This is how I wish to live in my next life.

“In my next life I want to live my life backwards.

You start out dead and get that out of the way.

Then you wake up in an old people’s home feeling better every day.

You get kicked out for being too healthy, go collect your pension, and then when you start work, you get a gold watch and a party on your first day.

You work for 40 years until you’re young enough to enjoy your retirement.

You party, drink alcohol, and are generally promiscuous, then you are ready for high school.

You then go to primary school, you become a kid, you play. You have no responsibilities, you become a baby until you are born.

And then you spend your last 9 months floating in luxurious spa-like conditions with central heating and room service on tap, larger quarters every day and then Voila! You finish off as an orgasm!”

Sean Morey

Thank you

Philosophy Through Photography

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Soar High

soar high

The wings of Hope carry us,soaring high above the driving winds of Life Ana Jacob

We all know that Life is not a fairytale that ends Happily ever after.

Life is composed of ups and downs.

There are several situations where we plan to the precision but when our wish is not coming true, we as humans get devastated.

And in some situations just reverse-what ever you wished can happen to your surprise.

“Life has many ways of testing a persons’ will.either by having nothing happen at all or by having everything happen all at once Paulo Coelho

Every day your life keeps you challenging at the drop of a hat ! But remember not to allow these challenges to put you down.

Never make comparisons.You don’t know the difficulties faced by the other person before he became successful.

“You aren’t going to find anybody that’s going to be successful without making a sacrifice and without perseverance.” Lou Holtz

Make best use of life,take everything that is offered to you ,because you know pretty well at the end something good is going to happen.

“If you can’t fly then run, if you can’t run then walk, if you can’t walk then crawl, but whatever you do you have to keep moving forward.” Martin Luther King, Jr.

If you want to soar high in the life,you have to give up the things and people that weigh you down. Rashida Rowe quotes

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Can you survive loneliness ? ?

Friendship

Great friendship enhances the quality of life.

Deep and lasting friendships don’t  just happen.They require focus,energy,patience,and skill to form and maintain.

Good friends will enhance your journey through life in more ways than you can imagine.

Invest in a few. You don’t need a lot. This is one of those cases when quality is more important than quantity.

unknown

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Philosophy Through Photography

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So thankful

Be thankful,

For if we did not learn a lot to-day,

At least we learned a little,

And if we did not learn a little,

At least we did not get sick,

And if we got sick,

At least we didn’t die,

So be thankful.

Gautama Buddha

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Can you answer this ? (Questions series No-7)

Is this true ??

To be happy with a man,you must understand him a lot and love him a little.To be happy with a Woman,you must love her a lot and try not to understand her at all.

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International Day of Happiness March 20 th

International Day of Happiness

What is International Day of Happiness ?

It’s a day to be happy, of course!

Of course ,as humans we try our level best to be happy through out our lives.

But have we at any time remember somebody,who keep us happy most of the times?

Do we even make an attempt to recognize such people ? The moment your happiness is over…you tend to forget those responsible for your happiness !

I am fortunate that there is somebody who makes me happy,smile & laugh and I recognize this fact and I am thankful to this person .Of course these things can’t happen without Almighty’s blessings.

Since 2013, the United Nations has celebrated the International Day of Happiness as a way to recognize the importance of happiness in the lives of people around the world.

The United Nations invites each person of any age,plus every classroom,business and government to join in celebration of the International Day of Happiness

Suppose no body is there for you to achieve happiness…what would you do ?

The formula is  simple !!

“Happiness equals to reality minus expectations”  Tom Magliozzi

Thank you

Philosophy Through Photography

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Can you answer this ? (Questions series No-5)

“The heart does things for reasons that reason can’t understand.”

Jacques Benigne Bossel

Why,reason is helpless to understand the feelings of the heart ?

Why heart is overtaking  and dominating everything ?

Thank you

Philosophy Through Photography

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Are you sad ?

Are yu sad ?

Some days are just bad days,that’s all.You have to experience sadness to know happiness,and I remind myself that not every day is going to be a good day,that’s just the way it is !  Dita Von Teese     

“It is popularly believed that sadness is due to certain things that happens to us. The cause of sadness is often traced to misfortune,hardship or humiliation

In truth all sadness is from within.

Sadness is the result of our inner attitude towards outer happenings”.

Dada J P Vaswani

The reasons for sadness are many. And all of you know.

Reaction to sadness varies from person to person and depends on how sensitive the person is.

Sadness can break the person completely and even push into suicidal tendencies.

Some cry to get relief,some indulge in self harming,some manage the show by fake smile,but still many are unable to come out of the feelings.

We all should realise that nothing is permanent in this life. Change is the way of life.

Whether it is sadness or happiness it won’t last forever and comes alternatively and this is nature’s law. Every thing changes over the time and time is the greatest healer!

Whatever may be the reason for sadness…never keep the emotions inside. Remember it’s like a time bomb.

What is the solution ?

Yes solution available.

A sad person needs another person who understands him/her 100%

The sad person just needs this person on whom he/she can lean on and cry their hearts out. Believe me the relief is instant !

Dear friends,please share your thoughts.

Thank you

Philosophy Through Photography

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Stressed? Think of Romantic Friendship !

Romantic Friendship

There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement and acceptance.” John Lennon

This is a 2.7 minute read.Please proceed if you can spare this much time.

Before I start the discussion,it’s better we know the definition of ‘Romantic Friendship’.

According to ‘Wikipedia’

“A romantic friendship, passionate friendship, or affectionate friendship is a very close but typically non-sexual relationship between friends,often involving a degree of physical closeness beyond that which is common in the contemporary Western Societies. It may include for example holding hands,cuddling,hugging,kissing,giving massages,  and sharing a bed, or  co-sleeping, without sexual intercourse or other physical sexual expression”

Yourdictionary.com says

“An intensely emotional love relationship between two unrelated people, in which sexuality  is unimportant and typically absent, but there is greater physical affection or poetic communication than is typical for friendship”

Can we include online Friendship ( since we are into the digital revolution with social media,online-video/chat,making new online friends etc ) into the above definitions ? I am not sure.

