Star Attraction

Wishing My WP friends a Happy World Photography Day ( 19 th August 2019 )

Star Attraction

Every one is a star,and deserves the right to twinkle.

Thank you

Philosophy Through Photography

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Why You feel God never answers your prayers ?

Why not me instead why me ?,life

God answers when you least expect it

Recently one of my friends got depressed and expressed that,the Prayers are not being answered.This made me think about Gods way of looking after His creations.

You are a strong believer in God.

And you know His Unlimited Powers

you have not just one but many wishes to be fulfilled and you go on praying Him.

You are disappointed that not all your wishes are granted !

But why ?

Isaac Breece beautifully puts it while explaining,

“It’s not that God didn’t answer your prayer,it’s that you did not get the response you wanted.”  Isaac Breece

As a believer in God ,I know that prayers never go unnoticed or unheard by the Almighty.

God gives answers in three ways.

1.He says ‘YES’ and gives you what you want.

2.He says ‘NO’  but still gives you some thing Better.

3.He says ‘WAIT’ and gives you the Best .

So leave it to God and He knows when to answer your prayers

Remember the ways of God are unexplained.

His ways are mysterious.

His blessings are miraculous.

Have patience.

Thanking you

Philosophy Through Photography

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One can Forgive but can one erase the bitterness ?

Forgive

When you forgive you don’t change the past but you do change the future.

Technically majority of us try to forgive, but 100 % of us forget that,we have forgiven, and somewhere the unpleasantness, haunts us for sometime, after all we are human beings !!

Some quotes…….

“Forgive other,not because thy deserve forgiveness,but because you deserve peace.” Jonathan Lockwood Huie

“It’s not an easy journey, to get to a place where you forgive people.But it is such a powerful place,because it frees you” Tyler Perry

Forgiveness releases the burden of a heavy heart Mathew 6:14-15

“Forgiveness is a funny thing. It warms the heart and cools the sting.” William Arthur Ward

“As long as you don’t forgive, who and whatever it is will occupy a rent-free space in your mind.” Isabelle Holland

When you forgive,you do not erase the memory.You simply choose to forgive to free yourself from the bitterness.

Thank you

Philosophy Through Photography

Pixabay,unknown quotes

Lifes Way of solving problems

Life is very complicated.

Don’t try to find Answers.

Because when you find answers,

Life changes the Questions.

Thank you

Philosophy Through Photography

Pixabay,pinterest

Anger is one letter short of Danger

Anger

You will not be punished for your anger,you will be punished by your anger                                                                                  Buddha                                                                                          

Anger is defined as “a string feeling of annoyance,displeasure or hostility.”

Holding on to Anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. Buddha

I am not  here giving  the various reasons as to why one becomes angry or the types of anger.

All that I wish is to follow the following quote whenever  you become angry.

“Anger is like a ball of fire,

but if you swallow it,

It’s sweeter than Honey.”

Imam Ali ( AS )

Thank you

Philosophy Through Photography

IS-pixabay

 

 

 

 

Bullshit In the guise of True Love !

Bullshit in the guise of true love.

The most common lie uttered without thought, sincerity, resolve, or guilt: I love you. ‘unknown’

See this clip(117 seconds) before you proceed further.

Does true love exist? I dare !

Rabbi Dr.Abraham calls’Love out of selfishness’ is a Fish Love.He

says”Fish love is poisoning marriages,damaging homes and breaking

hearts”.

Sex,money or power will decide the intensity of the so-called true love.

you may blast me that ….I am,atrocious,stone-hearted, silly, crazy, cruel,disgusting and disappointing but I am not dejected,because one day you realize that none can show the true love without expecting something in return. And that day,you are sure to remember me!The love what you expect / or given is nothing but ‘fake love !

In this world no body is willing to give unconditional love,though they can, if really they want,but they won’t because of the inherent selfishness.

