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If you re one of those,fortunate to watch any of the news channels ( especially English news channels) in India,where participants number can almost reach magic No 10, and it won’t take much time to realise how noisy and chaotic it is.( I am not sure why in the first place,so many people are invited to participate,instead of two to three )
1.Here every participant including the anchor talks loudly.
2. All talk simultaneously,
3. All screaming and
5. Participants Even abusing each other .
The viewer is confused regarding the topic, and not sure why participants are arguing.
The issue on which discussion is happening, becomes irrelevant due to digression,everybody going crazy, and viewer’s Blood Pressure rising at the end and helplessly the viewer moves to the next channel.
Here instead of debate there is a competition as to whose decibel is strongest.
May be it is the way of Civilised Debate sans debate.
I started wondering whether one has to be a Big Talker or a good Listener.
Ask anybody, whether they are good listeners,invariably they say ‘YES’ ,contrary to the fact. Majority Love talking endlessly about themselves ( I talk-you Listen syndrome ) till the other becomes restless.
“Some people believe that being the loudest in the room makes them look strong. It may appear that way to a few uninformed individuals. What they don’t know is the more they talk, the more information they reveal about themselves (directly and indirectly). They become an easy target, and it makes them very vulnerable to attacks. Do not underestimate the power of silence.”
Izey Victoria Odiase
One has to pay attention to the topic,about which the discussion is happening and also the content of the talk of other person explaining.
How can one become a good listener ?
- Stop talking.
- Concentrate on what is said.
- Be patient.Don’t over speak on the other
- Ask relevant questions
- Don’t change the subject.
- Think before responding. Finally ‘Destroying Ego‘ of the individual makes all the difference.
According to Wikipedia An individual with hypochondriasis is known as a hypochondriac. Hypochondriacs become unduly alarmed about any physical or psychological symptoms they detect, no matter how minor the symptom may be, and are convinced that they have, or are about to be diagnosed with, a serious illness.
Cyberchondriac is a civilised way of addressing hypochondriacs, who depend on internet for clarifying their symptoms only to be further stressed.
Put your hand on your heart and say you never tried to self diagnose your ailments through the internet .I am 100% sure that you can’t do .You not necessarily be a cyberchondriac,but you have tried Dr.Google.
A simple search for the word ‘COUGH’ resulted in About 12,40,00,000 results (0.49 seconds).How do you apply your cough to so many references ? Which particular search results suits your complaint ?
The reason for cough can be from simple cold to acid reflux to cancer of lung,though the person may not have serious problem,still referring Google and trying to find out the reason and even treatment…… seems to be a bit going too far, resulting in dangerous consequences.
The health information available on the internet need not be 100% accurate.
My experience as a Physician, with these patients who consult Dr.Google before coming the the Physician, is really frightening……since cyberchondriac eyes, first search for the the worst scenario and if ‘cancer’ is on any list of diseases……the beginning of the end starts.
Internet has changed the way the 3 categories i.e Normal people,Yet to be patients and real patients…all are taking advantage of Dr Google, only to become terrified and neurotic.
These people without any symptoms get anxious because one of their relatives had suffered some terrible disease,or they read some epidemics,swine flu etc, and then start thinking about harbouring the same disease and then exhaust all the internet sources about the disease,but still unrelieved,come to the doctor,who does all the relevant tests and declares that the person is perfectly OK ,still not sure in spite of getting assurance from the Doctor and enter into the permanent anxiety status for the rest of their lives.
2.Yet to be patients,
Some of them may be suffering from general ailments like,cold,sore throat,fever,dry eyes,and instead of approaching the Doctor, ( call it laziness.fear of Doctor,or smartness or ever availability of Dr.Google ),straight consult Dr.Google and try to get relief from Dr.Googles’ advice.When they don’t get relief,they make an attempt to see the Doctor who will diagnose the problem clinically and also with help of investigations, and start treating the patient ,who gets cured finally.Sometimes patients may approach the doctor very late when the disease yet to be diagnosed,advances,rendering the doctor helpless.
3. Those who are Already Patients. Here we come across two types
Type A. the one who is confirmed to have a disease.After completing the treatment and becoming OK still itching to go through the internet to see what other patients with same disease are commenting on their experience,trying to compare,and getting less relieved and further confused adding to the distress.
Type B . After confirmation of the disease by the doctor, who advises the patient to undergo operation, this patient tries to find some alternative remedy ,courtesy Dr.Google,and thanks to many quacks offering alternative treatment for this particular disease even suggesting …there is no need for operation ! No surprise,Quacks have proliferated on the Internet .
Doctors must also have a sympathetic attitude and not dismissive when a cyberchondriac bombards them with all the details.
