True to some extent.Diamonds symbolize Status,Love,strength( hardness), beauty and Prosperity.
It’s also interesting to know why 60 th wedding anniversary is called ‘Diamond Anniversary’ ?.It’s because of longevity of the couple’s relationship both in times of happiness and difficulties and the marriage surviving this long of 60 yrs without break up in relationship, a toughest job indeed in the modern day philosophy of ‘divorce’ at the drop of a hat.
Do you want to know which is tougher than Diamond ?
“True Love and Loyal Friends are two of the toughest things to find.” Unknown
Whichever part of the world you are in ,remember,never underestimate the power of true love and loyal friends.
Hello friends, I take this opportunity to express my sincere thanks and gratitude for all the encouragement you have been giving.
I intend to start, in some of my posts with question series,whenever such questions crop up in my mind ( courtesy one inspiring soul ), where in your expert opinion counts.
Kindly guide me.My sincere advance thanks.
Does the age difference count for the soul-mates ? if so …How much age difference can be appropriate between the soul-mates. according to you ?
Don’t hesitate to spread the warmth whatever may be your situation !
“Warm weather fosters growth.Cold weather destroys it.Thus a man with an unsympathetic temperament has scanty joy:But a man with a warm and friendly heart is overflowing with blessings,and his beneficence will extend to posterity.” Hung Tzu-Ch’Eng
“Even more important than the warmth and affection we receive,is the warmth and affection we give,It is by giving warmth and affection,by having a genuine sense of concern for others,in other words through compassion,that we gain the conditions for genuine happiness.More important than being loved,therefore is to love.” Dalai Lama
“Each of us is responsible for creating an environment of warmth and consideration for those we love.I have always tried to define a good day not in terms of one in which all things were made right and comfortable for me but rather,as a day in which I have been able to make another’s day more loving,and special for them.We must treat each other with dignity.Not because we merit it,but because we grow best in thoughtfulness.” Leo Buscaglia
Finally
“A woman at 20 is like ice, at 30 she is warm and at 40 she is hot.” Gina Lollobrigida
The most common lie uttered without thought, sincerity, resolve, or guilt: I love you. ‘unknown’
See this clip(117 seconds) before you proceed further.
Does true love exist? I dare !
Rabbi Dr.Abraham calls’Love out of selfishness’ is a Fish Love.He
says”Fish love is poisoning marriages,damaging homes and breaking
hearts”.
Sex,money or power will decide the intensity of the so-called true love.
you may blast me that ….I am,atrocious,stone-hearted, silly, crazy, cruel,disgusting and disappointing but I am not dejected,because one day you realize that none can show the true love without expecting something in return. And that day,you are sure to remember me!The love what you expect / or given is nothing but ‘fake love !
In this world no body is willing to give unconditional love,though they can, if really they want,but they won’t because of the inherent selfishness.
I shall give just 2 examples.My discussion is limited to so called ‘unbreakable human love’
1.Romanticizing love.(couples)
‘I love you beyond eternity’,
‘If loving is wrong,then I don’t want to be right ‘
‘My love for you is a journey starting at forever & ending never.
‘You’re the first boy I ever kissed Jake,and I want you to be the last'(hollywood dialogue-movie-sweet home Alabama)
‘I think I’d miss you even if we’d never met'( movie-wedding date)
If these things are true….Why you see so many cases of divorces?
2.If true love were there( parents vs children)…
Why there are so many old age homes and homes for destitute ? And what about.. Orphanage,Children homes ?
Ron Leighman in Quora (on love is bullshit)
“Because love is a fraudulent emotion, it doesn’t exist. They say the love you Blah blah blah. Then once you get/give them what they want they kick you to the curb like yesterdays garbage. You may as well expect it because it will happen. Expect it then you feel no pain when it happens”.
Are we into the ‘Fantasy Love’?
“Of all the lies you told me….’I love you’ was my favorite”.
Unknown
True love is possible only when the people concerned are mature enough ( this happens as they age ) to see both sides of the point of view.
Finally,the difference between True Love & Pure Love.
True Love may not be possible all the time ,but Pure Love is possible.
Loving what you get is compromise.
Getting what you love is Success.
Loving without caring whether you will get it or not is true love.
Loving even after you knowing that you won’t get it..is pure love.
The only thing we never get enough of is love; and the only thing we
never give enough of is love.
