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Is friendship a ‘fraud’ on people ?

Fooling oneself on Friendship

” I asked God to protect me from my enemies and I started losing my friends ” unknown          Duy Pham   unsplash

Can friendship be forever ?

Friendship is said to be one of the best things to happen in ones life.

Every time you think  of your friends, you  remember the saying ‘A friend in need is a friend indeed’

There are many similar quotes & sayings about worthiness of being a Friend & how to maintain the friendship etc and the BFF philosophy.

Some even said friends are an extended family.

Do you really think friendship lasts life long ?

But what actually happens ?

Well…….We all have two worlds….Dream world & Real world.

In the Dream World

“Death is possible any time,
Love is possible some time,
Marriage is possible one time,
But real friend like you is possible once in a life time.”   Unknown

Exaggeration at its peak ! Take it easy.

In the real world

The truth is

“I didn’t lose a friend.I just realized I never had one”    Unknown

It’s hard to find a genuine friend in this world.Mark my word.

Why don’t you realize that friendship changes from time to time and year to year ? Best friends you had previous year may not be the same this year.

The best friend you have this year won’t be true friend in real sense.

The so called bond between the friends too changes in intensity as times flies.Friends owe you nothing.All of them are judgmental.

Then why you feel bad if you don’t have a permanent friend ?

You are better off as an introvert rather than disappointed and getting depressed and pondering what went wrong by whom,who broke the friendship first  etc. etc.

Majority of your friends ignore your view point.Your friends make use of you to the extent you are useful to them.You are easily dispensable and thrown into the dust bin.

My feeling is 99% of the friendship is just show off ! Doesn’t serve any purpose and somewhere you feel good without friends.At least you can be at peace.

Friends don’t bring you the’Feel good’ instead bring you anger,hatred,jealous,frustration  and depression.

“There is some self interest behind every friendship.There is no friendship without self interest.This is a bitter truth“. Chanakya.

What is your experience, my friend ?

Don’t you agree that the idea of friend and friendship is rubbish since soon we all get disappointed as majority show their true colors and we have to fend ourselves.

So true friendship is a myth ?

Yes .Believe in me.

Friendship is a toxic waste of time.Friendship is an illusion ( Maya )

So who can be your best friend in the end ?

Just look into the mirror.

“I myself am the only friend I have.” Terence

Please share your views whether friendship is a fraud on people.I appreciate.

Thank you.

Philosophy Through Photography

8 Good reasons why you don’t need a best friend

Do you need a best friend ?

Best friend- A necessary evil ??

Its a 4.3 minute read.

Leave alone having friends,is it necessary to have a best friend ?

Friendship entitles you to nothing.

Best friends don’t exist.

Some argue that there is no need at all !

They say friends are only meant for schools and colleges. After that the ‘reality’ of Life catches you and you will be wasting time in searching for a best friend since no such thing exists in real life.

It is even said you get respect from friends only if you have money to spend on them.They can even snatch your boy friend or girlfriend !

At one stage you may even wonder whether friends are a part of our lives !

What is the criteria you have, to call some body as your best friend ?

I give you certain criteria ( which you expect from a best friend ) and also explain why your friend always fails to have all these qualities.

1.Honesty– Though honesty is the best policy,you don’t find a single friend who is honest.Best friend is no exception.Remember Chanakya’s quote

” A person should not be too honest,straight trees are cut first and honest people are screwed first.”

2.Empathy– No body has time or patience to understand and share the feelings you are undergoing.None care either.

“People will truly never understand something until it happens to them” unknown

3.Trust- trust comes into play when secrets have to be maintained.You and I know that things are not that easy and friends are tempted to take advantage of your weakness.Trust yourself and live alone.

“Don’t trust anyone blindly.Most people you meet with are with you only for their own sake and interest” unknown

4. Helpfulness-this is a myth.Remember in the hierarchy of relationships,friendship is at the bottom.Priority of helping goes to your parents,children and relatives.Remember your friend can not always help you.

“We never lose friends.We simply learn who the real ones are” unknown

5.Telepathy-It is said that best friends can read your mind before you start telling. This is humbug.It’s a fact that Your own kith and kin never understand you properly,from where your friend can prior assess what is in your mind !!

“Blind man in a dark room looking for black cat that is not there”. Thomas A Harris

6.Comforting- This again mere waste of time.None can comfort you irrespective of the situation you are in,since you alone have to comfort yourself at the end.

“Friends comfort you with comforting words.Best friends comfort you with comforting words too in a sarcasm way” unknown

7.Memories– Recollecting the best part of your memories with your best friend only makes you cry further !

“Sometimes the best memories are sad because you know they will never happen again.” unknown

8.Not judgmental -Human tendency is to be judgmental and you get a best friend based on his/her judgement about you.Then how can you expect your best friend be not judgmental at all ?

“We are very good lawyers for our own mistakes,but very good judges for the mistakes of others”. Unknown

O.K. What does it feel like not to have a best friend ?