Have patience to spend just 10 minutes on this video clip,meaningful discussion between and the patient and doctors
How not to be a cyberchondriac ?
- Have faith in yourself and your doctor.
- Think- internet is like an ocean.Yo can not map the entire ocean floor.
- Don’t indulge in self diagnosis through the internet.Medical information on the internet not necessarily be accurate.
- Never join the group discussions on the internet about your health problems.It’s of no use.
- There is no treatment for cyberchondria since it is not a disease and one has to have self control and avoid temptation of web search.
The real Mantra is Talk to a real Doctor instead of the Unknown Internet.
Thank you so much for going through the post.
Marriages are made in Heaven
Do you agree ? or it’s a Myth ?
Those who believe in this, say that,
It was God himself,who united a man and a woman in marriage ( Gen 2:24 ) Marriage therefore is a divine institution,not a human one ( Mat 19:6 ).Consequently God,not man, has the right to define,the terms of the institution. Jay Adams
And the explanations given are……
1. There is a Cosmic Power that is responsible for the actions of people and marriage is decided even before one is born.
2 .Marriage is 100 % destined since it is under the influence of the Almighty.
3. Whether it is arranged marriage or Love marriage,the same Cosmic power is deciding the events to be unfolded for the perfect Date of the marriage
Those who don’t believe in the proverb have plenty of explanations,as to where the Almighty has utterly failed.
Some of the important questions put by them…
1.If the proverb is true,why there are so many Divorces,so frequently ?
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Divorce happening at the drop of a hat.Causes extending from silly reasons to financial problems to infidelity to substances of abuse…….you name it..it’s there and can lead to divorce.
2 .Domestic violence
- Physical Violence
- Causing body injury or pain in any other manner
Less said better,since these things are happening in so called developed world,developing world and underdeveloped world.
“Are you a compatible couple ?
Compatibility comes from Latin Compati,meaning’to suffer with”If you are not willing to suffer with someone until death do you part.then you are not compatible” @Jasonevert
No two persons are the same.even if you think that they are same in their interests and personalities ,still their individual reactions to the demanding situations vastly vary.
4. Ego clash
“I have never yet met with anything that was dearer to any one than his own self” Buddha
“The only person I’ll marry is myself.Believe me,my ego is that big ” Maxbeesley
No body can help if one is not able to avoid Egoistic attitude
5. Couple in illusion mode
Don’t rush to fall in love,because even in fairy tales,the happy ending takes place in the last page Jarofquotes.com
Many of us believe in Hollywood or Bollywood version of romance,passion,sex,hero kissing the heroine,lots of colorful fireworks in the background,decorated Horse,waiting for the couple,forever romance and happy endings.
There is enormous difference between living ‘Happily ever after ‘ and ‘Happily ever before ‘
“So they were married ,to be the more together and found that they were never again so much together Divided by the morning tea, By the evening paper,By children and tradesmen’s bills”. Louis MacNiece
One has to face the reality . Things are different-,like arrival of children,loans,dealing with in laws,unnecessary fighting’,controlling anger etc.etc.
6.Extra Marital Affairs
Call it middle age crisis or fun and after a few years of married life ,people get bored,loose passion for love and start searching for new ways to get boost to their sexual need.These are occasions when one needs self control.
Ultimately Who are we to question the Wisdom of the God ?
My feeling is,to let wife & husband recognize all their strengths and Weaknesses and be helpful to each other and their family at the same time knowing and even realizing the Greatness of what is known as Institution of Marriage‘
“It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.” Friedrich Nietzsche
Behind every happy couple, lies two people who have fought hard to overcome all obstacles and interference be that way .Why ?? Because it’s what they wanted. ‘ unknown
Glad,You reached this point .Kindly share your views and ideas on ‘Institution of Marriage’
Thank you. Namaste 🙏🙏🙏
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There is always conflict between Good & Bad. Things are well discussed and dissected in the religion,ethics,philosophy & psychology.
Right from childhood we are taught to be good and that good should prevail.
As kids we are taught by parents of virtues of being good.
But then some us continue to be good or turnout to be bad as per the society.Life is not that simple to classify as who is good or who is bad.
One loves to be good all the time,but circumstances can change ones’s intentions Humans are said to be unique in having ‘ conscience’, which separates them from ‘Animals’ and humans are capable of moral judgement.Many times ,one goes against ones’ conscience,and one alone can give the explanation,and also take responsibility.
Personally I believe majority of us belong neither to the extreme good nor extreme bad and lie somewhere in between.
Finally we are the way we are and what is good to you, likely to be bad for others, and the conflict between God and Satan continues……..