As I checked the following quora link,I realized the word F*** can have different meanings depending on the circumstance,apart from sexual connotations !
“Sometimes,in life there really are bonds formed that can never be broken.
Sometimes you really can find that one person who will stand by you no matter what.
May be you will find it in a spouse and celebrate it with your dream wedding.
But there’s also the chance that the person you can count on for a life time, the person who knows you sometimes better than you know yourself, is the same person who’s been standing beside you all along”. Bride wars
Let us see who triumphs at the end.
LOVE
L is the 12 th letter of alphabets
O is the 15 th letter of alphabets
V is the 22 nd letter of alphabets
E is the 05 th letter of alphabets
Total of Love is = 54.
FRIENDSHIP
F is the 06 th letter of alphabets
R is the 18 th letter of alphabets
I is the 09 th letter of alphabets
E is the 05 th letter of alphabets
N is the 14 th letter of alphabets
D is the 04 th letter of alphabets
S is the 19 th letter of alphabets
H is the 08 th letter of alphabets
Iis the 09 th letter of alphabets
P is the 16 th letter of alphabets
Total of Friendship is = 108
Exactly twice of 54
So the FRIENDSHIP is twice the value of LOVE.
Do you agree ??
Now time for some fun
One day Love met Friendship.Love asked,why did you exist when I already exist?
Friendship replied..to put a smile where you’ve left tears.
And
“There are friends,there is family,And then there are friends that become family.”
What is your take ? Friendship or Love ? Check this link
The most common lie uttered without thought, sincerity, resolve, or guilt: I love you. ‘unknown’
See this clip(117 seconds) before you proceed further.
Does true love exist? I dare !
Rabbi Dr.Abraham calls’Love out of selfishness’ is a Fish Love.He
says”Fish love is poisoning marriages,damaging homes and breaking
hearts”.
Sex,money or power will decide the intensity of the so-called true love.
you may blast me that ….I am,atrocious,stone-hearted, silly, crazy, cruel,disgusting and disappointing but I am not dejected,because one day you realize that none can show the true love without expecting something in return. And that day,you are sure to remember me!The love what you expect / or given is nothing but ‘fake love !
In this world no body is willing to give unconditional love,though they can, if really they want,but they won’t because of the inherent selfishness.
I shall give just 2 examples.My discussion is limited to so called ‘unbreakable human love’
1.Romanticizing love.(couples)
‘I love you beyond eternity’,
‘If loving is wrong,then I don’t want to be right ‘
‘My love for you is a journey starting at forever & ending never.
‘You’re the first boy I ever kissed Jake,and I want you to be the last'(hollywood dialogue-movie-sweet home Alabama)
‘I think I’d miss you even if we’d never met'( movie-wedding date)
If these things are true….Why you see so many cases of divorces?
2.If true love were there( parents vs children)…
Why there are so many old age homes and homes for destitute ? And what about.. Orphanage,Children homes ?
Ron Leighman in Quora (on love is bullshit)
“Because love is a fraudulent emotion, it doesn’t exist. They say the love you Blah blah blah. Then once you get/give them what they want they kick you to the curb like yesterdays garbage. You may as well expect it because it will happen. Expect it then you feel no pain when it happens”.
Are we into the ‘Fantasy Love’?
“Of all the lies you told me….’I love you’ was my favorite”.
Unknown
True love is possible only when the people concerned are mature enough ( this happens as they age ) to see both sides of the point of view.
Finally,the difference between True Love & Pure Love.
True Love may not be possible all the time ,but Pure Love is possible.
Loving what you get is compromise.
Getting what you love is Success.
Loving without caring whether you will get it or not is true love.
Loving even after you knowing that you won’t get it..is pure love.
“Everyone is a moon, and has a dark side which he never shows to anybody.” ― Mark Twain
I am not talking of the personality disorder which we come across in the Medical World…..I am talking about the normal,perfect down to earth gentlemen and gentlewomen, who invariably have two faces,sometimes many faces ( multifaceted indeed! )
“Everyone has two faces but often we see only one side of them,so never judge anyone by their looks,because ,truth might surprise you” ! ‘unknown’
Have you any time seriously gazed your soul ?
I think we are all not just actors but great actors.Some examples,
1.You agree with me that wives hide (secrets) things from husbands, and husbands hide things from wives,but each will be talking to other sweetly and kindly.
2.All Men talk differently when they are with wives,and when the wives are not around.(men there… ..you know what I mean )
3. We preach our kids,but practice quite opposite.
4.Young boys and girls as lovers,constantly lie to each other which suits the situation.
5.We shout at our children and wives for no fault of theirs,but show sweet face to the boss,in spite of getting abused.
6.Married men ,when they come across a single woman, try,to attract her attention,but when wives are with them…it is a different behavior !
7.Our offline behavior is in contrast to our online behavior.You may be a beggar in real life ,but on social media you flaunt all your richness from nowhere !
8. You can see ,Professional child kidnapper/killer is a dedicated father to his kids.
I can go on and on…..
We all wear masks.
Let us be frank.And that is the way of life ! And we have to live that life if we want to survive in this wretched world.
And the worst part,you know…..even with God we play our duality !
