Category: Judgmental

Mindful Monday

Mindfulness

It’s high time to know something about Mindfulness,in these days of Corona pandemic resulting in Lock down and quarantine and some people going into depression & other psychiatric problems.

What is mindfulness ?

Mindfulness is a practice,not a philosophy.

You have to practice three elements.Peace,compassion & Joy

You have to practice to ignore three other elements,Anger,Anxiety & Sadness.

“Mindfulness is about training yourself to pay attention in a specific way. When a person is mindful, they:

  1. Focus on the present moment,
  2. Try not to think about anything that went on in the past or that might be coming up in future,
  3. Purposefully concentrate on what’s happening around them, [and]
  4. Try not to be judgmental about anything they notice, or label things as ‘good’ or ‘bad’”

(“How to Practice Mindfulness,” n.d.). Source-Reach,positive psychology.com

How you are going to practice this ?

It’s very simple ! you have to Live in the present….that’s all !!

But there is a caveat…..you should enjoy the moment in a positive way.I shall give the following quote as an example,

“When I’m hungry, I eat what I love. When I’m bored, I do something I love. When I’m lonely, I connect with someone I love. When I feel sad, I remember that I am loved.” Michelle May

How were the days before Corona Virus Pandemic and lock down?

It was rush,rush,rush…..through out day & night.No body had time for anybody or anything.

Everything was artificial.

Things were done for the sake of being done..

  • We were thinking too much
  • Misunderstanding & fighting with each other and forgetting the value of time
  • We were seeking too much
  • We wanted more & more and much more and  we wished to own the entire world (if possible)
  • we became slaves to social media via our smart phones
  • The word ‘Joy’ disappeared from our dictionary/vocabulary
  • we were lost and unable to find an answer to “purpose of our Life’

Inspiration-Eckhart Tolle

What is that Corona Virus teaching us ?

It is MINDFULNESS.

Mindfulness is simply being aware of what is happening right now,without wishing it were different. Enjoying the present without holding on when it changes ( which it will ). Being with the unpleasant without fearing,it will always be this way ( which it won’t ). James Baraz

How is the situation different now ?

  • Greetings-No more handshakes etc,better way of wishing each other.
  • Hygiene-Health priorities are better appreciated now.
  • Travel-No mass transit.Travel only if required.No wasting money.
  • Family bond-improved,but we also coming across disharmonious & discord.
  • Personal health care priority -given its importance which was due long time back.
  • Anxiety,hoarding-increased unnecessarily,but fortunately people have realized and are becoming more compassionate.
  • Mother Nature is able to breath, freely the Fresh Oxygen.
  • All the creatures of God having a gala time ( except for some humans )
  • Everybody started  appreciating the value of time & purpose of life.

Take Home Message

Whatever the present moment contains,accept it as if you had chosen it.always work with it,not against it   Eckhart Tolle

Thank you. Namaste  🙏🙏🙏

Philosophy Through Photography

Image by Pezibear from Pixabay

 

 

Is friendship a ‘fraud’ on people ?

Fooling oneself on Friendship

” I asked God to protect me from my enemies and I started losing my friends ” unknown          Duy Pham   unsplash

Can friendship be forever ?

Friendship is said to be one of the best things to happen in ones life.

Every time you think  of your friends, you  remember the saying ‘A friend in need is a friend indeed’

There are many similar quotes & sayings about worthiness of being a Friend & how to maintain the friendship etc and the BFF philosophy.

Some even said friends are an extended family.

Do you really think friendship lasts life long ?

But what actually happens ?

Well…….We all have two worlds….Dream world & Real world.

In the Dream World

“Death is possible any time,
Love is possible some time,
Marriage is possible one time,
But real friend like you is possible once in a life time.”   Unknown

Exaggeration at its peak ! Take it easy.

In the real world

The truth is

“I didn’t lose a friend.I just realized I never had one”    Unknown

It’s hard to find a genuine friend in this world.Mark my word.

Why don’t you realize that friendship changes from time to time and year to year ? Best friends you had previous year may not be the same this year.

The best friend you have this year won’t be true friend in real sense.

The so called bond between the friends too changes in intensity as times flies.Friends owe you nothing.All of them are judgmental.

Then why you feel bad if you don’t have a permanent friend ?

You are better off as an introvert rather than disappointed and getting depressed and pondering what went wrong by whom,who broke the friendship first  etc. etc.

Majority of your friends ignore your view point.Your friends make use of you to the extent you are useful to them.You are easily dispensable and thrown into the dust bin.

My feeling is 99% of the friendship is just show off ! Doesn’t serve any purpose and somewhere you feel good without friends.At least you can be at peace.

Friends don’t bring you the’Feel good’ instead bring you anger,hatred,jealous,frustration  and depression.

“There is some self interest behind every friendship.There is no friendship without self interest.This is a bitter truth“. Chanakya.

What is your experience, my friend ?

Don’t you agree that the idea of friend and friendship is rubbish since soon we all get disappointed as majority show their true colors and we have to fend ourselves.

So true friendship is a myth ?

Yes .Believe in me.

