It is such a waste, when people are alienated (friends, relatives, wife & husband,Couples or business partners etc.) from each other for days, months or even years,….all over some misunderstanding…that could have been sorted out sooner or even one of the parties had shown more Humility or Understanding.
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Men look for SEX and find LOVE.
Women look for LOVE and find SEX.
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“How old you are is your business.
How young you look is our business. estsy.com
Don’t whistle at the girl going out from here…..
She might be your grandmother ….!!!! unknown
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I always tell the truth. Even when I lie.
Al Pacino
Every body lies .Yes even You. That is the truth.
Can you keep your Right hand on your heart and say you never lie ?
We lie even to ourselves !! Our world is full of liars!!
Parents to their children,children to their parents,Friend to another friend,Husband to wife vice versa,Lovers to each other,superior to subordinate and subordinate to superior.People lie to doctors,to lawyers,to relatives,you name it,at every stage one is lying to others depending on the circumstances.
The day is incomplete if you don’t lie !
And what about Surveys ,the Researchers undertake to know the pulse of the people?
Are they getting the truthful response ?
How about our dependence on Google for A to Z queries ? Are you getting the accurate reply?
Then why on the Earth you expect others to be Honest ??
Is this not the best example of ‘Double Standard’ ?
Nicholas Sparks says lie is a part of living.
“Because everybody lies, It’s part of living in society.
Don’t get me wrong-I think it’s necessary.
The last thing anyone wants is to live in a society where total honesty prevails.
Can you imagine the conversations?
You’re short and fat, one person might say, and the other might answer, I know.
But you smell bad, It just wouldn’t work. So people lie by omission all the time.
People will tell you most of the story…and I’ve learned that the part they neglect to tell you is often the most important part.
People hide the truth because they’re afraid.” -Jo Nicholas Sparks
Even the ‘sex’ is not spared.
Everybody lies about sex. People lie during sex. If it weren’t for lies, there’d be no sex. Jerry Seinfeld
As an Indian I always wondered why most of the Hollywood movies/TV serials have F* word in most of the dialogues.
Check this out
Wikipedia gives us the list of movies and also total number of times the word f* used. (from 1978 to 2018 )
List of Films that most frequently use the word’Fuck’
It’s a taboo here in India to even utter just ‘F’
As I checked the following quora link,I realized the word F*** can have different meanings depending on the circumstance,apart from sexual connotations !
Please share your thoughts.
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Philosophy Through Photography
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“In my next life I want to live my life backwards.
You start out dead and get that out of the way.
Then you wake up in an old people’s home feeling better every day.
You get kicked out for being too healthy, go collect your pension, and then when you start work, you get a gold watch and a party on your first day.
You work for 40 years until you’re young enough to enjoy your retirement.
You party, drink alcohol, and are generally promiscuous, then you are ready for high school.
You then go to primary school, you become a kid, you play. You have no responsibilities, you become a baby until you are born.
And then you spend your last 9 months floating in luxurious spa-like conditions with central heating and room service on tap, larger quarters every day and then Voila! You finish off as an orgasm!”
Sean Morey
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Food for thought
“When we destroy something created by man,we call it ‘Vandalism’.
But when we destroy,something by the Nature,we call it ‘Progress’ ”
Ed Bergley Jr
What are your thoughts on Art vs vandalism ??
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Which is more romantic ?
The thought of meeting you Soon or the Dream I had about you last night.
Please share your thoughts
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“It is Impossible ” said PRIDE
“It is Risky ” said EXPERIENCE
“It is Pointless ” said REASON
“Give it a try ” whispered the HEART
Moral of the Story – Heart always triumphs ‘unknown’
May be that is the reason they say ‘Love is Blind’ and we all tend to associate ‘Heart’ with Love, instead of ‘Mind’
What are your thoughts on heart,brain and love…..which is responsible for generating the feeling of ‘Love’ ?
Heart or Brain ?
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I am unique. I am special. I am me.If you think I am funny,that’s your problem.
“I am Me. In all the world, there is no one else exactly like me. Everything that comes out of me is authentically mine, because I alone chose it — I own everything about me: my body, my feelings, my mouth, my voice, all my actions, whether they be to others or myself.
I own my fantasies, my dreams, my hopes, my fears. I own my triumphs and successes, all my failures and mistakes.
Because I own all of me, I can become intimately acquainted with me. By so doing, I can love me and be friendly with all my parts. I know there are aspects about myself that puzzle me, and other aspects that I do not know — but as long as I am friendly and loving to myself, I can courageously and hopefully look for solutions to the puzzles and ways to find out more about me.
However I look and sound, whatever I say and do, and whatever I think and feel at a given moment in time is authentically me. If later some parts of how I looked, sounded, thought, and felt turn out to be unfitting, I can discard that which is unfitting, keep the rest, and invent something new for that which I discarded. I can see, hear, feel, think, say, and do. I have the tools to survive, to be close to others, to be productive, and to make sense and order out of the world of people and things outside of me.
I own me, and therefore, I can engineer me.
I am me, and I am Okay.”
Varginia Satir
What is your take ?
Are these two gossiping or conversing ?
World is the Wonderful place to live in … with a lot of problems disappearing….
If only we TALK to each other instead of ABOUT each other.
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“Something just makes Sense and one of those is You
and I”
unknown
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Distance doesn’t separate people.Silence does. Jeff Hood
This leads me to a Question,which I am unable to decide !
Long distance relationship or short distance relationship……which is better & why ? (couples & Friends)
Share your thoughts.
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“This to-day of yours is the precious tomorrow of someone who passed away yesterday”– Diva
Note-We all Live in Hope, but as you know Hope can have either positive or negative outcome.Instead why can’t we just pray that everything will end well and complete the day with a positive note?I request the readers to read the following with a positive orientation.