― Henry Miller
Why this happens ?
We all think that, Love means romance.But it is not so.
There are 7 types of love.
Storge- Familial love
Phila-friendship ( shared goodwill)
Eros-Sexual or passionate love
Agape-Universal love ( unconditional love)
Ludus-Playful or uncommitted love
Pragma- Long term love ( married people)
Philautia-self love ( healthy or unhealthy)
( source Psychologytoday.com, Quora)
My discussion is limited to the married couple.
Think for a second.
Can you tell the difference between ‘school and life‘ ?
” In school you are taught a lesson and then given a test.
In life,you are given a test,that teaches you the lesson”Tom Bodett
So what I am trying to tell is Life gives an opportunity to learn lessons from our experience, in this situation….. day to day problems faced by the couple,thus making them more accommodating,understanding and helpful to each other.
Thus we can become wiser by experiencing these experiences.
But here is the hitch.
The problem comes in the unknown form of ‘E G O‘ nullifying all the benefits of life’s lessons,which we learn over the course of time.
Why can’t we make an attempt to look into this ? Why can not we prevent this disease before it strikes us ?
When we are able to manage life style diseases with sugar-free,fat-free,salt free,gluten-free etc. etc….why can’t we give a try for Ego- free ?
The only way to achieve peace and harmony is becoming ‘EGO LESS’,
and this should be the ultimate outcome of your life’s lessons,if you
are willing to learn.
Another aspect is ,to be able to differentiate, the difference between love & Possession.Don’t think ,just because you love the person…you got right to possess the person.( as if the person is a property)
Remember love is selfless,coming from the bottom of the heart with total dedication,sincerity and commitment to lead a supportive life together.
And so…..
We make our life miserable because we never make an attempt to understand the full potential of true love,and thus we make ‘love’ scarce in spite of its abundance.
True Love gives you, the real experience of what all you dream and
Ego gives you, all the heartache.
“A flower cannot blossom without sunshine, and man cannot live without love”. – Max Muller
One day you will ask me which is more important? My life or yours? I will say mine and you will walk away not knowing that you are my life. Khalil Gibran
Never waste your time trying to explain who you are to people who are committed to misunderstanding you
“The truth is, everyone is going to hurt you. You just got to find the ones worth suffering for.”
― Bob Marley
What is that all the religions, teach us about L O V E?
As per Bob Morley’s Wisdom, Everybody is going to hurt you.
I think he is correct because we expect too much from the ones ,we love ( a bit selfish attitude ,I say ) and in turn feel hurt if they are not up to our expectation. (again a selfish motive)
“To love is to suffer.
To avoid suffering one must not love.
But then one suffers from not loving.
Therefore, to love is to suffer; not to love is to suffer; to suffer is to suffer.
To be happy is to love. To be happy, then, is to suffer, but suffering makes one unhappy.
Therefore, to be happy one must love or love to suffer or suffer from too much happiness.” — Woody Allen
Are you confused ? Is too much happiness also a suffering ?
I know you don’t have an answer.Neither I have !
But my guess is…. don’t love too much or too little,and at the same time don’t not expect anything in return.Don’t presume or assume.
Is this not strange that the very word ‘L O V E’ makes some of us
experience ‘Heaven’ and some other ‘Hell’
How can L O V E have dual power…. ie adorable & destructive ? What is your take ? Please share your thoughts .Have you ever suffered because of LOVE?
“Don’t be afraid to express love to those who you love. Because
sometimes loving is not enough. We have to express it.”
Anurag Prakash Ray.
What a ‘Silent’ way to express ones love !
As seen in the above photographs, the persons have expressed their love in a silent way by writing on the currency notes.
Looks like they wanted entire country to know the intensity of their love since the currency gets circulated throughout the country.
It is a distasteful & Disgusting practice being practiced over the generations.
Not many are aware that it is punishable under the law ( Reserve Bank of India guidelines)
The scribbles on the notes range from names or phone numbers to love letters to ‘praise the lord’ to drawings.
Some these drawings are offensive and mostly one comes across ‘Love expressions’
It looks like this practice is seen only in Indian Subcontinent countries.I don’t know how this dirty habit evolved…….
How you classify this behavior? You call this Childish/strange/fanatic/disgusting/lovely/uncultured/dirty…. etc. etc.
Please feel free to express your opinion,thoughts…