How nice it’s when the truly understanding relationship takes a vow, as said below !

“The best love is the kind that awakens the soul and makes us reach more,that plants a fire in our hearts and brings peace to our minds.And that’s what you’ve given me.That’s what I’d hoped to give you forever”  Nicholas Sparks

But then….all are not fortunate and there has to be a kind of ‘vibe’ or as some one brilliantly  coined the term ‘ Familiar vibe’,  or  Mutual ‘resonance’ between the partners or friends or relationships.Plato’s quote is apt.

“Every heart sings a song, incomplete, until another heart whispers back. Those who wish to sing always find a song. At the touch of a lover, everyone becomes a poet.” Plato.

True friends really make a big influence on their individual lives in times of stress.

And What did John Lennon Say about friendship and its impact on Life and how this true friendship keeps you smiling ?

“Count your age by friends, not years. Count your life by smiles, not tears”.

A recent study published in the journal Psychophysiology suggests that simply imagining love & support from your significant other can boost your stress management skills.Check this link.

Thinking About Partners Reduces Stress-Study

Please share your thoughts on this subject .

Thank You

Philosophy Through Photography

 

“We don’t laugh because we’re happy, we are happy because we laugh”. William James

“Laugh and the world laughs with you,snore and you sleep alone”         Anthony Burgess

Always smile

Keep laughing whenever it is possible.

Make your surroundings lighter with your laughter.

Spend time with people who bring joy and happiness along with laughter !

Thank you

Philosophy Through Photography

 

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A good laugh and a long sleep are the best cures in the doctor’s book. – Irish proverb

But then who cares !

Seven days without laughter makes one weak. Mort Walker

It’s a 3.4 minute read.

Have you studied the facial expressions in the above photos ?

They are all laughing…their heads off ! This is happening irrespective of their age.This laugh is spontaneous and heartful.Since you are smart, you know that it is not a fake laugh.

Being intelligent, you also noticed that, some of them have closed their eyes,indicating total involvement and contentment of the situation they are in and the life they are living at that moment !

“A smile is the beginning of laughter,and laughter is the feeling of being happy,which we all need every day” ! Byron Pulsifer

Don’ take life seriously,start having fun ,what ever way you wish and have at least one good laugh every day !

Have a hearty laugh at every available situations be amusing or funny.Even recollect something funny that happened in your life and laugh and laugh and laugh.

I love friends who make us happy by their laughter and who are also jovial.

And I am lucky to have lovely online friends,who make my life burden lighter with their humour.

Advantages of Laughter –brings down the stress level,Reduces the Blood pressure,Your worries gone for sometime,You are also spending the calories,even improve the immune system

A hearty laugh gives one a dry cleaning, while a good cry is a wet wash.
Puzant Kevork Thomajan

And talking about sound sleep ……. Lack of sleep is common in modern society.

From the interactions I had with a few WP readers,I realised that some of them are able to respond/reply/comment mostly during past midnight ( people from my part of the Indian Subcontinent ). I am not here for any judgment,since I know nothing of their schedule etc,but I wonder what is the mood like during that time, and how their next day is going to be and also the consequences on their health status in the long run.

Reduced sleep

Disturbed sleep ( insomnia) or Lack of sleep ( Sleep deprivation).

1.Insomnia is a sleep disorder due to psychological or health problems and one has to consult the physician for the cure.

2.Lack of sleep is human making.You get ready answer as to why one is not able to sleep enough.

Lack of sleep affects your immune system.( I don’t want to go into medical /scientific details).If you want your immune system to work at its best…then get the needed amount of sleep every night Don’t give excuses of stress etc.

On the contrary,good sleep reduces your stress level !

Don’t depend on sedatives or tranquilizers ! Remember lack of sleep makes you depressed.

“Sometimes it is difficult to remember, but other times it is very easy to remember. Sleep deprivation is the killer”. Andy Samberg

Please share your thoughts and views
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Life isn’t perfect,but it has perfect moments

Life is n't perfect,but it has perfect moments

It is not the years in your life but the life in your years that counts  Adlai stevensony 

We all know that Life can never be ‘Instagram Perfect’.

But still,why we all make our life miserable ?

1.Because we worry about future which is unknown.

2..We quarrel among ourselves for what happened yesterday,who is responsible etc and trying to blame others or ourselves in the process.Yesterday is past….and nothing can be done,but still we worry for the things that happened.

3. We forget to be happy  today conveniently because we have something or other priorities to attend.

Things don’t happen as per our wish,not readily waiting for us on the silver platter.

Do you remember the quote”Good things come to those who wait” It is nothing but rubbish.Life is never kind and it owes us nothing.There is no such thing called ‘Happy Life’ and my point is that you have to ‘live’  in the moment and make your life ‘Happy’

“It’s not a case of finding the meaning of the moments,but giving the moments meaning”. Steven Redhe

This life is our own and it resonates how you want it to live.If you want it to be miserable ..it’s the way it’s going to be for you.

“you can frame a moment,But you can’t frame life”    Armin Houman

‘Hope’ is good,no doubt it sustains us but then we should make attempts to make that hope a reality by living in the ‘moment’

Then how not to feel miserable in life ? My thoughts are simple.

1.Stop over thinking.

2.Stop judging others.

3.Remember,nothing under your control.Just move along the flow

4.Avoid the mentality of perfectionist.

5.Stop criticizing.You know only part of the story.

6.Avoid negative thoughts .

7.Most importantly stop comparing yourself.

Thank you

Philosophy Through Photography

 

 

Hardest thing in this world is……

Hardest thing in the world is ...

I know you are tempted to say ‘Diamond’ !

True to some extent.Diamonds symbolize Status,Love,strength( hardness), beauty and Prosperity.

It’s also interesting to know why  60 th wedding anniversary is called ‘Diamond Anniversary’ ?.It’s because of longevity of the couple’s relationship both in times of happiness and difficulties and the marriage surviving this long of 60 yrs without break up in relationship, a toughest job indeed in the modern day philosophy of ‘divorce’ at the drop of a hat.

Do you want to know which is tougher than Diamond ?