Don’t we live in permanent illusion of ‘Tomorrow’ ?
Is not your mind telling lies constantly about your tomorrow ?
Is it not a fact that you can’t see tomorrow,and none of us know or sure of its existence or even how it looks !
Then why you say ,tomorrow…I do this..I do that.. etc ?
Since none of us know anything about this extraordinary tomorrow, is it not meaningful to spend time today, to the best of our ability,living in every second,helping each other whatever way it is possible.
Now that you realized that there is no ‘tomorrow’,you can stop demanding things from God and start having faith in GOD and just start the day (ie today) by saying ‘what ever happens to-day is for my good and rest God will take care’ and develop the philosophy ‘there is no other time better than this moment’.By this thought don’t you think you are liberated from all your tensions,anxieties and worries forever ?
Are we depriving the joy of ‘today’ for the sake of ‘tomorrow’? Think that to-day belongs to you and you are here to spread your faith & love.
Listen to some of the wise thoughts.
“There is no tomorrow.There is only a planet turning on its axis,and a creature given to optimistic fancies”. Robert Brault,rbrault.blogspot.com
“Tomorrow may never come to us. We do not live in tomorrow. We cannot find it in any of our title-deeds. The man who owns whole blocks of real estate, and great ships on the sea, does not own a single minute of tomorrow. Tomorrow! It is a mysterious possibility, not yet born. It lies under the seal of midnight–behind the veil of glittering constellations”. E.H.Chaplin,Living words,notablequotes.com
“This day was yesterday tomorrow nam’d:
Tomorrow shall be yesterday proclaimed:
Tomorrow not yet come, not far away,
What shall tomorrow then be call’d? Today”. Robert Owen,Today and Tomorrow,notablequotes.com
“People were always getting ready for tomorrow. I didn’t believe in that. Tomorrow wasn’t getting ready for them. It didn’t even know they were there”. Cormac Mccarthy,The road,Notablequotes.com.
What are your thoughts ?
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It’s a 3.4 minute read
The other day one of our exceptionally brilliant readers wondered, how the time is running so fast,we are in the middle of January,still we are dreaming….as if we celebrated new year just yesterday…is this not scarring? Life is moving so fast, refusing to wait !
I felt … it’s true
And shortly…the spring will run into summer and Summer chasing Fall and Fall merging with Winter in no time and soon we celebrate Christmas and eagerly waiting for the safe delivery of 2020 and in between many will be in touch with the Creator…
Then the thought of why can’t we live longer lingered in my mind!
Yes.Why not ?
All of you know life is awesome !
If you ask ,each one gives their own many reasons as to why they love to live longer.Very few say they want to die earlier.
Don’t you think there is so much of unfulfilled wishes to be full filled?
There is so much to do,so much to see,so much to enjoy,so much to learn,so much to discuss,so many new People to meet,new friends,new thoughts,new experiences….
…..oh my life ! My dear life…..and you think just 70-80 yrs of life is sufficient ?
There won’t be negative feelings or sadness or sorrow if one were to live forever.Of course ones health should be good,but this is possible as science is advancing and most probably in 2100 death can be delayed indefinitely.
But why you don’t want to die ?
It’s very simple my friend.Death means, all your taste for enjoying the good life gone.You miss the beauty of universe.You miss your near and dear.you miss unfinished jobs.you miss, loving your sweetheart.
OK.But Why do you wish to live forever ?
I have an answer.
Modern age is better than Iron age.Iron age was better than bronze age.Bronze age was better than stone age.
As things become better and better ,we wish to live longer.We starts inventing things where in death can be delayed.As technology advances,they day may not be far,where death can become optional.
What is the present scenario ?
If you want to live longer – watch this clip. ( 3 minute Video )
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With the selfies, a photographer has finally found his place in a photograph. Amit Kalantri
Professional Photographers can make a real kill,because of selfies.
As an amateur photographer,I realized that selfie makes one’s life miserable.
1.Selfies distort your face by 30 % .The truth is you look ugly.people are dejected for this and try to avoid the world.
2.Selfie face distortion making people do nose jobs and plastic surgeons have become busy .Some body even inventing app( commercialization),which is supposed to correct the distortion
3. People becoming obsessed and in the process getting depressed.
4. As a medical professional,I can tell you that regular usage of selfie can give you SELFIE WRIST, an emerging hazard in this digital era.Selfie wrist causes pain,numbness and tingling sensation in the hand.( carpal tunnel syndrome)
Doctor warns-rise in cases of selfie wrist
5.Hundreds and thousands are getting killed while trying to take selfies with India in the lead,followed by Russia.USA and Pakistan.
List of selfie related injuries and deaths ( Oct 2011-Jan 2019)
I conclude..
“The inventor of the mirror poisoned the human heart”.
We all leave legacy be good are bad.And if you think you will be remembered for that,you are sadly mistaken.
That is what happens in life.
But once you are dead,do you really care whether any body remembers you at all !
Don’t be shocked to the fact that even your kith and kin forget you over the time.Don’t blame them !
My guess is if you leave a legacy of kindness may be you will be remembered for sometime.
Occasionally children may recollect what their dad or mom told them.
Wife or husband surely miss the other person and cherish the shared bonds from time to time.
What I am trying to tell is,the frequency of thinking of that person will be less and less as time moves on,though memories remain.( Memories can not fade)
Instead
Don’t you think it is a great feeling when people who are associated with you, remember you,when you are alive ?
I conclude…..
There is quiz too….to know how you will be remembered after you die ! ( just for Fun don’t take it seriously.)
how you will be remembered after death
The most common lie uttered without thought, sincerity, resolve, or guilt: I love you. ‘unknown’
See this clip(117 seconds) before you proceed further.
