Love or Friendship which triumphs ultimately ?
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Why online friendship can fail ?
“life is a balance of holding and letting go” Rumi
It is a common phenomenon that we are making friendship with online buddies and some of the friendships can truly turn out to be the best example of the Wonderful relationship lasting for ages.
It is said true friendship even outlast Romantic relationships.
Friendship can continue to the next level only when the friends honestly share their lives with each other,trust each other 100%, and can overcome the initial hesitations & suspicions,share their feelings both during happy or a depressing situations even forgive one another for any misunderstanding if at all any such thing arises and be supportive all the time.
And we are also aware that majority are not going to be honest for various reasons.Many times one is not sure how much personal information can be shared.
And we also know that online friendship with unknown friends is as good as entering a dangerous territory.
But still some venture into this territory and become the Besties.
Then one gets doubt whether online friendship can sustain or fail …..
And are there any reasons one prefers to log out ?
I know, one can give hundreds of reasons,but my one and the only reason being one of the parties or both parties not making enough efforts to sustain the friendship ( As Rumi’s quote above says ),a kind of give & take.
You can check the link for more information.
How Long Online Friendship Lasts ?
Dear friends what are your thoughts on this subject ?
Did you any time experience failed online friendship and for what reason ? can you share ?
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The gift Of Friendship
It’s 3.3 minute read.
Don’t you agree with me that True friendship is difficult since finding a true friend is the hardest.
” A friend is some one who understands your past,believe in your future….accepts you to-day the way you are “. Unknown
We may not realize the value of friendship until the time it is given when it is badly needed,so we have to cultivate and cherish the friendship .
Make aware to your friends how much they mean to you and how well they contribute to your happiness from your routine boring life.
Don’t ask me how to pick up a true friend or how to know,that the other person can be a good and even a true friend.
This is a difficult subject and can be discussed on another day.
The following quote is my feeling ,whenever one interacts with one’s true friends.
Friendship is a treasured gift,and every time I talk with you I feel as if I’m getting richer and richer “. Unknown
Friends can even become Besties.
True friendship is ‘Magical’ !!
“Friendship is not about whom you have known the longest,it’s about who walked into your life and said “I’m here for you” and proved it. Unknown
The true friend helps me being a counselor in times of distress ,
Can be my confidant when the situation demands,most importantly gives all the strength I need when I am the weakest at some point of time of my life.
Now you will ask me…What is the secret of sustaining this friendship ??
Certain things come to my mind,which can further the bond.
1. Be frank.Accept the drawbacks or short fall either of you may possess.
No body is perfect in this world and everybody has some story to tell and as a true friend you are willing to listen.Provide the much-needed leaning shoulder.Respect the individuality.Even if situation demands call spade a spade and explain the realities.Never thrust your opinions.When you tell the truth let the other person accept this rather than doubting and vice versa.
2. Develop the principle of ‘forget and forgive’ since we know we are never free of committing the mistakes and it’s human to do mistakes.
3.Try to recollect the fun moments or joyous moments you both had while spending time together or enjoying the jokes during your chat times.
4.Share the happiness together.
The happiness ,one can feel only when one is able to share with the other.
Remember you can never enjoy happiness all alone.
Thank you my friends for patiently reading.
Now please share your personal experience on ‘Gift of Friendship’ be on-line or off-line.
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Friendship vs Love…which triumps ?
It’s 2.2 minute read
“Sometimes,in life there really are bonds formed that can never be broken.
Sometimes you really can find that one person who will stand by you no matter what.
May be you will find it in a spouse and celebrate it with your dream wedding.
But there’s also the chance that the person you can count on for a life time, the person who knows you sometimes better than you know yourself, is the same person who’s been standing beside you all along”. Bride wars
Let us see who triumphs at the end.
LOVE
L is the 12 th letter of alphabets
O is the 15 th letter of alphabets
V is the 22 nd letter of alphabets
E is the 05 th letter of alphabets
Total of Love is = 54.
FRIENDSHIP
F is the 06 th letter of alphabets
R is the 18 th letter of alphabets
I is the 09 th letter of alphabets
E is the 05 th letter of alphabets
N is the 14 th letter of alphabets
D is the 04 th letter of alphabets
S is the 19 th letter of alphabets
H is the 08 th letter of alphabets
I is the 09 th letter of alphabets
P is the 16 th letter of alphabets
Total of Friendship is = 108
Exactly twice of 54
So the FRIENDSHIP is twice the value of LOVE.
Do you agree ??
Now time for some fun
One day Love met Friendship.Love asked,why did you exist when I already exist?
Friendship replied..to put a smile where you’ve left tears.
And
“There are friends,there is family,And then there are friends that become family.”
What is your take ? Friendship or Love ? Check this link
Wife & Husband-can’t they be best friends for life ?
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Can you survive loneliness ? ?
Great friendship enhances the quality of life.
Deep and lasting friendships don’t just happen.They require focus,energy,patience,and skill to form and maintain.
