Is your friendship is just an’Artificial Friendship’ ?

Artificial friendship

Does your friendship forge an emotional bond ?

 

Do you not long for that particular friendship which completes you ?

What is the definition of friendship ?

Voluntary relationship between people that lasts a long time and those involved are concerned about each other. It develops from shared interests and experiences and is mutually gratifying. source Psychology dictionary.com

Friendship is not based on sex,or age or other reasons

What is the best part in friendship ?

Don’t you think friendship in the form of shared interests and shared experiences which become memories over the time.

Are you not,the happiest when you cherish these wonderful memories of life,at the time of stress ?

Not just that,even when you both chat or speak to each other,recollecting some of the shared moments,shared jokes,even wondering how the time moving unusually fast,even making that moment wonderful !

What I am stressing is,the shared memories become a life’s Treasure.

Don’t you agree this is the best part in friendship ?

What happens,when friendship is forged ?

Definitely,the concern for each other increases.

Shared interest further strengthens the bond.

These two can happen only when you make a sincere effort to develop an emotional bond,by opening up,since you both are connected by mutual trust’ by this time.

How to make an emotional bond ? (somebody may even call this emotional link or cosmic link)

here I wish to make it clear that there is a difference between physical attraction and emotional attraction and physical attraction is a different subject for some other time discussion.

The efforts for emotional connection must come from both the friends,willing to make sincere efforts.

Four things are extremely important

1. Trust

2. Honesty

3. Sacrifice

4. Zero Ego

If these things are achieved from both sides,automatically emotional link is evolved

Trust – should be 100% .You can share your personal stories of mutual interest, and start bonding,and be sincere and frank.communicate regularly and develop mutual confidence

Honesty –  should be 100%.Be honest in your communications.Prevent miscommunications.

Sacrifice – should be 100%.If Friends happen to be in the same place ,make yourself available Never avoid or give excuses.If you both happen to be in different cities,provide moral support as much as possible constantly.

Ego – Here there is only one solution.. Destroy the ego feelings instantly.
Finally
No one is rich than a person who has a true friend

Just two interesting quotes

How many slams in an old screen door? Depends how loud you shut it. How many slices in a bread? Depends how thin you cut it. How much good inside a day? Depends how good you live ’em. How much love inside a friend? Depends how much you give ’em.”  Shell Silverstein

 

To the world you may be just one person, but to one person you may be the world.” Brandy Snyder

 

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Are you listening ?
You can agree with me or you can be wrong.              etcy.com

It’s natural to think that you are right.But

experience should teach you that sometimes you are

not and that is wise to listen to others

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Love is scarce- Really ?

The only thing we never get enough of is love; and the only thing we

never give enough of is love.

Henry Miller

Why this happens ?

We all  think that, Love means romance.But it is not so.

There are 7 types of love.

  1. Storge- Familial love
  2. Phila-friendship ( shared goodwill)
  3. Eros-Sexual or passionate love
  4. Agape-Universal love ( unconditional love)
  5. Ludus-Playful or uncommitted love
  6. Pragma- Long term love ( married people)
  7. Philautia-self love ( healthy or unhealthy)

( source Psychologytoday.com, Quora)

My discussion is limited to the married couple.

Think for a second.

Can you tell  the difference between ‘school and life‘ ?

” In school you are taught a lesson and then given a test.

  In life,you are given a test,that teaches you the lesson” Tom Bodett

So what I am trying to tell is Life gives an opportunity to learn lessons  from our experience, in this situation….. day to day problems faced by the couple,thus making them more accommodating,understanding and helpful to each other.

Thus we can become wiser by experiencing these experiences.

But here is the hitch.

The problem comes in the unknown form of ‘E G O nullifying all the benefits of life’s lessons,which we learn over the course of time.

Why can’t we make an attempt to look into this ? Why can not we prevent this disease before it strikes us ?

When we are able to manage life style diseases with sugar-free,fat-free,salt free,gluten-free etc. etc….why can’t we give a try for Ego- free ?

The only way to achieve peace and harmony is becoming ‘EGO LESS’,

and this should be the  ultimate outcome of your life’s lessons,if you

are willing to learn.

Another aspect is ,to be able to differentiate, the difference between love & Possession.Don’t think ,just because you love the person…you got right to possess the person.( as if the person is a property)

Remember love is selfless,coming from the bottom of the heart with total dedication,sincerity and commitment to lead a supportive life together.

