Are you becoming, of late sick of Photography ? Are you loosing interest in photography?What is the percentage of Keepers you have when you take tons of shots ?
Have you ever tried crystal ball photography ? I bet you enjoy it.
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Life is not perfect,but it has perfect moments
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When you forgive you don’t change the past but you do change the future.
Technically majority of us try to forgive, but 100 % of us forget that,we have forgiven, and somewhere the unpleasantness, haunts us for sometime, after all we are human beings !!
Some quotes…….
“Forgive other,not because thy deserve forgiveness,but because you deserve peace.” Jonathan Lockwood Huie
“It’s not an easy journey, to get to a place where you forgive people.But it is such a powerful place,because it frees you” Tyler Perry
Forgiveness releases the burden of a heavy heart Mathew 6:14-15
“Forgiveness is a funny thing. It warms the heart and cools the sting.” William Arthur Ward
“As long as you don’t forgive, who and whatever it is will occupy a rent-free space in your mind.” Isabelle Holland
When you forgive,you do not erase the memory.You simply choose to forgive to free yourself from the bitterness.
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“If the problem can be solved why worry?
If the problem cannot be solved worrying will do you no good.”
Santideva.
Why you think there is a constant pressure on your life ?
Is it possible to let the steam out and lead a better peaceful and contended life ?
What are all the ways you think you are getting pressure even on your routine day-to-day life ? Let us discuss.
Family pressure
You want to do something you like but the family members advising you otherwise.You have two choices,either go ahead and do what you wanted to do or listen to your family.
The emotional tactic adopted by family members is crucial in influencing your thoughts.
Solution– Since you are grown up ,you can take your own well-meant decisions.
I feel emotional pressure by the family members is a kind of ‘blackmail’.
Social pressure
It is defined as the influence that is exerted on a person or groups.It can be argument,persuasion and conformity and demands.
Solution- Develop self confidence and mingle with people who accept you as you are. ( Like minded )
Peer Pressure
Peer pressure is the direct influence on people by peers, or the effect on an individual who gets encouraged to follow their peers by changing their attitudes, values or behaviors to conform to those of the influencing group or individual.
You will fall prey to peer pressure because you want to fit in .The peer can be your friend,classmate or colleague.
Solution– Be bold,think of the consequences,say a polite ‘thank you’ and be selective.
Our own tendencies
Author Gretchen Rubin has built a model called Four Tendencies Framework namely
1.Upholders.
2.Questioners.
3.Obligers.
4.Rebels.
She says that the four tendencies are responsible as to why we act and why we don’t act.
These tendencies can create pressure on oneself.
Solution– Change your tendencies.As simple as that.
You can even take the quiz of Gretchen Rubin here to know what personality you belong and how much pressure you are facing in your life.Click the link
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If you set the right example for your children during their formative years,those bonds of love and respect will be unbreakable. And your children will grow into adults,whom you can be proud of.
Are you grateful to your parents ?
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These days…relationship means… Any where without you is better than any where with you
How individual lives are changing ,relationships are thrown into the dust bin,people forgetting the meaning and value & sacredness of ‘LOVE’,
Thanks to addiction to social media & smart phones !
Relationships are harder now!
“Conversations became texting,
Arguments became phone calls,
Feelings became subliminal messages,
Sex became easy,
The word ‘love’ is used out of context.,
Insecurities became a way of thinking,
Getting jealous became a habit,
Trust is hard to come by,
Being hurt became natural.
Leaving became the only option,
Sad but true,
So if you have something…that is worth it,..don’t take it for granted,
Fight for it,don’t let it go” pinterest
Summary –
Be selfish,thanks to the inventions. indulge in your likings,Drink till you drop dead,fight without any reason,Ego is your life,jealousy is your partner, Greedy is your nature,Killing innocents is your taste,care not anybody,you owe the happiness you deserve,forget about dieting & exercises which are all money-making machines,,cheating is your mantra,money is everything and enjoy dying your own death,you owe nothing to anybody!
Is this the lesson modern-day life style teaching us ? Is this the meaning of advancement in human life ? Is this what all about relationships ?
And what about ethics,values,respect,responsibilities ,family relationship ?
Please share your thoughts.
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“In my next life I want to live my life backwards.
You start out dead and get that out of the way.
Then you wake up in an old people’s home feeling better every day.
You get kicked out for being too healthy, go collect your pension, and then when you start work, you get a gold watch and a party on your first day.
You work for 40 years until you’re young enough to enjoy your retirement.
You party, drink alcohol, and are generally promiscuous, then you are ready for high school.
You then go to primary school, you become a kid, you play. You have no responsibilities, you become a baby until you are born.
And then you spend your last 9 months floating in luxurious spa-like conditions with central heating and room service on tap, larger quarters every day and then Voila! You finish off as an orgasm!”
Sean Morey
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The wings of Hope carry us,soaring high above the driving winds of Life Ana Jacob
We all know that Life is not a fairytale that ends Happily ever after.
Life is composed of ups and downs.
There are several situations where we plan to the precision but when our wish is not coming true, we as humans get devastated.
And in some situations just reverse-what ever you wished can happen to your surprise.
“Life has many ways of testing a persons’ will.either by having nothing happen at all or by having everything happen all at once Paulo Coelho
Every day your life keeps you challenging at the drop of a hat ! But remember not to allow these challenges to put you down.
Never make comparisons.You don’t know the difficulties faced by the other person before he became successful.
“You aren’t going to find anybody that’s going to be successful without making a sacrifice and without perseverance.” Lou Holtz
Make best use of life,take everything that is offered to you ,because you know pretty well at the end something good is going to happen.
“If you can’t fly then run, if you can’t run then walk, if you can’t walk then crawl, but whatever you do you have to keep moving forward.” Martin Luther King, Jr.
If you want to soar high in the life,you have to give up the things and people that weigh you down. Rashida Rowe quotes
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Great friendship enhances the quality of life.