I shall give just 2 examples.My discussion is limited to so called ‘unbreakable human love’

1.Romanticizing love.(couples)

‘I love you beyond eternity’,

‘If loving is wrong,then I don’t want to be right ‘

‘My love for you is a journey starting at forever & ending never.

‘You’re the first boy I ever kissed Jake,and I want you to be the last'(hollywood dialogue-movie-sweet home Alabama)

‘I think I’d miss you even if we’d never met'( movie-wedding date)

If these things are true….Why you see so many cases of divorces?

2.If true love were there( parents vs children)…

Why there are so many old age homes and homes for destitute ? And what about.. Orphanage,Children homes ?

Ron Leighman in Quora (on love is bullshit)
“Because love is a fraudulent emotion, it doesn’t exist. They say the love you Blah blah blah. Then once you get/give them what they want they kick you to the curb like yesterdays garbage. You may as well expect it because it will happen. Expect it then you feel no pain when it happens”.

Are we into the ‘Fantasy Love’?

“Of all the lies you told me….’I love you’ was my favorite”.
Unknown

True love is possible only when the people concerned are mature enough ( this happens as they age ) to see both sides of the point of view.

Finally,the difference between True Love & Pure Love.

True Love may not be possible all the time ,but Pure Love is possible.

 

Loving what you get is compromise.

Getting what you love is Success.

Loving without caring whether you will get it or not is true love.

Loving even after you knowing that you won’t get it..is pure love.

Unknown

 

credits& inspiration-Pixabay,hubspages, pinterest,quora,net

Have you ever hugged a troll ??

Troll

How to win war on internet trolls?

This article is a 2.5 minute read.

This post is in response to my experience with a reader,who is from non-English speaking country, who mistook my English,and became angry.I fully understand this situation in this particular scenario.I even had to take help of fellow readers(English Pundits)

But many times we are not that fortunate( I mean language problem) and are abused by trolls.

Internet troll can become sometimes nasty and the person affected may lose sleep forever.

You can call Internet Troll as a polished version of mythical creatures in Scandinavian folklore.

Trolling is done by cowardly people,and they do because,they oppose somebody’s point of view or they derive pleasure by causing mental agony ( sadist ), or they hurt the feelings out of ignorance of the topic being discussed.They troll because they think that nobody knows their identity.

If you think trolls are after you…..what to do ?

Very simple.

Just Image You are hugging them…that’s all…. and move on by ignoring them.Don’t even respond,however strong the urge to react!

There are two kinds of Hugs.( my version)

1. Distant Hug-reach out to the person,when the occasion arises and hug in your imagination and you get peace of mind.

2.Physical hug-this you can call it as healing hug.

Time to Hug

Hugs are one of the reasons God gave us arms.So stretch out your arm to some one today.Reach out to those you love or do not love…it will warm the heart of the giver and give light to the soul of the recipients.

‘unknown’

Healing Hug

Hugging is a good medicine.Scientists say that hugging is a form of communication because it can say things you don’t have words for.

And the nicest thing about a hug is that you usually can’t give one without getting one

‘Unknown’

We are fortunate in WP since we are surrounded mostly by Gentlemen & Gentlewomen,who either agree or disagree…and there the matter ends !

How do you manage your trolls ?

Did anybody troll you ? lease share your experiences.

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Universal rules- Rule No 1.King is always right Rule No 2 If the King is wrong,then follow the rule no 1,(ie,the King is always right).

Blame game

A man can fail many times, but he isn’t a failure until he begins to blame somebody else. John Burroughs

Blame Game

Be frank.We all indulge in blame game,whatever may be the nature of the problem we face, because we don’t wish to take the responsibility .We even argue that we are always correct,and the other is at fault.( remember the rules…the king is always correct ! )

Very rare to find people,who blame themselves.

The  unlaid rule is  I can never go wrong !

Why it is so ? Let us think.

We all lie,and learnt the art during childhood and fine tune it as we grow, and to escape the situation,’lie’ comes handy.

By blaming others, you are in a defensive mood,and can pass the buck easily.

