Are you the ‘Difficult Spouse’ ?

Unhappy coule

Real relationships are not perfect and perfect relationships are not real !!

 

It’s 5.4 minute read.

If you are a wife or husband and on many occasions you think you are disappointed because of the other…..and think the other is the ‘difficult spouse’…. then this article is for you.

I am thankful to you if you felt there is something wrong in either of the parties and the mistake can be rectified easily.

There are two types of marriages.( Marriages are made in heaven.Is itn’t ?)

1.Love marriage

2.Arranged marriage ( In most of the eastern countries )

Irrespective of the type of marriage,both the man and the woman of his love have to adjust with each other in order to be compatible.

In fact, post marriage life is full of challenges and it exposes the couple to myriads of issues.

But we all know the truth.

One day or other both the man & the woman have to face unpleasant situation of opposing & different opinions and views, in matters of their day-to-day ‘living together’

The reality of the so-called colorful future has to show its fangs,since it is waiting to strike first !

Once the misunderstanding happens and prolongs….There are two options available

  1. You decided you are not going to adjust at all…then Apply for divorce and probably matter can come to end to the mutual satisfaction,and thus ending the very discussion I am trying to make.
  2. If the above choice is not the option due to so many other pressing matters,( which is a bit lengthy topic, for some other time discussion ) and you both have to live together,and you have to go along with the spouse….thus making the ‘misunderstanding part’ useless and even unnecessary.

Why to quarrel at all in the first place ?

Now it’s time to think.

1.Realize that ‘ married happily ever after ‘ is an illusion ( Maya )
2.Understand that Wife & Husband belong to the same team and they have to work

together for the success of their married life.

“Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor. For if either of them falls, the one will lift up his companion. But woe to the one who falls when there is not another to lift him up.

Ecclesiastes4.9-10

3.We often hurt our spouse knowingly or unknowingly.Do you know the solution ? Ask for ‘forgiveness’ whole heartedly.

4.When Anger or Helplessness happens to one of you…just take a deep breath and allow the heated moment to pass.Don’t forget.. time’s the greatest healer.

5.Remember marriage is a vow,before God.

Now it’s time to put the following into action.

Don’t allow discord to remain ,not more than one minute,and your anger not more than a second.

Don’t be bossy and do not take one another for granted.

Respect individual feelings & make mutual adjustments

Make sincere effort to avoid jealousy and Ego & revenge,be the first to make the other win the argument.( small trick I tell you…remember whoever does most talking is the one at fault )

Don’t deprive each other of your needs just to take the revenge

Keep communicating,by which I mean try to find where exactly things are going wrong.

Constantly tell to yourself….

  • Forget & forgive,
  • I can go also wrong,
  • live & let live,
  • let us make best,out of the difficult situation,
  • I trust you.

Finally

I asked an old man “which is more important? To love or to be loved?”
Old man replied “which is more important to a bird, the left wing or the right wing?” – MarriageHumor, Instagram

A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers – Robert Quillen

A perfect marriage is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.-yourtango.com

A marriage is a like a house. When a light bulb goes out, you do not go and buy a new house, you fix the light bulb. – Happy Wives Club

Marriage is meant to keep people together, not just when things are good, but particularly when they are not. That’s why we take marriage vows, not wishes. – Ngina Otiende

 

Any thoughts on being the Difficult Spouse ?

which of the above quotes ,you think sends the perfect message ?

Thanks for being a patient reader and reaching this point.

Thank you

Philosophy Through Photography

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Ego=bubble

Ego bubble


Your ego may be just a soap bubble.May be for a few seconds it will remain,rising higher in the air.

Perhaps for a few seconds it may have a rainbow,but is only for a few seconds.In this infinite & eternal existence your egos go on bursting every moment.

It is better not to have any attachment with soap bubbles

Rajneesh

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Tired

tired ?

There are two types of “tired”,I suppose.One is a dire need of Sleep,the other is dire need of Peace

One is ‘physical tiredness’ & and the other is ‘mental tiredness’.

If it is ‘Physical tiredness’ …easy to recover.Just take good rest.

But if the tiredness is because of Mental stress,how are you going to recover ?

Can you give mental peace a chance ? Is it possible ?

It’s easier said than done.

But time is the greatest healer.That is what they say.

Are we not  just finding an escape route just by uttering this ??

There is one phrase which is amazing in sense,one can use it in ‘bad times’ and it makes one happy and the same phrase if used in ‘good times’ it makes one sad.

“This time (moment/situation) will also go away”

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Friendship vs Love…which triumps ?

It’s 2.2 minute read

“Sometimes,in life there really are bonds formed that can never be broken.

Sometimes you really can find that one person who will stand by you no matter what.

May be you will find it in a spouse and celebrate it with your dream wedding.

But there’s also the chance that the person you can count on for a life time, the person who knows you sometimes better than you know yourself, is the same person who’s been standing beside you all along”.      Bride wars

Let us see who triumphs at the end.