Deep and lasting friendships don’t just happen.They require focus,energy,patience,and skill to form and maintain.
Good friends will enhance your journey through life in more ways than you can imagine.
Invest in a few. You don’t need a lot. This is one of those cases when quality is more important than quantity.
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Be thankful,
For if we did not learn a lot to-day,
At least we learned a little,
And if we did not learn a little,
At least we did not get sick,
And if we got sick,
At least we didn’t die,
So be thankful.
Gautama Buddha
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Is this true ??
To be happy with a man,you must understand him a lot and love him a little.To be happy with a Woman,you must love her a lot and try not to understand her at all.
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What is International Day of Happiness ?
It’s a day to be happy, of course!
Of course ,as humans we try our level best to be happy through out our lives.
But have we at any time remember somebody,who keep us happy most of the times?
Do we even make an attempt to recognize such people ? The moment your happiness is over…you tend to forget those responsible for your happiness !
I am fortunate that there is somebody who makes me happy,smile & laugh and I recognize this fact and I am thankful to this person .Of course these things can’t happen without Almighty’s blessings.
Since 2013, the United Nations has celebrated the International Day of Happiness as a way to recognize the importance of happiness in the lives of people around the world.
The United Nations invites each person of any age,plus every classroom,business and government to join in celebration of the International Day of Happiness
Suppose no body is there for you to achieve happiness…what would you do ?
The formula is simple !!
“Happiness equals to reality minus expectations” Tom Magliozzi
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“The heart does things for reasons that reason can’t understand.”
Jacques Benigne Bossel
Why,reason is helpless to understand the feelings of the heart ?
Why heart is overtaking and dominating everything ?
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“Some days are just bad days,that’s all.You have to experience sadness to know happiness,and I remind myself that not every day is going to be a good day,that’s just the way it is ! Dita Von Teese
“It is popularly believed that sadness is due to certain things that happens to us. The cause of sadness is often traced to misfortune,hardship or humiliation
In truth all sadness is from within.
Sadness is the result of our inner attitude towards outer happenings”.
Dada J P Vaswani
The reasons for sadness are many. And all of you know.
Reaction to sadness varies from person to person and depends on how sensitive the person is.
Sadness can break the person completely and even push into suicidal tendencies.
Some cry to get relief,some indulge in self harming,some manage the show by fake smile,but still many are unable to come out of the feelings.
We all should realise that nothing is permanent in this life. Change is the way of life.
Whether it is sadness or happiness it won’t last forever and comes alternatively and this is nature’s law. Every thing changes over the time and time is the greatest healer!
Whatever may be the reason for sadness…never keep the emotions inside. Remember it’s like a time bomb.
What is the solution ?
Yes solution available.
A sad person needs another person who understands him/her 100%
The sad person just needs this person on whom he/she can lean on and cry their hearts out. Believe me the relief is instant !
Dear friends,please share your thoughts.
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There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement and acceptance.” John Lennon
This is a 2.7 minute read.Please proceed if you can spare this much time.
Before I start the discussion,it’s better we know the definition of ‘Romantic Friendship’.
According to ‘Wikipedia’
“A romantic friendship, passionate friendship, or affectionate friendship is a very close but typically non-sexual relationship between friends,often involving a degree of physical closeness beyond that which is common in the contemporary Western Societies. It may include for example holding hands,cuddling,hugging,kissing,giving massages, and sharing a bed, or co-sleeping, without sexual intercourse or other physical sexual expression”
Yourdictionary.com says
“An intensely emotional love relationship between two unrelated people, in which sexuality is unimportant and typically absent, but there is greater physical affection or poetic communication than is typical for friendship”
Can we include online Friendship ( since we are into the digital revolution with social media,online-video/chat,making new online friends etc ) into the above definitions ? I am not sure.
How nice it’s when the truly understanding relationship takes a vow, as said below !
“The best love is the kind that awakens the soul and makes us reach more,that plants a fire in our hearts and brings peace to our minds.And that’s what you’ve given me.That’s what I’d hoped to give you forever” Nicholas Sparks
But then….all are not fortunate and there has to be a kind of ‘vibe’ or as some one brilliantly coined the term ‘ Familiar vibe’, or Mutual ‘resonance’ between the partners or friends or relationships.Plato’s quote is apt.
“Every heart sings a song, incomplete, until another heart whispers back. Those who wish to sing always find a song. At the touch of a lover, everyone becomes a poet.” Plato.
True friends really make a big influence on their individual lives in times of stress.
And What did John Lennon Say about friendship and its impact on Life and how this true friendship keeps you smiling ?
“Count your age by friends, not years. Count your life by smiles, not tears”.
A recent study published in the journal Psychophysiology suggests that simply imagining love & support from your significant other can boost your stress management skills.Check this link.
Thinking About Partners Reduces Stress-Study
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“Laugh and the world laughs with you,snore and you sleep alone” Anthony Burgess
Always smile
Keep laughing whenever it is possible.
Make your surroundings lighter with your laughter.
Spend time with people who bring joy and happiness along with laughter !
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But then who cares !
Seven days without laughter makes one weak. Mort Walker
It’s a 3.4 minute read.
Have you studied the facial expressions in the above photos ?
They are all laughing…their heads off ! This is happening irrespective of their age.This laugh is spontaneous and heartful.Since you are smart, you know that it is not a fake laugh.
Being intelligent, you also noticed that, some of them have closed their eyes,indicating total involvement and contentment of the situation they are in and the life they are living at that moment !
“A smile is the beginning of laughter,and laughter is the feeling of being happy,which we all need every day” ! Byron Pulsifer
Don’ take life seriously,start having fun ,what ever way you wish and have at least one good laugh every day !
Have a hearty laugh at every available situations be amusing or funny.Even recollect something funny that happened in your life and laugh and laugh and laugh.