“Blame is a beautiful thing, baby. Blame keeps this whole planet spinning. You can point your finger at the next man, you can shift the weight onto him, you don’t have to carry that shit around yourself. You can slide into bed and get a good night’s nap. Yeah, right”.

Narrator Augustus Hill ( played by Harold Perrineau) from Oz tv series

Remember,

Blame is fascinating –

“it shapes our lives. It can be a benign way of positioning ourselves, a gentle joust or banter, or it can be poisonous, hurtful or devastating for its victims. It can tear apart marriages and fracture work relationships; it can disable major social programmes; it can inflict damage on powerful corporations; it can bring down governments; it can start wars and justify genocides”.

Stephen Fineman, The Blame Business: The Uses and Misuses of Accountability

Don’t forget,

“All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with another, and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not change you. The only thing blame does is to keep the focus off you when you are looking for external reasons to explain your unhappiness or frustration. You may succeed in making another feel guilty about something by blaming him, but you won’t succeed in changing whatever it is about you that is making you unhappy.”       Wayne Dyer

Any thoughts on how not to get trapped by the Blame game ?

Please share your views.

IS-PublicDomainPictures- pixabayWayne Dyer

 

Ignore the ‘Agressive World’

Agressive world

When an obnoxious and aggressive world displays its nuttiness just say to yourself, “I have

nothing to say to that.”

 

The world cries, “Give me your agreement or your disagreement but

whatever you do, don’t ignore me!”

 

Intelligently notice both outer and inner darkness then quietly ignore it. Switch your

attention back to the present moment with this powerful self-talk statement. You have

higher things to think about and darkness’s anguish is not your concern. Every “success”

darkness has is based on convincing you that its anguish is your concern. It wants you

involved with it, fighting it, trying to help it. Dare to reply instead, “I have nothing to say to

that!”

 

As The Daily Guru said once, “The resistance to the disturbance IS the disturbance.” Work

with this exercise this week. Notice how good you start to feel as you cease throwing fuel

on the initial disturbances – all those tiny little outer and inner fires that are very

significant until you react to them.

creditsThe Daily Guru

Image Ashish_Choudhary,Pixabay.

‘Observations’ of Beer Holder

Beer

‘There are two reasons for drinking.

One is ,when you are thirsty,to cure it.

The other when you are not thirsty, to prevent it ……’

alcoholsayings.com

Oh Life ! My Dear Life !

Dear life,My life,Survival of the fittest,run for dear life

RUN FOR ‘DEAR LIFE’

 “Every morning in Africa a gazelle wakes up. It knows it must move faster than the lion or it will not survive. Every morning a lion wakes up and it knows it must move faster than the slowest gazelle or it will starve. It doesn’t matter if you are the lion or the gazelle, when the sun comes up, you better be moving.”

Maurice Greene (attributed to Roger Bannister shortly after running the first sub-4 m)

How do you feel about modern life of human beings?

Any different from animals?

As human beings we don’t literally do running, but Are we not into the  ‘Rat race’ to ‘Survive’ at the cost of ‘peace of mind’ & ‘lack of Sleep’?

I am trapped into the rat race…which doesn’t seem to end,neither I am able to come out,   in the middle of the race because there are no referees to allow this.

Please Give me your thoughts on how we are different and busy clinging to our lives,without any purpose.

 

Accept it.We all indulge in ‘Blame Game’

Blame game

Blame is a beautiful thing, baby. Blame keeps this whole planet spinning. You can point your finger at the next man, you can shift the weight onto him, you don’t have to carry that shit around yourself. You can slide into bed and get a good night’s nap. Yeah, right.