  • One has a breathing space.
  • One is at liberty.
  • The pleasure of being introvert is unique.
  • No need to share your details/secrets .
  • No drama.
  • Save lot of money from partying etc.
  • You are safe from wrong advises the friend gives.
  • No fighting,arguing or back stabbing.
  • No depression,dejection or disappointments.No need to deal with others judgment,stupidity,demands and expectations.
  • It helps you to know about yourself better.
  • Opportunity to develop spirituality.

I can go on….

Please share your thoughts.

Thank you
Philosophy Through Photography

Inspiration & Credits-goodnet.org,quora

“Best friends forever”(BFF) Do you believe this ?

Best friends for ever you believe this ?

Lovers come and go.Friends remain forever

Lovers come and go.Friends remain forever……that is the saying.Is this true ? or a myth ?

Is it not true that we have the concept of besties ?

What is happening now ?

Best friends forever -true or myth ?

BFFs take secrets to the grave

Virtual world in the form of Facebook,twitter or whats up have takeover. And people chat hours together.That means BFF can still exists.

But still,is it not for a purpose ?

Majority of the friendships likely to be based on some expectation,which you and I know.

Remember every one likely to have a goal.In these situations once the goal achieved,excuses start pouring !

The philosophy of BFF depends on you,whether you want to make it a truth or myth.

My feeling is to make BFF a reality, there should be a sincere effort,dedication,total understanding,making time available for the constant interaction and most importantly the mutual trust.

” Wishing to be friend is a quick work,but friendship is a slow ripening fruit ” Aristotle

Thank you
Philosophy Through Photograph

Pixabay,resplash ( Vidar Nordil-Mathisen)

Friendzone

Friendzone

Difference between ‘ Girlfriend ‘ and ‘ Girl friend ‘ OR Boyfriend and Boy friend is that little space  we call ‘Friendzone’

What is Friendzone ?

Wikipedia defines as

“The friend zone is a situation in which one member of a friendship wishes to enter into a romantic or sexual relationship, while the other does not.It is generally considered to be an undesirable situation for the rejected person.”

In other words one wishes to enter into a romantic/sexual relationship,while the other friend has no such ideas and gives importance to platonic friendship.

Simply it means, you better remain in the zone of friendship without any advancements to your intense feelings.

Why friendzone happens ?

-it suggests that you don’t know the ‘the working pattern’ of romantic sexual relationships

-it can be because you lack understanding of true friendship and its values.

-you are not smart enough to appreciate the various hints given.

Time for Some fun jokes

1.You are like my brother….means,you are in friendszone.

2.Ladies: Every time you complain that there are no good guys left,remember you left us in the friendszone.

3.The friendzone is basically like when someone turns you down for a job,then calls you every week and complains about the guy they hired.

4. Being in friendzone is just like being in front row at an awesome concert….except you are deaf.

5.Friendzoned means ‘home coming!

6. Most populated places in the world.

  • China
  • India
  • Friendzone
  • USA
  • Indonesia

Wishing all my friends in the Friendzone’ a happy dating and relating !

Thank you

Philosophy Through Photography

Kindred spirits

Kindred spirits

“The most intriguing people you will encounter in this life are the people who had insights about you, that you didn’t know about yourself.” Shannon L. Alder

It’s 3.1 minute read.

“Oh God ,I just met you ,but I feel I know you so much already”

A kindred spirit is someone whose energy resonates at the same frequency as yours.
They are the FEEL GOOD FACTORS

This can happen when you meet some one in person or online !

Definition of Kindred Spirit

According to Free Dictionary, Kindred spirit is defined as

“A person who shares several or many fundamental beliefs,ideas,convictions,sentiments,attitudes and/or interests with oneself”.

Kindred spirits

It’s shared way of experiencing the world.

Simply put, a kindred spirit is someone who you share a mutual meaningful connection with.

Kindred spirit is the person who understands you so well and you too feel ,you understand this person equally well at the very first meeting between you both.
Both are very comfortable with each other at any given point .

It’s about innate connection.

The kindred spirit can enter your life for a moment, for a short period or be with you life long .

We meet many people in our lives.With some we feel the disconnect as if there is a wall in between but with some you feel they are magnetic and you both get attracted to each other !

Kindred spirits

To discover a kindred spirit is to find your heart ,in the heart of a friend. Ann Parrish

Kindred spirits can be with anybody,be a known or unknown person.

What is the basis of Kindred Spirits ?

  • You both share common interests.
    you can talk hours together and surprisingly outsiders can’t understand you.
  • You both understand each other so well and there is never an argument.
    You both enjoy each others humour
    You both feel as if you are a long-lost friends.
    You are comfortable with each other .
    You don’t hesitate to tell the most personal stuff
  • Though you might have met the person physically or online for a brief period, you have some sixth sense telling you that you can trust this person.
  • You are available all the time supporting each other both in Times of happiness and sadness.
  • You both are always in sync.You both understand your limitations.And there is some unexplainable cosmic flow between the two.The relationship is always positive and supportive.

Don’t confuse Kindred Spirits with soul mates or Twin flames.That is another discussion on some other day.

Have you at any time come across Kindred Spirit ?

Please share your thoughts on this subject.

Thank you.
Philosophy Through Photography

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