are making friendship with online buddies and some of the friendships can truly turn out to be the best example of the Wonderful relationship lasting for ages.

It is said true friendship even outlast Romantic relationships.

Friendship can continue to the next level  only when the friends honestly share their lives with each other,trust each other 100%, and can overcome the initial hesitations & suspicions,share their feelings both during happy or a depressing situations even forgive one another for any misunderstanding if at all any such thing  arises and be supportive all the time.

And we are also aware that majority are not going to be honest for various reasons.Many times one is not sure how much personal information can be shared.

And we also know  that online friendship with unknown friends is as good as entering a dangerous territory.

But still some venture into this territory and become the Besties.

Then one gets doubt whether online friendship can sustain or fail …..

And are there any reasons one  prefers to log out ?

I know,  one can give hundreds of reasons,but my one and the only reason being one of the parties or both parties not making enough efforts to sustain the friendship ( As Rumi’s quote above says ),a kind of give & take.

You can check the link for more information.

How Long Online Friendship Lasts ?

Dear friends what are your thoughts on this subject ?

Did you any time experience failed online friendship and for what reason ? can you share ?

Thank you

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Lie & Life go together !

 

Half truth

I always tell the truth. Even when I lie.
Al Pacino

Every body lies .Yes even You. That is the truth.

Can you keep your Right hand on your heart and say you never lie ?

We lie even to ourselves !! Our world is full of liars!!

Parents to their children,children to their parents,Friend to another friend,Husband to wife vice versa,Lovers to each other,superior to subordinate and subordinate to superior.People lie to doctors,to lawyers,to relatives,you name it,at every stage one is lying to others depending on the circumstances.

The day is incomplete  if you don’t lie !

And what about Surveys ,the Researchers undertake  to know the pulse of the people?

Are they getting the truthful  response ?

How about our dependence  on Google for A  to Z queries ? Are you getting the accurate reply?

Then why on the Earth you expect others to be Honest ??

Is this not the best example of ‘Double Standard’ ?

Nicholas Sparks says lie is a part of living.

“Because everybody lies, It’s part of living in society.

Don’t get me wrong-I think it’s necessary.

The last thing anyone wants is to live in a society where total honesty prevails.

Can you imagine the conversations?

You’re short and fat, one person might say, and the other might answer, I know.

But you smell bad, It just wouldn’t work. So people lie by omission all the time.

People will tell you most of the story…and I’ve learned that the part they neglect to tell you is often the most important part.

People hide the truth because they’re afraid.” -Jo       Nicholas Sparks

Even the ‘sex’ is not spared.

Everybody lies about sex. People lie during sex. If it weren’t for lies, there’d be no sex.    Jerry Seinfeld

Why everybody lies ?
Lying is not only a defense mechanism; it’s also a coping mechanism and a survival
technique.      Monica Raymund
Another reason given is..
“The truth is always a disappointment,which is why everybody
lies”.      FrederickBeigbeder
Now coming to difference between lying and deceptionn…..
Lying is a form of Deception…
Deception however does not always involve lying.
Please share your thoughts on this subject.
Thank you
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