Narrator-Augustus Hill ( played by Harold Perrineau) from Oz tv series
Remember,

Blame is fascinating – it shapes our lives. It can be a benign way of positioning ourselves, a gentle joust or banter, or it can be poisonous, hurtful or devastating for its victims. It can tear apart marriages and fracture work relationships; it can disable major social programmes; it can inflict damage on powerful corporations; it can bring down governments; it can start wars and justify genocides.
Stephen Fineman, The Blame Business: The Uses and Misuses of Accountability

Don’t forget,

“All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with another, and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not change you. The only thing blame does is to keep the focus off you when you are looking for external reasons to explain your unhappiness or frustration. You may succeed in making another feel guilty about something by blaming him, but you won’t succeed in changing whatever it is about you that is making you unhappy.” Wayne Dyer
Any thoughts on how not to get trapped by the Blame game ?
Please share your views.

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Is there any such thing called positive addiction ?

Positive addiction,addiction,negative addiction

The word ADDICTION sends jitters down the spines.

I know you started thinking of drugs,smoking,alcohol,gambling,sex,pornography,food,video games…..and the list goes on.

Human being is not immune to ‘weakness’.The greatness lies making the weakness into positive Strength.

Have we to think of addiction only in negative term ?

Can addiction be ‘Positive’ ?

Can’t we have ‘positive addiction’ ?

Example- People in order to to maintain a healthy life style may indulge in having

1.Vitamins.2.Fruits.3.Regular exercises.4.Body building 5 .consumption of water.6.Taking up the job, you are passionate.7.Reading.8.Spending more of family time.9.Dancing.etc.etc

Positive addiction is supposed to bring health ,happiness,strength,famiy bond,contentment,appreciation of the magnanimity of the Almighty,improve the wisdom and spirituality,above all bring the ‘Feel good factor ‘.

Remember not to over do it.Otherwise it becomes negative addiction.

I feel one can have ‘positive addiction’ without the component of ‘Negative consequences

Finally a question to the readers….

Can you name ‘healthy behaviour’ as ‘Positive Addiction’ ?

Is not ‘positive addiction’ contradicting the very definition of addiction ?

According to Wikipedia Addiction is a brain disorder characterized by compulsive engagement in rewarding stimuli despite adverse consequences”.

Please enlighten me further.

Inspiration- William Glasser, Pixabay

Are you still in the ‘Rat race’ ?

Rat race,compition,survival

“People here are funny. They work so hard at living, they forget how to live.” ― Robert Riskin,derivative Pixabay

‘Rat Race’ according to Wikipedia

A rat race is an endless, self-defeating, or pointless pursuit. The phrase equates humans to rats attempting to earn a reward such as cheese, to no avail. It may also refer to a competitive struggle to get ahead financially or routinely.

Do I remember,when I joined the rat race ?

I am not sure,but I can recollect 1.My school days. 2.My college days.3 As an employee/consultant & 4. As I am aging.
My school days

school days,rat race,competition

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I hate to get up early in the morning,but sadly that is the routine.With Heavy school bag and daily grinding,it used to be a tiresome job.
And remember plenty of examination schedules and so much pressure from parents,to get the first rank ,not in one subject but all the subjects and throughout schooling and the competition among students was heavy,as to who gets the first rank,so that one can be in good books of the teachers,principal etc.
Even in the school sports schedules, there is no let up.One has to get some medal without fail.
So much of rat race in schooling days.Why the rat race in schools ?Any idea ? It’s only for better ranking so that admission to my preferred colleges is easier.
My college days
Those days
Parents wished me to become a doctor since it was a respectable profession in the society and also better financial prospects.
To get an admission into the Medical college is the toughest compared to getting admission into the Engineering course.So To fulfill my parent’s wish I had to be part of the rat race and since I got selected in the Medical profession,I thought I have won the race.But,lo behold,still the process has not ended.
But just MBBS qualification( 5 yrs course) alone is not enough.We have to get admitted to the post graduation courses like MD/MS etc ( 3 yrs course),followed by specialized courses (radiology,neurosurgery etc) of another 3 to 5 yrs.
So the struggle continued.
At last I have got all the qualifications required + License to practice.But as a professional,freshly qualified,how I am going to be a successful practitioner ?Already ,the society is over saturated with Medical Practitioners. How I am ging to compete ? So the rat race saga continues.
As an employee/consultant
It was tough to get a decent job initially.
And to be accepted by the society…takes hell lot of time.
Then there is prestige issue.
Oh ! you are a doctor,how come you don’t have a car? Do you work in any prestigious hospital ? Are you Residing in small flat ? Are you in a rental house? shame on you ! Come on it is below your dignity….
These are the observations and comments from the friends,patients and well wishers.
To achieve some respectability I am supposed to own a bungalow,a car,a driver,and I should have my own hospital….what not ?
Added to this is a new addition to the family with the expenses sky rocketing …
So I have to work hard and harder,do extra duty hours, attend emergency calls,do regular night duties, to earn that little extra so that I can have my dignity and respect in the society.
Is this not all for the false prestige ?? What about family time ? Where is the happiness ?