I love friends who make us happy by their laughter and who are also jovial.
And I am lucky to have lovely online friends,who make my life burden lighter with their humour.
Advantages of Laughter –brings down the stress level,Reduces the Blood pressure,Your worries gone for sometime,You are also spending the calories,even improve the immune system
A hearty laugh gives one a dry cleaning, while a good cry is a wet wash.
Puzant Kevork Thomajan
And talking about sound sleep ……. Lack of sleep is common in modern society.
From the interactions I had with a few WP readers,I realised that some of them are able to respond/reply/comment mostly during past midnight ( people from my part of the Indian Subcontinent ). I am not here for any judgment,since I know nothing of their schedule etc,but I wonder what is the mood like during that time, and how their next day is going to be and also the consequences on their health status in the long run.
Reduced sleep
Disturbed sleep ( insomnia) or Lack of sleep ( Sleep deprivation).
1.Insomnia is a sleep disorder due to psychological or health problems and one has to consult the physician for the cure.
2.Lack of sleep is human making.You get ready answer as to why one is not able to sleep enough.
Lack of sleep affects your immune system.( I don’t want to go into medical /scientific details).If you want your immune system to work at its best…then get the needed amount of sleep every night Don’t give excuses of stress etc.
On the contrary,good sleep reduces your stress level !
Don’t depend on sedatives or tranquilizers ! Remember lack of sleep makes you depressed.
“Sometimes it is difficult to remember, but other times it is very easy to remember. Sleep deprivation is the killer”. Andy Samberg
It is not the years in your life but the life in your years that counts Adlai stevensony
We all know that Life can never be ‘Instagram Perfect’.
But still,why we all make our life miserable ?
1.Because we worry about future which is unknown.
2..We quarrel among ourselves for what happened yesterday,who is responsible etc and trying to blame others or ourselves in the process.Yesterday is past….and nothing can be done,but still we worry for the things that happened.
3. We forget to be happy today conveniently because we have something or other priorities to attend.
Things don’t happen as per our wish,not readily waiting for us on the silver platter.
Do you remember the quote”Good things come to those who wait” It is nothing but rubbish.Life is never kind and it owes us nothing.There is no such thing called ‘Happy Life’ and my point is that you have to ‘live’ in the moment and make your life ‘Happy’
“It’s not a case of finding the meaning of the moments,but giving the moments meaning”. Steven Redhe
This life is our own and it resonates how you want it to live.If you want it to be miserable ..it’s the way it’s going to be for you.
“you can frame a moment,But you can’t frame life” Armin Houman
‘Hope’ is good,no doubt it sustains us but then we should make attempts to make that hope a reality by living in the ‘moment’
Then how not to feel miserable in life ? My thoughts are simple.
1.Stop over thinking.
2.Stop judging others.
3.Remember,nothing under your control.Just move along the flow
4.Avoid the mentality of perfectionist.
5.Stop criticizing.You know only part of the story.
6.Avoid negative thoughts .
7.Most importantly stop comparing yourself.
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I know you are tempted to say ‘Diamond’ !
True to some extent.Diamonds symbolize Status,Love,strength( hardness), beauty and Prosperity.
It’s also interesting to know why 60 th wedding anniversary is called ‘Diamond Anniversary’ ?.It’s because of longevity of the couple’s relationship both in times of happiness and difficulties and the marriage surviving this long of 60 yrs without break up in relationship, a toughest job indeed in the modern day philosophy of ‘divorce’ at the drop of a hat.
Do you want to know which is tougher than Diamond ?
“True Love and Loyal Friends are two of the toughest things to find.” Unknown
Whichever part of the world you are in ,remember,never underestimate the power of true love and loyal friends.
Be a true lover & don’t lose loyal friends.
To all my WP friends…
Happy Valentine’s Day
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Don’t hesitate to spread the warmth whatever may be your situation !
“Warm weather fosters growth.Cold weather destroys it.Thus a man with an unsympathetic temperament has scanty joy:But a man with a warm and friendly heart is overflowing with blessings,and his beneficence will extend to posterity.” Hung Tzu-Ch’Eng
“Even more important than the warmth and affection we receive,is the warmth and affection we give,It is by giving warmth and affection,by having a genuine sense of concern for others,in other words through compassion,that we gain the conditions for genuine happiness.More important than being loved,therefore is to love.” Dalai Lama
Finally
“A woman at 20 is like ice, at 30 she is warm and at 40 she is hot.” Gina Lollobrigida
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One of the most beautiful qualities of true friendship is to understand and to be understood. Lucius Annaeus Seneca
It’s a 4.5 minute read,if you have patience proceed..
Before we proceed further let us understand ‘friendship’.
“Friendship is a best ship which can lead you on world tour” unknown
It takes roughly 200 hours to become best friends with someone, according to science. Can you sustain it afterwards ?
Say 6 months ? 1 yr…..3 yrs…..7 yrs…. Or till one of them decides to knock the Heavens door ?
Don’t you think… friendship is a complicated relationship among people ?
It can last from one day to…. life long !
“Friendship isn’t about whom you have known the longest…it’s about who came, and never left your side” unknown.
It is said that true friendship is possible,having similar wavelengths,and the two sharing their true feelings, whether a happy or sad situation in an honest way,at the same time maintaining the confidentiality,helpful to each other whenever possible and not interfering unnecessarily into their personal matters.
with the invention of internet and followed by online chat facilities…..both distant & near friendship became ONLINE
What is online friendship ?( Unknown to each other initially )
It is communication between two unknown friends exclusively via internet.With the advent of social media,video chats etc,it became easier, simpler and importantly faster to develop online friendship.
What is great about online friendship ?
1.You can develop confidence in yourself. 2. Get support in times of depression (morally). 3.Emotional bond. 4.Can add value to your life.
Is it necessary for online friends to interact face to face ?