Does true love exist? I dare !
Sex,money or power will decide the intensity of the so-called true love.
you may blast me that ….I am,atrocious,stone-hearted, silly, crazy, cruel,disgusting and disappointing but I am not dejected,because one day you realize that none can show the true love without expecting something in return. And that day,you are sure to remember me!The love what you expect / or given is nothing but ‘fake love !
In this world no body is willing to give unconditional love,though they can, if really they want,but they won’t because of the inherent selfishness.
I shall give just 2 examples.My discussion is limited to so called ‘unbreakable human love’
1.Romanticizing love.(couples)
‘I love you beyond eternity’,
‘If loving is wrong,then I don’t want to be right ‘
‘My love for you is a journey starting at forever & ending never.
‘You’re the first boy I ever kissed Jake,and I want you to be the last'(hollywood dialogue-movie-sweet home Alabama)
‘I think I’d miss you even if we’d never met'( movie-wedding date)
If these things are true….Why you see so many cases of divorces?
2.If true love were there( parents vs children)…
Why there are so many old age homes and homes for destitute ? And what about.. Orphanage,Children homes ?
Ron Leighman in Quora (on love is bullshit)
“Because love is a fraudulent emotion, it doesn’t exist. They say the love you Blah blah blah. Then once you get/give them what they want they kick you to the curb like yesterdays garbage. You may as well expect it because it will happen. Expect it then you feel no pain when it happens”.
Are we into the ‘Fantasy Love’?
“Of all the lies you told me….’I love you’ was my favorite”.Unknown
True love is possible only when the people concerned are mature enough ( this happens as they age ) to see both sides of the point of view.
Finally,the difference between True Love & Pure Love.
True Love may not be possible all the time ,but Pure Love is possible.
Loving what you get is compromise.
Getting what you love is Success.
Loving without caring whether you will get it or not is true love.
Loving even after you knowing that you won’t get it..is pure love.
Unknown
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No family is perfect ! We argue,we fight,we even stop talking to each other at times,but in the end family is family….the love will always be there. quoteslover.com
Definition :To quarrel is to fight — but usually not physically.
Quarreling is a fact of life, occurring between the best of friends, in the happiest of marriages, and between parents and their children. vocabulary.com
It is a disagreement about something.
Why we quarrel in the very first place ?
Somewhere I read ( I am not able to recollect the source) what is known as BIG 5 causing friction, leading to argument. 1.Money, 2.sex, 3.raising kids, 4.in-laws and 5.house/office work.Of course one can broaden the BIG 5 into various sub-classes.
Disagreement can lead from just anger to outburst of pent-up feelings.
The quarrels can stretch from very few initially to increased frequency over the time.
The reasons can be from silly to far serious issues.
The whole problem is because none is willing to admit their mistakes, continue the arguments,even competing with each other, with ego factor playing an active role.
Whenever there is dispute remember,
“Family problems come in all sizes and shapes.Some are short-lived,easily managed,while others are more chronic and difficult to handle” unknown
What I am trying to tell is that it takes time to deal the problems and one must be patient.One must realize that,
“Families and their problems go on and they are not solved….they are dealt with”. Roger Ebert,
When we are friendly with the entire world ( don’t say…. this is because of survival instinct ),why can’t we show same friendliness to our family members?
You know the old adage
“You can choose the friends,but you can’t choose the family”
In other words,since blood is thicker than water, all the more you can’t afford to quarrel with your family members.
How best to avoid family quarrels ?
Some tips which I think,can help! ( My 12 commandments )
1.Stay calm in spite of the urge to respond angrily.Never raise your voice.
2.Be a good listener.
3.Reduce your emotional scale to zero.
4.Let there not be communication gap.Make it clear as to what the other person is saying and meaning.
5.Impress the other person,what actually you meant or intended to do.
6.Never bring the past or unrelated issues.
7.Try to solve the problem and not to win the argument.
8.Put yourself in the others shoes.
9.Don’t stockpile your issues and vent at a stretch irrelevantly.
10.forget & forgive
11.Take it easy.
12.Have faith in the Lord.
“Problems are like washing machines,they twist us,spin us,knock us around but in the end,we come out cleaner,brighter and better than before” – unknown
What are your thoughts ?
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Are you able to concentrate on God and Just God alone and pray without any thoughts interfering the prayers ?
1.Are you the one doing just lip movements while praying,but wander in a different world full of one thought jumping over to the next?
2.This split second intrusion of your thoughts (whether negative or positive) during prayers really haunting you ? Is this making you guilty ?
If it is so, believe me …..you are not alone.
Is it because our brains have multiple components,each doing different jobs in quick succession, thus making us, difficult to concentrate ?
Are these intrusive thoughts, a basic human nature ? ( since we can not stop thoughts from the brain)
Can you control your mind when you are already burdened with your ‘Life’ ? (burden of life is a reality for all of us).
Is it possible to override these thoughts ?
How to solve this problem ?
So many questions…..but I am finding very difficult to get one perfect answer (though plenty of answers are available on the net,which I am not convinced) which helps to really concentrate on God nothing but God .
I don’t have an answer.Do you have one ? Please guide me.
Some say Meditation helps
“The goal of meditation is not to control your thoughts,it is to stop letting them control you”
theageofenlightement
Again I am not sure of Meditation and how it can help control ones’ mind,since mind sprouts the thoughts continuously.Mind won’t keep quite Even during the sleep, we are troubled by the thoughts in the form of Dreams!
My guess is just ignore them.And Pray God to put an end to these interfering thoughts.Or appeal to God for forgiveness and say “I trust you and I surrender”
Once we surrender with sincerity,God will appreciate.
Please share your thoughts and any solution ( I mean based on your experience), if at all available.Thank you in advance.