As I am aging

My liabilities are increasing,due to reasonable or unreasonable demands,with commercial advertisement and new product release, adding to the agony and there is no chance of winning or coming out of rat race.So, more loans, mortgages,more liabilities become part and parcel of LIFE !
In Ilias Tisagklis words

A person entrenched into the “Rat Race” is the “proud” owner of a time consuming job which he desperately needs in order to be able to pay mortgage, rent, bills, credit card debt and all kinds of liabilities”

Eddie Murphy’s quote

Seventy-five years. That’s how much time you get if you’re lucky. Seventy-five years. Seventy-five winters, seventy-five springtimes, seventy-five summers, and seventy-five autumns. When you look at it like that, it’s not a lot of time, is it? Don’t waste them. Get your head out of the rat race and forget about the superficial things that pre-occupy your existence and get back to what’s important now.

Am I stuck in the quick sand ?

Probably one should remember the following quote in the early stages ……

rat race,compitition,struggle,human tendency

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Finally

Often, people work long hard hours at jobs they hate, to earn money to buy things they don’t need, to impress people they don’t like. — Nigel Marsh
My sincere thanks for reaching this point.Huh ! I am exhausted in the rat race.Let me have some supplements !

How to escape Rat race ? Do you have any solutions or suggestions?

Please share your thoughts.

Inspiration-Ilias Tisagklis

Are you a ‘wanting’ or a ‘giving’ personality?

Not enough,greedy

“Enough of any thing is plenty.but plenty to some people is not enough”Sophie Irene Loeb

First let us talk about ‘Wanting’ personalities-

More money ,more popularity,more pleasure,more likes in social media,more than 1000 friends/follows in social media,more achievements ( though positive ),more power one can go on… and remember, we are never tired of ‘wanting’ more.This has become a human trait.

Why you want more and more …..and even more ?

Probably you fear the ‘uncertain’ future, probably you are ‘greedy’.

These things make you develop desire, lust and finally,frustration if not successful and you may go into a dejection/depression/revengeful mode.

As the ‘ wanting’ personality,you are always obsessed with more and more demands and quick & positive outcome.

You are restless.

Can you survive a good relationship?( Wife,relatives and friends ).

The relationship can go sour since you are not getting what you wanted and when you get,it becomes incomplete since you have newer demands cropping up.

You are unhappy all the time.Neither you make people around you happy.

So you make yours and other’s lives miserable.

The point I am stressing is that you lost your commonsense and fail to know the difference between ‘love’ and ‘desire

“Love lasts a longtime but burning desire lasts two to three weeks” Carla Bruni

At the end who is happy?


Now let us talk of ‘Giving’ personalities…

Let us say, now that you, the ‘giving’ type,and we all know naturally,you are the happiest person on the earth.

But note down.’Giving’ personalities are of different types because their ‘giving’ pattern depends on factors like faith,Fear,self serving and spontaneous

  1. Faith- These people have faith in God, and depending upon their religion philosophy,they donate some percentage of their earnings.and become the givers.
  2. Fear- comes to some,since many bad things happening in their lives,they make commitments to do some charity,hoping to get compensated by the Almighty and may derive some satisfaction.
  3. Self serving- these are greedy people in real sense and they indulge in ‘giving’, since they expect returns.Some say one can continue  one’s sins by religiously donating some percentage of one’s illegal earnings to temples,churches etc.
  4. Spontaneous-These ‘givers’ are emotional type and they don’t hesitate to donate (even if they are poor),whenever they come across emotional incidences,which require monetary help.