LOVE

L is the 12 th letter of alphabets

O is the 15 th letter of alphabets

V is the 22 nd letter of alphabets

E is the 05 th  letter  of alphabets

Total of Love is = 54.

FRIENDSHIP

F is the 06 th letter of alphabets

R is the 18 th letter of alphabets

I is the 09 th letter of alphabets

E is the 05 th letter of alphabets

N is the 14 th letter of alphabets

D is the 04 th letter of alphabets

S is the 19 th letter of alphabets

H is the 08 th letter of alphabets

I is the   09 th letter of alphabets

P is the 16 th letter of alphabets

Total of Friendship is = 108

Exactly twice of 54

So the FRIENDSHIP is twice the value of LOVE.

Do you agree ??

Now time for some fun

One day Love met Friendship.Love asked,why did you exist when I already exist?

Friendship replied..to put a smile where you’ve left tears.

And

“There are friends,there is family,And then there are friends that become family.”

What is your take ? Friendship or Love ? Check this link

Wife & Husband-can’t they be best friends for life ?

Thank you.

Philosophy Through Photography

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International Day of Happiness March 20 th

International Day of Happiness

What is International Day of Happiness ?

It’s a day to be happy, of course!

Of course ,as humans we try our level best to be happy through out our lives.

But have we at any time remember somebody,who keep us happy most of the times?

Do we even make an attempt to recognize such people ? The moment your happiness is over…you tend to forget those responsible for your happiness !

I am fortunate that there is somebody who makes me happy,smile & laugh and I recognize this fact and I am thankful to this person .Of course these things can’t happen without Almighty’s blessings.

Since 2013, the United Nations has celebrated the International Day of Happiness as a way to recognize the importance of happiness in the lives of people around the world.

The United Nations invites each person of any age,plus every classroom,business and government to join in celebration of the International Day of Happiness

Suppose no body is there for you to achieve happiness…what would you do ?

The formula is  simple !!

“Happiness equals to reality minus expectations”  Tom Magliozzi

Thank you

Philosophy Through Photography

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Are you sad ?

Are yu sad ?

Some days are just bad days,that’s all.You have to experience sadness to know happiness,and I remind myself that not every day is going to be a good day,that’s just the way it is !  Dita Von Teese     

“It is popularly believed that sadness is due to certain things that happens to us. The cause of sadness is often traced to misfortune,hardship or humiliation

In truth all sadness is from within.

Sadness is the result of our inner attitude towards outer happenings”.

Dada J P Vaswani

The reasons for sadness are many. And all of you know.

Reaction to sadness varies from person to person and depends on how sensitive the person is.

Sadness can break the person completely and even push into suicidal tendencies.

Some cry to get relief,some indulge in self harming,some manage the show by fake smile,but still many are unable to come out of the feelings.

We all should realise that nothing is permanent in this life. Change is the way of life.

Whether it is sadness or happiness it won’t last forever and comes alternatively and this is nature’s law. Every thing changes over the time and time is the greatest healer!

Whatever may be the reason for sadness…never keep the emotions inside. Remember it’s like a time bomb.

What is the solution ?

Yes solution available.

A sad person needs another person who understands him/her 100%

The sad person just needs this person on whom he/she can lean on and cry their hearts out. Believe me the relief is instant !

Dear friends,please share your thoughts.

Thank you

Philosophy Through Photography

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In pursuit of money

In persuit of money

“Money often costs too much “                                                                                                   Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Man sacrifices his health in order to make Money.

Then he sacrifices money to recuperate his health.

And then he is so anxious about the future that he does not enjoy the present,

The result being that he does not live in the present,or the future.

He lives as if he is never going to die,

And then dies having never really lived!.

The Dalai Lama.

 

” It’s good to have and the things that money can buy,but it’s good too,to check up once

in a while and make sure that you haven’t lost the things that money can’t buy”

George Lorimer .

As the saying goes …..” Best things in Life are free ”

But we never care to have a look at these  things ….. and go on carving for more and more money,losing the true happiness ( True happiness can not be explained or described,can only be felt )

Then the question comes ….what are the things that money can’t buy ?

There are many things,but I can tell some  important ones,what I could think.

Love,truth,time,peace of mind,talent,health,manners,true friends,knowledge,family unity,personal contentment,happiness,integrity,respect,ethics and lastly spiritual enlightenment, nature’s beauty……

Friends would you like to add some more ?

Please share your thoughts .

Thank you

Philosophy Through Photography

 

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Does Love mean suffering ? What is your definition of Love ?

Does love mean suffering ?

“The truth is, everyone is going to hurt you. You just got to find the ones worth suffering for.”

Bob Marley

What is that all the religions, teach us about L O V E?

As per Bob Morley’s Wisdom, Everybody is going to hurt you.