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This is a 3 minute read,
“Everyone is a moon, and has a dark side which he never shows to anybody.” ― Mark Twain
I am not talking of the personality disorder which we come across in the Medical World…..I am talking about the normal,perfect down to earth gentlemen and gentlewomen, who invariably have two faces,sometimes many faces ( multifaceted indeed! )
“Everyone has two faces but often we see only one side of them,so never judge anyone by their looks,because ,truth might surprise you” ! ‘unknown’
Have you any time seriously gazed your soul ?
I think we are all not just actors but great actors.Some examples,
1.You agree with me that wives hide (secrets) things from husbands, and husbands hide things from wives,but each will be talking to other sweetly and kindly.
2.All Men talk differently when they are with wives,and when the wives are not around.(men there… ..you know what I mean )
3. We preach our kids,but practice quite opposite.
4.Young boys and girls as lovers,constantly lie to each other which suits the situation.
5.We shout at our children and wives for no fault of theirs,but show sweet face to the boss,in spite of getting abused.
6.Married men ,when they come across a single woman, try,to attract her attention,but when wives are with them…it is a different behavior !
7.Our offline behavior is in contrast to our online behavior.You may be a beggar in real life ,but on social media you flaunt all your richness from nowhere !
8. You can see ,Professional child kidnapper/killer is a dedicated father to his kids.
I can go on and on…..
We all wear masks.
Let us be frank.And that is the way of life ! And we have to live that life if we want to survive in this wretched world.
And the worst part,you know…..even with God we play our duality !
“There’s a duality of a guy calling on God: ‘Where are you when I need you’ and the,at the same time .’God helps those who helps themselves.’…I think that contradiction does exist in all of us ,those of faith and those who profess to have no faith. ‘JoeCornahan’
Now that we realized that all of us have two faces( dual personalities)….now it becomes even more scary.
“It’s not about who’s real to your face,
It’s about who’s real behind your back” unknown
So be busy checking your back frequently !
And wishing and praying that, let 2019 bring just the single and original face of ours all the time !
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How to win war on internet trolls?
This article is a 2.5 minute read.
This post is in response to my experience with a reader,who is from non-English speaking country, who mistook my English,and became angry.I fully understand this situation in this particular scenario.I even had to take help of fellow readers(English Pundits)
But many times we are not that fortunate( I mean language problem) and are abused by trolls.
Internet troll can become sometimes nasty and the person affected may lose sleep forever.
You can call Internet Troll as a polished version of mythical creatures in Scandinavian folklore.
Trolling is done by cowardly people,and they do because,they oppose somebody’s point of view or they derive pleasure by causing mental agony ( sadist ), or they hurt the feelings out of ignorance of the topic being discussed.They troll because they think that nobody knows their identity.
If you think trolls are after you…..what to do ?
Very simple.
Just Image You are hugging them…that’s all…. and move on by ignoring them.Don’t even respond,however strong the urge to react!
There are two kinds of Hugs.( my version)
1. Distant Hug-reach out to the person,when the occasion arises and hug in your imagination and you get peace of mind.
2.Physical hug-this you can call it as healing hug.
Time to Hug
Hugs are one of the reasons God gave us arms.So stretch out your arm to some one today.Reach out to those you love or do not love…it will warm the heart of the giver and give light to the soul of the recipients.
‘unknown’
Healing Hug
Hugging is a good medicine.Scientists say that hugging is a form of communication because it can say things you don’t have words for.
And the nicest thing about a hug is that you usually can’t give one without getting one
‘Unknown’
We are fortunate in WP since we are surrounded mostly by Gentlemen & Gentlewomen,who either agree or disagree…and there the matter ends !
How do you manage your trolls ?
Did anybody troll you ? lease share your experiences.
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“Take care of your body.
It’s the only place you have to live”
Jim Rohn
Good health is not just regular exercise or eating healthy food….
This topic is a 4 minute read.
So read this post completely , in case you got just that much time.
Otherwise take your own time whenever you are free to read.
Some of my regular friends in WP wondered as to why I am not contributing some useful medical stuff,being in the Medical profession.
I understand,but as you already know there is a wealth of information already available on the net, and my wish, not to crowd the space further.But still I try to add one or two helpful topics.This is my 2 nd post, and the earlier post being,
Something we have been doing wrong all along
Everyone of us…I am sure ,aware of importance of Hygiene.
All of us are busy teaching our young ,the importance of not just hygiene,but also personal hygiene.
Some examples of personal hygiene include
Regular bath,Regular brushing the teeth along with flossing,Trimming the nails,Regular washing of the hands,Regular shaving of arm pit and pubic hair,trimming the nostril hair,women maintaining hygiene during menstrual time(just washing with fresh water),for men in non circumcision cases thoroughly removing the smegma,anal hygiene (washing with fresh water after defecation),keeping our nostrils clean,cleaning the external ear pits regularly etc.etc
But surprisingly our teaching to the kid never includes HYGIENE of the Belly Button or Navel which in the medical world it is known by the name umbilicus.
How many of you stand in front of the mirror and just have a look at the belly button on a regular basis ? (Navel gazing literally !! )
Belly button,as you all know is the scar left behind by the umbilical cord Which gets removed after birth.
OK, as you are aware as the stump of the umbilical cord gets dried up it forms a pit during the process of healing.
Is there any purpose of the belly button after birth ?
Yes.
1.Medically–
It helps in dividing the abdomen into quadrants,1.helping the physician to identify the cause of the symptom,2. can be used for blood transfusion in the new-born,3.Helpful for having laparoscopic ports.4.Any bulge of the navel indicates intra abdominal pathology.
2.Fashion ,society and culture
includes Midriff,
Why Hygiene of belly button important ?