Good friends will enhance your journey through life in more ways than you can imagine.
Invest in a few. You don’t need a lot. This is one of those cases when quality is more important than quantity.
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Miracle
Both of them were uncertain; both of them were trying as much as they could; both of them would doubt themselves, would progress and recede. But they would both keep trying, because they trusted the other, and because the other person was the only other person who ever be worth such hardships, such difficulties, such insecurities and exposure. ‘Hanya Yanagihara’
Do you believe in , that true friendship is possible in the real life ??
Wasn’t friendship its own miracle,the finding of another person who made the entire lonely world seem somehow less lonely
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Moving together and interacting with our friends in our circle ( offline ) ….at least we know each other by face,by real name,our habits,our nature,our jobs,our commitments etc.etc. and it’s an altogether different, in online friendship.
What about online friendship that too with an unknown person ?
what is your experience ??
I always wonder how these unknown online friends who know nothing of the other,but still keep in touch with each other as if they are the long-lost friends and they are also aware that they are separated by thousands of miles in this beautiful world….I don’t know what makes these two to gel so well !!
I even read somewhere that in one such case,the friendship continued even beyond 10 yrs !!
You never regret for making such a strong bond over the time with friends especially unknown….irrespective of the age,background,looks,status,liabilities,their individual responsibilities…….
Just read these beautiful quotes regarding’friendship’ by Hanya Yanagihara
Friendship is the most underrated relationship in our lives. It remains the one relation not bound by law, blood, or money — but an unspoken agreement of love.
Hanya Yanagihara
Why wasn’t friendship as good as a relationship? Why wasn’t it even better? It was two people who remained together, day after day, bound not by sex or physical attraction or money or children or property, but only by the shared agreement to keep going, the mutual dedication to a union that could never be codified.
You won’t understand what I mean now, but someday you will: the only trick of friendship, I think, is to find people who are better than you are—not smarter, not cooler, but kinder, and more generous, and more forgiving—and then to appreciate them for what they can teach you, and to try to listen to them when they tell you something about yourself, no matter how bad—or good—it might be, and to trust them, which is the hardest thing of all. But the best, as well.
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Can you answer this ? (Questions series No-8)
Once you develop Romantic Friendship ,( click the link for the definition of Romantic friendship)…….
How often you look at the mobile for status update of your Friend and have you at any time counted ?
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Can you answer this ? (Questions series No-6)
Which is more romantic ?
The thought of meeting you Soon or the Dream I had about you last night.
Please share your thoughts
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Stressed? Think of Romantic Friendship !
There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement and acceptance.” John Lennon
This is a 2.7 minute read.Please proceed if you can spare this much time.
Before I start the discussion,it’s better we know the definition of ‘Romantic Friendship’.
According to ‘Wikipedia’
“A romantic friendship, passionate friendship, or affectionate friendship is a very close but typically non-sexual relationship between friends,often involving a degree of physical closeness beyond that which is common in the contemporary Western Societies. It may include for example holding hands,cuddling,hugging,kissing,giving massages, and sharing a bed, or co-sleeping, without sexual intercourse or other physical sexual expression”
Yourdictionary.com says
“An intensely emotional love relationship between two unrelated people, in which sexuality is unimportant and typically absent, but there is greater physical affection or poetic communication than is typical for friendship”
Can we include online Friendship ( since we are into the digital revolution with social media,online-video/chat,making new online friends etc ) into the above definitions ? I am not sure.
How nice it’s when the truly understanding relationship takes a vow, as said below !
“The best love is the kind that awakens the soul and makes us reach more,that plants a fire in our hearts and brings peace to our minds.And that’s what you’ve given me.That’s what I’d hoped to give you forever” Nicholas Sparks
But then….all are not fortunate and there has to be a kind of ‘vibe’ or as some one brilliantly coined the term ‘ Familiar vibe’, or Mutual ‘resonance’ between the partners or friends or relationships.Plato’s quote is apt.
“Every heart sings a song, incomplete, until another heart whispers back. Those who wish to sing always find a song. At the touch of a lover, everyone becomes a poet.” Plato.
True friends really make a big influence on their individual lives in times of stress.
And What did John Lennon Say about friendship and its impact on Life and how this true friendship keeps you smiling ?
“Count your age by friends, not years. Count your life by smiles, not tears”.
A recent study published in the journal Psychophysiology suggests that simply imagining love & support from your significant other can boost your stress management skills.Check this link.
Thinking About Partners Reduces Stress-Study
Please share your thoughts on this subject .
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200 posts
Hello my friends,
I am extremely thankful to all of you,but for your support…me posting 200 articles just not possible.
I am grateful to you for following me,reading my articles,encouraging me,giving your suggestions & comments, and most importantly taking your valuable time in visiting my blog.
The funny thing in this virtual world is that,most of us from near and far away places knew nothing about each other,but still we communicate,react,respond and encourage each other like a real true friends.It’s amazing!
Once again I express my sincere thanks to all of you my friends .