Friendship is a toxic waste of time.Friendship is an illusion ( Maya )

So who can be your best friend in the end ?

Just look into the mirror.

“I myself am the only friend I have.” Terence

Please share your views whether friendship is a fraud on people.I appreciate.

Thank you.

Philosophy Through Photography

8 Good reasons why you don’t need a best friend

Do you need a best friend ?

Best friend- A necessary evil ??

Its a 4.3 minute read.

Leave alone having friends,is it necessary to have a best friend ?

Friendship entitles you to nothing.

Best friends don’t exist.

Some argue that there is no need at all !

They say friends are only meant for schools and colleges. After that the ‘reality’ of Life catches you and you will be wasting time in searching for a best friend since no such thing exists in real life.

It is even said you get respect from friends only if you have money to spend on them.They can even snatch your boy friend or girlfriend !

At one stage you may even wonder whether friends are a part of our lives !

What is the criteria you have, to call some body as your best friend ?

I give you certain criteria ( which you expect from a best friend ) and also explain why your friend always fails to have all these qualities.

1.Honesty– Though honesty is the best policy,you don’t find a single friend who is honest.Best friend is no exception.Remember Chanakya’s quote

” A person should not be too honest,straight trees are cut first and honest people are screwed first.”

2.Empathy– No body has time or patience to understand and share the feelings you are undergoing.None care either.

“People will truly never understand something until it happens to them” unknown

3.Trust- trust comes into play when secrets have to be maintained.You and I know that things are not that easy and friends are tempted to take advantage of your weakness.Trust yourself and live alone.

“Don’t trust anyone blindly.Most people you meet with are with you only for their own sake and interest” unknown

4. Helpfulness-this is a myth.Remember in the hierarchy of relationships,friendship is at the bottom.Priority of helping goes to your parents,children and relatives.Remember your friend can not always help you.

“We never lose friends.We simply learn who the real ones are” unknown

5.Telepathy-It is said that best friends can read your mind before you start telling. This is humbug.It’s a fact that Your own kith and kin never understand you properly,from where your friend can prior assess what is in your mind !!

“Blind man in a dark room looking for black cat that is not there”. Thomas A Harris

6.Comforting- This again mere waste of time.None can comfort you irrespective of the situation you are in,since you alone have to comfort yourself at the end.

“Friends comfort you with comforting words.Best friends comfort you with comforting words too in a sarcasm way” unknown

7.Memories– Recollecting the best part of your memories with your best friend only makes you cry further !

“Sometimes the best memories are sad because you know they will never happen again.” unknown

8.Not judgmental -Human tendency is to be judgmental and you get a best friend based on his/her judgement about you.Then how can you expect your best friend be not judgmental at all ?

“We are very good lawyers for our own mistakes,but very good judges for the mistakes of others”. Unknown

O.K. What does it feel like not to have a best friend ?

  • One has a breathing space.
  • One is at liberty.
  • The pleasure of being introvert is unique.
  • No need to share your details/secrets .
  • No drama.
  • Save lot of money from partying etc.
  • You are safe from wrong advises the friend gives.
  • No fighting,arguing or back stabbing.
  • No depression,dejection or disappointments.No need to deal with others judgment,stupidity,demands and expectations.
  • It helps you to know about yourself better.
  • Opportunity to develop spirituality.

I can go on….

Please share your thoughts.

Thank you
Philosophy Through Photography

Inspiration & Credits-goodnet.org,quora

Perception

Perception

Can you notice people standing and discussing ?  Or you think it’s just wooden  design carvings ?  Credits-google images,newopticalillusions.com

I stopped explaining myself when I realized other people only understand from their level of perception.

“I gave you $10, he gave you $20. You felt that he was better just because he gave you more. But he had $200 and all I had was $10.

” We don’t see things as they are,we see them as we are ” Anais Nin

‘Just because you are right,does not mean I am wrong.You just have not seen life from my side”    unknown.

“Your perception of the world is not necessarily the same as what is actually occurring” Peter Rolston

“Perception & reality are two different things”    unknown 

‘Change your perception of things and you will change your reality”   unknown

Thank you

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Pixabay,google images.

 

 

One can Forgive but can one erase the bitterness ?

Forgive

When you forgive you don’t change the past but you do change the future.

Technically majority of us try to forgive, but 100 % of us forget that,we have forgiven, and somewhere the unpleasantness, haunts us for sometime, after all we are human beings !!

Some quotes…….

“Forgive other,not because thy deserve forgiveness,but because you deserve peace.” Jonathan Lockwood Huie

“It’s not an easy journey, to get to a place where you forgive people.But it is such a powerful place,because it frees you” Tyler Perry

Forgiveness releases the burden of a heavy heart Mathew 6:14-15

“Forgiveness is a funny thing. It warms the heart and cools the sting.” William Arthur Ward

“As long as you don’t forgive, who and whatever it is will occupy a rent-free space in your mind.” Isabelle Holland

When you forgive,you do not erase the memory.You simply choose to forgive to free yourself from the bitterness.

Thank you

Philosophy Through Photography

unknown quotes

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