Why happiness eluding you ?

Is happiness eluding you ?

“Happiness is like a butterfly,the more you chase it, it will elude you,but if you turn your attention to other things,it will come and sit softly on your shoulder” Thoreau In spite of inventions of more entertainments / pleasures ,still human being carves for more happiness. Why happiness eludes ? Simple. We analyse happiness instead of experiencing it. And we […]

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Does Age difference matter in Friendship ?

does age matters in friendship ?

‘We need old friends to help us grow old and new friends help us stay young”Letty Cottin Pogrebin It’s true that peers share common interest because they are in the same age group,but still you can share interests with people who are younger or older than you.In fact you can learn a lot from different kinds of conversations. Personally I […]

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One can Forgive but can one erase the bitterness ?

Technically majority of us try to forgive, but 100 % of us forget that,we have forgiven, and somewhere the unpleasantness, haunts us for sometime, after all we are human beings !! Some quotes……. “Forgive other,not because thy deserve forgiveness,but because you deserve peace.” Jonathan Lockwood Huie “It’s not an easy journey, to get to a place where you forgive people.But […]

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“Do not take life too seriously. You will never get out of it alive”. Elbert Hubbard

“If the problem can be solved why worry?  If the problem cannot be solved worrying will do you no good.”  Santideva. Why you think there is a constant pressure on your life ? Is it possible to let the steam out and lead a better  peaceful and contended  life ? What are all the ways you think you are getting pressure even on your routine day-to-day life ? Let us discuss. Family pressure You want to do something you like but the family members advising you otherwise.You have two choices,either go ahead and do what you wanted to do or listen to your family. The emotional tactic adopted by family members is crucial in influencing your thoughts. Solution– Since you are grown up ,you can take your own well-meant decisions. I feel emotional pressure by the family members is a kind of  ‘blackmail’. Social pressure It is defined as the influence that is exerted on a person or groups.It can be argument,persuasion and conformity and demands. Solution- Develop self confidence and mingle with people who accept you as you are.  ( Like minded ) Peer Pressure Peer pressure is the direct influence on people by peers, or the effect on an individual who gets encouraged to follow their peers by changing their attitudes, values or behaviors to conform to those of the influencing group or individual. You will fall prey to peer pressure because you want to fit in .The […]

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Setting the example

If you set the right example for your children during their formative years,those bonds of love and respect will be unbreakable. And your children will grow into adults,whom you can be proud of. Are you grateful to your parents ? Thank you Philosophy Through Photography Credits & Inspiration.pixabay, auroraproductions.

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Love is not complicated, people are

How individual lives are changing ,relationships are thrown into the dust bin,people forgetting the meaning and value & sacredness of ‘LOVE’, Thanks to addiction to social media & smart phones ! Relationships are harder now! “Conversations became texting, Arguments became phone calls, Feelings became subliminal messages, Sex became easy, The word ‘love’ is used out of context., Insecurities became a way of thinking, Getting jealous became a habit, Trust is hard to come by, Being hurt became natural. Leaving became the only option, Sad but true, So if you have something…that is worth it,..don’t take it for granted, Fight for it,don’t let it go”       pinterest Summary – Be selfish,thanks to the inventions. indulge in your likings,Drink till you drop dead,fight without any reason,Ego is your life,jealousy is your partner, Greedy is your nature,Killing innocents is your taste,care not anybody,you owe the happiness you deserve,forget about dieting & exercises which are all money-making machines,,cheating is your mantra,money is everything and enjoy dying your own death,you owe nothing to anybody! Is this the lesson modern-day life style teaching us ? Is this the meaning of advancement in human life ? Is this what all about relationships ? And what about ethics,values,respect,responsibilities ,family relationship ? Please share your thoughts. Thank you. Philosophy Through Photography IS Pixabay       

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Soar High

soar high

We all know that Life is not a fairytale that ends Happily ever after. Life is composed of ups and downs. There are several situations where we plan to the precision but when our wish is not coming true, we as humans get devastated. And in some situations just reverse-what ever you wished can happen to your surprise. “Life has […]

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Can you survive loneliness ? ?

