Do you want to know me ?

Do you want to know me ?

I am unique. I am special. I am me.If you think I am funny,that’s your problem.

“I am Me. In all the world, there is no one else exactly like me. Everything that comes out of me is authentically mine, because I alone chose it — I own everything about me: my body, my feelings, my mouth, my voice, all my actions, whether they be to others or myself.

I own my fantasies, my dreams, my hopes, my fears. I own my triumphs and successes, all my failures and mistakes.

Because I own all of me, I can become intimately acquainted with me. By so doing, I can love me and be friendly with all my parts. I know there are aspects about myself that puzzle me, and other aspects that I do not know — but as long as I am friendly and loving to myself, I can courageously and hopefully look for solutions to the puzzles and ways to find out more about me.

However I look and sound, whatever I say and do, and whatever I think and feel at a given moment in time is authentically me. If later some parts of how I looked, sounded, thought, and felt turn out to be unfitting, I can discard that which is unfitting, keep the rest, and invent something new for that which I discarded. I can see, hear, feel, think, say, and do. I have the tools to survive, to be close to others, to be productive, and to make sense and order out of the world of people and things outside of me.

I own me, and therefore, I can engineer me.

I am me, and I am Okay.”

Varginia Satir

 

Photo by Andre Mouton on Pexels.com
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? Gossip ? Conversation

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What is your take ?

Are these two gossiping or conversing ?

World is the Wonderful place to live in … with a lot of problems disappearing….

If only we TALK to each other instead of ABOUT each other.

Thank you  Philosophy Through Photography

Image source © Dr.Sridhar,2019 All Rights Reserved

 

Long distance talk

Long distance talk

                                   Distance doesn’t separate people.Silence does.                                                                                          Jeff Hood

This leads me to a Question,which I am unable to decide !

Long distance relationship or short distance relationship……which is better & why ?  (couples & Friends)

Share your thoughts.

Thank you .  Philosophy Through Photography

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Tomorrow……Real or just a perception ??

Tomorrow....real or just perception??

“This to-day of yours is the precious tomorrow of someone who passed away yesterday”– Diva

Note-We all Live in Hope, but as you know Hope can have  either positive or negative outcome.Instead why can’t we just pray  that everything will end well and complete the day with a positive note?I request the readers to read the following with a positive orientation.

Don’t  we live in permanent illusion of ‘Tomorrow’ ?

Is not your mind telling lies constantly about your tomorrow ?

Is it not a fact that you can’t see tomorrow,and none of us know or sure of its existence or even how it looks !

Then why you say ,tomorrow…I do this..I do that.. etc ?

Since none of us know anything about this extraordinary tomorrow, is it not meaningful to spend time today, to the best of our ability,living in every second,helping each other whatever way it is possible.

Now that you realized that there is no ‘tomorrow’,you can stop demanding things from God and start having faith in GOD and just start the day (ie today) by saying  ‘what ever happens to-day is for my good and rest God will take care’ and develop the philosophy ‘there is no other time better than this moment’.By this thought don’t you think you are liberated from all your tensions,anxieties and worries forever ?

Are we depriving the joy of  ‘today’ for the sake of ‘tomorrow’? Think that to-day belongs to you and you are  here to spread your faith & love.

Listen to some of the wise thoughts.

“There is no tomorrow.There is only a planet turning on its axis,and a creature given to optimistic fancies”. Robert Brault,rbrault.blogspot.com

 

“Tomorrow may never come to us. We do not live in tomorrow. We cannot find it in any of our title-deeds. The man who owns whole blocks of real estate, and great ships on the sea, does not own a single minute of tomorrow. Tomorrow! It is a mysterious possibility, not yet born. It lies under the seal of midnight–behind the veil of glittering constellations”.  E.H.Chaplin,Living words,notablequotes.com

 

“This day was yesterday tomorrow nam’d:
Tomorrow shall be yesterday proclaimed:
Tomorrow not yet come, not far away,
What shall tomorrow then be call’d? Today”.      Robert Owen,Today and Tomorrow,notablequotes.com

 

“People were always getting ready for tomorrow. I didn’t believe in that. Tomorrow wasn’t getting ready for them. It didn’t even know they were there”.    Cormac Mccarthy,The road,Notablequotes.com.  

What are your thoughts ?

Thank you.Philosophy Through Photography

 

Life is short….but you can live longer👍

Life is short...but you can live longer,long life
It’s a 3.4 minute read

The other day one of our exceptionally brilliant readers wondered, how the time is running so fast,we are in the middle of January,still we are dreaming….as if we celebrated new year just yesterday…is this not scarring? Life is moving so fast, refusing to wait !
I felt … it’s true

And shortly…the spring will run into summer and Summer chasing Fall and Fall merging with Winter in no time and soon we celebrate Christmas and eagerly waiting for the safe delivery of 2020 and in between many will be in touch with the Creator…
Then the thought of why can’t we live longer lingered in my mind!
Yes.Why not ?
All of you know life is awesome !

If you ask ,each one gives their own many reasons as to why they love to live longer.Very few say they want to die earlier.

Don’t you think there is so much of unfulfilled wishes to be full filled?
There is so much to do,so much to see,so much to enjoy,so much to learn,so much to discuss,so many new People to meet,new friends,new thoughts,new experiences….
…..oh my life ! My dear life…..and you think just 70-80 yrs of life is sufficient ?

There won’t be negative feelings or sadness or sorrow if one were to live forever.Of course ones health should be good,but this is possible as science is advancing and most probably in 2100 death can be delayed indefinitely.

But why you don’t want to die ?

It’s very simple my friend.Death means, all your taste for enjoying the good life gone.You miss the beauty of universe.You miss your near and dear.you miss unfinished jobs.you miss, loving your sweetheart.

OK.But Why do you wish to live forever ?

I have an answer.

Modern age is better than Iron age.Iron age was better than bronze age.Bronze age was better than stone age.
As things become better and better ,we wish to live longer.We starts inventing things where in death can be delayed.As technology advances,they day may not be far,where death can become optional.

What is the present scenario ?

  1. Living forever is not possible, but living longer is possible (quora)
  2. Eat & Drink Healthy
  3. Have sound mind and you can take correct decisions.
  4. Have a good social life.Have limited number of friends,who value the meaning of life just like you.
  5. Remember not to possess anger & Ego
  6. When you get up in the morning,first thing you do is to remember God and express your gratitude ,since you are breathing and lucky to be alive. 153,424 people won’t see another tomorrow ( WHO)

If you want to live longer – watch this clip. (  3 minute Video )

Thank you    Philosophy Through Photography

I have no Self-ie Control

I don't have self-ie control

With the selfies, a photographer has finally found his place in a photograph. Amit Kalantri

Professional Photographers can make a real kill,because of selfies.

As an amateur photographer,I realized that selfie makes one’s life miserable.

1.Selfies distort your face by 30 % .The truth is you look ugly.people are dejected for this and try to avoid the world.

2.Selfie face distortion making people do nose jobs and plastic surgeons have become busy .Some body even inventing app( commercialization),which is supposed to correct the distortion

3. People becoming obsessed and in the process getting depressed.

4. As a medical professional,I can tell you that regular usage of selfie can give you SELFIE WRIST, an emerging hazard in this digital era.Selfie wrist causes pain,numbness and tingling sensation in the hand.( carpal tunnel syndrome)
Doctor warns-rise in cases of selfie wrist

5.Hundreds and thousands are getting killed while trying to take selfies with India in the lead,followed by Russia.USA and Pakistan.
List of selfie related injuries and deaths ( Oct 2011-Jan 2019)

I conclude..

“The inventor of the mirror poisoned the human heart”.

Fernando Pessoa wiseoldsayings.com

How long will you be remembered after you die?