“Friendship is unnecessary,like philosophy.like arts….It has no survival value;Rather it is one of those things that give value to survival” C.S.Lewis
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Hardest thing in this world is……
I know you are tempted to say ‘Diamond’ !
True to some extent.Diamonds symbolize Status,Love,strength( hardness), beauty and Prosperity.
It’s also interesting to know why 60 th wedding anniversary is called ‘Diamond Anniversary’ ?.It’s because of longevity of the couple’s relationship both in times of happiness and difficulties and the marriage surviving this long of 60 yrs without break up in relationship, a toughest job indeed in the modern day philosophy of ‘divorce’ at the drop of a hat.
Do you want to know which is tougher than Diamond ?
“True Love and Loyal Friends are two of the toughest things to find.” Unknown
Whichever part of the world you are in ,remember,never underestimate the power of true love and loyal friends.
Be a true lover & don’t lose loyal friends.
To all my WP friends…
Happy Valentine’s Day
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How long online friendship lasts ?
One of the most beautiful qualities of true friendship is to understand and to be understood. Lucius Annaeus Seneca
It’s a 4.5 minute read,if you have patience proceed..
Before we proceed further let us understand ‘friendship’.
“Friendship is a best ship which can lead you on world tour” unknown
It takes roughly 200 hours to become best friends with someone, according to science. Can you sustain it afterwards ?
Say 6 months ? 1 yr…..3 yrs…..7 yrs…. Or till one of them decides to knock the Heavens door ?
Don’t you think… friendship is a complicated relationship among people ?
It can last from one day to…. life long !
“Friendship isn’t about whom you have known the longest…it’s about who came, and never left your side” unknown.
It is said that true friendship is possible,having similar wavelengths,and the two sharing their true feelings, whether a happy or sad situation in an honest way,at the same time maintaining the confidentiality,helpful to each other whenever possible and not interfering unnecessarily into their personal matters.
with the invention of internet and followed by online chat facilities…..both distant & near friendship became ONLINE
What is online friendship ?( Unknown to each other initially )
It is communication between two unknown friends exclusively via internet.With the advent of social media,video chats etc,it became easier, simpler and importantly faster to develop online friendship.
What is great about online friendship ?
1.You can develop confidence in yourself. 2. Get support in times of depression (morally). 3.Emotional bond. 4.Can add value to your life.
Is it necessary for online friends to interact face to face ?
Depends on the parties concerned. It is said that for friendship to be real,better they have face to face interaction and be honest with each other.
Can one trust online friendship ?
How sure are you that the other side person is true to what he or she,as they describe themselves ?
But remember,It is not all that easy to find right kind of person and probably you should think twice and must be lucky !
Initially it may be touch and go ,but make sure you listen to your sixth sense.Suspicions apart,I think if both of them are on the same wavelengths,the friendship can boost and lasts longer.
Can online friendship between man and woman possible ?
If the friends happens to be man and woman,it all the more imperative that they know their limits and keep things cool.We also come across many examples of people falling in love and taking the friendship to next level and break up later.Ultimately it is up to them to decide how to maintain the relationship to be long-lasting.
If both parties intend to have fun ( online ),share the moments,having jokes,exchanging the ideas,making recommendations,suggestions, even helping each other’s in difficult situations,(need not be financial),and may or may not be serious in taking the friendship to next level…..it can still be a lot of fun!
What about age factor?
I am not sure.For teenagers the relationship is obvious. For Middle aged people it can be different meaning.For older people they are in need of affection & some body to talk to.
What if friends happen to be young & aged?
It is up to the individuals concerned to continue or stop depending upon the individual feelings and priorities.I am not able to guess really and internet search giving different opinions.
And the secret of lasting online friendship ?
In order to achieve lasting friendship,I think a continuous communication is important.I feel it should be on a daily basis at regular intervals.
The beauty of online friendship is that you don’t know the other person, personally and your imaginations run wild !( if you are not into video mode the fun is much greater)You are in your own virtual world,enjoying every minute ! The discussion can even be a deep personal conversation !
My take…long-lasting online friendship is possible, provided
1.If the parties develop mutual TRUST and be HONEST (not exploiting).Don’t overdo chats or get addicted.
2.Be frank and have an open communication.Have a regular chat schedule ( timing is important,both the parties must allot mutually convenient time) and keep in touch,know each other even better.
3. Be a good listener and appreciate the other party when the person deserves the same.
4.Give importance to the common bond.
5.Don’t be possessive.Tune down your ego to ZERO
6.If possible turn online friend into a real life True friend.
What is your experience with unknown online friends ?
Would you like to add any more suggestions ? please go ahead.
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U & I
To have this life,I need a heart beat, To have a heart beat ,I need a heart, To have a heart.I need happiness. To have happiness,I need You
U & I
Letters start with A-B-C
Numbers start with 1-2-3
Music starts with Do-Re-Mi
And Friendship starts with u & I
Wishing all the best to all of you my friends and may all your wishes be fulfilled.
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