“True Love and Loyal Friends are two of the toughest things to find.”   Unknown

Whichever part of the world you are in ,remember,never underestimate the power of true love and loyal friends.

Be a true lover & don’t lose loyal friends.

To all my WP friends…

Happy Valentine’s Day 

Thank you

Philosophy Through Photography

 

Global warming of different kind

Global warming of different kind

Don’t hesitate to spread the warmth whatever may be your situation ! 

“Warm weather fosters growth.Cold weather destroys it.Thus a man with an unsympathetic temperament has scanty joy:But a man with a warm and friendly heart is overflowing with blessings,and his beneficence will extend to posterity.” Hung Tzu-Ch’Eng

 

“Even more important than the warmth and affection we receive,is the warmth and affection we give,It is by giving warmth and affection,by having a genuine sense of concern for others,in other words through compassion,that we gain the conditions for genuine happiness.More important than being loved,therefore is to love.” Dalai Lama

 

“Each of us is responsible for creating an environment of warmth and consideration for those we love.I have always tried to define a good day not in terms of one in which all things were made right and comfortable for me but rather,as a day in which I have been able to make another’s day more loving,and special for them.We must treat each other  with dignity.Not because we merit it,but because we grow best in thoughtfulness.” Leo Buscaglia

 

Finally

“A woman at 20 is like ice, at 30 she is warm and at 40 she is hot.” Gina Lollobrigida

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How long online friendship lasts ?

How long online frienship lasts ?

One of the most beautiful qualities of true friendship is to understand and to be understood. Lucius Annaeus Seneca

It’s a 4.5 minute read,if you have patience proceed..

Before we proceed further let us understand ‘friendship’.

“Friendship is a best ship which can lead you on world tour”   unknown

It takes roughly 200 hours to become best friends with someone,    according to science. Can you sustain it afterwards ?

Say 6 months ? 1 yr…..3 yrs…..7 yrs…. Or till one of them decides to knock the Heavens door ?

Don’t you think… friendship is a complicated relationship among people ?

It can last from one day to…. life long !

“Friendship isn’t about whom you have known the longest…it’s about who came, and never left your side” unknown.

It is said that true friendship is possible,having similar wavelengths,and  the two sharing their true feelings, whether a happy or sad situation in an honest way,at the same time maintaining the confidentiality,helpful to each other whenever possible and not interfering unnecessarily into their personal matters.

with the invention of internet and followed by online chat facilities…..both distant & near friendship became ONLINE

What is online friendship ?( Unknown to each other initially )

It is communication between two unknown friends exclusively via internet.With the advent of social media,video chats etc,it became easier, simpler and importantly faster to develop online friendship.

What is great about online friendship ?

1.You can develop confidence in yourself.  2. Get support in times of depression (morally). 3.Emotional bond.  4.Can add value to your life.

Is it necessary for online friends to interact face to face  ?

Depends on the parties concerned. It is said that for friendship to be real,better they have face to face interaction and be honest with each other.

Can one trust online friendship ?

How sure are you that the other side person is true to what he or she,as they describe themselves ?

But remember,It is not all that easy to find right kind of person and probably you should think twice and must be lucky !

Initially it may be touch and go ,but make sure you listen to your sixth sense.Suspicions apart,I think if both of them are on the same wavelengths,the friendship can boost and lasts longer.

Can online friendship between man and woman possible ?

If the friends happens to be man and woman,it all the more imperative that they know their limits and keep things cool.We also come across many examples of people falling in love and taking the friendship to next level and break up later.Ultimately it is up to them to decide how to maintain the relationship to be long-lasting.

If both parties intend to have fun ( online ),share the moments,having jokes,exchanging the ideas,making recommendations,suggestions, even helping each other’s in difficult situations,(need not be financial),and may or may not be serious in taking the friendship to next level…..it can still be a lot of fun!

What about age factor?

I  am not sure.For teenagers the relationship is obvious. For Middle aged people it can be different meaning.For older people they are in need of affection & some body to talk to.

What if friends happen to be young & aged?

It is up to the individuals concerned to continue or stop depending upon the individual feelings and priorities.I am not able to guess really and internet search giving different opinions.

And the secret of lasting online friendship ?

In order to achieve lasting friendship,I think a continuous communication is important.I feel it should be on a daily basis at regular intervals.

The beauty of online friendship is that you don’t know the other person, personally and your imaginations run wild !( if you are not into video mode the fun is much greater)You are in your own virtual world,enjoying every minute ! The discussion can even be a deep personal conversation !

My take…long-lasting online friendship is possible, provided

1.If the parties develop mutual TRUST and be HONEST (not exploiting).Don’t overdo  chats or get addicted.

2.Be frank and have an open communication.Have a regular chat schedule  ( timing is important,both the parties must allot mutually convenient time) and keep in touch,know each other even better.

3. Be a good listener and appreciate the other party when the person deserves the same.

4.Give importance to the common bond.

5.Don’t be possessive.Tune down your ego to ZERO

6.If possible turn online friend into a real life True friend.

What is your experience with unknown online friends ?

Would you like to add any more suggestions ? please go ahead.

Thank you . Philosophy Through Photography

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What makes people feel most loved ?

Though life is fair to us,always we feel we are missing something and we are unhappy most of the times.

Less said better especially about love.

“The only thing we never get enough of is love; and the only thing we

never give enough of is love”.

Henry Miller

If you feel the Love, I think, that is, the most beautiful thing to happen in the world and you are lucky !

Suppose if you want to make somebody feel the love …that is even a memorable !

What makes YOU feel most loved ?

what makes you feel most loved

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Please see this video clip and tell your version.( worthy 4 minutes )

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Family Quarrel

family quarrel

No family is perfect ! We argue,we fight,we even stop talking to each other at times,but in the end family is family….the love will always be there. quoteslover.com

Definition :To quarrel is to fight — but usually not physically.

Quarreling is a fact of life, occurring between the best of friends, in the happiest of marriages, and between parents and their children. vocabulary.com

It is a disagreement about something.

Why we quarrel in the very first place ?