1. Belly button (pit) is a source of 2,368 different species of bacteria/fungi ,waiting to strike at the next available opportunity.
2. If you are male and hairy, or a person with belly button piercing,or you are a person in the habit of liberally spraying talcum powder on your body, you can notice over the time collection of the lint or fluff ( a mixture of cloth fibers,hair follicles) and over the time it becomes smelly and ripe for bacterial/fungal infection and later pus formation.
3. The deeper your belly button pit,the greater the collection of dirt and germs, and just like these germs make your armpit smelly, here also the germs along with dirt collection give a foul smell and soon you can notice redness of the surrounding skin,pain and even pus discharge.
Notice above how the Lint/Fluff appears.The example above is large enough to be visualised.Intially it is small in size difficult to visualise.
Fortunately hygiene aspect of belly button is easy,only if we care to follow on a regular basis.
Just watch this video and learn how to clean the belly button. ( 1 mt-40 seconds clip)
Thank you for your patient reading !
My post is incomplete if I don’t mention One Australian Gentleman by name Graham Barkers,who holds the world record for collecting his own navel fluff stuff (lint) every day for 26 years.Check the following link.
Librarian enters Guinness book of world records for collecting belly button fluff
Navel fluff/lint source -feargod.net/fluff
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The journey of life is with many twists & turns
But with faith & courage
No obstacle can stop you from reaching the goal,
Keep faith,peace and kindness in your heart,
and you shall always shine.
Merry Christmas
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“When you get married, your loyalty, first and foremost, is to your spouse, and to the family that you create together.” – Phil McGraw, quoteambition.com
When you feel that every person in this world has deserted you,
You are never truly alone,
I am still there for you
Take a moment,right here ,right now,
and thank them for that
No mater how bad your day is,
there is always a happy face
waiting for you
to get home.
‘unknown’
When you make tough choices,try to imagine if you will regret it in 10 years ‘pinterest’
Life is a series of choices.The choices we make now affect the options
avaiable for the next round of choices.– T.J.Taylor
You say it’s your life,therefore your decisions,but are you aware that your
choices will not affect only you,but also those around you,who care and
love you dearly even if you aren’t aware of that.So make the right decision
and choices in life to make not only yourself proud and happy but also
those around you. Unknown
We all make choices,But in the end our choices make us – Ritu Ghatourey
Why this happens ?
We all think that, Love means romance.But it is not so.
There are 7 types of love.
( source Psychologytoday.com, Quora)
My discussion is limited to the married couple.
Think for a second.
Can you tell the difference between ‘school and life‘ ?
” In school you are taught a lesson and then given a test.
In life,you are given a test,that teaches you the lesson” Tom Bodett
So what I am trying to tell is Life gives an opportunity to learn lessons from our experience, in this situation….. day to day problems faced by the couple,thus making them more accommodating,understanding and helpful to each other.
Thus we can become wiser by experiencing these experiences.
But here is the hitch.
The problem comes in the unknown form of ‘E G O ‘ nullifying all the benefits of life’s lessons,which we learn over the course of time.
Why can’t we make an attempt to look into this ? Why can not we prevent this disease before it strikes us ?
When we are able to manage life style diseases with sugar-free,fat-free,salt free,gluten-free etc. etc….why can’t we give a try for Ego- free ?
Another aspect is ,to be able to differentiate, the difference between love & Possession.Don’t think ,just because you love the person…you got right to possess the person.( as if the person is a property)
Remember love is selfless,coming from the bottom of the heart with total dedication,sincerity and commitment to lead a supportive life together.
And so…..
We make our life miserable because we never make an attempt to understand the full potential of true love,and thus we make ‘love’ scarce in spite of its abundance.
True Love gives you, the real experience of what all you dream and
Ego gives you, all the heartache.
“A flower cannot blossom without sunshine, and man cannot live without love”. – Max Muller
If you love someone, set them free. If they come back they are yours, if they don’t they never were. ‘ Richard Bach’
My life is 50% wondering
If it’s too late to drink Coffee
And 50% wondering
If it’s is too early to drink Alcohol
What is your advice my friends?……..I remember a proverb in English ‘A Friend in need is A friend indeed’
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If you are a wife or husband and on many occasions you think you are disappointed because of the other…..and think the other is the ‘difficult spouse’…. then this article is for you.
I am thankful to you if you felt there is something wrong in either of the parties and the mistake can be rectified easily.
There are two types of marriages.( Marriages are made in heaven.Is itn’t ?)
1.Love marriage
2.Arranged marriage ( In most of the eastern countries )
Irrespective of the type of marriage,both the man and the woman of his love have to adjust with each other in order to be compatible.
In fact, post marriage life is full of challenges and it exposes the couple to myriads of issues.
But we all know the truth.
One day or other both the man & the woman have to face unpleasant situation of opposing & different opinions and views, in matters of their day-to-day ‘living together’
The reality of the so-called colourful future has to show its fangs,since it is waiting to strike first !
Once the misunderstanding happens and prolongs….There are two options available
Why to quarrel at all in the first place ?
Now it’s time to think.
1.Realize that ‘ married happily ever after ‘ is an illusion ( Maya )
2.Understand that Wife & Husband belong to the same team and they have to work
together for the success of their married life.
“Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor. For if either of them falls, the one will lift up his companion. But woe to the one who falls when there is not another to lift him up.
Ecclesiastes4.9-10
3.We often hurt our spouse knowingly or unknowingly.Do you know the solution ? Ask for ‘forgiveness’ whole heartedly.
4.When Anger or Helplessness happens to one of you…just take a deep breath and allow the heated moment to pass.Don’t forget.. time’s the greatest healer.
5.Remember marriage is a vow,before God.
Now it’s time to put the following into action.