We all leave legacy be good are bad.And if you think you will be remembered for that,you are sadly mistaken.

That is what happens in life.

But once you are dead,do you really care whether any body remembers you at all !

Don’t be shocked to the fact that even your kith and kin forget you over the time.Don’t blame them !

My guess is if you leave a legacy of kindness may be you will be remembered for sometime.

Occasionally children may recollect what their dad or mom told them.
Wife or husband surely miss the other person and cherish the shared bonds from time to time.

What I am trying to tell is,the frequency of thinking of that person will be less and less as time moves on,though memories remain.( Memories can not fade)

Instead

Don’t you think it is a great feeling when people who are associated with you, remember you,when you are alive ?

I conclude…..

To strive to be remembered after death is a vain attempt to achieve immortality

Yahooanswers

There is quiz too….to know how you will be remembered after you die ! ( just for Fun don’t take it seriously.)
how you will be remembered after death

Bullshit In the guise of True Love !

Bullshit in the guise of true love.

The most common lie uttered without thought, sincerity, resolve, or guilt: I love you. ‘unknown’

See this clip(117 seconds) before you proceed further.

Does true love exist? I dare !

Rabbi Dr.Abraham calls’Love out of selfishness’ is a Fish Love.He

says”Fish love is poisoning marriages,damaging homes and breaking

hearts”.

Sex,money or power will decide the intensity of the so-called true love.

you may blast me that ….I am,atrocious,stone-hearted, silly, crazy, cruel,disgusting and disappointing but I am not dejected,because one day you realize that none can show the true love without expecting something in return. And that day,you are sure to remember me!The love what you expect / or given is nothing but ‘fake love !

In this world no body is willing to give unconditional love,though they can, if really they want,but they won’t because of the inherent selfishness.

I shall give just 2 examples.My discussion is limited to so called ‘unbreakable human love’

1.Romanticizing love.(couples)

‘I love you beyond eternity’,

‘If loving is wrong,then I don’t want to be right ‘

‘My love for you is a journey starting at forever & ending never.

‘You’re the first boy I ever kissed Jake,and I want you to be the last'(hollywood dialogue-movie-sweet home Alabama)

‘I think I’d miss you even if we’d never met'( movie-wedding date)

If these things are true….Why you see so many cases of divorces?

2.If true love were there( parents vs children)…

Why there are so many old age homes and homes for destitute ? And what about.. Orphanage,Children homes ?

Ron Leighman in Quora (on love is bullshit)
“Because love is a fraudulent emotion, it doesn’t exist. They say the love you Blah blah blah. Then once you get/give them what they want they kick you to the curb like yesterdays garbage. You may as well expect it because it will happen. Expect it then you feel no pain when it happens”.

Are we into the ‘Fantasy Love’?

“Of all the lies you told me….’I love you’ was my favorite”.
Unknown

True love is possible only when the people concerned are mature enough ( this happens as they age ) to see both sides of the point of view.

Finally,the difference between True Love & Pure Love.

True Love may not be possible all the time ,but Pure Love is possible.

 

Loving what you get is compromise.

Getting what you love is Success.

Loving without caring whether you will get it or not is true love.

Loving even after you knowing that you won’t get it..is pure love.

Unknown

 

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Are you listening ?

Are you listening ?
You can agree with me or you can be wrong          etcy.com

It’s natural to think that you are right.But

experience should teach you that sometimes you are

not and that is wise to listen to others

Thank you  Philosophy Through Photography

 

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Family Quarrel

family quarrel

No family is perfect ! We argue,we fight,we even stop talking to each other at times,but in the end family is family….the love will always be there. quoteslover.com

Definition :To quarrel is to fight — but usually not physically.

Quarreling is a fact of life, occurring between the best of friends, in the happiest of marriages, and between parents and their children. vocabulary.com

It is a disagreement about something.

Why we quarrel in the very first place ?

Somewhere I read ( I am not able to recollect the source) what is known as BIG 5 causing friction, leading to argument. 1.Money, 2.sex, 3.raising kids, 4.in-laws and 5.house/office work.Of course one can broaden the BIG 5 into various sub-classes.

Disagreement can lead from just anger to outburst of pent-up feelings.

The quarrels can stretch from very few initially to increased frequency over the time.

The reasons can be from silly to far serious issues.

The whole problem is because none is willing to admit their mistakes, continue the arguments,even competing with each other, with ego factor playing an active role.

Whenever there is dispute remember,

“Family problems come in all sizes and shapes.Some are short-lived,easily managed,while others are more chronic and difficult to handle” unknown

What I am trying to tell is that it takes time to deal the problems and one must be patient.One must realize that,

“Families and their problems go on and they are not solved….they are dealt with”. Roger Ebert,

When we are friendly with the entire world ( don’t say…. this is because of survival instinct ),why can’t we show same friendliness to our family members?

You know the old adage

“You can choose the friends,but you can’t choose the family”

In other words,since blood is thicker than water, all the more you can’t afford to quarrel with your family members.

How best to avoid family quarrels ?

Some tips which I think,can help! ( My 12 commandments )

1.Stay calm in spite of the urge to respond angrily.Never raise your voice.

2.Be a good listener.

3.Reduce your emotional scale to zero.

4.Let there not be communication gap.Make it clear as to what the other person is saying and meaning.

5.Impress the other person,what actually you meant or intended to do.

6.Never bring the past or unrelated issues.

7.Try to solve the problem and not to win the argument.

8.Put yourself in the others shoes.

9.Don’t stockpile your issues and vent at a stretch irrelevantly.

10.forget & forgive

11.Take it easy.

12.Have faith in the Lord.

“Problems are like washing machines,they twist us,spin us,knock us around but in the end,we come out cleaner,brighter and better than before” – unknown

What are your thoughts ?

Thank you.   Philosophy through photography

image credits-pixabay, -quoteswiseoldsayings.com

Does your mind wander during prayers ?

grayscale photography of man sitting on grass field

 

Are you able to concentrate on God and Just God alone and pray without any thoughts interfering the prayers ?

1.Are you the one doing just lip movements while praying,but wander in a different world full of one thought jumping over to the next?

2.This split second intrusion of your thoughts (whether negative or positive) during prayers really haunting you ? Is this making you guilty ?
If it is so, believe me …..you are not alone.

Is it because our brains have multiple components,each doing different jobs in quick succession, thus making us, difficult to concentrate ?

Are these intrusive thoughts, a basic human nature ? ( since we can not stop thoughts from the brain)

Can you control your mind when you are already burdened with your ‘Life’ ? (burden of life is a reality for all of us).

Is it possible to override these thoughts ?

How to solve this problem ?

So many questions…..but I am finding very difficult to get one perfect answer (though plenty of answers are available on the net,which I am not convinced) which helps to really concentrate on God nothing but God .
I don’t have an answer.Do you have one ? Please guide me.

Some say Meditation helps

“The goal of meditation is not to control your thoughts,it is to stop letting them control you”

theageofenlightement

Again I am not sure of Meditation and how it can help control ones’ mind,since mind sprouts the thoughts continuously.Mind won’t keep quite Even during the sleep, we are troubled by the thoughts in the form of Dreams!

My guess is just ignore them.And Pray God to put an end to these interfering thoughts.Or appeal to God for forgiveness and say “I trust you and I surrender”

Once we surrender with sincerity,God will appreciate.
Please share your thoughts and any solution ( I mean based on your experience), if at all available.Thank you in advance.

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Which face you will wear to day ?

This is a 3 minute read,

“Everyone is a moon, and has a dark side which he never shows to anybody.”Mark Twain

I am not talking of the personality disorder which we come across in the Medical World…..I am talking about the normal,perfect down to earth gentlemen and gentlewomen, who invariably have two faces,sometimes many faces ( multifaceted indeed! )

“Everyone  has two faces but often we see only one side of them,so never judge anyone by their looks,because ,truth might surprise you” !    ‘unknown’

Have you any time seriously gazed your soul ?