Somewhere I read ( I am not able to recollect the source) what is known as BIG 5 causing friction, leading to argument. 1.Money, 2.sex, 3.raising kids, 4.in-laws and 5.house/office work.Of course one can broaden the BIG 5 into various sub-classes.

Disagreement can lead from just anger to outburst of pent-up feelings.

The quarrels can stretch from very few initially to increased frequency over the time.

The reasons can be from silly to far serious issues.

The whole problem is because none is willing to admit their mistakes, continue the arguments,even competing with each other, with ego factor playing an active role.

Whenever there is dispute remember,

“Family problems come in all sizes and shapes.Some are short-lived,easily managed,while others are more chronic and difficult to handle” unknown

What I am trying to tell is that it takes time to deal the problems and one must be patient.One must realize that,

“Families and their problems go on and they are not solved….they are dealt with”. Roger Ebert,

When we are friendly with the entire world ( don’t say…. this is because of survival instinct ),why can’t we show same friendliness to our family members?

You know the old adage

“You can choose the friends,but you can’t choose the family”

In other words,since blood is thicker than water, all the more you can’t afford to quarrel with your family members.

How best to avoid family quarrels ?

Some tips which I think,can help! ( My 12 commandments )

1.Stay calm in spite of the urge to respond angrily.Never raise your voice.

2.Be a good listener.

3.Reduce your emotional scale to zero.

4.Let there not be communication gap.Make it clear as to what the other person is saying and meaning.

5.Impress the other person,what actually you meant or intended to do.

6.Never bring the past or unrelated issues.

7.Try to solve the problem and not to win the argument.

8.Put yourself in the others shoes.

9.Don’t stockpile your issues and vent at a stretch irrelevantly.

10.forget & forgive

11.Take it easy.

12.Have faith in the Lord.

“Problems are like washing machines,they twist us,spin us,knock us around but in the end,we come out cleaner,brighter and better than before” – unknown

What are your thoughts ?

Thank you.   Philosophy through photography

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Love is scarce- Really ?

The only thing we never get enough of is love; and the only thing we

never give enough of is love.

Henry Miller

Why this happens ?

We all  think that, Love means romance.But it is not so.

There are 7 types of love.

  1. Storge- Familial love
  2. Phila-friendship ( shared goodwill)
  3. Eros-Sexual or passionate love
  4. Agape-Universal love ( unconditional love)
  5. Ludus-Playful or uncommitted love
  6. Pragma- Long term love ( married people)
  7. Philautia-self love ( healthy or unhealthy)

( source Psychologytoday.com, Quora)

My discussion is limited to the married couple.

Think for a second.

Can you tell  the difference between ‘school and life‘ ?

” In school you are taught a lesson and then given a test.

  In life,you are given a test,that teaches you the lesson” Tom Bodett

So what I am trying to tell is Life gives an opportunity to learn lessons  from our experience, in this situation….. day to day problems faced by the couple,thus making them more accommodating,understanding and helpful to each other.

Thus we can become wiser by experiencing these experiences.

But here is the hitch.

The problem comes in the unknown form of ‘E G O nullifying all the benefits of life’s lessons,which we learn over the course of time.

Why can’t we make an attempt to look into this ? Why can not we prevent this disease before it strikes us ?

When we are able to manage life style diseases with sugar-free,fat-free,salt free,gluten-free etc. etc….why can’t we give a try for Ego- free ?

The only way to achieve peace and harmony is becoming ‘EGO LESS’,

and this should be the  ultimate outcome of your life’s lessons,if you

are willing to learn.

Another aspect is ,to be able to differentiate, the difference between love & Possession.Don’t think ,just because you love the person…you got right to possess the person.( as if the person is a property)

Remember love is selfless,coming from the bottom of the heart with total dedication,sincerity and commitment to lead a supportive life together.

And so…..

We make our life miserable because we never make an attempt to understand the full potential of true love,and thus we make ‘love’ scarce in spite of its abundance.

True Love gives you, the real experience of what all you dream and

Ego gives you, all the heartache.

“A flower cannot blossom without sunshine, and man cannot live without love”. – Max Muller

 

Are you the ‘Difficult Spouse’ ?

Unhappy coule
Real relationships are not perfect and perfect relationships are not real !!

If you are a wife or husband and on many occasions you think you are disappointed because of the other…..and think the other is the ‘difficult spouse’…. then this article is for you.

I am thankful to you if you felt there is something wrong in either of the parties and the mistake can be rectified easily.

There are two types of marriages.( Marriages are made in heaven.Is itn’t ?)

1.Love marriage

2.Arranged marriage ( In most of the eastern countries )

Irrespective of the type of marriage,both the man and the woman of his love have to adjust with each other in order to be compatible.

In fact, post marriage life is full of challenges and it exposes the couple to myriads of issues.

But we all know the truth.

One day or other both the man & the woman have to face unpleasant situation of opposing & different opinions and views, in matters of their day-to-day ‘living together’

The reality of the so-called colourful future has to show its fangs,since it is waiting to strike first !

Once the misunderstanding happens and prolongs….There are two options available

  1. You decided you are not going to adjust at all...then Apply for divorce and probably matter can come to end to the mutual satisfaction,and thus ending the very discussion I am trying to make.
  2. If the above choice is not the option due to so many other pressing matters,( which is a bit lengthy topic, for some other time discussion ) and you both have to live together,and you have to go along with the spouse….thus making the ‘misunderstanding part’ useless and even unnecessary.

Why to quarrel at all in the first place ?

Now it’s time to think.

1.Realize that ‘ married happily ever after ‘ is an illusion ( Maya )
2.Understand that Wife & Husband belong to the same team and they have to work

together for the success of their married life.

“Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor. For if either of them falls, the one will lift up his companion. But woe to the one who falls when there is not another to lift him up.

Ecclesiastes4.9-10

3.We often hurt our spouse knowingly or unknowingly.Do you know the solution ? Ask for ‘forgiveness’ whole heartedly.

4.When Anger or Helplessness happens to one of you…just take a deep breath and allow the heated moment to pass.Don’t forget.. time’s the greatest healer.