Deep and lasting friendships don’t  just happen.They require focus,energy,patience,and skill to form and maintain. Good friends will enhance your journey through life in more ways than you can imagine. Invest in a few. You don’t need a lot. This is one of those cases when quality is more important than quantity. unknown Thank you Philosophy Through Photography Pixabay.

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So thankful

Be thankful, For if we did not learn a lot to-day, At least we learned a little, And if we did not learn a little, At least we did not get sick, And if we got sick, At least we didn’t die, So be thankful. Gautama Buddha Thank you Philosophy through Photography Pixabay

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International Day of Happiness March 20 th

What is International Day of Happiness ? It’s a day to be happy, of course! Of course ,as humans we try our level best to be happy through out our lives. But have we at any time remember somebody,who keep us happy most of the times? Do we even make an attempt to recognize such people ? The moment your happiness is over…you tend to forget those responsible for your happiness ! I am fortunate that there is somebody who makes me happy,smile & laugh and I recognize this fact and I am thankful to this person .Of course these things can’t happen without Almighty’s blessings. Since 2013, the United Nations has celebrated the International Day of Happiness as a way to recognize the importance of happiness in the lives of people around the world. The United Nations invites each person of any age,plus every classroom,business and government to join in celebration of the International Day of Happiness Suppose no body is there for you to achieve happiness…what would you do ? The formula is  simple !! “Happiness equals to reality minus expectations”  Tom Magliozzi Thank you Philosophy Through Photography Credits-UN.org,pixabay

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Are you sad ?

“It is popularly believed that sadness is due to certain things that happens to us. The cause of sadness is often traced to misfortune,hardship or humiliation In truth all sadness is from within. Sadness is the result of our inner attitude towards outer happenings”. Dada J P Vaswani The reasons for sadness are many. And all of you know. Reaction to sadness varies from person to person and depends on how sensitive the person is. Sadness can break the person completely and even push into suicidal tendencies. Some cry to get relief,some indulge in self harming,some manage the show by fake smile,but still many are unable to come out of the feelings. We all should realise that nothing is permanent in this life. Change is the way of life. Whether it is sadness or happiness it won’t last forever and comes alternatively and this is nature’s law. Every thing changes over the time and time is the greatest healer! Whatever may be the reason for sadness…never keep the emotions inside. Remember it’s like a time bomb. What is the solution ? Yes solution available. A sad person needs another person who understands him/her 100% The sad person just needs this person on whom he/she can lean on and cry their hearts out. Believe me the relief is instant ! Dear friends,please share your thoughts. Thank you Philosophy Through Photography Credits,inspiration, Pixabay quotesideas.com

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Stressed? Think of Romantic Friendship !

Romantic Friendship

This is a 2.7 minute read.Please proceed if you can spare this much time. Before I start the discussion,it’s better we know the definition of ‘Romantic Friendship’. According to ‘Wikipedia’ “A romantic friendship, passionate friendship, or affectionate friendship is a very close but typically non-sexual relationship between friends,often involving a degree of physical closeness beyond that which is common in the […]

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Hardest thing in this world is……

I know you are tempted to say ‘Diamond’ ! True to some extent.Diamonds symbolize Status,Love,strength( hardness), beauty and Prosperity. It’s also interesting to know why  60 th wedding anniversary is called ‘Diamond Anniversary’ ?.It’s because of longevity of the couple’s relationship both in times of happiness and difficulties and the marriage surviving this long of 60 yrs without break up in relationship, a toughest job indeed in the modern day philosophy of ‘divorce’ at the drop of a hat. Do you want to know which is tougher than Diamond ? “True Love and Loyal Friends are two of the toughest things to find.”   Unknown Whichever part of the world you are in ,remember,never underestimate the power of true love and loyal friends. Be a true lover & don’t lose loyal friends. To all my WP friends… Happy Valentine’s Day  Thank you Philosophy Through Photography  

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Global warming of different kind

Global warming of different kind

“Warm weather fosters growth.Cold weather destroys it.Thus a man with an unsympathetic temperament has scanty joy:But a man with a warm and friendly heart is overflowing with blessings,and his beneficence will extend to posterity.” Hung Tzu-Ch’Eng   “Even more important than the warmth and affection we receive,is the warmth and affection we give,It is by giving warmth and affection,by having […]

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How long online friendship lasts ?