Don’t allow discord to remain ,not more than one minute,and your anger not more than a second.
Don’t be bossy and do not take one another for granted.
Respect individual feelings & make mutual adjustments
Make sincere effort to avoid jealousy and Ego & revenge,be the first to make the other win the argument.( small trick I tell you…remember whoever does most talking is the one at fault )
Don’t deprive each other of your needs just to take the revenge
Keep communicating,by which I mean try to find where exactly things are going wrong.
Constantly tell to yourself….
Forget & forgive,
I can go also wrong,
live & let live,
let us make best,out of the difficult situation,
I trust you.
Finally
I asked an old man “which is more important? To love or to be loved?”
Old man replied “which is more important to a bird, the left wing or the right wing?” – MarriageHumor, InstagramA happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers – Robert Quillen
A perfect marriage is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.-yourtango.com
A marriage is a like a house. When a light bulb goes out, you do not go and buy a new house, you fix the light bulb. – Happy Wives Club
Marriage is meant to keep people together, not just when things are good, but particularly when they are not. That’s why we take marriage vows, not wishes. – Ngina Otiende
Any thoughts on being the Difficult Spouse ?
which of the above quotes ,you thing sends the perfect message ?
Thanks for being a patient reader and reaching this point.
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Lion never loses sleep over the opinions of Sheep
LIFE GOES ON……..
just don’t care.Let me grab some sleep !
Keep calm & let me have a peaceful sleep!
Tiresome journey,Please ignore us !
The most dangerous thief is unwholesome thought.
GAUTAMA BUDDHA, The Gospel of Buddha
Collins dictionary
Destiny…..I believe, it is because of our thoughts
Thought process is the cause & Effect of which is Destiny.
I am sure you would have never given a thought or two about this !
“Be careful of your thoughts, for your thoughts become your words.
Be careful of your words, for your words become your actions.
Be careful of your actions, for your actions become your habits.
Be careful of your habits, for your habits become your character“.
Be careful of your character, for your character becomes your destiny.
– Chinese proverb, author unknown
Once you are aware of the destiny...take the challenge
“When we least expect it, life sets us a challenge to test our courage and
willingness to change; at such a moment, there is no point in pretending that
nothing has happened or in saying that we are not ready. The challenge will not
wait. Life does not look back. A week is more than enough time for us to decide
whether or not to accept our destiny.”
– Paulo Coelho, Quotes from The Devil and Miss Prym
Now coming to Fate……
Fate is a power that some people believe controls and decides everything that happens,in a way that cannot be prevented or changed.
Collins Dictionary
“Fate doesn’t ask you what you want,fate knows what is best,even if you don’t know”
‘Quotegram.com’
“Accept the things to which fate binds you, and love the people with whom fatebrings you together, but do so with all your heart”.Marcus Aurelius
What is your take on this ?
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One day you will ask me which is more important? My life or yours? I will say mine and you will walk away not knowing that you are my life.
Khalil Gibran
Never waste your time trying to explain who you are to people who are committed to misunderstanding you
Dream Hampton
Never underestimate the power of a woman’s intuition. Some women can recognize a game before you even play it. ‘Strong woman quote’
—Isabel Allende
—Anonymous
—Hussein Nishah
—Anonymous
—Helen Rowland
—Lionel Suggs
Men over there……. simply accept the fate and keep quite…Shh…tell not anybody,specially your girl friends !!
The most beautiful line is ” But I love you ” The most painful line is “I love you ,but..”
“Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn’t it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up.”
― Neil Gaiman, The Kindly Ones
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A man can fail many times, but he isn’t a failure until he begins to blame somebody else. John Burroughs
Blame Game
Be frank.We all indulge in blame game,whatever may be the nature of the problem we face, because we don’t wish to take the responsibility .We even argue that we are always correct,and the other is at fault.( remember the rules…the king is always correct ! )
Very rare to find people,who blame themselves.
The unlaid rule is I can never go wrong !
Why it is so ? Let us think.
We all lie,and learnt the art during childhood and fine tune it as we grow, and to escape the situation,’lie’ comes handy.
By blaming others, you are in a defensive mood,and can pass the buck easily.
“Blame is a beautiful thing, baby. Blame keeps this whole planet spinning. You can point your finger at the next man, you can shift the weight onto him, you don’t have to carry that shit around yourself. You can slide into bed and get a good night’s nap. Yeah, right”.
Narrator Augustus Hill ( played by Harold Perrineau) from Oz tv series
Remember,
Blame is fascinating –
“it shapes our lives. It can be a benign way of positioning ourselves, a gentle joust or banter, or it can be poisonous, hurtful or devastating for its victims. It can tear apart marriages and fracture work relationships; it can disable major social programmes; it can inflict damage on powerful corporations; it can bring down governments; it can start wars and justify genocides”.
Stephen Fineman, The Blame Business: The Uses and Misuses of Accountability
Don’t forget,
“All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with another, and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not change you. The only thing blame does is to keep the focus off you when you are looking for external reasons to explain your unhappiness or frustration. You may succeed in making another feel guilty about something by blaming him, but you won’t succeed in changing whatever it is about you that is making you unhappy.” Wayne Dyer
Any thoughts on how not to get trapped by the Blame game ?
Please share your views.
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There is a time for departure even when there’s no certain place to go. Tennessee Williams
“There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven:
a time to be born and a time to die,
a time to plant and a time to uproot,
a time to kill and a time to heal,
a time to tear down and a time to build,
a time to weep and a time to laugh,
a time to mourn and a time to dance,
a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them,
a time to embrace and a time to refrain,
a time to search and a time to give up,
a time to keep and a time to throw away,
a time to tear and a time to mend,
a time to be silent and a time to speak,
a time to love and a time to hate,
a time for war and a time for peace.