I think we are all not just actors but great actors.Some examples,

1.You agree with me that wives hide (secrets) things from husbands, and husbands hide things from wives,but each will be talking to other sweetly and kindly.

2.All Men talk differently when they are with wives,and when the wives are not around.(men there… ..you know what I mean )

3. We preach our kids,but practice quite opposite.

4.Young boys and girls as lovers,constantly lie to each other which suits the situation.

5.We shout at our children and wives for no fault of theirs,but show sweet face to the boss,in spite of getting abused.

6.Married men ,when they come across a single woman, try,to attract her attention,but when wives are with them…it is a different behavior !

7.Our offline behavior is in contrast to our online behavior.You may be a beggar in real life ,but on social media you flaunt all your richness from nowhere !

8. You can see ,Professional child kidnapper/killer is a dedicated father to his kids.

I can go on and on…..

We all wear masks.

Let us be frank.And that is the way of life ! And we have to live that life if we want to survive in this wretched world.

And the worst part,you know…..even with God we play our duality !

“There’s a duality of a guy calling on God: ‘Where are you when I need you’ and the,at the same time .’God helps those who helps themselves.’…I think that contradiction does exist in all of us ,those of faith and those who profess to have no faith.  ‘JoeCornahan’

Now that we realized that all of us have two faces( dual personalities)….now it becomes even more scary.

“It’s not about who’s real to your face,

It’s about who’s real behind your back”   unknown

So be busy checking your back frequently !

And wishing and praying that, let 2019 bring just the single and original face of ours all the time !

Thank you  Philosophy through photography

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Have you ever hugged a troll ??

Troll

How to win war on internet trolls?

This article is a 2.5 minute read.

This post is in response to my experience with a reader,who is from non-English speaking country, who mistook my English,and became angry.I fully understand this situation in this particular scenario.I even had to take help of fellow readers(English Pundits)

But many times we are not that fortunate( I mean language problem) and are abused by trolls.

Internet troll can become sometimes nasty and the person affected may lose sleep forever.

You can call Internet Troll as a polished version of mythical creatures in Scandinavian folklore.

Trolling is done by cowardly people,and they do because,they oppose somebody’s point of view or they derive pleasure by causing mental agony ( sadist ), or they hurt the feelings out of ignorance of the topic being discussed.They troll because they think that nobody knows their identity.

If you think trolls are after you…..what to do ?

Very simple.

Just Image You are hugging them…that’s all…. and move on by ignoring them.Don’t even respond,however strong the urge to react!

There are two kinds of Hugs.( my version)

1. Distant Hug-reach out to the person,when the occasion arises and hug in your imagination and you get peace of mind.

2.Physical hug-this you can call it as healing hug.

Time to Hug

Hugs are one of the reasons God gave us arms.So stretch out your arm to some one today.Reach out to those you love or do not love…it will warm the heart of the giver and give light to the soul of the recipients.

‘unknown’

Healing Hug

Hugging is a good medicine.Scientists say that hugging is a form of communication because it can say things you don’t have words for.

And the nicest thing about a hug is that you usually can’t give one without getting one

‘Unknown’

We are fortunate in WP since we are surrounded mostly by Gentlemen & Gentlewomen,who either agree or disagree…and there the matter ends !

How do you manage your trolls ?

Did anybody troll you ? lease share your experiences.

Image source © Dr.Sridhar, 2018

All Rights Reserved

Forgotten hygiene

“Take care of your body.

It’s the only place you have to live”

Jim Rohn

Good health is not just regular exercise or eating healthy food….

This topic is a 4 minute read.

So read this post completely , in case you got  just that much time.

Otherwise take your own time whenever you are free to read.

Some of my regular friends in WP wondered as to why I am not contributing some useful medical stuff,being in the Medical profession.

I understand,but as you already know there is a wealth of information already available on the net, and my wish, not to crowd the space further.But still I try to add one or two helpful topics.This is my 2 nd post, and the earlier post being,

Something we have been doing wrong all along

Everyone of us…I am sure ,aware of importance of Hygiene.

All of us are busy teaching our young ,the importance of not just hygiene,but also personal hygiene.

Some examples of personal hygiene include

Regular bath,Regular brushing the teeth along with flossing,Trimming the nails,Regular washing of the hands,Regular shaving of arm pit and pubic hair,trimming the nostril hair,women maintaining hygiene during menstrual time(just washing with fresh water),for men in non circumcision cases thoroughly removing the smegma,anal hygiene (washing with fresh water after defecation),keeping our nostrils clean,cleaning the external ear pits regularly etc.etc

But surprisingly our teaching to the kid  never includes HYGIENE of the Belly Button or Navel which in the medical world it is known by the name umbilicus.

How many of you stand in front of the mirror and just have a look at the belly button on a regular basis ? (Navel gazing literally !! )

Belly button,as you all know is the scar left behind by the umbilical cord Which gets removed after birth.

OK, as you are aware as the stump of the umbilical cord gets dried up it forms a pit during the process of healing.

Is there any purpose of the belly button after birth ?

Yes.

1.Medically

It helps in dividing the abdomen into quadrants,1.helping the physician to identify the cause of the symptom,2. can be used for blood transfusion in the new-born,3.Helpful for having laparoscopic ports.4.Any bulge of the navel indicates intra abdominal pathology.

2.Fashion ,society and culture

includes Midriff,

Crop-top

Navel-piercing

Belly Dance

Why Hygiene of belly button important ?

1. Belly button (pit) is a source of 2,368 different species of bacteria/fungi ,waiting to strike at the next available opportunity.

2. If you are male and hairy, or a person with belly button piercing,or you are a person in the habit of liberally spraying  talcum powder on your body, you can notice over the time collection of the lint or fluff ( a mixture of cloth fibers,hair follicles) and over the time it becomes smelly and ripe for bacterial/fungal infection and later pus formation.

3. The deeper your belly button pit,the greater the collection of dirt and germs, and just like these germs make your armpit smelly, here also the germs along with dirt collection give a foul smell and soon you can notice redness of the surrounding skin,pain and even pus discharge.

Notice above how the Lint/Fluff appears.The example above is large enough to be visualised.Intially it is small in size difficult to visualise.

Fortunately hygiene aspect of belly button is easy,only if we care to follow on a regular basis.

Just watch this video and learn how to clean the belly button. ( 1 mt-40 seconds clip)

Thank you for your patient reading !

My post is incomplete if I don’t mention One Australian Gentleman by name Graham Barkers,who holds the world record for collecting his own navel fluff stuff (lint) every day for 26 years.Check the following link.

Librarian enters Guinness book of world records for collecting belly button fluff

Navel fluff/lint

Navel fluff/lint source -feargod.net/fluff

 

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Merry Christmas

Merry Christmas

The journey of life is with many twists & turns

But with faith & courage

No obstacle can stop you from reaching the goal,

Keep faith,peace and kindness in your heart,

and you shall always shine.

Merry Christmas

Pixabay/quotesideas.com

 

It has always been you and it will always be you….

Loyalty

“When you get married, your loyalty, first and foremost, is to your spouse, and to the family that you create together.”                                                                                                                         – Phil McGraw, quoteambition.com

 

When you feel that every person in this world has deserted you,

You are never truly alone,

I am still there for you

Take a moment,right here ,right now,

and thank them for that

No mater how bad your day is,

there is always a happy face

waiting for you

to get home.

‘unknown’

 

 

 

To me ‘drink responsibly’ means don’t spill it!!