If you are a ‘giving’ person,you are said to be guy with a kind heart,you enjoy the ‘feel good’ factor,you have a fulfillment and finally total satisfaction .Wait…….

Are you sure whom to give,when to give and how much to give ?

My feeling is…. the ‘giver’ must be judicious.

1.If you belong to too much ‘giving’ type-people may take advantage and even misuse your kindness.

2. Your continuous ‘giving’ habit can bring down motivation among the ‘takers’ and they may become lazy.

3.If you happen to be ‘giving’ to the ‘wanting’ personalities,then you are doing a great harm to your philosophy.

So there is some ‘ART’ which you have to follow if you belong to ‘giving’ trait.

Thank you so much for taking your time to reach this point.

Do you agree that  most of us belong  to both categories with variation in intensity?

Please share your thoughts on this.

Inspiration- Swami Sukhabodhananda,Michele, Roya Rad,Guy Hatcher,pixabay

My challenge…..Can you vouch that you have ‘Peace Of Mind’ ?

Peace of Mind,Happiness,happy

Searching for Peace of mind at Lord’s abode.

Present day life style makes us think that leading a ‘peaceful life’ is a distant dream…and I am glad you realised the truth.

The day you are born,you know that life brings lot of stress.At the end, you realise that it is impossible to be At peace with your mind,since you are aware that your mind is like a monkey….restless all the time resulting in piece of mind

” If you are depressed,you live in the past..
if you are anxious, you live in the future..
but if you are at PEACE…you live in the present “
Lao Tzu

What is ‘ Peace Of Mind ?’ Aka ‘peace’ ?

Thesaurus Dictionary says- it is the absence of mental stress or anxiety.

Wikipedia talks of Inner Peace,referring to a state of being Mentally & Spiritually at peace with enough knowledge and understanding to keep oneself strong in the face of discord or stress

Being at peace is considered by many to be healthy. Peace of mind is generally associated with bliss,happiness,and contentment.

But the question is how do you get the Peace Of Mind ?

Take my challenge and Try these 10 secrets, I am sharing and I am so sure it will be a disaster!
1.Keep calm and don’t be jealous.”Jeaulosy comes from,counting others blessings,instead of our own”Unknown
2.Don’t bite more than you can chew,because nobody looks attractive,spitting it back. ‘Carrol Bryant’
3.Don’t work for recognition,but do work,worthy of recognition ‘H.Jackson Brown Jr.’
4.Never tell your problem to anyone. 20% don’t care & 80% glad that you have them ‘Quora’
5.If you live for having it all,what you have is never enough. ‘Vicki Robin’
6.“Less is not necessarily more. Just enough is more.”
Milton Glaser”
7.There is a story behing every person.There is a reason why they are the way they are.Think about that before you judge someone. ‘pinerest’.
8.Forgive & Forget,but never forget to forgive,you may find a happier heart is the key to a happier life ‘Mahatma Gandhi’
9.Never put off tomorrow,what you can do today. ‘Thomas Jefferson’
10.To keep the body in good health is a duty..otherwise we shall not be able to keep our mind strong and clear ‘ Buddha’

Wise men have given plenty of such advices,my guess is being,a human being it is impossible to get peace of mind,even if you follow the wise sayings 100% and unfortunately for a change,I won the challenge !

Thank you so much for taking your time to go through and let me know if there is some more secrets to add.

Peace of mind vs Piece of mind/

Blog this way…..not that way !!

What is the philosophy behind blogging ?

Blogging is a more flexible medium.

Here the you can express the emotions,share the life’s experience with blogging community.