How long online frienship lasts ?

It’s a 4.5 minute read,if you have patience proceed.. Before we proceed further let us understand ‘friendship’. “Friendship is a best ship which can lead you on world tour”   unknown It takes roughly 200 hours to become best friends with someone,    according to science. Can you sustain it afterwards ? Say 6 months ? 1 yr…..3 yrs…..7 yrs…. […]

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Family Quarrel

Definition :To quarrel is to fight — but usually not physically. Quarreling is a fact of life, occurring between the best of friends, in the happiest of marriages, and between parents and their children. vocabulary.com It is a disagreement about something. Why we quarrel in the very first place ? Somewhere I read ( I am not able to recollect the source) what is known as BIG 5 causing friction, leading to argument. 1.Money, 2.sex, 3.raising kids, 4.in-laws and 5.house/office work.Of course one can broaden the BIG 5 into various sub-classes. Disagreement can lead from just anger to outburst of pent-up feelings. The quarrels can stretch from very few initially to increased frequency over the time. The reasons can be from silly to far serious issues. The whole problem is because none is willing to admit their mistakes, continue the arguments,even competing with each other, with ego factor playing an active role. Whenever there is dispute remember, “Family problems come in all sizes and shapes.Some are short-lived,easily managed,while others are more chronic and difficult to handle” unknown What I am trying to tell is that it takes time to deal the problems and one must be patient.One must realize that, “Families and their problems go on and they are not solved….they are dealt with”. Roger Ebert, When we are friendly with the entire world ( don’t say…. this is because of survival instinct ),why can’t we show same friendliness to […]

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Love is scarce- Really ?

The only thing we never get enough of is love; and the only thing we never give enough of is love. ― Henry Miller Why this happens ? We all  think that, Love means romance.But it is not so. There are 7 types of love. Storge- Familial love Phila-friendship ( shared goodwill) Eros-Sexual or passionate love Agape-Universal love ( unconditional love) Ludus-Playful or uncommitted love Pragma- Long term love ( married people) Philautia-self love ( healthy or unhealthy) ( source Psychologytoday.com, Quora) My discussion is limited to the married couple. Think for a second. Can you tell  the difference between ‘school and life‘ ? ” In school you are taught a lesson and then given a test.   In life,you are given a test,that teaches you the lesson” Tom Bodett So what I am trying to tell is Life gives an opportunity to learn lessons  from our experience, in this situation….. day to day problems faced by the couple,thus making them more accommodating,understanding and helpful to each other. Thus we can become wiser by experiencing these experiences. But here is the hitch. The problem comes in the unknown form of ‘E G O ‘ nullifying all the benefits of life’s lessons,which we learn over the course of time. Why can’t we make an attempt to look into this ? Why can not we prevent this disease before it strikes us ? When we are able to manage life style diseases […]

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Are you the ‘Difficult Spouse’ ?

Real relationships are not perfect and perfect relationships are not real !! If you are a wife or husband and on many occasions you think you are disappointed because of the other…..and think the other is the ‘difficult spouse’…. then this article is for you. I am thankful to you if you felt there is something wrong in either of the parties and the mistake can be rectified easily. There are two types of marriages.( Marriages are made in heaven.Is itn’t ?) 1.Love marriage 2.Arranged marriage ( In most of the eastern countries ) Irrespective of the type of marriage,both the man and the woman of his love have to adjust with each other in order to be compatible. In fact, post marriage life is full of challenges and it exposes the couple to myriads of issues. But we all know the truth. One day or other both the man & the woman have to face unpleasant situation of opposing & different opinions and views, in matters of their day-to-day ‘living together’ The reality of the so-called colourful future has to show its fangs,since it is waiting to strike first ! Once the misunderstanding happens and prolongs….There are two options available You decided you are not going to adjust at all...then Apply for divorce and probably matter can come to end to the mutual satisfaction,and thus ending the very discussion I am trying to make. If the above choice is […]