And so…..

We make our life miserable because we never make an attempt to understand the full potential of true love,and thus we make ‘love’ scarce in spite of its abundance.

True Love gives you, the real experience of what all you dream and

Ego gives you, all the heartache.

“A flower cannot blossom without sunshine, and man cannot live without love”. – Max Muller

 

Can one survive without EGO ?

Ego

Ego, n. “A person’s sense of self-esteem or self-importance”

Everyone of us have some amount of ego,it’s a fact.
Let us accept it.

And if somebody claims that he or she is does not have ego,it’s certain that this person is lying.

Anyone who’s successful, whatever way it has been achieved has a certain amount of ego and it is the truth.

Ego is the illusion created by our thoughts and none of us are immune from it.

Even persons with humility,on occassion succumbs to Ego.

“True humility is not thinking less of yourself; it is thinking of yourself less.”

– C.S. Lewis

Dear friends what is your take on EGO ?

Talent is God-given, be humble.                                                                                           Fame is man-given, be thankful.                                                                                   Conceit is self-given, be careful.

John Wooden

Wife & Husband -Can’t they be best friends for life ?

Best friends

Marriages are made in Heaven ,that is the quote. Do you agree ? or it’s a Myth ?

Those who believe in this, say that,

 

1. There is a Cosmic Power that is responsible for the actions of people and marriage is decided even before one is born. 2 .Marriage is 100 % destined since it is under the influence of the Almighty.

3. Whether it is arranged marriage or Love marriage,the same Cosmic power is deciding the events to be unfolded for the perfect Date of the marriage

Those who don’t believe in the proverb have plenty of explanations,as to where Almighty has utterly failed.

 

1.If the proverb is true,why there are so many Divorces,so frequently ?

Divorce happening at the drop of a hat.Causes extending from silly reasons to financial problems to infidelity to substances of abuse…….you name it..it’s there and can lead to divorce.

2 .Domestic violence

Less said better,since these things are happening in so called developed world,developing world and underdeveloped world.

3. Couple Incompatibility. What is couple incompatibility ?

No two persons are the same.even if you think that they are same in their interests and personalities ,still their individual reactions to the demanding situations vastly vary.

4. Ego clash

Marriages are made in Heaven

I have never yet met with anything that was dearer to any one than his own self” — -Buddha

No body can help if one is not able to avoid Egoistic attitude

5. Couple in illusion mode.

Marriages are made in Heaven

Many of us believe in Hollywood or Bollywood version of romance,passion,sex,hero kissing the heroine,lots of colourful fireworks in the background,decorated Horse cart,waiting for the couple,forever romance and happy endings.There is enormous difference between living ‘Happily ever after ‘ and ‘Happily ever before ‘

“So they were married ,to be the more together and found that they were never again so much together Divided by the morning tea, By the evening paper,By children and tradesmen’s bills”.      English poet Louis MacNiece

One has to face the reality . Things are different-,like arrival of children,loans,dealing with in laws,unnecessary fighting’,controlling anger etc.etc.

6.Extra Marital Affairs

Marriages are made in Heaven

Call it middle age crisis or fun and after a few years of married life ,people get bored,loose passion for love and start searching for new ways to get boost to their sexual need.These are occasions when one needs self control.

Ultimately Who are we to question the Wisdom of the God ?

My feeling is to let wife & husband recognise all their strengths and Weaknesses and be helpful to each other and their family at the same time knowing and even realising the Greatness of what is known as Institution of Marriage.

Marriages are made in Heaven
A Happy relationship is made up of two good Forgivers

Behind every happy couple, lies two people who have fought hard to overcome all obstacles and interference to be that way .Why ?? Because it’s what they wanted. ‘ unknown’

Marriages are made in Heaven

Glad,You reached this point .Kindly share your views and ideas on ‘Institution of Marriage’

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Flaunt Philosophy

Peacock dance

What is the idea behind Flunting  ? Image source Google

via Daily Prompt: Flaunt

Is flaunting good or bad ?

How flaunting is enacted by humans and other Gods creations ?

It is said that various creatures of God flaunt the beauty in their body to attract mates .That is perfectly OK.

But in humans ?

Whatever you flaunt…..it is a bit depressing to others,since human brain always carves for something better and others may feel inferior , leading  to jealousy  and totally destroying the inner peace.

Instead I feel one should be modest.

Remember flaunting attracts more enemies than friends.

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