You can prepare the article leisurely,develop common interest with other bloggers, be more inspirational and encouraging ,bringing happiness and smile in everyone involved.

How to blog ?

This is million dollar question.

You are enthusiastic.You wish to be heard.You realized that blogging is the easiest way to reach millions.

Then you are stuck.you are not sure of the topic,and most of the topics are already discussed, dissected and deciphered. Even if you decide to write a post you are not sure how much inspirational,it is going to be and you can not afford to be amateurish.

you want more likes,more comments and unlimited number of follows.

Your wish is to achieve these impossible tasks in the shortest time possible.But then how ?

That is where you can utilize the principle of Beg,Barrow & Steal.

Go through as many blog articles as possible,find out the various material available in tune with your interests,amalgamate the thought processes. Finally Come out successfully with your own ideas.

OMG! Is that the way you advice a  budding bloggers ?

Come on, don’t be mean.I never recommended plagiarism.Have patience and go through the Wise men’s quotes at the end.

Benefits of Beg-Barrow-Steal:

1. It can be innovative ,by mixing ideas.

2. Recycling the available knowledge pool can give you more creativity.

3. Creative Commons license allows you to  use its contents and you can come out with amazing products

Remember Never ,never indulge in Plagiarism

Don’t forget to give credit to the authors,from whom you gained confidence and the required knowledge.

Now coming to the Wise Men’s wise counsel

If you steal from one author it’s plagiarism.If you steal from many it is research. ‘Wilson Mizner

Good writers borrow from other writers.Great writers steal from them outright. ‘ Aaron Sorkin’

Good artists copy,great artists steal. ‘Plano Picasso’

If you have reached this point, I am thankful and appreciative of your patience.

Inspiration-Mellisa Breau, Jon Morrow Image-pixabay

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Key to ‘successful failure’

Key to failure,pleasing,Key to failure

“I don’t know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to

please everybody”

‘unknown’

First of all I do not understand why on the earth one has to go on and on……pleasing each and every one ! The fact is… even on many occasions you can’t please your own kith & Kin.

“Trying to please everyone is a recipe for stress, misery and frustration. Be yourself. It’ll be good to know who’s down with that”

Unknown’

Tension Free…. Stress Free…you think it’s a distant dream ?

As you are busy with fast paced life , you are left with lots of tension,anxiety resulting in stress.you start thinking as if all the problems happening to you only.

Just relax.All of are undergoing the same, at one time or the other.You can neither run away from the problems, nor start dreaming of positive thoughts,The two popular advices..easier said than followed…

Just listen to the quotes by unknown and known wise souls.

If a problem can be solved, no need to worry about it. If a problem cannot be solved what is the use of worrying?

Worries and tensions are like birds , We cannot stop them from flying near us, But we can certainly stop them from making a nest in our mind.

The tension you feel from one person may be the tension you are causing for another.

Worrying does not take away tomorrow’s troubles. It takes away today’s peace.

Stress is the trash of modern life we all generate it, but if you don’t dispose of it properly, it will pile up and overtake your life.

Maturity is achieved when a person accepts life as full of tension. – Joshua L. Liebman

Stress is caused by being ‘here’ but wanting to be ‘there.’
– Eckhart Tolle

How beautiful it is to do nothing, and then to rest afterward.
– Spanish proverb

Thank you for going through.Feel free to comment,criticise,share,like and if it’s  is worthy re blog.

The Two Popular Advices…Easier said than followed…

Be happy

1.Keep Smiling ( In other words Be Happy ).

Remember Bob Marleys song Don’t worry ,be happy ?

2.Think Positively ( in other words Lift yourself )

Both according to me are Myths.

Now let us analyse these two in the Real Life

Keep Smiling & Be Happy :

Happiness is a kind of Magnet, we get attracted .

we are used to believe that Happiness is achieved when we get things what we wished for and one can see the smile on our faces.

How long the happiness stays ? One minute,one day,one month,one year or through out our life ?

The demand for happiness is never ending.And the irony is ,you cann’t be happy all the time, since your wishes are unending.