5.Remember marriage is a vow,before God.

Now it’s time to put the following into action.

Don’t allow discord to remain ,not more than one minute,and your anger not more than a second.

Don’t be bossy and do not take one another for granted.

Respect individual feelings & make mutual adjustments

Make sincere effort to avoid jealousy and Ego & revenge,be the first to make the other win the argument.( small trick I tell you…remember whoever does most talking is the one at fault )

Don’t deprive each other of your needs just to take the revenge

Keep communicating,by which I mean try to find where exactly things are going wrong.

Constantly tell to yourself….

Forget & forgive,

I can go also wrong,

live & let live,

let us make best,out of the difficult situation,

I trust you.

Finally

I asked an old man “which is more important? To love or to be loved?”
Old man replied “which is more important to a bird, the left wing or the right wing?” – MarriageHumor, Instagram

A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers – Robert Quillen

A perfect marriage is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.-yourtango.com

A marriage is a like a house. When a light bulb goes out, you do not go and buy a new house, you fix the light bulb. – Happy Wives Club

Marriage is meant to keep people together, not just when things are good, but particularly when they are not. That’s why we take marriage vows, not wishes. – Ngina Otiende

 

Any thoughts on being the Difficult Spouse ?

which of the above quotes ,you thing sends the perfect message ?

Thanks for being a patient reader and reaching this point.

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Ignore the ‘Agressive World’

Agressive world

When an obnoxious and aggressive world displays its nuttiness just say to yourself, “I have

nothing to say to that.”

 

The world cries, “Give me your agreement or your disagreement but

whatever you do, don’t ignore me!”

 

Intelligently notice both outer and inner darkness then quietly ignore it. Switch your

attention back to the present moment with this powerful self-talk statement. You have

higher things to think about and darkness’s anguish is not your concern. Every “success”

darkness has is based on convincing you that its anguish is your concern. It wants you

involved with it, fighting it, trying to help it. Dare to reply instead, “I have nothing to say to

that!”

 

As The Daily Guru said once, “The resistance to the disturbance IS the disturbance.” Work

with this exercise this week. Notice how good you start to feel as you cease throwing fuel

on the initial disturbances – all those tiny little outer and inner fires that are very

significant until you react to them.

creditsThe Daily Guru

Image Ashish_Choudhary,Pixabay.

‘Observations’ of Beer Holder

Beer

‘There are two reasons for drinking.

One is ,when you are thirsty,to cure it.

The other when you are not thirsty, to prevent it ……’

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We see What we want to see & feel great about ourselves…. (and love to remember the Almighty only during agony)

Maya ( Illusion)

In the recent discussion in blog articles about ‘Truth’ and meaning of ‘Absolute truth’ and ‘Relative truth, I realized that we forgot to discuss the role of ‘Maya’ ( illusion). Recently I came across an article in op ed of Deccan Chronicle,and thought it’s apt to understand the meaning of Maya  (illusion),in our day to day life’ by sharing the same .

Before we proceed further, you should know that Sudama, is a childhood friend of Hindu Deity Lord Krishna.

One day Sudama wished to have a glimpse of God’s Maya (illusion). He had heard a lot about Maya but never understood what it was as he was always surrendered to God.

One day, he finally asked Lord Krishna, “What is Maya? What is the form of Maya? How does Maya untangle a man?” He directly sought answers of these questions from Lord Krishna and kept requesting him to show a glimpse of Maya.

Lord Krishna replied that when time comes he shall give him the answers and also show him Maya.

Then he said, “Let us go to Yamuna to take bath.”  Both of them came to the banks of Yamuna to take bath. After taking bath, Lord Krishna started dressing in Yellow and in the meantime Sudama went to take a dip in water.

At the time of taking dip, Sudama felt that the river was flooded and he was being washed away in it. With great difficulty, by taking the help of a small Rock he came out of the river.

Perplexed and hungry, Sudama was roaming about and finally reached a village. There, an elephant garlanded him. People informed him that their King had died and it is their country’s rule that after the death of their king, whosoever is garlanded by the elephant would be the next king.

The coronation ceremony of Sudama was done.

After sometime, he got married and had two sons during the twelve years of his married life.

Thereafter, one day his wife passed away. Sudama started weeping in sorrow. People tried to console him.

They informed him that it was Mayapuri’s rule that he too would be sent wherever his wife went. He too would have to enter his wife’s funeral pyre.

Sudama was shell shocked to hear this. Now, he forgot mourning the demise of his wife and started weeping for himself. He said that since he was a foreigner, this rule should not be applicable to him.

When people did not listen to him and were making him sit in the pyre, he requested for permission to worship the river once last time. People allowed him to do that and sent four people to keep an eye on him.

Sudama could see death approaching him and in this fear, chanting Lord Krishna’s name, he took a dip in the river and came out crying. Just then, he saw Lord Krishna Standing and getting dressed in yellow. Lord Krishna asked Sudama as to why was he weeping.

Sudama was already stunned and when he saw Lord Krishna he was astonished too. He asked Krishna “Where did all that vanish? What all is happening? I am not able to understand anything.”

Lord Krishna said, “This is my Maya.” Maya means “forgetfulness”. Illusion, unreal, myth, ignorance, etc. are Maya. One who forgets me, the God, and thinks that the world is the only truth and is always engrossed in it, he is entrapped in Maya. Deeming the unrealistic world as real and considering Paramatma and self as to dual entities is Maya.

Despite living in the materialistic world, Maya could not touch Sudama till he was devoted or surrendered towards God but as soon as he forgot the God, he was trapped in Maya . In the same manner, worldly man forgetting God, gets entangled in Maya and spends the whole life experiencing joys and sorrows.

Despite living in the materialistic world, if we think of God at every moment (which is possible) then along with enjoying the bliss of God, we can live our worldly life too to the fullest.