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Ignore the ‘Agressive World’

When an obnoxious and aggressive world displays its nuttiness just say to yourself, “I have nothing to say to that.”   The world cries, “Give me your agreement or your disagreement but whatever you do, don’t ignore me!”   Intelligently notice both outer and inner darkness then quietly ignore it. Switch your attention back to the present moment with this powerful self-talk statement. You have higher things to think about and darkness’s anguish is not your concern. Every “success” darkness has is based on convincing you that its anguish is your concern. It wants you involved with it, fighting it, trying to help it. Dare to reply instead, “I have nothing to say to that!”   As The Daily Guru said once, “The resistance to the disturbance IS the disturbance.” Work with this exercise this week. Notice how good you start to feel as you cease throwing fuel on the initial disturbances – all those tiny little outer and inner fires that are very significant until you react to them. creditsThe Daily Guru Image Ashish_Choudhary,Pixabay.

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We see What we want to see & feel great about ourselves…. (and love to remember the Almighty only during agony)

In the recent discussion in blog articles about ‘Truth’ and meaning of ‘Absolute truth’ and ‘Relative truth, I realized that we forgot to discuss the role of ‘Maya’ ( illusion). Recently I came across an article in op ed of Deccan Chronicle,and thought it’s apt to understand the meaning of Maya  (illusion),in our day to day life’ by sharing the same . Before we proceed further, you should know that Sudama, is a childhood friend of Hindu Deity Lord Krishna. One day Sudama wished to have a glimpse of God’s Maya (illusion). He had heard a lot about Maya but never understood what it was as he was always surrendered to God. One day, he finally asked Lord Krishna, “What is Maya? What is the form of Maya? How does Maya untangle a man?” He directly sought answers of these questions from Lord Krishna and kept requesting him to show a glimpse of Maya. Lord Krishna replied that when time comes he shall give him the answers and also show him Maya. Then he said, “Let us go to Yamuna to take bath.”  Both of them came to the banks of Yamuna to take bath. After taking bath, Lord Krishna started dressing in Yellow and in the meantime Sudama went to take a dip in water. At the time of taking dip, Sudama felt that the river was flooded and he was being washed away in it. With great difficulty, by […]

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Oh Life ! My Dear Life !

 “Every morning in Africa a gazelle wakes up. It knows it must move faster than the lion or it will not survive. Every morning a lion wakes up and it knows it must move faster than the slowest gazelle or it will starve. It doesn’t matter if you are the lion or the gazelle, when the sun comes up, you better be moving.” Maurice Greene (attributed to Roger Bannister shortly after running the first sub-4 m) How do you feel about modern life of human beings? Any different from animals? As human beings we don’t literally do running, but Are we not into the  ‘Rat race’ to ‘Survive’ at the cost of ‘peace of mind’ & ‘lack of Sleep’? I am trapped into the rat race…which doesn’t seem to end,neither I am able to come out,   in the middle of the race because there are no referees to allow this. Please Give me your thoughts on how we are different and busy clinging to our lives,without any purpose.  

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Are you still in the ‘Rat race’ ?

‘Rat Race’ according to Wikipedia A rat race is an endless, self-defeating, or pointless pursuit. The phrase equates humans to rats attempting to earn a reward such as cheese, to no avail. It may also refer to a competitive struggle to get ahead financially or routinely. Do I remember,when I joined the rat race ? I am not sure,but I can recollect 1.My school days. 2.My college days.3 As an employee/consultant & 4. As I am aging. My school days I hate to get up early in the morning,but sadly that is the routine.With Heavy school bag and daily grinding,it used to be a tiresome job. And remember plenty of examination schedules and so much pressure from parents,to get the first rank ,not in one subject but all the subjects and throughout schooling and the competition among students was heavy,as to who gets the first rank,so that one can be in good books of the teachers,principal etc. Even in the school sports schedules, there is no let up.One has to get some medal without fail. So much of rat race in schooling days.Why the rat race in schools ?Any idea ? It’s only for better ranking so that admission to my preferred colleges is easier. My college days Those days Parents wished me to become a doctor since it was a respectable profession in the society and also better financial prospects. To get an admission into the Medical college is […]