Just think that

1.We can not control our thoughts,created at the time of unplesant happenings in our life.

2.You cann’t pretend to be happy when the results are not as per your plans.

3.What ever happens to you for whatever reason….You & I know that it’s only time being and life goes on with newer challenges to face.

4.When you are unhappy, consciously( outer world) you may give broad smile to others,but you cann’t defeat the thought of unhappiness,since discontent at subconscious ( inner world ) level is waiting to exploit the situation to further sadness..

5.Happily ever after happens only in ‘Fairy tales’ and in ‘Reel Life’ (Hollywood,Bollywood) rather than in ‘Real Life ‘

My take is ….. If you are Unhappy,Accept it,bear it and simply move on , rather than keeping the Fake Smile or acting brave etc.

Think Positively:

It is the single most influencing stuff ,storming the entire  world  and 21 century version of ‘Be happy’ model.

Think positively – is a kind of ‘Reassuring’ yourself that nothing is going to be wrong and the problems get solved themselves.Nothing more dangerous than this attitutde.

Remember your problem is yours alone,it is going to be there,and mere positive thinking not going to help and you alone have to solve the problem to get peace of mind.

Positive thinking

Inspiration-Rebecca Hass

So your mindset is more powerful than the routine ‘Be positive’ psyche. It is OK not to be positive at times,since the situation you are facing not necessary end in happiness.

My take is…..

If you have time and patience you can go through this link and realize why positive thinking is a waste of time and not practicle………  Don’t miss reading                               Steve Neale tells about the scandal of  ‘Positive Thinking’

The myth of positive thinking and the Universe

Thank you so much for taking your time to go through.

Can one survive without EGO ?

Ego

Ego, n. “A person’s sense of self-esteem or self-importance”

Everyone of us have some amount of ego,it’s a fact.
Let us accept it.

And if somebody claims that he or she is does not have ego,it’s certain that this person is lying.

Anyone who’s successful, whatever way it has been achieved has a certain amount of ego and it is the truth.

Ego is the illusion created by our thoughts and none of us are immune from it.

Even persons with humility,on occassion succumbs to Ego.

“True humility is not thinking less of yourself; it is thinking of yourself less.”

– C.S. Lewis

Dear friends what is your take on EGO ?

Talent is God-given, be humble.                                                                                           Fame is man-given, be thankful.                                                                                   Conceit is self-given, be careful.

John Wooden

Happiness is……….

1.The secret of happiness is not in doing what one likes,but in liking what one does.

‘James M. Barrie’

2.Doing what you like is freedom.Liking what you do is happiness.

‘Frank Tyger’

3.There is no way to happiness.Happiness is the way.

‘Thich Nhat Nanh’

4. People are just as happy as they make up their minds to be.

‘Abraham Lincoln’.

5.Thousands of candles can be lighted from a single candle,and the life of the candle will not be shortened, happiness never decreases by being shared.

Buddha

Peace of mind vs Piece of mind

 

 

 

calm daylight evening grass

“We can never obtain peace in the outer world until we make peace with ourselves.”       Dalai Lama            Image pixabay

What is peace of mind ?

Peace of mind is…. inner tranquility or inner peace,absence of turmoil,having sound sleep in the night.

What about piece of mind ?

piece of mind

To give someone ” a piece of your mind” often results in giving your “peace of mind” away    unknown       image source Boston University                                                                                                                                                

Piece of mind is … expression of somebody’s thoughts,rather some kind of advice or opinion.

Which category you belong?

Are you the one,willing to give peace of mind not just to yourself,but also to others? or

Are you the one,just love to give your piece of mind to each and every one,whether required  or not ?

In other words

Are you a big talker (giving your piece of mind ) or a  listener (comforting others)

As far as I am concerned ,I love to be a silent listener.

Curious question- Do blog articles/Social media etc  give us Peace of mind or Piece of mind ? Please share your thoughts.

Thanks for stopping by and taking your time to reach the end.