Source Deccan chronicle – op ed

“In the world of relative truths and opinions, many opinions, viewpoints, possibilities and probabilities can coexist, and each can stand on its own merits in particular contexts and conditions. This is the truth of Truth. Every truth or principle is a possibility in some context, condition or situation. Sometimes you may find it worth fighting for and sometime not. Truth is an undulating wave on the surface of impermanence. You may call it by any name, but we consider it to be Maya, the deluding power of existence which hides in the play of light and shadow to create the illusion of something or the other. You will find it only in the unstable currents of life just as the sun light that reflects upon the waters of an ocean, but you cannot truly grasp its brilliance or immensity until you cross those waters and stand on the shore. ” Jayaram V.

Google images-Source-Apnisanskriti.com

 

Oh Life ! My Dear Life !

Dear life,My life,Survival of the fittest,run for dear life

RUN FOR ‘DEAR LIFE’

 “Every morning in Africa a gazelle wakes up. It knows it must move faster than the lion or it will not survive. Every morning a lion wakes up and it knows it must move faster than the slowest gazelle or it will starve. It doesn’t matter if you are the lion or the gazelle, when the sun comes up, you better be moving.”

Maurice Greene (attributed to Roger Bannister shortly after running the first sub-4 m)

How do you feel about modern life of human beings?

Any different from animals?

As human beings we don’t literally do running, but Are we not into the  ‘Rat race’ to ‘Survive’ at the cost of ‘peace of mind’ & ‘lack of Sleep’?

I am trapped into the rat race…which doesn’t seem to end,neither I am able to come out,   in the middle of the race because there are no referees to allow this.

Please Give me your thoughts on how we are different and busy clinging to our lives,without any purpose.

 

U & I

You & I,Friendship.friends

To have this life,I need a heart beat, To have a heart beat ,I need a heart, To have a heart.I need happiness. To have happiness,I need You

U & I

Letters start with A-B-C

Numbers start with 1-2-3

Music starts with Do-Re-Mi

And Friendship starts with u & I

 

Wishing all the best to all of you my friends and may all your wishes be fulfilled.

 

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Are you still in the ‘Rat race’ ?

Rat race,compition,survival

“People here are funny. They work so hard at living, they forget how to live.” ― Robert Riskin,derivative Pixabay

‘Rat Race’ according to Wikipedia

A rat race is an endless, self-defeating, or pointless pursuit. The phrase equates humans to rats attempting to earn a reward such as cheese, to no avail. It may also refer to a competitive struggle to get ahead financially or routinely.

Do I remember,when I joined the rat race ?

I am not sure,but I can recollect 1.My school days. 2.My college days.3 As an employee/consultant & 4. As I am aging.
My school days

school days,rat race,competition

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I hate to get up early in the morning,but sadly that is the routine.With Heavy school bag and daily grinding,it used to be a tiresome job.
And remember plenty of examination schedules and so much pressure from parents,to get the first rank ,not in one subject but all the subjects and throughout schooling and the competition among students was heavy,as to who gets the first rank,so that one can be in good books of the teachers,principal etc.
Even in the school sports schedules, there is no let up.One has to get some medal without fail.
So much of rat race in schooling days.Why the rat race in schools ?Any idea ? It’s only for better ranking so that admission to my preferred colleges is easier.
My college days
Those days
Parents wished me to become a doctor since it was a respectable profession in the society and also better financial prospects.
To get an admission into the Medical college is the toughest compared to getting admission into the Engineering course.So To fulfill my parent’s wish I had to be part of the rat race and since I got selected in the Medical profession,I thought I have won the race.But,lo behold,still the process has not ended.
But just MBBS qualification( 5 yrs course) alone is not enough.We have to get admitted to the post graduation courses like MD/MS etc ( 3 yrs course),followed by specialized courses (radiology,neurosurgery etc) of another 3 to 5 yrs.
So the struggle continued.
At last I have got all the qualifications required + License to practice.But as a professional,freshly qualified,how I am going to be a successful practitioner ?Already ,the society is over saturated with Medical Practitioners. How I am ging to compete ? So the rat race saga continues.
As an employee/consultant
It was tough to get a decent job initially.
And to be accepted by the society…takes hell lot of time.
Then there is prestige issue.
Oh ! you are a doctor,how come you don’t have a car? Do you work in any prestigious hospital ? Are you Residing in small flat ? Are you in a rental house? shame on you ! Come on it is below your dignity….
These are the observations and comments from the friends,patients and well wishers.
To achieve some respectability I am supposed to own a bungalow,a car,a driver,and I should have my own hospital….what not ?
Added to this is a new addition to the family with the expenses sky rocketing …
So I have to work hard and harder,do extra duty hours, attend emergency calls,do regular night duties, to earn that little extra so that I can have my dignity and respect in the society.
Is this not all for the false prestige ?? What about family time ? Where is the happiness ?


As I am aging

My liabilities are increasing,due to reasonable or unreasonable demands,with commercial advertisement and new product release, adding to the agony and there is no chance of winning or coming out of rat race.So, more loans, mortgages,more liabilities become part and parcel of LIFE !
In Ilias Tisagklis words

A person entrenched into the “Rat Race” is the “proud” owner of a time consuming job which he desperately needs in order to be able to pay mortgage, rent, bills, credit card debt and all kinds of liabilities”

Eddie Murphy’s quote

Seventy-five years. That’s how much time you get if you’re lucky. Seventy-five years. Seventy-five winters, seventy-five springtimes, seventy-five summers, and seventy-five autumns. When you look at it like that, it’s not a lot of time, is it? Don’t waste them. Get your head out of the rat race and forget about the superficial things that pre-occupy your existence and get back to what’s important now.

Am I stuck in the quick sand ?

Probably one should remember the following quote in the early stages ……

rat race,compitition,struggle,human tendency

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Finally

Often, people work long hard hours at jobs they hate, to earn money to buy things they don’t need, to impress people they don’t like. — Nigel Marsh
My sincere thanks for reaching this point.Huh ! I am exhausted in the rat race.Let me have some supplements !

How to escape Rat race ? Do you have any solutions or suggestions?

Please share your thoughts.