Responbile drinking

When you make tough choices,try to imagine if you will regret it in 10 years ‘pinterest’

 

Life is a series of choices.The choices we make now affect the options

avaiable for the next round of choices.T.J.Taylor

 

You say it’s your life,therefore your decisions,but are you aware that your

choices will not affect only you,but also those around you,who care and

love you dearly even if you aren’t aware of that.So make the right decision

and choices in life to make not only yourself proud and happy but also

those around you. Unknown

 

We all make choices,But in the end our choices make usRitu Ghatourey

Source-Searchquotes.com

Love is scarce- Really ?

The only thing we never get enough of is love; and the only thing we

never give enough of is love.

Henry Miller

Why this happens ?

We all  think that, Love means romance.But it is not so.

There are 7 types of love.

  1. Storge- Familial love
  2. Phila-friendship ( shared goodwill)
  3. Eros-Sexual or passionate love
  4. Agape-Universal love ( unconditional love)
  5. Ludus-Playful or uncommitted love
  6. Pragma- Long term love ( married people)
  7. Philautia-self love ( healthy or unhealthy)

( source Psychologytoday.com, Quora)

My discussion is limited to the married couple.

Think for a second.

Can you tell  the difference between ‘school and life‘ ?

” In school you are taught a lesson and then given a test.

  In life,you are given a test,that teaches you the lesson” Tom Bodett

So what I am trying to tell is Life gives an opportunity to learn lessons  from our experience, in this situation….. day to day problems faced by the couple,thus making them more accommodating,understanding and helpful to each other.

Thus we can become wiser by experiencing these experiences.

But here is the hitch.

The problem comes in the unknown form of ‘E G O nullifying all the benefits of life’s lessons,which we learn over the course of time.

Why can’t we make an attempt to look into this ? Why can not we prevent this disease before it strikes us ?

When we are able to manage life style diseases with sugar-free,fat-free,salt free,gluten-free etc. etc….why can’t we give a try for Ego- free ?

The only way to achieve peace and harmony is becoming ‘EGO LESS’,

and this should be the  ultimate outcome of your life’s lessons,if you

are willing to learn.

Another aspect is ,to be able to differentiate, the difference between love & Possession.Don’t think ,just because you love the person…you got right to possess the person.( as if the person is a property)

Remember love is selfless,coming from the bottom of the heart with total dedication,sincerity and commitment to lead a supportive life together.

And so…..

We make our life miserable because we never make an attempt to understand the full potential of true love,and thus we make ‘love’ scarce in spite of its abundance.

True Love gives you, the real experience of what all you dream and

Ego gives you, all the heartache.

“A flower cannot blossom without sunshine, and man cannot live without love”. – Max Muller

 

Thirsty Thursday

Thirsty Thursday

To go with coffee or……..

 

Thirsty Thursday

……….to go with good spirit

My life is 50% wondering

If it’s  too late to drink Coffee

And 50% wondering

If it’s is too early to drink Alcohol

What is your advice my friends?……..I remember a proverb in English ‘A Friend in need is A friend indeed’

Pinterest/Is pixabay,

Are you the ‘Difficult Spouse’ ?

Unhappy coule
Real relationships are not perfect and perfect relationships are not real !!

If you are a wife or husband and on many occasions you think you are disappointed because of the other…..and think the other is the ‘difficult spouse’…. then this article is for you.

I am thankful to you if you felt there is something wrong in either of the parties and the mistake can be rectified easily.

There are two types of marriages.( Marriages are made in heaven.Is itn’t ?)

1.Love marriage

2.Arranged marriage ( In most of the eastern countries )

Irrespective of the type of marriage,both the man and the woman of his love have to adjust with each other in order to be compatible.

In fact, post marriage life is full of challenges and it exposes the couple to myriads of issues.

But we all know the truth.

One day or other both the man & the woman have to face unpleasant situation of opposing & different opinions and views, in matters of their day-to-day ‘living together’

The reality of the so-called colourful future has to show its fangs,since it is waiting to strike first !

Once the misunderstanding happens and prolongs….There are two options available

  1. You decided you are not going to adjust at all...then Apply for divorce and probably matter can come to end to the mutual satisfaction,and thus ending the very discussion I am trying to make.
  2. If the above choice is not the option due to so many other pressing matters,( which is a bit lengthy topic, for some other time discussion ) and you both have to live together,and you have to go along with the spouse….thus making the ‘misunderstanding part’ useless and even unnecessary.

Why to quarrel at all in the first place ?

Now it’s time to think.

1.Realize that ‘ married happily ever after ‘ is an illusion ( Maya )
2.Understand that Wife & Husband belong to the same team and they have to work

together for the success of their married life.

“Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor. For if either of them falls, the one will lift up his companion. But woe to the one who falls when there is not another to lift him up.

Ecclesiastes4.9-10

3.We often hurt our spouse knowingly or unknowingly.Do you know the solution ? Ask for ‘forgiveness’ whole heartedly.

4.When Anger or Helplessness happens to one of you…just take a deep breath and allow the heated moment to pass.Don’t forget.. time’s the greatest healer.

5.Remember marriage is a vow,before God.

Now it’s time to put the following into action.

Don’t allow discord to remain ,not more than one minute,and your anger not more than a second.

Don’t be bossy and do not take one another for granted.

Respect individual feelings & make mutual adjustments

Make sincere effort to avoid jealousy and Ego & revenge,be the first to make the other win the argument.( small trick I tell you…remember whoever does most talking is the one at fault )

Don’t deprive each other of your needs just to take the revenge

Keep communicating,by which I mean try to find where exactly things are going wrong.

Constantly tell to yourself….

Forget & forgive,

I can go also wrong,

live & let live,

let us make best,out of the difficult situation,

I trust you.

Finally

I asked an old man “which is more important? To love or to be loved?”
Old man replied “which is more important to a bird, the left wing or the right wing?” – MarriageHumor, Instagram

A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers – Robert Quillen

A perfect marriage is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.-yourtango.com

A marriage is a like a house. When a light bulb goes out, you do not go and buy a new house, you fix the light bulb. – Happy Wives Club

Marriage is meant to keep people together, not just when things are good, but particularly when they are not. That’s why we take marriage vows, not wishes. – Ngina Otiende

 

Any thoughts on being the Difficult Spouse ?

which of the above quotes ,you thing sends the perfect message ?

Thanks for being a patient reader and reaching this point.

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O bed! O bed! delicious bed! That heaven upon earth to the weary head. -Thomas Hood

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Lion never loses sleep over the opinions of Sheep

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LIFE GOES ON……..

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just don’t care.Let me grab some sleep !

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Keep calm & let me have a peaceful sleep!

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Tiresome journey,Please ignore us !

“Now, blessings light on him that first invented sleep!

It covers a man all over, thoughts and all, like a cloak;

it is meat for the hungry,

drink for the thirsty,

heat for the cold,

and cold for the hot.

It is the current coin that purchases all the pleasures of the world

cheap, and the balance that sets the king and the shepherd, the fool

and the wise man, even”.

~Miguel de Cervantes, Don Quixote, 1605

The Happiness Of Your Life Depends On The Quality Of Your Thoughts!!

 

The most dangerous thief is unwholesome thought.
GAUTAMA BUDDHA, The Gospel of Buddha

Destiny……

A person’s destiny is everything that  happens to them during their life,

including what will  happen in the future, especially when it is considered to be

controlled  by someone or something else.

Collins dictionary

Destiny…..I believe, it is because of our thoughts

Thought process is the cause & Effect of which is Destiny.

I am sure you would have never given a thought or two about this !

Be careful of your thoughts, for your thoughts become your words.

Be careful of your words, for your words become your actions.

Be careful of your actions, for your actions become your habits.

Be careful of your habits, for your habits become your character.