―Ecclesiastes 3:1-8
Don’t you agree that,We have to leave things to the decision of the Almighty instead of questioning His wisdom ?
“What have you lost that you cry for?
What did you bring, that you have lost?
What did you create that was destroyed?
What you have taken has been from here, what you gave has been given here.
What belongs to you today belonged to someone yesterday and will be someone else’s tomorrow.
Change is the law of the universe”.
Bhagavad-Gita
What has to happen will happen for good or bad and let us accept things with folded hands by surrendering to His wishes. And His Wishes can not be explained or questioned or analyzed as to the logic. I mean if something bad/good happening……just leave things to His wisdom.
If you think I am crazy….it’s OK
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“The truth is, everyone is going to hurt you. You just got to find the ones worth suffering for.”
―
As per Bob Morley’s Wisdom, Everybody is going to hurt you.
I think he is correct because we expect too much from the ones ,we love ( a bit selfish attitude ,I say ) and in turn feel hurt if they are not up to our expectation. (again a selfish motive)
“To love is to suffer.
To avoid suffering one must not love.
But then one suffers from not loving.
Therefore, to love is to suffer; not to love is to suffer; to suffer is to suffer.
To be happy is to love. To be happy, then, is to suffer, but suffering makes one unhappy.
Therefore, to be happy one must love or love to suffer or suffer from too much happiness.” — Woody Allen
Are you confused ? Is too much happiness also a suffering ?
I know you don’t have an answer.Neither I have !
How can L O V E have dual power…. ie adorable & destructive ?
What is your take ? Please share your thoughts .Have you ever suffered because of LOVE?
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Karma doesn’t spare anybody.Even for the Statue….. to its shock !. Think that the Bird Poop is a blessing ! Image- pixabay
English language is as simple as tough.
One is proud that,it’s an international language and people from different parts of the world can communicate with each other easily.
But the language is also funny,in sense derogatory words not only used but also accepted as a norm.
Take the Example of the word ‘BITCH’
Oxford dictionary defines Bitch as
1.A female dog,wolf,fox or otter
2.Unpleasant woman,offensive woman.
Commonly used as a slang word.
But why use it with KARMA ?
‘Karma’ is a religious concept,where as ‘Bitch’ is a derogatory word.
I can’t explain why ,but I am not comfortable,whenever somebody combines religious words with slang stuff.
Is KARMA is really bitchy ?
My feeling is KARMA is not a bitch.
My guess is people use this word whenever they think that the person is suffering because his or her bad Karma
Suppose the person is enjoying his life because of his or her good Karma……can we still say Karma is a bitch ?
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You can’t escape karma … It is what it is.
It doesn’t judge, it’s neither good nor bad like most people think.
It’s the result of all the actions, positive and negative–a constant balancing act of events–cause and effect–tit for tat–reaping and sowing–what goes around comes around … However you phrase it, it’s the same in the end.
– Alyson Noel, Shadowland
Any thoughts ? Do you believe in KARMA ?
We are humans and we keep a separate identity from animals,because of our super brain.Surprisingly we lack basic sense…….ie. Common sense.
I believe that animals have common sense.( as you can see in the above photograph,how well they are disciplined ).
Let us be frank ,we lack this (conveniently) at times when the situation demands.
One particular answer in ‘Yahoo answers’ by LM S is interesting.He says,
“Animals are not wired like us. We internalize things and complicate things by thinking about things too much. Also, animals do not have mental disorders like people do. Animals respond really well to behavioral interventions (like food as a reward) and humans don’t because we think too much and complicate the situation more”.
Yes we unnecessarily complicate simple things and claim that we are super smart by solving these man-made ‘complicated stuff’
Source-Ozfm
What is Queue ?
According to Oxford Dictionary
1.British –A line or sequence of people or vehicles awaiting their turn to be attended to or to proceed.
2.Computing
A list of data items, commands, etc., stored so as to be retrievable in a definite order, usually the order of insertion.
3.Archaic –A plait of hair worn at the back.
Why do we Queue ? ( Standing in the line )
Because it is polite to wait for your turn.Without Queue,there will be a total chaos,resulting in further increase in waiting time.
But still why some people jump the queue ? ( cutting the line )
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May be they lack discipline or not keeping well or arrogant or they may miss the appointment in some other place,may be carrying a sick child….. I can go on and on…and surely at least 90% of the times these jumpers face wrath of others.
Psychology in forming the queue humorously explained below
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We travel not to escape life but for life not to escape us ‘unknown’
By this time,you must have read the news that An American was killed by an isolated tribe in the sentinel Island of Andaman.Our sympathies and prayers are for the young boy and his family.
The sentinelese people resist any attempt by outsiders to reach them.They are also protected by the Indians laws where in, it is illegal to approach them,since the government wants to protect the tribe against outside diseases spreading to them and wiping out the entire tribe of 100- 200 people.( since these people have no immunity for diseases)
Andaman & Nicobar Islands is one of the union territories of India and are scattered group of islands in the bay of Bengal.
The Sentinelese people violently resist any contact with outsiders.
It is said that this young American wanted to reach this tribe to spread the Message of Jesus & Christianity and Love.
Man killed on remote Indian island tried to ‘declare Jesus’ to tribe
source-thegaurdian.com
Now my point is who is correct & who is wrong ?
Is the tribe is correct in killing this young boy for reaching them (against their set of rules) ?
Is this young boy correct in reaching the tribe (against Indian laws) to spread the message since he believes in certain faith ?
Who is to Judge and what will be his or her Judgment ?
I remember the following quote….. that No body is wrong.
“Genuine tragedies in the world are not conflicts between the right & wrong.They are conflicts between two rights”. George Hegel
What are your thoughts ?