Inspiration-Ilias Tisagklis

Daily Horoscope..boon or bane ??

crystal ball,crystal ball photography

Methods for predicting the future: 1) read horoscopes, tea leaves, tarot cards, or crystal balls . . . collectively known as “nutty methods;” 2) put well-researched facts into sophisticated computer . . . commonly referred to as “a complete waste of time.” Scott Adams

Crystal Balls are famous for Crystal Gazing ,a methodology used by ‘Readers’ or ‘Seers’ in predicting your future and to tell fortunes, even guiding the clients to decide in solving their current problems.

Let me be crystal clear,I am not finding fault with believers of Astrology.Some times I look up for Heavenly advice,when in distress !

Simply put can Astrology guide our Life ? Do advertisers take advantage of these horoscope predictions…in otherwords do these predictions advice us to buy something so that life is is made simple ?

Positive aspects of daily,weekly & yearly horoscopes

  • It gives the person a kind of satisfaction.
  • Gives enough time to plan for the future course of action.
  • Some times a person can take a once in a lifes’s time decision based on the predictions.
  • Even some claim that,cancer is also diagnosed with the help of astrology, in advance.
  • One can predict the doom’s day so that best possible precautions can be taken in advance.
  • Majority of Indians believe in astrology and marriages,nuptials,foundation laying ceremonies,Ribbon cutting,naming ceremony of the newborn are a few examples where Astrology plays a siginificant role
  • One can go on adding…

Negative aspects of daily,weekly,yearly horoscopes

  • Unfavourable predictions can have a tremendous depressive impact.
  • Dejection
  • Suicidal tendencies.
  • Based on the positive predictions person may go on buying lotterry tickets,indulge in gambling etc and ruin the life and family.
  • Since astrological predictions guide them on daily basis,these persons tend to be lazy and less productive.
  • Impulsive personalities can cause troubles to others and sometimes destructive.

Forget about the future…..Are not the current problems your own making ?

Do you believe in planning your future based on the fortune teller ?

” Forecasting is the art of saying what will happen and then explaining why it didn’t happen “ Anonymous.

Horoscopes.Astrology

Do you remember Paul the Octopus,people used to depend on it to predict World cup football matches ?

Let us start living in the ‘present’ , forget the ‘past’ which is already a closed chapter, and not to worry about the ‘future’ which we know nothing about .

Are you interested to know the varieties of Astrology available to day ? It is said there are more than 80 branches of Astrology and you will be amazed !!!

Do you think Astrology can influence you, based on type of your Weakness ??

Astrology FAQs What are the different kinds of Astrology?

Please share your thoughts/experience on Astrology .

My sincere thanks for going through the article.

My challenge…..Can you vouch that you have ‘Peace Of Mind’ ?

Peace of Mind,Happiness,happy

Searching for Peace of mind at Lord’s abode.

Present day life style makes us think that leading a ‘peaceful life’ is a distant dream…and I am glad you realised the truth.

The day you are born,you know that life brings lot of stress.At the end, you realise that it is impossible to be At peace with your mind,since you are aware that your mind is like a monkey….restless all the time resulting in piece of mind

” If you are depressed,you live in the past..
if you are anxious, you live in the future..
but if you are at PEACE…you live in the present “
Lao Tzu

What is ‘ Peace Of Mind ?’ Aka ‘peace’ ?

Thesaurus Dictionary says- it is the absence of mental stress or anxiety.

Wikipedia talks of Inner Peace,referring to a state of being Mentally & Spiritually at peace with enough knowledge and understanding to keep oneself strong in the face of discord or stress

Being at peace is considered by many to be healthy. Peace of mind is generally associated with bliss,happiness,and contentment.

But the question is how do you get the Peace Of Mind ?

Take my challenge and Try these 10 secrets, I am sharing and I am so sure it will be a disaster!
1.Keep calm and don’t be jealous.”Jeaulosy comes from,counting others blessings,instead of our own”Unknown
2.Don’t bite more than you can chew,because nobody looks attractive,spitting it back. ‘Carrol Bryant’
3.Don’t work for recognition,but do work,worthy of recognition ‘H.Jackson Brown Jr.’
4.Never tell your problem to anyone. 20% don’t care & 80% glad that you have them ‘Quora’
5.If you live for having it all,what you have is never enough. ‘Vicki Robin’
6.“Less is not necessarily more. Just enough is more.”
Milton Glaser”
7.There is a story behing every person.There is a reason why they are the way they are.Think about that before you judge someone. ‘pinerest’.
8.Forgive & Forget,but never forget to forgive,you may find a happier heart is the key to a happier life ‘Mahatma Gandhi’
9.Never put off tomorrow,what you can do today. ‘Thomas Jefferson’
10.To keep the body in good health is a duty..otherwise we shall not be able to keep our mind strong and clear ‘ Buddha’

Wise men have given plenty of such advices,my guess is being,a human being it is impossible to get peace of mind,even if you follow the wise sayings 100% and unfortunately for a change,I won the challenge !

Thank you so much for taking your time to go through and let me know if there is some more secrets to add.

Peace of mind vs Piece of mind/

Do You Friendly-walk ?

Friendly walk

Hand to shoulder

Always wonder what makes the INDIVIDUAL to put hand on other’s shoulder !
What is the feeling that makes one to do like this ?

Does this indicate closeness or even comfort level or a kind of assurance….I am not sure.
I am curious whether this kind of behavior seen in Western countries.

Westerners can give more insight into this aspect of human behaviour.

Key to ‘successful failure’

Key to failure,pleasing,Key to failure

“I don’t know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to

please everybody”

‘unknown’

First of all I do not understand why on the earth one has to go on and on……pleasing each and every one ! The fact is… even on many occasions you can’t please your own kith & Kin.

“Trying to please everyone is a recipe for stress, misery and frustration. Be yourself. It’ll be good to know who’s down with that”

Unknown’

Secret of my long married life……

Let us not be serious all the time of the whole day ! Have some fun ! Remember today is Friday !