Be careful of your character, for your character becomes your destiny.
– Chinese proverb, author unknown

Once you are aware of the destiny...take the challenge

“When we least expect it, life sets us a challenge to test our courage and

willingness to change; at such a moment, there is no point in pretending that

nothing has happened or in saying that we are not ready. The challenge will not

wait. Life does not look back. A week is more than enough time for us to decide

whether or not to accept our destiny.”

– Paulo Coelho, Quotes from The Devil and Miss Prym

Now coming to Fate……

Fate is a power that some people believe controls and decides everything that happens,in a way that cannot be prevented or changed.

Collins Dictionary 

“Fate doesn’t ask you what you want,fate knows what is best,even if you don’t know”

‘Quotegram.com’

“Accept the things to which fate binds you, and love the people with whom fate
brings you together, but do so with all your heart”.
Marcus Aurelius

What is your take on this ?

I believe that my destiny depends on my fate !  Do you agree with me ?

 

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You wanna know… who you’re to me ?

You are my life

One day you will ask me which is more important? My life or yours? I will say mine and you will walk away not knowing that you are my life.
Khalil Gibran

Never waste your time trying to explain who you are to people who are committed to misunderstanding you

Dream Hampton

Men are actually the weaker sex.Shocked ?

“Men are actually the weaker sex” George Weinberg
Woman stronger than man

Never underestimate the power of a woman’s intuition. Some women can recognize a game before you even play it. ‘Strong woman quote’

If you are confused  check this link
1.A man does what he can; a woman does what a man cannot.

—Isabel Allende

2.A woman has the last word in any argument. Anything a man says after that is the
beginning of a new argument.

—Anonymous

3.Here’s all you have to know about men and women: women are crazy, men are
stupid. And the main reason women are crazy is that men are stupid.

—Hussein Nishah

4.Sure God created man before woman, but then again you always make a rough
draft before creating the final masterpiece.

—Anonymous

5.It takes one woman twenty years to make a man of her son—and another woman
twenty minutes to make a fool of him.

—Helen Rowland

6.Men have grown embarrassingly weak, but only through observation. Their
resolve can easily be broken by a woman. Their emotions can be easily manipulated
by a woman. Their power can be easily taken by a woman. Their pride can be easily
stripped by a woman. Their entire life can easily be ruined by a woman. While
physically stronger, their manipulative prowess can be wittingly outclassed by a
woman. And while their dreams are stronger, the realities of women are stronger.

—Lionel Suggs

Men over there……. simply accept the fate and keep quite…Shh…tell not anybody,specially your girl friends !!


Love pain-how strong you are ?

Love pain

The most beautiful line is ” But I love you ” The most painful line is “I love you ,but..”

“Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn’t it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up.”
― Neil Gaiman, The Kindly Ones

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Universal rules- Rule No 1.King is always right Rule No 2 If the King is wrong,then follow the rule no 1,(ie,the King is always right).

Blame game

A man can fail many times, but he isn’t a failure until he begins to blame somebody else. John Burroughs

Blame Game

Be frank.We all indulge in blame game,whatever may be the nature of the problem we face, because we don’t wish to take the responsibility .We even argue that we are always correct,and the other is at fault.( remember the rules…the king is always correct ! )

Very rare to find people,who blame themselves.

The  unlaid rule is  I can never go wrong !

Why it is so ? Let us think.

We all lie,and learnt the art during childhood and fine tune it as we grow, and to escape the situation,’lie’ comes handy.

By blaming others, you are in a defensive mood,and can pass the buck easily.

“Blame is a beautiful thing, baby. Blame keeps this whole planet spinning. You can point your finger at the next man, you can shift the weight onto him, you don’t have to carry that shit around yourself. You can slide into bed and get a good night’s nap. Yeah, right”.

Narrator Augustus Hill ( played by Harold Perrineau) from Oz tv series

Remember,

Blame is fascinating –

“it shapes our lives. It can be a benign way of positioning ourselves, a gentle joust or banter, or it can be poisonous, hurtful or devastating for its victims. It can tear apart marriages and fracture work relationships; it can disable major social programmes; it can inflict damage on powerful corporations; it can bring down governments; it can start wars and justify genocides”.

Stephen Fineman, The Blame Business: The Uses and Misuses of Accountability

Don’t forget,

“All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with another, and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not change you. The only thing blame does is to keep the focus off you when you are looking for external reasons to explain your unhappiness or frustration. You may succeed in making another feel guilty about something by blaming him, but you won’t succeed in changing whatever it is about you that is making you unhappy.”       Wayne Dyer

Any thoughts on how not to get trapped by the Blame game ?

Please share your views.

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That precious time……between life and death…What can happen ?

That precious time between life & death

There is a time for departure even when there’s no certain place to go.                     Tennessee Williams

“There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven:

a time to be born and a time to die,

a time to plant and a time to uproot,

a time to kill and a time to heal,

a time to tear down and a time to build,

a time to weep and a time to laugh,

a time to mourn and a time to dance,

a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them,

a time to embrace and a time to refrain,

a time to search and a time to give up,

a time to keep and a time to throw away,

a time to tear and a time to mend,

a time to be silent and a time to speak,

a time to love and a time to hate,

a time for war and a time for peace.

Ecclesiastes 3:1-8

Don’t you agree that,We have to leave things to the decision of the Almighty instead of questioning His wisdom ?

“What have you lost that you cry for?

What did you bring, that you have lost?

What did you create that was destroyed?

What you have taken has been from here, what you gave has been given here.

What belongs to you today belonged to someone yesterday and will be someone else’s tomorrow.

Change is the law of the universe”.

Bhagavad-Gita

What has to happen will happen for good or bad and let us accept things with folded hands by surrendering to His wishes. And His Wishes can not be explained or questioned  or analyzed as to the logic. I mean if something bad/good  happening……just leave things to His wisdom.

Just let things  go ….as it happens !

If you think I am  crazy….it’s OK

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Does Love mean suffering ? What is your definition of Love ?

Does love mean suffering ?

“The truth is, everyone is going to hurt you. You just got to find the ones worth suffering for.”

Bob Marley

What is that all the religions, teach us about L O V E?

As per Bob Morley’s Wisdom, Everybody is going to hurt you.

I think he is correct because we expect too much from the ones ,we love ( a bit selfish attitude ,I say ) and in turn feel hurt if they are not up to our expectation. (again a selfish motive)

“To love is to suffer.

To avoid suffering one must not love.

But then one suffers from not loving.

Therefore, to love is to suffer; not to love is to suffer; to suffer is to suffer.

To be happy is to love. To be happy, then, is to suffer, but suffering makes one unhappy.

Therefore, to be happy one must love or love to suffer or suffer from too much happiness.” — Woody Allen

Are you confused ? Is too much happiness also a suffering ?

I know you don’t have an answer.Neither I have !

But my guess is…. don’t love too much or too little,and at the same time don’t not expect anything in return.Don’t presume or assume.

Is this not strange that the very word ‘L O V E’ makes some of us

experience ‘Heaven’ and some other ‘Hell’

How can L O V E have dual power…. ie adorable & destructive ?
What is your take ? Please share your thoughts .Have you ever suffered because of LOVE?

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Is Karma really a bitch ?

Karma doesn’t spare anybody.Even for the Statue….. to its shock !. Think that the Bird Poop is a blessing !       Image- pixabay

English language is as simple as tough.

One is proud that,it’s an international language and people from different parts of the world can communicate with each other easily.

But the language is also funny,in sense derogatory words not only used but also accepted as a norm.

Take the Example of the word ‘BITCH’

Oxford dictionary defines Bitch as

1.A female dog,wolf,fox or otter

2.Unpleasant woman,offensive woman.

Commonly used as a slang word.

But why use it with KARMA ?

‘Karma’ is a religious concept,where as ‘Bitch’ is a derogatory word.

I can’t explain why ,but I am not comfortable,whenever somebody  combines religious words with slang stuff.