Depends on the parties concerned. It is said that for friendship to be real,better they have face to face interaction and be honest with each other.
Can one trust online friendship ?
How sure are you that the other side person is true to what he or she,as they describe themselves ?
But remember,It is not all that easy to find right kind of person and probably you should think twice and must be lucky !
Initially it may be touch and go ,but make sure you listen to your sixth sense.Suspicions apart,I think if both of them are on the same wavelengths,the friendship can boost and lasts longer.
Can online friendship between man and woman possible ?
If the friends happens to be man and woman,it all the more imperative that they know their limits and keep things cool.We also come across many examples of people falling in love and taking the friendship to next level and break up later.Ultimately it is up to them to decide how to maintain the relationship to be long-lasting.
If both parties intend to have fun ( online ),share the moments,having jokes,exchanging the ideas,making recommendations,suggestions, even helping each other’s in difficult situations,(need not be financial),and may or may not be serious in taking the friendship to next level…..it can still be a lot of fun!
What about age factor?
I am not sure.For teenagers the relationship is obvious. For Middle aged people it can be different meaning.For older people they are in need of affection & some body to talk to.
What if friends happen to be young & aged?
It is up to the individuals concerned to continue or stop depending upon the individual feelings and priorities.I am not able to guess really and internet search giving different opinions.
And the secret of lasting online friendship ?
In order to achieve lasting friendship,I think a continuous communication is important.I feel it should be on a daily basis at regular intervals.
The beauty of online friendship is that you don’t know the other person, personally and your imaginations run wild !( if you are not into video mode the fun is much greater)You are in your own virtual world,enjoying every minute ! The discussion can even be a deep personal conversation !
My take…long-lasting online friendship is possible, provided
1.If the parties develop mutual TRUST and be HONEST (not exploiting).Don’t overdo chats or get addicted.
2.Be frank and have an open communication.Have a regular chat schedule ( timing is important,both the parties must allot mutually convenient time) and keep in touch,know each other even better.
3. Be a good listener and appreciate the other party when the person deserves the same.
4.Give importance to the common bond.
5.Don’t be possessive.Tune down your ego to ZERO
6.If possible turn online friend into a real life True friend.
What is your experience with unknown online friends ?
Would you like to add any more suggestions ? please go ahead.
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and I”
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Though life is fair to us,always we feel we are missing something and we are unhappy most of the times.
Less said better especially about love.
“The only thing we never get enough of is love; and the only thing we
never give enough of is love”.
Henry Miller
If you feel the Love, I think, that is, the most beautiful thing to happen in the world and you are lucky !
Suppose if you want to make somebody feel the love …that is even a memorable !
What makes YOU feel most loved ?
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No family is perfect ! We argue,we fight,we even stop talking to each other at times,but in the end family is family….the love will always be there. quoteslover.com
Definition :To quarrel is to fight — but usually not physically.
Quarreling is a fact of life, occurring between the best of friends, in the happiest of marriages, and between parents and their children. vocabulary.com
It is a disagreement about something.
Why we quarrel in the very first place ?
Somewhere I read ( I am not able to recollect the source) what is known as BIG 5 causing friction, leading to argument. 1.Money, 2.sex, 3.raising kids, 4.in-laws and 5.house/office work.Of course one can broaden the BIG 5 into various sub-classes.
Disagreement can lead from just anger to outburst of pent-up feelings.
The quarrels can stretch from very few initially to increased frequency over the time.
The reasons can be from silly to far serious issues.
The whole problem is because none is willing to admit their mistakes, continue the arguments,even competing with each other, with ego factor playing an active role.
Whenever there is dispute remember,
“Family problems come in all sizes and shapes.Some are short-lived,easily managed,while others are more chronic and difficult to handle” unknown
What I am trying to tell is that it takes time to deal the problems and one must be patient.One must realize that,
“Families and their problems go on and they are not solved….they are dealt with”. Roger Ebert,
When we are friendly with the entire world ( don’t say…. this is because of survival instinct ),why can’t we show same friendliness to our family members?
You know the old adage
“You can choose the friends,but you can’t choose the family”
In other words,since blood is thicker than water, all the more you can’t afford to quarrel with your family members.
How best to avoid family quarrels ?
Some tips which I think,can help! ( My 12 commandments )
1.Stay calm in spite of the urge to respond angrily.Never raise your voice.
2.Be a good listener.
3.Reduce your emotional scale to zero.
4.Let there not be communication gap.Make it clear as to what the other person is saying and meaning.
5.Impress the other person,what actually you meant or intended to do.
6.Never bring the past or unrelated issues.
7.Try to solve the problem and not to win the argument.
8.Put yourself in the others shoes.
9.Don’t stockpile your issues and vent at a stretch irrelevantly.
10.forget & forgive
11.Take it easy.
12.Have faith in the Lord.
“Problems are like washing machines,they twist us,spin us,knock us around but in the end,we come out cleaner,brighter and better than before” – unknown
What are your thoughts ?
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Why this happens ?
We all think that, Love means romance.But it is not so.
There are 7 types of love.
( source Psychologytoday.com, Quora)
My discussion is limited to the married couple.
Think for a second.
Can you tell the difference between ‘school and life‘ ?
” In school you are taught a lesson and then given a test.
In life,you are given a test,that teaches you the lesson” Tom Bodett
So what I am trying to tell is Life gives an opportunity to learn lessons from our experience, in this situation….. day to day problems faced by the couple,thus making them more accommodating,understanding and helpful to each other.
Thus we can become wiser by experiencing these experiences.
But here is the hitch.
The problem comes in the unknown form of ‘E G O ‘ nullifying all the benefits of life’s lessons,which we learn over the course of time.
Why can’t we make an attempt to look into this ? Why can not we prevent this disease before it strikes us ?
When we are able to manage life style diseases with sugar-free,fat-free,salt free,gluten-free etc. etc….why can’t we give a try for Ego- free ?