“There’s a duality of a guy calling on God: ‘Where are you when I need you’ and the,at the same time .’God helps those who helps themselves.’…I think that contradiction does exist in all of us ,those of faith and those who profess to have no faith.‘JoeCornahan’
Now that we realized that all of us have two faces( dual personalities)….now it becomes even more scary.
“It’s not about who’s real to your face,
It’s about who’s real behind your back”unknown
So be busy checking your back frequently !
And wishing and praying that, let 2019 bring just the single and original face of ours all the time !
“When you get married, your loyalty, first and foremost, is to your spouse, and to the family that you create together.” – Phil McGraw, quoteambition.com
When you feel that every person in this world has deserted you,
The only thing we never get enough of is love; and the only thing we
never give enough of is love.
― Henry Miller
Why this happens ?
We all think that, Love means romance.But it is not so.
There are 7 types of love.
Storge- Familial love
Phila-friendship ( shared goodwill)
Eros-Sexual or passionate love
Agape-Universal love ( unconditional love)
Ludus-Playful or uncommitted love
Pragma- Long term love ( married people)
Philautia-self love ( healthy or unhealthy)
( source Psychologytoday.com, Quora)
My discussion is limited to the married couple.
Think for a second.
Can you tell the difference between ‘school and life‘ ?
” In school you are taught a lesson and then given a test.
In life,you are given a test,that teaches you the lesson”Tom Bodett
So what I am trying to tell is Life gives an opportunity to learn lessons from our experience, in this situation….. day to day problems faced by the couple,thus making them more accommodating,understanding and helpful to each other.
Thus we can become wiser by experiencing these experiences.
But here is the hitch.
The problem comes in the unknown form of ‘E G O‘ nullifying all the benefits of life’s lessons,which we learn over the course of time.
Why can’t we make an attempt to look into this ? Why can not we prevent this disease before it strikes us ?
When we are able to manage life style diseases with sugar-free,fat-free,salt free,gluten-free etc. etc….why can’t we give a try for Ego- free ?
The only way to achieve peace and harmony is becoming ‘EGO LESS’,
and this should be the ultimate outcome of your life’s lessons,if you
are willing to learn.
Another aspect is ,to be able to differentiate, the difference between love & Possession.Don’t think ,just because you love the person…you got right to possess the person.( as if the person is a property)
Remember love is selfless,coming from the bottom of the heart with total dedication,sincerity and commitment to lead a supportive life together.
And so…..
We make our life miserable because we never make an attempt to understand the full potential of true love,and thus we make ‘love’ scarce in spite of its abundance.
True Love gives you, the real experience of what all you dream and
Ego gives you, all the heartache.
“A flower cannot blossom without sunshine, and man cannot live without love”. – Max Muller
Let us not be serious all the time of the whole day ! Have some fun ! Remember today is Friday !
Some people ask the secret of our long marriage.We take time to go the restaurant two times a week.A little candle light ,dinner,soft music,and dancing.She goes on tuesdays,I go on Fridays – Henry Youngman
Marriages are made in Heaven ,that is the quote. Do you agree ? or it’s a Myth ?
Those who believe in this, say that,
1. There is a Cosmic Power that is responsible for the actions of people and marriage is decided even before one is born. 2 .Marriage is 100 % destined since it is under the influence of the Almighty.
3. Whether it is arranged marriage or Love marriage,the same Cosmic power is deciding the events to be unfolded for the perfect Date of the marriage
Those who don’t believe in the proverb have plenty of explanations,as to where Almighty has utterly failed.
1.If the proverb is true,why there are so many Divorces,so frequently ?
Divorce happening at the drop of a hat.Causes extending from silly reasons to financial problems to infidelity to substances of abuse…….you name it..it’s there and can lead to divorce.
2 .Domestic violence
Less said better,since these things are happening in so called developed world,developing world and underdeveloped world.
3. Couple Incompatibility. What is couple incompatibility ?
No two persons are the same.even if you think that they are same in their interests and personalities ,still their individual reactions to the demanding situations vastly vary.
4. Ego clash
“I have never yet met with anything that was dearer to any one than his own self” — -Buddha
No body can help if one is not able to avoid Egoistic attitude
5. Couple in illusion mode.
Many of us believe in Hollywood or Bollywood version of romance,passion,sex,hero kissing the heroine,lots of colourful fireworks in the background,decorated Horse cart,waiting for the couple,forever romance and happy endings.There is enormous difference between living ‘Happily ever after ‘ and ‘Happily ever before ‘
“So they were married ,to be the more together and found that they were never again so much together Divided by the morning tea, By the evening paper,By children and tradesmen’s bills”. English poet Louis MacNiece
One has to face the reality . Things are different-,like arrival of children,loans,dealing with in laws,unnecessary fighting’,controlling anger etc.etc.
6.Extra Marital Affairs
Call it middle age crisis or fun and after a few years of married life ,people get bored,loose passion for love and start searching for new ways to get boost to their sexual need.These are occasions when one needs self control.
Ultimately Who are we to question the Wisdom of the God ?
My feeling is to let wife & husband recognise all their strengths and Weaknesses and be helpful to each other and their family at the same time knowing and even realising the Greatness of what is known as Institution of Marriage.
A Happy relationship is made up of two good Forgivers
Behind every happy couple, lies two people who have fought hard to overcome all obstacles and interference to be that way .Why ?? Because it’s what they wanted. ‘ unknown’
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