Holy Shit ? Holy crap ?

Is KARMA is really bitchy ?

My feeling is KARMA is not a bitch.

My guess is people use this word whenever they think that the person is suffering because his or her bad Karma

Suppose the person is enjoying his life because of his or her good Karma……can we still say Karma is a bitch ?

Is karma a bitch ? Karma,payback time

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You can’t escape karma … It is what it is.

It doesn’t judge, it’s neither good nor bad like most people think.

It’s the result of all the actions, positive and negative–a constant balancing act of events–cause and effect–tit for tat–reaping and sowing–what goes around comes around … However you phrase it, it’s the same in the end.

Alyson Noel, Shadowland

Any thoughts ? Do you believe in KARMA ?

‘Q’ sense – Animals vs Humans…Who has got better ‘C’ sense ?


Do animals have common sense ?

We are humans  and we keep a separate identity from animals,because of our super brain.Surprisingly we lack basic  sense…….ie. Common sense.

I believe that animals have common sense.( as you can see in the above photograph,how well they are disciplined ). 

Let us be frank ,we lack this  (conveniently) at times when the situation demands.

One particular answer in  ‘Yahoo answers’ by LM S  is interesting.He says,

“Animals are not wired like us. We internalize things and complicate things by thinking about things too much. Also, animals do not have mental disorders like people do. Animals respond really well to behavioral interventions (like food as a reward) and humans don’t because we think too much and complicate the situation more”.

Yes we unnecessarily complicate simple things and claim that we are super smart by solving these man-made  ‘complicated stuff’

Q sense,Queue

Source-Ozfm

 

It is said that people spend billions of hours waiting in line through out the world ,in order to get their things done.

What is Queue ?

According to Oxford Dictionary

1.British  –A line or sequence of people or vehicles awaiting their turn to be attended      to or to proceed.

2.Computing
A list of data items, commands, etc., stored so as to be retrievable in a definite order, usually the order of insertion.

3.Archaic  –A plait of hair worn at the back.

Why do we Queue ? ( Standing in the line )

Because it is polite to wait for your turn.Without Queue,there will be a total chaos,resulting in further increase in waiting time.

But still why some people jump the queue ? ( cutting the line )

May be they lack discipline or not keeping well or arrogant or they may miss the appointment in some other place,may be carrying a sick child….. I can go on and on…and surely at least 90% of the times these jumpers face wrath of others.

Psychology in forming the queue humorously explained below

Que,psychology of queue formation

Source-Rockyingit

Looks like Animals are better than Humans at any given time……

Thanks for reaching this point. Any thoughts ? Feedback ?

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Who is correct ?

Andaman

We travel not to escape life but for life not to escape us    ‘unknown’

By this time,you must have read the news that An American was killed by an isolated tribe in the sentinel Island of Andaman.Our sympathies and prayers are for the young boy and his family.

The sentinelese people resist any attempt by outsiders to reach them.They are also protected by the Indians laws where in, it is illegal to approach them,since the government  wants to protect the tribe against outside diseases spreading to them and wiping out the entire tribe of 100- 200 people.( since these people have no immunity for diseases)

Andaman & Nicobar Islands is  one of the  union territories of India and are scattered group of islands in the bay of Bengal.

The Sentinelese people violently resist any contact with outsiders.

It is said that this young American wanted to reach this tribe to spread the Message of Jesus & Christianity and Love.

Man killed on remote Indian island tried to ‘declare Jesus’ to tribe

source-thegaurdian.com

Now my point is who is correct & who is wrong ?

Is the tribe is correct in killing this young boy for reaching them (against their set of rules) ?

Is this young boy correct in reaching the tribe (against Indian laws) to spread the message since he believes in certain faith ?

Who is to Judge and what will be his or her Judgment ?

I remember the following quote….. that No body is wrong.

“Genuine tragedies  in the world are not conflicts between the right & wrong.They are conflicts between two rights”.  George Hegel

What are your thoughts ?

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Ignore the ‘Agressive World’

Agressive world

When an obnoxious and aggressive world displays its nuttiness just say to yourself, “I have

nothing to say to that.”

 

The world cries, “Give me your agreement or your disagreement but

whatever you do, don’t ignore me!”

 

Intelligently notice both outer and inner darkness then quietly ignore it. Switch your

attention back to the present moment with this powerful self-talk statement. You have

higher things to think about and darkness’s anguish is not your concern. Every “success”

darkness has is based on convincing you that its anguish is your concern. It wants you

involved with it, fighting it, trying to help it. Dare to reply instead, “I have nothing to say to

that!”

 

As The Daily Guru said once, “The resistance to the disturbance IS the disturbance.” Work

with this exercise this week. Notice how good you start to feel as you cease throwing fuel

on the initial disturbances – all those tiny little outer and inner fires that are very

significant until you react to them.

creditsThe Daily Guru

Image Ashish_Choudhary,Pixabay.

World Television Day Nov 21

World Television Day

World Television Day is not so much a celebration of the tool, but rather the philosophy which it represents. Television represents a symbol for communication and globalization in the contemporary world. ( UN )

UN Events Television Day

Happy Universal Chidren’s day-Nov 20 th

Happy Children's day
While we try to teach our children all about life, our children teach us what life is all about.Angela Schwindt

United Nations Universal Children’s Day was established in 1954 and is celebrated on November 20th each year to promote international togetherness, awareness among children worldwide, and improving children’s welfare.

The theme is #Goblue

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Holy Shit- Holy crap !

Why the word ‘Holy‘ is used ,before swear words ?

Does not this go against the third commandment ?

Are we not demeaning the very Godly word ‘Holy’ ?

Readers can help me for a better understanding.

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Money-eaters…….

Money eaters

Man eater shot dead

Only when the last tree has died and the last river been poisoned

and the last fish been caught will we realize we cannot eat money.

‘Cree Indian Proverb’

 

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Half full or half empty-never ending discussion…

Half full half empty
One day, someone showed me a

glass of water that was half full.

And he said, “Is it half full or half

empty?” So I drank the water. No

more problem.

~Alexander Jodorowsky

Joke apart some of my favorite quotes

1.“Whether your cup is half-full or half-empty, remind yourself there are others without one.”
Matshona Dhliwayo

2.The optimist sees the rose and not its thorns; the pessimist stares at the thorns, oblivious of the rose – Kahlil Gibran

3.The real man smiles in trouble, gathers strength from distress, and grows brave by reflection – Thomas Paine

4.A pessimist sees only the dark side of the clouds and mopes; a philosopher sees both sides, and shrugs; an optimist doesn’t see the clouds at all – he’s walking on them – Leonard Louis Levinson

5.“The optimist sees the glass as half full, the pessimist as half empty. What I see is water that can save someone’s life.” – Abhijit Naskar

6.The optimist proclaims that we live in the best of all possible worlds; and the pessimist fears this is true – James Branch Cabell

7.Optimism is the foundation of courage – Nicholas Murray Butler

8.A pessimist is one who makes difficulties of his opportunities and an optimist is one who makes opportunities of his difficulties – Harry Truman

 

Happy World Philosophy Day ( Nov 15 th )

“I know that I know nothing” Socrates

Philosophy derives from Two Greek words,Philos (love) & Sophia(wisdom).

Philosophy sheds light on the causes of various situations happening in this world and when you start asking questions in the form of ‘Why’…. remember,you start thinking like a philosopher.