Another aspect is ,to be able to differentiate, the difference between love & Possession.Don’t think ,just because you love the person…you got right to possess the person.( as if the person is a property)
Remember love is selfless,coming from the bottom of the heart with total dedication,sincerity and commitment to lead a supportive life together.
And so…..
We make our life miserable because we never make an attempt to understand the full potential of true love,and thus we make ‘love’ scarce in spite of its abundance.
True Love gives you, the real experience of what all you dream and
Ego gives you, all the heartache.
“A flower cannot blossom without sunshine, and man cannot live without love”. – Max Muller
If you are a wife or husband and on many occasions you think you are disappointed because of the other…..and think the other is the ‘difficult spouse’…. then this article is for you.
I am thankful to you if you felt there is something wrong in either of the parties and the mistake can be rectified easily.
There are two types of marriages.( Marriages are made in heaven.Is itn’t ?)
1.Love marriage
2.Arranged marriage ( In most of the eastern countries )
Irrespective of the type of marriage,both the man and the woman of his love have to adjust with each other in order to be compatible.
In fact, post marriage life is full of challenges and it exposes the couple to myriads of issues.
But we all know the truth.
One day or other both the man & the woman have to face unpleasant situation of opposing & different opinions and views, in matters of their day-to-day ‘living together’
The reality of the so-called colourful future has to show its fangs,since it is waiting to strike first !
Once the misunderstanding happens and prolongs….There are two options available
Why to quarrel at all in the first place ?
Now it’s time to think.
1.Realize that ‘ married happily ever after ‘ is an illusion ( Maya )
2.Understand that Wife & Husband belong to the same team and they have to work
together for the success of their married life.
“Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor. For if either of them falls, the one will lift up his companion. But woe to the one who falls when there is not another to lift him up.
Ecclesiastes4.9-10
3.We often hurt our spouse knowingly or unknowingly.Do you know the solution ? Ask for ‘forgiveness’ whole heartedly.
4.When Anger or Helplessness happens to one of you…just take a deep breath and allow the heated moment to pass.Don’t forget.. time’s the greatest healer.
5.Remember marriage is a vow,before God.
Now it’s time to put the following into action.
Don’t allow discord to remain ,not more than one minute,and your anger not more than a second.
Don’t be bossy and do not take one another for granted.
Respect individual feelings & make mutual adjustments
Make sincere effort to avoid jealousy and Ego & revenge,be the first to make the other win the argument.( small trick I tell you…remember whoever does most talking is the one at fault )
Don’t deprive each other of your needs just to take the revenge
Keep communicating,by which I mean try to find where exactly things are going wrong.
Constantly tell to yourself….
Forget & forgive,
I can go also wrong,
live & let live,
let us make best,out of the difficult situation,
I trust you.
Finally
I asked an old man “which is more important? To love or to be loved?”
Old man replied “which is more important to a bird, the left wing or the right wing?” – MarriageHumor, InstagramA happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers – Robert Quillen
A perfect marriage is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.-yourtango.com
A marriage is a like a house. When a light bulb goes out, you do not go and buy a new house, you fix the light bulb. – Happy Wives Club
Marriage is meant to keep people together, not just when things are good, but particularly when they are not. That’s why we take marriage vows, not wishes. – Ngina Otiende
Any thoughts on being the Difficult Spouse ?
which of the above quotes ,you thing sends the perfect message ?
Thanks for being a patient reader and reaching this point.
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When an obnoxious and aggressive world displays its nuttiness just say to yourself, “I have
nothing to say to that.”
The world cries, “Give me your agreement or your disagreement but
whatever you do, don’t ignore me!”
Intelligently notice both outer and inner darkness then quietly ignore it. Switch your
attention back to the present moment with this powerful self-talk statement. You have
higher things to think about and darkness’s anguish is not your concern. Every “success”
darkness has is based on convincing you that its anguish is your concern. It wants you
involved with it, fighting it, trying to help it. Dare to reply instead, “I have nothing to say to
that!”
As The Daily Guru said once, “The resistance to the disturbance IS the disturbance.” Work
with this exercise this week. Notice how good you start to feel as you cease throwing fuel
on the initial disturbances – all those tiny little outer and inner fires that are very
significant until you react to them.
creditsThe Daily Guru
Image Ashish_Choudhary,Pixabay.
‘There are two reasons for drinking.
One is ,when you are thirsty,to cure it.
The other when you are not thirsty, to prevent it ……’
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In the recent discussion in blog articles about ‘Truth’ and meaning of ‘Absolute truth’ and ‘Relative truth, I realized that we forgot to discuss the role of ‘Maya’ ( illusion). Recently I came across an article in op ed of Deccan Chronicle,and thought it’s apt to understand the meaning of Maya (illusion),in our day to day life’ by sharing the same .
Before we proceed further, you should know that Sudama, is a childhood friend of Hindu Deity Lord Krishna.
One day Sudama wished to have a glimpse of God’s Maya (illusion). He had heard a lot about Maya but never understood what it was as he was always surrendered to God.
One day, he finally asked Lord Krishna, “What is Maya? What is the form of Maya? How does Maya untangle a man?” He directly sought answers of these questions from Lord Krishna and kept requesting him to show a glimpse of Maya.
Lord Krishna replied that when time comes he shall give him the answers and also show him Maya.
Then he said, “Let us go to Yamuna to take bath.” Both of them came to the banks of Yamuna to take bath. After taking bath, Lord Krishna started dressing in Yellow and in the meantime Sudama went to take a dip in water.
At the time of taking dip, Sudama felt that the river was flooded and he was being washed away in it. With great difficulty, by taking the help of a small Rock he came out of the river.
Perplexed and hungry, Sudama was roaming about and finally reached a village. There, an elephant garlanded him. People informed him that their King had died and it is their country’s rule that after the death of their king, whosoever is garlanded by the elephant would be the next king.