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Daily Horoscope..boon or bane ??

crystal ball,crystal ball photography

Crystal Balls are famous for Crystal Gazing ,a methodology used by ‘Readers’ or ‘Seers’ in predicting your future and to tell fortunes, even guiding the clients to decide in solving their current problems. Let me be crystal clear,I am not finding fault with believers of Astrology.Some times I look up for Heavenly advice,when in distress ! Simply put can Astrology […]

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Do You Friendly-walk ?

Friendly walk

Always wonder what makes the INDIVIDUAL to put hand on other’s shoulder ! What is the feeling that makes one to do like this ? Does this indicate closeness or even comfort level or a kind of assurance….I am not sure. I am curious whether this kind of behavior seen in Western countries. Westerners can give more insight into this […]

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Key to ‘successful failure’

Key to failure,pleasing,

Key to failure “I don’t know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody” ‘unknown’ First of all I do not understand why on the earth one has to go on and on……pleasing each and every one ! The fact is… even on many occasions you can’t please your own kith & Kin. “Trying […]

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Tension Free…. Stress Free…you think it’s a distant dream ?

As you are busy with fast paced life , you are left with lots of tension,anxiety resulting in stress.you start thinking as if all the problems happening to you only. Just relax.All of are undergoing the same, at one time or the other.You can neither run away from the problems, nor start dreaming of positive thoughts,The two popular advices..easier said than followed… Just listen to the quotes by unknown and known wise souls. If a problem can be solved, no need to worry about it. If a problem cannot be solved what is the use of worrying? Worries and tensions are like birds , We cannot stop them from flying near us, But we can certainly stop them from making a nest in our mind. The tension you feel from one person may be the tension you are causing for another. Worrying does not take away tomorrow’s troubles. It takes away today’s peace. Stress is the trash of modern life we all generate it, but if you don’t dispose of it properly, it will pile up and overtake your life. Maturity is achieved when a person accepts life as full of tension. – Joshua L. Liebman Stress is caused by being ‘here’ but wanting to be ‘there.’ – Eckhart Tolle How beautiful it is to do nothing, and then to rest afterward. – Spanish proverb Thank you for going through.Feel free to comment,criticise,share,like and if it’s  is worthy re blog.

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Can one survive without EGO ?

Ego, n. “A person’s sense of self-esteem or self-importance” Everyone of us have some amount of ego,it’s a fact. Let us accept it. And if somebody claims that he or she is does not have ego,it’s certain that this person is lying. Anyone who’s successful, whatever way it has been achieved has a certain amount of ego and it is the truth. Ego is the illusion created by our thoughts and none of us are immune from it. Even persons with humility,on occassion succumbs to Ego. “True humility is not thinking less of yourself; it is thinking of yourself less.” – C.S. Lewis Dear friends what is your take on EGO ? Talent is God-given, be humble.                                                                                           Fame is man-given, be thankful.                                                                                   Conceit is self-given, be careful. John Wooden

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Happiness is……….

1.The secret of happiness is not in doing what one likes,but in liking what one does. ‘James M. Barrie’ 2.Doing what you like is freedom.Liking what you do is happiness. ‘Frank Tyger’ 3.There is no way to happiness.Happiness is the way. ‘Thich Nhat Nanh’ 4. People are just as happy as they make up their minds to be. ‘Abraham Lincoln’. […]

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What is your definition of Happiness ?

  Are you happy all the time ? What do you think of ‘feeling happy & ”being happy’ ? If you are happy, do you also think that,you should make others happy ? Is it a must that you should make others happy too ? What is your happiness Quotient ? Can Preachers help us geting happiness ? Internet gives us billions of definition and meaning.But how to apply these on individual basis ? I can go on and on What is your answer ? If you ask me ..frankly I don’t have an answer. Thank you for taking your time to go through the article  

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