An unexamined life is not worth living” Socrates

By celebrating World Philosophy Day each year, on the third Thursday of November,UNESCO underlines the enduring value of philosophy for the development of human thought, for each culture and for each individual

“Philosophy is an inspiring discipline as well as an everyday practice that can transform societies. By enabling us to discover the diversity of the intellectual currents in the world, philosophy stimulates intercultural dialogue. By awakening minds to the exercise of thinking and the reasoned confrontation of opinions, philosophy helps to build a more tolerant, more respectful society. For UNESCO, it is also the way to unleash humanity’s creative potential and generate new ideas. Philosophy creates the intellectual conditions for change, sustainable development and peace. ”

Audrey Azoulay
UNESCO Director-Genera

This field, which sees itself as a form of “wisdom”, teaches us to reflect on reflection itself, to continually question well-established truths, to verify hypotheses and to find conclusions.

(UNESCO)
It is a day for people to share thoughts, openly explore and discuss new ideas and inspire public debate or discussion on society’s challenges.(timeanddate.com)

Do you know This day also includes

1.Clean your Refrigerator day and

2.Use less stuff day.

Thank you

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Clean your Refrigerator ‘Day'( Nov 15 th )

Clean your refrigerator day,fridge,refrigerator

Oh ! My Refrigerator !

Have you ever thought of giving your fridge some official leave ? I know you wouldn’t and you dare not ,Because Fridge is one item,which never supposed to ask rest or leave.

When was the last time you cleaned your Fridge ?

How is modern life possible without refrigerator in the kitchen ? It this not part of our life ?

But strangely, all of us take this one appliance for granted.And don’t even give a glance !

But you become restless once you realize that it failed to work or you are getting an unpleasant odor ,the moment you open its door.

So maintenance of our beloved refrigerator is important

No body is sure why November 15 th  is selected every year( Some say Whirlpool started this ),but one way it is good,since Thanksgiving Day is going to come shortly.

You need not wait till next November 2019 to clean again,it is good if  you clean it once in 3 months.

Why should you care to clean the refrigerator ?

  • Your old food may the seat for harmful germs
  • If you don’t clean regularly,you may be tempted to eat left overs.
  • Remember bacteria and mold can grow in hidden areas and spread contaminating the food resulting in food poisoning.

How to observe the day ? ( credits-national daily calender.com )

  • Empty each shelf.
  • Completely wipe down the inside of the refrigerator.
  • Wash drawers and underneath the drawers.
  • Throw away all expired food.
  • Throw away any moldy food.
  • Get rid of anything that you do not use.
  • Vacuum condenser coils.
  • Vacuum out under the refrigerator.
  • Restock shelves and drawers with good food.
  • Enjoy your nice, clean, organized refrigerator.

Are you going to clean your fridge after reading this post ?

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30 seconds Speech-how long you take to prepare it ?

Wilson was once asked how long it took him to write a speech. He answered, ‘That depends. If I am to speak 10 minutes, I need a week for preparation. If 15 minutes, 3 days. If half hour, two days. If an hour, I am ready now.’  Woodrow.t.Wilson

If you could make a 30 second speech to the entire world, what would you say?

One particular 30 second speech is inspiring.

“Imagine life as a game in which you are juggling some five balls in the air. You name them – Work, Family, Health, Friends and Spirit and you’re keeping all of these in the Air.

You will soon understand that work is a rubber ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back. But the other four Balls – Family, Health, Friends and Spirit – are made of glass. If you drop one of these; they will be irrevocably scuffed, marked, nicked, damaged or even shattered. They will never be the same. You must understand that and strive for it.”

Work efficiently during office hours and leave on time. Give the required time to your family, friends and have proper rest.

Value has a value only if its values is valued.

The above  30 second speech is  by Bryan Dyson-Former CEO of Coca-cola

I felt it is really tough job to prepare instant 30 second speech.

What is your 30 second speech to your fellow bloggers if you are able to give one?

please share your thoughts .

 

‘Why not me God’ instead of ‘Why me God’ ?

Why not me instead why me ?,life

Why not me instead of why me ?

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Existence is a strange bargain.Life owes us little;we owe it everything. The only true happiness comes from squandering ourselves for a purpose.

William Cowpe

Every one has to face some problem or other.   

Describing somebody that ‘the fellow is born with silver spoon’ is utter rubbish.

Everybody has to undergo suffering.

Whether the person suffers from cancer or just mild fever,or any other reason doesn’t matter.

Whether the person is rich or poor,doesn’t matter.

Good or bad doesn’t matter.

Whether the person is pious or unholy ,doesn’t matter.

Whether the person is criminal or law-abiding doesn’t matter.

Whether the person is moral or immoral doesn’t matter.

Whether a new born suffers or a 100+ old person suffers doesn’t matter.

I can go on and on….

The point I am trying to stress is ,there is no escape from suffering once you are born.

The only difference is , some suffer more and some suffer less.

Again I don’t have an answer.

Life is pleasant. Death is peaceful. It’s the transition that’s troublesome. Isaac Asimov

When one suffers,the first question one puts invariable is “Oh God ! why me ?” as if one is pure (at heart on par with Almighty), and rest of the population deserves to suffer.

Remember there are others in this world,whose suffering is more than yours.

Instead,why can’t one boldly say ” why not me ?”

By saying so, Are we not gaining confidence in ourselves to face the eventuality ?

To be frank, why should one get exemption from suffering in one’s life ?

Is this not God’s way of telling us to be

Brave,

Develop courage,

Search for solutions( inventions,science etc)

Improve inner strength,

Understand the meaning of life ( philosophy),

Know the value of time.

So we are thankful to the Almighty for giving us an opportunity to survive and gain strength from sufferings.

So our thoughts should be

Why not me instead of why me ?

Pixabay derivative,Beastmotivation.com

What are your thoughts ?

Do you agree or You do not ?

If you do not agree what is the reason ?

Inspiration- Anamika’s Blog

Michael Horner

Can you promise,you are loyal?

LoyalPeople lie. They use you and they lie, all the while feeding you bullshit about

being loyal and never leaving you. No one can make that promise, because life

is all about seasons, and seasons change.

Tarryn Fisher
May be the statement is correct as for as humans are concerned.But


for me my Loyal friend is my Doberman.Loyal Friend

Happy Single’s Day

Happy Single's day

Happy Single’s day

You are going solo ?

Then you can celebrate Single’s day, to-day and every year on 11 of November.

It is popular in China and the date 11/11 chosen because it resembles 4 solitary bare sticks

Also Number “1” resembles an individual who is alone.

Heavy discounts offered during shipping hours in China.

It looks, this concept yet to be popularised in India.

““Single doesn’t have to mean lonely. Single simply means ‘I’m resting my heart until it’s ready to love again’.” unknown

Advantages of being single:

1,Being single   is being in control.2.You are always happy,because there is no occasion for you to confront. 3.The choice you make is the final,no arguments.4.More disposable income and no questions asked.5.No nagging from anybody.6.No need to share anything.7.You can flirt.8.Less time with your smartphone.9.Hide your secrets without fear.10.No need to adjust and you are independent. One can go on and on ….

Disadvantages of being single

1.When you see other people romancing,you may get depressed.2.Since you are not i a family,nobody cares you and you are not a special person to celebrate your birthdays etc.3.Somewhere down inside the feeling of loneliness haunts you.5. In India if you are a bachelor ,getting a rental accommodation is a big task.6.When you fall sick,no body is there to take care of your physical needs.7. You may develop bad habits ,since no body is there to warn you or worry about you,8.You tend to miss something all the time.9.You feel miserable.10.None is there to share your happiness whenever you are happy. And I can go on and on ….

What is your take on being single ?

My feeling is ….

If you are not happy being single, you will never be happy in a relationship. Get your own life first, then share it. unknown

 

Just remember, there’s a right way and a wrong way to do everything and the wrong way is to keep trying to make everybody else do it the right way.  -M*A*S*H*, Colonel Potter

Right & Wrong

I want to correct you since you are wrong,but you say,I am to be corrected first.Who is right? and who will decide ?