The coronation ceremony of Sudama was done.
After sometime, he got married and had two sons during the twelve years of his married life.
Thereafter, one day his wife passed away. Sudama started weeping in sorrow. People tried to console him.
They informed him that it was Mayapuri’s rule that he too would be sent wherever his wife went. He too would have to enter his wife’s funeral pyre.
Sudama was shell shocked to hear this. Now, he forgot mourning the demise of his wife and started weeping for himself. He said that since he was a foreigner, this rule should not be applicable to him.
When people did not listen to him and were making him sit in the pyre, he requested for permission to worship the river once last time. People allowed him to do that and sent four people to keep an eye on him.
Sudama could see death approaching him and in this fear, chanting Lord Krishna’s name, he took a dip in the river and came out crying. Just then, he saw Lord Krishna Standing and getting dressed in yellow. Lord Krishna asked Sudama as to why was he weeping.
Sudama was already stunned and when he saw Lord Krishna he was astonished too. He asked Krishna “Where did all that vanish? What all is happening? I am not able to understand anything.”
Lord Krishna said, “This is my Maya.” Maya means “forgetfulness”. Illusion, unreal, myth, ignorance, etc. are Maya. One who forgets me, the God, and thinks that the world is the only truth and is always engrossed in it, he is entrapped in Maya. Deeming the unrealistic world as real and considering Paramatma and self as to dual entities is Maya.
Despite living in the materialistic world, Maya could not touch Sudama till he was devoted or surrendered towards God but as soon as he forgot the God, he was trapped in Maya . In the same manner, worldly man forgetting God, gets entangled in Maya and spends the whole life experiencing joys and sorrows.
Despite living in the materialistic world, if we think of God at every moment (which is possible) then along with enjoying the bliss of God, we can live our worldly life too to the fullest.
Source Deccan chronicle – op ed
“In the world of relative truths and opinions, many opinions, viewpoints, possibilities and probabilities can coexist, and each can stand on its own merits in particular contexts and conditions. This is the truth of Truth. Every truth or principle is a possibility in some context, condition or situation. Sometimes you may find it worth fighting for and sometime not. Truth is an undulating wave on the surface of impermanence. You may call it by any name, but we consider it to be Maya, the deluding power of existence which hides in the play of light and shadow to create the illusion of something or the other. You will find it only in the unstable currents of life just as the sun light that reflects upon the waters of an ocean, but you cannot truly grasp its brilliance or immensity until you cross those waters and stand on the shore. ” Jayaram V.
Google images-Source-Apnisanskriti.com
RUN FOR ‘DEAR LIFE’
“Every morning in Africa a gazelle wakes up. It knows it must move faster than the lion or it will not survive. Every morning a lion wakes up and it knows it must move faster than the slowest gazelle or it will starve. It doesn’t matter if you are the lion or the gazelle, when the sun comes up, you better be moving.”
Maurice Greene (attributed to Roger Bannister shortly after running the first sub-4 m)
How do you feel about modern life of human beings?
Any different from animals?
As human beings we don’t literally do running, but Are we not into the ‘Rat race’ to ‘Survive’ at the cost of ‘peace of mind’ & ‘lack of Sleep’?
I am trapped into the rat race…which doesn’t seem to end,neither I am able to come out, in the middle of the race because there are no referees to allow this.
Please Give me your thoughts on how we are different and busy clinging to our lives,without any purpose.
To have this life,I need a heart beat, To have a heart beat ,I need a heart, To have a heart.I need happiness. To have happiness,I need You
Letters start with A-B-C
Numbers start with 1-2-3
Music starts with Do-Re-Mi
And Friendship starts with u & I
Wishing all the best to all of you my friends and may all your wishes be fulfilled.
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“People here are funny. They work so hard at living, they forget how to live.” ― Robert Riskin,derivative Pixabay
‘Rat Race’ according to Wikipedia
A rat race is an endless, self-defeating, or pointless pursuit. The phrase equates humans to rats attempting to earn a reward such as cheese, to no avail. It may also refer to a competitive struggle to get ahead financially or routinely.
Do I remember,when I joined the rat race ?
I am not sure,but I can recollect 1.My school days. 2.My college days.3 As an employee/consultant & 4. As I am aging.
My school days
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I hate to get up early in the morning,but sadly that is the routine.With Heavy school bag and daily grinding,it used to be a tiresome job.
And remember plenty of examination schedules and so much pressure from parents,to get the first rank ,not in one subject but all the subjects and throughout schooling and the competition among students was heavy,as to who gets the first rank,so that one can be in good books of the teachers,principal etc.
Even in the school sports schedules, there is no let up.One has to get some medal without fail.
So much of rat race in schooling days.Why the rat race in schools ?Any idea ? It’s only for better ranking so that admission to my preferred colleges is easier.
My college days
Those days
Parents wished me to become a doctor since it was a respectable profession in the society and also better financial prospects.
To get an admission into the Medical college is the toughest compared to getting admission into the Engineering course.So To fulfill my parent’s wish I had to be part of the rat race and since I got selected in the Medical profession,I thought I have won the race.But,lo behold,still the process has not ended.
But just MBBS qualification( 5 yrs course) alone is not enough.We have to get admitted to the post graduation courses like MD/MS etc ( 3 yrs course),followed by specialized courses (radiology,neurosurgery etc) of another 3 to 5 yrs.
So the struggle continued.
At last I have got all the qualifications required + License to practice.But as a professional,freshly qualified,how I am going to be a successful practitioner ?Already ,the society is over saturated with Medical Practitioners. How I am ging to compete ? So the rat race saga continues.
As an employee/consultant
It was tough to get a decent job initially.
And to be accepted by the society…takes hell lot of time.
Then there is prestige issue.
Oh ! you are a doctor,how come you don’t have a car? Do you work in any prestigious hospital ? Are you Residing in small flat ? Are you in a rental house? shame on you ! Come on it is below your dignity….