Some people ask the secret of our long marriage.We take time to go the restaurant two times a week.A little candle light ,dinner,soft music,and dancing.She goes on tuesdays,I go on Fridays – Henry Youngman

Thank God it’s Friday ! (TGIF)

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“We are all one….but many”

United we stand

United we stand .    Many times we come across funny coincidences but fail to notice..As you see in the above photo, both the lady and the tall gentleman probably trying to cross the road , concentrating the oncoming traffic.Both of them have their right hand kept on the waist ( the position one usually keeps, if one has backache ). Not only that, as you observe even the hand position and finger directions are also  similar !

One God, many faces.
One family, many races.
One truth, many paths.
One heart, many complexions.
One light, many reflections.
One world, many imperfections.
ONE.
We are all one,
But many.” 
- Suzy Kassem, Rise Up and Salute the Sun: The Writings of Suzy Kassem

Tension Free…. Stress Free…you think it’s a distant dream ?

As you are busy with fast paced life , you are left with lots of tension,anxiety resulting in stress.you start thinking as if all the problems happening to you only.

Just relax.All of are undergoing the same, at one time or the other.You can neither run away from the problems, nor start dreaming of positive thoughts,The two popular advices..easier said than followed…

Just listen to the quotes by unknown and known wise souls.

If a problem can be solved, no need to worry about it. If a problem cannot be solved what is the use of worrying?

Worries and tensions are like birds , We cannot stop them from flying near us, But we can certainly stop them from making a nest in our mind.

The tension you feel from one person may be the tension you are causing for another.

Worrying does not take away tomorrow’s troubles. It takes away today’s peace.

Stress is the trash of modern life we all generate it, but if you don’t dispose of it properly, it will pile up and overtake your life.

Maturity is achieved when a person accepts life as full of tension. – Joshua L. Liebman

Stress is caused by being ‘here’ but wanting to be ‘there.’
– Eckhart Tolle

How beautiful it is to do nothing, and then to rest afterward.
– Spanish proverb

Thank you for going through.Feel free to comment,criticise,share,like and if it’s  is worthy re blog.

The Two Popular Advices…Easier said than followed…

Be happy

1.Keep Smiling ( In other words Be Happy ).

Remember Bob Marleys song Don’t worry ,be happy ?

2.Think Positively ( in other words Lift yourself )

Both according to me are Myths.

Now let us analyse these two in the Real Life

Keep Smiling & Be Happy :

Happiness is a kind of Magnet, we get attracted .

we are used to believe that Happiness is achieved when we get things what we wished for and one can see the smile on our faces.

How long the happiness stays ? One minute,one day,one month,one year or through out our life ?

The demand for happiness is never ending.And the irony is ,you cann’t be happy all the time, since your wishes are unending.

Just think that

1.We can not control our thoughts,created at the time of unplesant happenings in our life.

2.You cann’t pretend to be happy when the results are not as per your plans.

3.What ever happens to you for whatever reason….You & I know that it’s only time being and life goes on with newer challenges to face.

4.When you are unhappy, consciously( outer world) you may give broad smile to others,but you cann’t defeat the thought of unhappiness,since discontent at subconscious ( inner world ) level is waiting to exploit the situation to further sadness..

5.Happily ever after happens only in ‘Fairy tales’ and in ‘Reel Life’ (Hollywood,Bollywood) rather than in ‘Real Life ‘

My take is ….. If you are Unhappy,Accept it,bear it and simply move on , rather than keeping the Fake Smile or acting brave etc.

Think Positively:

It is the single most influencing stuff ,storming the entire  world  and 21 century version of ‘Be happy’ model.

Think positively – is a kind of ‘Reassuring’ yourself that nothing is going to be wrong and the problems get solved themselves.Nothing more dangerous than this attitutde.

Remember your problem is yours alone,it is going to be there,and mere positive thinking not going to help and you alone have to solve the problem to get peace of mind.

Positive thinking

Inspiration-Rebecca Hass

So your mindset is more powerful than the routine ‘Be positive’ psyche. It is OK not to be positive at times,since the situation you are facing not necessary end in happiness.

My take is…..

If you have time and patience you can go through this link and realize why positive thinking is a waste of time and not practicle………  Don’t miss reading                               Steve Neale tells about the scandal of  ‘Positive Thinking’

The myth of positive thinking and the Universe

Thank you so much for taking your time to go through.

Can one survive without EGO ?

Ego

Ego, n. “A person’s sense of self-esteem or self-importance”

Everyone of us have some amount of ego,it’s a fact.
Let us accept it.

And if somebody claims that he or she is does not have ego,it’s certain that this person is lying.

Anyone who’s successful, whatever way it has been achieved has a certain amount of ego and it is the truth.

Ego is the illusion created by our thoughts and none of us are immune from it.

Even persons with humility,on occassion succumbs to Ego.

“True humility is not thinking less of yourself; it is thinking of yourself less.”

– C.S. Lewis

Dear friends what is your take on EGO ?

Talent is God-given, be humble.                                                                                           Fame is man-given, be thankful.                                                                                   Conceit is self-given, be careful.

John Wooden

Happiness is……….

1.The secret of happiness is not in doing what one likes,but in liking what one does.

‘James M. Barrie’

2.Doing what you like is freedom.Liking what you do is happiness.

‘Frank Tyger’

3.There is no way to happiness.Happiness is the way.

‘Thich Nhat Nanh’

4. People are just as happy as they make up their minds to be.

‘Abraham Lincoln’.

5.Thousands of candles can be lighted from a single candle,and the life of the candle will not be shortened, happiness never decreases by being shared.

Buddha

What is your definition of Happiness ?

 

Happiness,life

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Are you happy all the time ?

What do you think of ‘feeling happy & ”being happy’ ?

If you are happy, do you also think that,you should make others happy ?

Is it a must that you should make others happy too ?

What is your happiness Quotient ?

Can Preachers help us geting happiness ?

Internet gives us billions of definition and meaning.But how to apply these on individual basis ?

I can go on and on

What is your answer ?

If you ask me ..frankly I don’t have an answer.

Thank you for taking your time to go through the article

 

Smile ‘without conditions’

Smile

Use your smile to change the world,Don’t let the world change your smile !

The most beautiful thing in the world is to see your children smiling. The next best thing is to know that you are the reason behing that smile ‘lovequotesmessages’

 

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