 

1.‘I think there is a tendency for people to get rigid and caught up in their beliefs of what is right and wrong, and they lose sight of humanity. Being human has to come first before right or wrong”. –Matisyahu

2.The opposite of a correct statement is a false statement.  But the opposite of a profound truth may well be another profound truth.  –Niels Bohr

3.When I’m right no one remembers,When ‘m wrong,no one forgets.-source-blogspot

4.Do or Do not.There is no try –Dumbledore

5.Revenge converts a little right into a great wrong- Proverb

6.There are two sides to every issue:One sie is right and the otheris wrong,but the middle is always evil-Ayn Rand

7.Love keeps no record of wrongs-picturequotes.com

8.Nature does not make mistakes,right & wrong are human categories-Frank Herbert,picturequotes.com

9.We have to live today by what truth we can get today and be ready tomorrow to call it falsehood. William James

 

 

 

‘Observations’ of Beer Holder

Beer

‘There are two reasons for drinking.

One is ,when you are thirsty,to cure it.

The other when you are not thirsty, to prevent it ……’

alcoholsayings.com

Science….Adding to the knowledge or Confusing the existing knowledge ??

Confusing science

With advanced science,excellent reasearch and invention of sophisticated tools,we are supposed to be confusion free.

Ironically the same science is giving us contradictory findings.

Some examples
1.Laughing vs crying

It is generally said ,Laughter is the best medicine give your body booster with laughter

Now a few researchers came out with opposite thought …..ie. you must cry to ease out your

stress and even set the time frame as to how often you should cry.

For a strees free life you must cry once a week
2. More sex vs Limited sex

Too much sex disadvantages What too much sex can do to you ?

( 15 times a day ?? check the above link )

More advantages  Benefits of having more sex

15 science backed reasons to have more sex
3. Tea Vs Coffee

Which drink is better for you ?.The school of thoughts for each, give us confusing signals.

tea-coffee…which drink is better ?

You decide.

4.Eating Chocolates

Good Eating chocolates is good for you.

Bad- Negative Side effects of chocolate eating

5.Nutrition advice

The less said the better.

All of us need not be health freaks,but we are conscious about the food we eat,more so with sugar,salt and fat.Regarding these three important food constituents…..lot of confusing things are said by researchers.

Earlier it was said eating eggs and nuts are bad due to high fat.Now they say they are the best.

Earlier they said eating sweets bad for diabetics,now they say diabetics can have equivalent of sugar ( sweeteners ).God only knows any side effects they can cause.

Researchers have not spared the meat eaters.People are confused further by the terms  meat’, ‘low fat meat’ etc.

Nutrition science is so confusing

6.Health Noice

What about these health trends ?

examples

implants( better implants vs best implants ),crazy diets,diet beverages,

weight reduction pills,libido pills,alternate medicines,

Deceptive new technologies,spa therapies,oxygen kiosks,

Decisions based on friendly neighbourhood health advises,

Pantsdrunk,lagom and hygge ( scandinavian wellness trend )

7.Hot coffee vs cold brew

Earlier they said cold brew is better than Hot coffee.Now research claims opposite.

Cold brew is not healthier/

 

The above are some of the examples.

Dear fellow blogger,what are your thoughts ?Did you come across these types of contradictory research findings ?

Have we to really take these reasearch/friendly neighbour advises seriously ? or Do we have to continue our life style ..as it is ?

Or switch back to Ancient Wisdom ?

“To believe with certainty we must begin with doubting.” ~Stanislaus I of Poland

Doubtful,doubting,creepy

What is that Stanislaus trying to convey ?

He says, to be certain you have to be doubtful !

First of all if you decided  to believe in something ,why should  you be doubtful or apprehensive ? Are you not sure of yourself ?

Is this a contradictory statement or it is a perfect statement ?

Readers please enlighten me further with your thoughts.

We see What we want to see & feel great about ourselves…. (and love to remember the Almighty only during agony)

Maya ( Illusion)

In the recent discussion in blog articles about ‘Truth’ and meaning of ‘Absolute truth’ and ‘Relative truth, I realized that we forgot to discuss the role of ‘Maya’ ( illusion). Recently I came across an article in op ed of Deccan Chronicle,and thought it’s apt to understand the meaning of Maya  (illusion),in our day to day life’ by sharing the same .

Before we proceed further, you should know that Sudama, is a childhood friend of Hindu Deity Lord Krishna.

One day Sudama wished to have a glimpse of God’s Maya (illusion). He had heard a lot about Maya but never understood what it was as he was always surrendered to God.

One day, he finally asked Lord Krishna, “What is Maya? What is the form of Maya? How does Maya untangle a man?” He directly sought answers of these questions from Lord Krishna and kept requesting him to show a glimpse of Maya.

Lord Krishna replied that when time comes he shall give him the answers and also show him Maya.

Then he said, “Let us go to Yamuna to take bath.”  Both of them came to the banks of Yamuna to take bath. After taking bath, Lord Krishna started dressing in Yellow and in the meantime Sudama went to take a dip in water.

At the time of taking dip, Sudama felt that the river was flooded and he was being washed away in it. With great difficulty, by taking the help of a small Rock he came out of the river.

Perplexed and hungry, Sudama was roaming about and finally reached a village. There, an elephant garlanded him. People informed him that their King had died and it is their country’s rule that after the death of their king, whosoever is garlanded by the elephant would be the next king.

The coronation ceremony of Sudama was done.

After sometime, he got married and had two sons during the twelve years of his married life.

Thereafter, one day his wife passed away. Sudama started weeping in sorrow. People tried to console him.

They informed him that it was Mayapuri’s rule that he too would be sent wherever his wife went. He too would have to enter his wife’s funeral pyre.

Sudama was shell shocked to hear this. Now, he forgot mourning the demise of his wife and started weeping for himself. He said that since he was a foreigner, this rule should not be applicable to him.

When people did not listen to him and were making him sit in the pyre, he requested for permission to worship the river once last time. People allowed him to do that and sent four people to keep an eye on him.

Sudama could see death approaching him and in this fear, chanting Lord Krishna’s name, he took a dip in the river and came out crying. Just then, he saw Lord Krishna Standing and getting dressed in yellow. Lord Krishna asked Sudama as to why was he weeping.

Sudama was already stunned and when he saw Lord Krishna he was astonished too. He asked Krishna “Where did all that vanish? What all is happening? I am not able to understand anything.”

Lord Krishna said, “This is my Maya.” Maya means “forgetfulness”. Illusion, unreal, myth, ignorance, etc. are Maya. One who forgets me, the God, and thinks that the world is the only truth and is always engrossed in it, he is entrapped in Maya. Deeming the unrealistic world as real and considering Paramatma and self as to dual entities is Maya.

Despite living in the materialistic world, Maya could not touch Sudama till he was devoted or surrendered towards God but as soon as he forgot the God, he was trapped in Maya . In the same manner, worldly man forgetting God, gets entangled in Maya and spends the whole life experiencing joys and sorrows.

Despite living in the materialistic world, if we think of God at every moment (which is possible) then along with enjoying the bliss of God, we can live our worldly life too to the fullest.

Source Deccan chronicle – op ed

“In the world of relative truths and opinions, many opinions, viewpoints, possibilities and probabilities can coexist, and each can stand on its own merits in particular contexts and conditions. This is the truth of Truth. Every truth or principle is a possibility in some context, condition or situation. Sometimes you may find it worth fighting for and sometime not. Truth is an undulating wave on the surface of impermanence. You may call it by any name, but we consider it to be Maya, the deluding power of existence which hides in the play of light and shadow to create the illusion of something or the other. You will find it only in the unstable currents of life just as the sun light that reflects upon the waters of an ocean, but you cannot truly grasp its brilliance or immensity until you cross those waters and stand on the shore. ” Jayaram V.

Google images-Source-Apnisanskriti.com