These are the observations and comments from the friends,patients and well wishers.
To achieve some respectability I am supposed to own a bungalow,a car,a driver,and I should have my own hospital….what not ?
Added to this is a new addition to the family with the expenses sky rocketing …
So I have to work hard and harder,do extra duty hours, attend emergency calls,do regular night duties, to earn that little extra so that I can have my dignity and respect in the society.
Is this not all for the false prestige ?? What about family time ? Where is the happiness ?
As I am aging
My liabilities are increasing,due to reasonable or unreasonable demands,with commercial advertisement and new product release, adding to the agony and there is no chance of winning or coming out of rat race.So, more loans, mortgages,more liabilities become part and parcel of LIFE !
In Ilias Tisagklis words
A person entrenched into the “Rat Race” is the “proud” owner of a time consuming job which he desperately needs in order to be able to pay mortgage, rent, bills, credit card debt and all kinds of liabilities”
Seventy-five years. That’s how much time you get if you’re lucky. Seventy-five years. Seventy-five winters, seventy-five springtimes, seventy-five summers, and seventy-five autumns. When you look at it like that, it’s not a lot of time, is it? Don’t waste them. Get your head out of the rat race and forget about the superficial things that pre-occupy your existence and get back to what’s important now.
Am I stuck in the quick sand ?
Probably one should remember the following quote in the early stages ……
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Finally
Methods for predicting the future: 1) read horoscopes, tea leaves, tarot cards, or crystal balls . . . collectively known as “nutty methods;” 2) put well-researched facts into sophisticated computer . . . commonly referred to as “a complete waste of time.” Scott Adams
Crystal Balls are famous for Crystal Gazing ,a methodology used by ‘Readers’ or ‘Seers’ in predicting your future and to tell fortunes, even guiding the clients to decide in solving their current problems.
Let me be crystal clear,I am not finding fault with believers of Astrology.Some times I look up for Heavenly advice,when in distress !
Simply put can Astrology guide our Life ? Do advertisers take advantage of these horoscope predictions…in otherwords do these predictions advice us to buy something so that life is is made simple ?
Positive aspects of daily,weekly & yearly horoscopes
Negative aspects of daily,weekly,yearly horoscopes
Forget about the future…..Are not the current problems your own making ?
Do you believe in planning your future based on the fortune teller ?
” Forecasting is the art of saying what will happen and then explaining why it didn’t happen “ Anonymous.
Do you remember Paul the Octopus,people used to depend on it to predict World cup football matches ?
Let us start living in the ‘present’ , forget the ‘past’ which is already a closed chapter, and not to worry about the ‘future’ which we know nothing about .
Are you interested to know the varieties of Astrology available to day ? It is said there are more than 80 branches of Astrology and you will be amazed !!!
Do you think Astrology can influence you, based on type of your Weakness ??
Astrology FAQs What are the different kinds of Astrology?
Please share your thoughts/experience on Astrology .
My sincere thanks for going through the article.
Searching for Peace of mind at Lord’s abode.
Present day life style makes us think that leading a ‘peaceful life’ is a distant dream…and I am glad you realised the truth.
The day you are born,you know that life brings lot of stress.At the end, you realise that it is impossible to be At peace with your mind,since you are aware that your mind is like a monkey….restless all the time resulting in piece of mind
” If you are depressed,you live in the past..
if you are anxious, you live in the future..
but if you are at PEACE…you live in the present “
Lao Tzu
What is ‘ Peace Of Mind ?’ Aka ‘peace’ ?
Thesaurus Dictionary says- it is the absence of mental stress or anxiety.
Wikipedia talks of Inner Peace,referring to a state of being Mentally & Spiritually at peace with enough knowledge and understanding to keep oneself strong in the face of discord or stress
Being at peace is considered by many to be healthy. Peace of mind is generally associated with bliss,happiness,and contentment.
But the question is how do you get the Peace Of Mind ?
Take my challenge and Try these 10 secrets, I am sharing and I am so sure it will be a disaster!
1.Keep calm and don’t be jealous.”Jeaulosy comes from,counting others blessings,instead of our own”Unknown
2.Don’t bite more than you can chew,because nobody looks attractive,spitting it back. ‘Carrol Bryant’
3.Don’t work for recognition,but do work,worthy of recognition ‘H.Jackson Brown Jr.’
4.Never tell your problem to anyone. 20% don’t care & 80% glad that you have them ‘Quora’
5.If you live for having it all,what you have is never enough. ‘Vicki Robin’
6.“Less is not necessarily more. Just enough is more.”
Milton Glaser”
7.There is a story behing every person.There is a reason why they are the way they are.Think about that before you judge someone. ‘pinerest’.
8.Forgive & Forget,but never forget to forgive,you may find a happier heart is the key to a happier life ‘Mahatma Gandhi’
9.Never put off tomorrow,what you can do today. ‘Thomas Jefferson’
10.To keep the body in good health is a duty..otherwise we shall not be able to keep our mind strong and clear ‘ Buddha’
Wise men have given plenty of such advices,my guess is being,a human being it is impossible to get peace of mind,even if you follow the wise sayings 100% and unfortunately for a change,I won the challenge !
Thank you so much for taking your time to go through and let me know if there is some more secrets to add.
The Four Stages Of Forgiveness
In India,August 2, Dada Vaswani’s birthday, is observed as Global Forgiveness Day.
Hand to shoulder
Always wonder what makes the INDIVIDUAL to put hand on other’s shoulder !
What is the feeling that makes one to do like this ?
Does this indicate closeness or even comfort level or a kind of assurance….I am not sure.
I am curious whether this kind of behavior seen in Western countries.
Westerners can give more insight into this aspect of human behaviour.