I think he is correct because we expect too much from the ones ,we love ( a bit selfish attitude ,I say ) and in turn feel hurt if they are not up to our expectation. (again a selfish motive)

“To love is to suffer.

To avoid suffering one must not love.

But then one suffers from not loving.

Therefore, to love is to suffer; not to love is to suffer; to suffer is to suffer.

To be happy is to love. To be happy, then, is to suffer, but suffering makes one unhappy.

Therefore, to be happy one must love or love to suffer or suffer from too much happiness.” — Woody Allen

Are you confused ? Is too much happiness also a suffering ?

I know you don’t have an answer.Neither I have !

But my guess is…. don’t love too much or too little,and at the same time don’t not expect anything in return.Don’t presume or assume.

Is this not strange that the very word ‘L O V E’ makes some of us

experience ‘Heaven’ and some other ‘Hell’

How can L O V E have dual power…. ie adorable & destructive ?
What is your take ? Please share your thoughts .Have you ever suffered because of LOVE?

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‘Observations’ of Beer Holder

Beer

‘There are two reasons for drinking.

One is ,when you are thirsty,to cure it.

The other when you are not thirsty, to prevent it ……’

alcoholsayings.com

U & I

You & I,Friendship.friends

To have this life,I need a heart beat, To have a heart beat ,I need a heart, To have a heart.I need happiness. To have happiness,I need You

U & I

Letters start with A-B-C

Numbers start with 1-2-3

Music starts with Do-Re-Mi

And Friendship starts with u & I

 

Wishing all the best to all of you my friends and may all your wishes be fulfilled.

 

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My challenge…..Can you vouch that you have ‘Peace Of Mind’ ?

Peace of Mind,Happiness,happy

Searching for Peace of mind at Lord’s abode.

Present day life style makes us think that leading a ‘peaceful life’ is a distant dream…and I am glad you realised the truth.

The day you are born,you know that life brings lot of stress.At the end, you realise that it is impossible to be At peace with your mind,since you are aware that your mind is like a monkey….restless all the time resulting in piece of mind

” If you are depressed,you live in the past..
if you are anxious, you live in the future..
but if you are at PEACE…you live in the present “
Lao Tzu

What is ‘ Peace Of Mind ?’ Aka ‘peace’ ?

Thesaurus Dictionary says- it is the absence of mental stress or anxiety.

Wikipedia talks of Inner Peace,referring to a state of being Mentally & Spiritually at peace with enough knowledge and understanding to keep oneself strong in the face of discord or stress

Being at peace is considered by many to be healthy. Peace of mind is generally associated with bliss,happiness,and contentment.

But the question is how do you get the Peace Of Mind ?

Take my challenge and Try these 10 secrets, I am sharing and I am so sure it will be a disaster!
1.Keep calm and don’t be jealous.”Jeaulosy comes from,counting others blessings,instead of our own”Unknown
2.Don’t bite more than you can chew,because nobody looks attractive,spitting it back. ‘Carrol Bryant’
3.Don’t work for recognition,but do work,worthy of recognition ‘H.Jackson Brown Jr.’
4.Never tell your problem to anyone. 20% don’t care & 80% glad that you have them ‘Quora’
5.If you live for having it all,what you have is never enough. ‘Vicki Robin’
6.“Less is not necessarily more. Just enough is more.”
Milton Glaser”
7.There is a story behing every person.There is a reason why they are the way they are.Think about that before you judge someone. ‘pinerest’.
8.Forgive & Forget,but never forget to forgive,you may find a happier heart is the key to a happier life ‘Mahatma Gandhi’
9.Never put off tomorrow,what you can do today. ‘Thomas Jefferson’
10.To keep the body in good health is a duty..otherwise we shall not be able to keep our mind strong and clear ‘ Buddha’

Wise men have given plenty of such advices,my guess is being,a human being it is impossible to get peace of mind,even if you follow the wise sayings 100% and unfortunately for a change,I won the challenge !

Thank you so much for taking your time to go through and let me know if there is some more secrets to add.

Peace of mind vs Piece of mind/

Power of Prayers

Prayers,God,Power of prayers

‘Power of Prayers can’t be explained.ButPower of Prayers can be experienced ‘. Unknown

If you can’t see light at the end of the tunnel, blast your way through the power of Prayers

Otherwise how you think the Thai kids along with their coach came out safely ?

How do you think Chilean or Chinese miners were saved ? How you think many impossibles become possible?

Prayers for Thai Kids & their coach

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What is your definition of Happiness ?

 

Happiness,life

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Are you happy all the time ?

What do you think of ‘feeling happy & ”being happy’ ?

If you are happy, do you also think that,you should make others happy ?

Is it a must that you should make others happy too ?

What is your happiness Quotient ?

Can Preachers help us geting happiness ?

Internet gives us billions of definition and meaning.But how to apply these on individual basis ?

I can go on and on

What is your answer ?

If you ask me ..frankly I don’t have an answer.

Thank you for taking your time to go through the article