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When an obnoxious and aggressive world displays its nuttiness just say to yourself, “I have
nothing to say to that.”
The world cries, “Give me your agreement or your disagreement but
whatever you do, don’t ignore me!”
Intelligently notice both outer and inner darkness then quietly ignore it. Switch your
attention back to the present moment with this powerful self-talk statement. You have
higher things to think about and darkness’s anguish is not your concern. Every “success”
darkness has is based on convincing you that its anguish is your concern. It wants you
involved with it, fighting it, trying to help it. Dare to reply instead, “I have nothing to say to
that!”
As The Daily Guru said once, “The resistance to the disturbance IS the disturbance.” Work
with this exercise this week. Notice how good you start to feel as you cease throwing fuel
on the initial disturbances – all those tiny little outer and inner fires that are very
significant until you react to them.
creditsThe Daily Guru
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World Television Day is not so much a celebration of the tool, but rather the philosophy which it represents. Television represents a symbol for communication and globalization in the contemporary world. ( UN )
While we try to teach our children all about life, our children teach us what life is all about.
United Nations Universal Children’s Day was established in 1954 and is celebrated on November 20th each year to promote international togetherness, awareness among children worldwide, and improving children’s welfare.
The theme is #Goblue
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Why the word ‘Holy‘ is used ,before swear words ?
Does not this go against the third commandment ?
Are we not demeaning the very Godly word ‘Holy’ ?
Readers can help me for a better understanding.
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One day, someone showed me a
glass of water that was half full.
And he said, “Is it half full or half
empty?” So I drank the water. No
more problem.
~Alexander Jodorowsky
Joke apart some of my favorite quotes
1.“Whether your cup is half-full or half-empty, remind yourself there are others without one.”
2.The optimist sees the rose and not its thorns; the pessimist stares at the thorns, oblivious of the rose – Kahlil Gibran
3.The real man smiles in trouble, gathers strength from distress, and grows brave by reflection – Thomas Paine
4.A pessimist sees only the dark side of the clouds and mopes; a philosopher sees both sides, and shrugs; an optimist doesn’t see the clouds at all – he’s walking on them – Leonard Louis Levinson
5.“The optimist sees the glass as half full, the pessimist as half empty. What I see is water that can save someone’s life.” –
6.The optimist proclaims that we live in the best of all possible worlds; and the pessimist fears this is true – James Branch Cabell
7.Optimism is the foundation of courage – Nicholas Murray Butler
8.A pessimist is one who makes difficulties of his opportunities and an optimist is one who makes opportunities of his difficulties – Harry Truman
“I know that I know nothing” Socrates
Philosophy derives from Two Greek words,Philos (love) & Sophia(wisdom).
Philosophy sheds light on the causes of various situations happening in this world and when you start asking questions in the form of ‘Why’…. remember,you start thinking like a philosopher.
“An unexamined life is not worth living” Socrates
By celebrating World Philosophy Day each year, on the third Thursday of November,UNESCO underlines the enduring value of philosophy for the development of human thought, for each culture and for each individual
“Philosophy is an inspiring discipline as well as an everyday practice that can transform societies. By enabling us to discover the diversity of the intellectual currents in the world, philosophy stimulates intercultural dialogue. By awakening minds to the exercise of thinking and the reasoned confrontation of opinions, philosophy helps to build a more tolerant, more respectful society. For UNESCO, it is also the way to unleash humanity’s creative potential and generate new ideas. Philosophy creates the intellectual conditions for change, sustainable development and peace. ”
Audrey Azoulay
UNESCO Director-Genera
(UNESCO)
It is a day for people to share thoughts, openly explore and discuss new ideas and inspire public debate or discussion on society’s challenges.(timeanddate.com)
Do you know This day also includes
1.Clean your Refrigerator day and
2.Use less stuff day.
Thank you
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Oh ! My Refrigerator !
Have you ever thought of giving your fridge some official leave ? I know you wouldn’t and you dare not ,Because Fridge is one item,which never supposed to ask rest or leave.
When was the last time you cleaned your Fridge ?
How is modern life possible without refrigerator in the kitchen ? It this not part of our life ?
But strangely, all of us take this one appliance for granted.And don’t even give a glance !
But you become restless once you realize that it failed to work or you are getting an unpleasant odor ,the moment you open its door.
So maintenance of our beloved refrigerator is important
No body is sure why November 15 th is selected every year( Some say Whirlpool started this ),but one way it is good,since Thanksgiving Day is going to come shortly.
You need not wait till next November 2019 to clean again,it is good if you clean it once in 3 months.
Why should you care to clean the refrigerator ?
How to observe the day ? ( credits-national daily calender.com )
Are you going to clean your fridge after reading this post ?
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Wilson was once asked how long it took him to write a speech. He answered, ‘That depends. If I am to speak 10 minutes, I need a week for preparation. If 15 minutes, 3 days. If half hour, two days. If an hour, I am ready now.’ Woodrow.t.Wilson
If you could make a 30 second speech to the entire world, what would you say?
One particular 30 second speech is inspiring.
“Imagine life as a game in which you are juggling some five balls in the air. You name them – Work, Family, Health, Friends and Spirit and you’re keeping all of these in the Air.
You will soon understand that work is a rubber ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back. But the other four Balls – Family, Health, Friends and Spirit – are made of glass. If you drop one of these; they will be irrevocably scuffed, marked, nicked, damaged or even shattered. They will never be the same. You must understand that and strive for it.”
Work efficiently during office hours and leave on time. Give the required time to your family, friends and have proper rest.
Value has a value only if its values is valued.
The above 30 second speech is by Bryan Dyson-Former CEO of Coca-cola
I felt it is really tough job to prepare instant 30 second speech.
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