Key to failureFirst of all I do not understand why on the earth one has to go on and on……pleasing each and every one ! The fact is… even on many occasions you can’t please your own kith & Kin.
Let us not be serious all the time of the whole day ! Have some fun ! Remember today is Friday !
Some people ask the secret of our long marriage.We take time to go the restaurant two times a week.A little candle light ,dinner,soft music,and dancing.She goes on tuesdays,I go on Fridays – Henry Youngman
Thank God it’s Friday ! (TGIF)
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United we stand . Many times we come across funny coincidences but fail to notice..As you see in the above photo, both the lady and the tall gentleman probably trying to cross the road , concentrating the oncoming traffic.Both of them have their right hand kept on the waist ( the position one usually keeps, if one has backache ). Not only that, as you observe even the hand position and finger directions are also similar !
One God, many faces. One family, many races. One truth, many paths. One heart, many complexions. One light, many reflections. One world, many imperfections. ONE. We are all one, But many.” - Suzy Kassem, Rise Up and Salute the Sun: The Writings of Suzy Kassem
As you are busy with fast paced life , you are left with lots of tension,anxiety resulting in stress.you start thinking as if all the problems happening to you only.
Just relax.All of are undergoing the same, at one time or the other.You can neither run away from the problems, nor start dreaming of positive thoughts,The two popular advices..easier said than followed…
Just listen to the quotes by unknown and known wise souls.
If a problem can be solved, no need to worry about it. If a problem cannot be solved what is the use of worrying?
Worries and tensions are like birds , We cannot stop them from flying near us, But we can certainly stop them from making a nest in our mind.
The tension you feel from one person may be the tension you are causing for another.
Worrying does not take away tomorrow’s troubles. It takes away today’s peace.
Stress is the trash of modern life we all generate it, but if you don’t dispose of it properly, it will pile up and overtake your life.
Maturity is achieved when a person accepts life as full of tension. – Joshua L. Liebman
Stress is caused by being ‘here’ but wanting to be ‘there.’
– Eckhart Tolle
How beautiful it is to do nothing, and then to rest afterward.
– Spanish proverb
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1.Keep Smiling ( In other words Be Happy ).
Remember Bob Marleys song Don’t worry ,be happy ?
2.Think Positively ( in other words Lift yourself )
Both according to me are Myths.
Now let us analyse these two in the Real Life
Keep Smiling & Be Happy :
Happiness is a kind of Magnet, we get attracted .
we are used to believe that Happiness is achieved when we get things what we wished for and one can see the smile on our faces.
How long the happiness stays ? One minute,one day,one month,one year or through out our life ?
The demand for happiness is never ending.And the irony is ,you cann’t be happy all the time, since your wishes are unending.
Just think that
1.We can not control our thoughts,created at the time of unplesant happenings in our life.
2.You cann’t pretend to be happy when the results are not as per your plans.
3.What ever happens to you for whatever reason….You & I know that it’s only time being and life goes on with newer challenges to face.
4.When you are unhappy, consciously( outer world) you may give broad smile to others,but you cann’t defeat the thought of unhappiness,since discontent at subconscious ( inner world ) level is waiting to exploit the situation to further sadness..
5.Happily ever after happens only in ‘Fairy tales’ and in ‘Reel Life’ (Hollywood,Bollywood) rather than in ‘Real Life ‘
My take is ….. If you are Unhappy,Accept it,bear it and simply move on , rather than keeping the Fake Smile or acting brave etc.
Think Positively:
It is the single most influencing stuff ,storming the entire world and 21 century version of ‘Be happy’ model.
Think positively – is a kind of ‘Reassuring’ yourself that nothing is going to be wrong and the problems get solved themselves.Nothing more dangerous than this attitutde.
Remember your problem is yours alone,it is going to be there,and mere positive thinking not going to help and you alone have to solve the problem to get peace of mind.
Inspiration-Rebecca Hass
So your mindset is more powerful than the routine ‘Be positive’ psyche. It is OK not to be positive at times,since the situation you are facing not necessary end in happiness.
My take is…..
If you have time and patience you can go through this link and realize why positive thinking is a waste of time and not practicle……… Don’t miss reading Steve Neale tells about the scandal of ‘Positive Thinking’
The myth of positive thinking and the Universe
Thank you so much for taking your time to go through.
Having A Heart
Happiness is……having a heart-to – heart with someone you trust
Ego, n. “A person’s sense of self-esteem or self-importance”
Everyone of us have some amount of ego,it’s a fact.
Let us accept it.
And if somebody claims that he or she is does not have ego,it’s certain that this person is lying.
Anyone who’s successful, whatever way it has been achieved has a certain amount of ego and it is the truth.
Ego is the illusion created by our thoughts and none of us are immune from it.
Even persons with humility,on occassion succumbs to Ego.
“True humility is not thinking less of yourself; it is thinking of yourself less.”
– C.S. Lewis
Dear friends what is your take on EGO ?
Talent is God-given, be humble. Fame is man-given, be thankful. Conceit is self-given, be careful.
John Wooden
1.The secret of happiness is not in doing what one likes,but in liking what one does.
‘James M. Barrie’
2.Doing what you like is freedom.Liking what you do is happiness.
‘Frank Tyger’
3.There is no way to happiness.Happiness is the way.
‘Thich Nhat Nanh’
4. People are just as happy as they make up their minds to be.
‘Abraham Lincoln’.
5.Thousands of candles can be lighted from a single candle,and the life of the candle will not be shortened, happiness never decreases by being shared.
Buddha
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Are you happy all the time ?
What do you think of ‘feeling happy & ”being happy’ ?
If you are happy, do you also think that,you should make others happy ?
Is it a must that you should make others happy too ?
What is your happiness Quotient ?
Can Preachers help us geting happiness ?
Internet gives us billions of definition and meaning.But how to apply these on individual basis ?
I can go on and on
What is your answer ?
If you ask me ..frankly I don’t have an answer.
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