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‘ Left-handedness ‘

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If the right side of the brain controls the left side of the body….then only the left-handed people are in their Right Minds !!! – unknown

If you closely observe the above Photograph, you notice that some discussion happening among the six people, and if you dig further you will be surprised to note that 5 people among the 6, have raised their left hand ( except the person wearing red shirt ). No idea what is happening at that moment.Incidentally notice that,dominance of red color .ie Red color shirt,red color bag,two red colored motor bikes in the back ground

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Why online friendship can fail ?

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Why online freindship can fail ?

“life is a balance of holding and letting go”   Rumi

It is a common phenomenon that we are making friendship with online buddies and some of the friendships can truly turn out to be the best example of the Wonderful relationship lasting for ages.

It is said true friendship even outlast Romantic relationships.

Friendship can continue to the next level  only when the friends honestly share their lives with each other,trust each other 100%, and can overcome the initial hesitations & suspicions,share their feelings both during happy or a depressing situations even forgive one another for any misunderstanding if at all any such thing  arises and be supportive all the time.

And we are also aware that majority are not going to be honest for various reasons.Many times one is not sure how much personal information can be shared.

And we also know  that online friendship with unknown friends is as good as entering a dangerous territory.

But still some venture into this territory and become the Besties.

Then one gets doubt whether online friendship can sustain or fail …..

And are there any reasons one  prefers to log out ?

I know,  one can give hundreds of reasons,but my one and the only reason being one of the parties or both parties not making enough efforts to sustain the friendship ( As Rumi’s quote above says ),a kind of give & take.

You can check the link for more information.

How Long Online Friendship Lasts ?

Dear friends what are your thoughts on this subject ?

Did you any time experience failed online friendship and for what reason ? can you share ?

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“Do not take life too seriously. You will never get out of it alive”. Elbert Hubbard

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Life Under pressure

“If the problem can be solved why worry? 

If the problem cannot be solved worrying will do you no good.” 

Santideva.

Why you think there is a constant pressure on your life ?

Is it possible to let the steam out and lead a better  peaceful and contended  life ?

What are all the ways you think you are getting pressure even on your routine day-to-day life ? Let us discuss.

Family pressure

You want to do something you like but the family members advising you otherwise.You have two choices,either go ahead and do what you wanted to do or listen to your family.

The emotional tactic adopted by family members is crucial in influencing your thoughts.

Solution– Since you are grown up ,you can take your own well-meant decisions.

I feel emotional pressure by the family members is a kind of  ‘blackmail’.

Social pressure

It is defined as the influence that is exerted on a person or groups.It can be argument,persuasion and conformity and demands.

Solution- Develop self confidence and mingle with people who accept you as you are.  ( Like minded )

Peer Pressure

Peer pressure is the direct influence on people by peers, or the effect on an individual who gets encouraged to follow their peers by changing their attitudes, values or behaviors to conform to those of the influencing group or individual.

You will fall prey to peer pressure because you want to fit in .The peer can be your friend,classmate or colleague.

Solution– Be bold,think of the consequences,say a polite ‘thank you’ and be selective.

Our own tendencies

Author Gretchen Rubin has built a model called Four Tendencies Framework namely

1.Upholders.

2.Questioners.

3.Obligers.

4.Rebels.

She says that the four tendencies are responsible as to why we act and why we don’t act.

These tendencies can create pressure on oneself.

Solution– Change your tendencies.As simple as that.

You can even take the quiz of Gretchen Rubin here to know what personality you belong and how much pressure you are facing in your life.Click the link

4 tendencies quiz

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The gift Of Friendship

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It’s 3.3 minute read.

Don’t you agree with me that True friendship is difficult since finding a true friend is the hardest.

” A friend is some one who understands your past,believe in your future….accepts you to-day the way you are “. Unknown

We may not realize the value of friendship until the time it is given when it is badly needed,so we have to cultivate and cherish the friendship .

Make aware to your friends how much they mean to you and how well they contribute to your happiness from your routine boring life.

Don’t ask me how to pick up a true friend or how to know,that the other person can be a good and even a true friend.

This is a difficult subject and can be discussed on another day.

The following quote is my feeling ,whenever one interacts with one’s true friends.

Friendship is a treasured gift,and every time I talk with you I feel as if I’m getting richer and richer “. Unknown

Friends can even become Besties.

True friendship is ‘Magical’ !!

“Friendship is not about whom you have known the longest,it’s about who walked into your life and said “I’m here for you” and proved it.  Unknown

The true friend helps me being a counselor in times of distress ,

Can be my confidant when the situation demands,most importantly gives all the strength I need when I am the weakest at some point of time of my life.

Now you will ask me…What is the secret of sustaining this friendship ??

Certain things come to my mind,which can further the bond.

1. Be frank.Accept the drawbacks or short fall either of you may possess.
No body is perfect in this world and everybody has some story to tell and as a true friend you are willing to listen.Provide the much-needed leaning shoulder.Respect the individuality.Even if situation demands call spade a spade and explain the realities.Never thrust your opinions.When you tell the truth let the other person accept this rather than doubting and vice versa.

2. Develop the principle of ‘forget and forgive’ since we know we are never free of committing the mistakes and it’s human to do mistakes.

3.Try to recollect the fun moments or joyous moments you both had while spending time together or enjoying the jokes during your chat times.

4.Share the happiness together.

The happiness ,one can feel only when one is able to share with the other.

Remember you can never enjoy happiness all alone.

Thank you my friends for patiently reading.

Now please share your personal experience on ‘Gift of Friendship’ be on-line or off-line.

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Lock Up Mentalities

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It is such a waste, when people are alienated (friends, relatives, wife & husband,Couples or business partners etc.) from each other for days, months or even years,….all over some misunderstanding…that could have been sorted out sooner or even one of the parties had shown more Humility or Understanding.

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Can you survive loneliness ? ?

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Friendship

Great friendship enhances the quality of life.

Deep and lasting friendships don’t  just happen.They require focus,energy,patience,and skill to form and maintain.

Good friends will enhance your journey through life in more ways than you can imagine.

Invest in a few. You don’t need a lot. This is one of those cases when quality is more important than quantity.

unknown

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Miracle

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Both of them were uncertain; both of them were trying as much as they could; both of them would doubt themselves, would progress and recede. But they would both keep trying, because they trusted the other, and because the other person was the only other person who ever be worth such hardships, such difficulties, such insecurities and exposure. ‘Hanya Yanagihara’

Do you believe in , that true friendship is possible in the real life ??

Wasn’t friendship its own miracle,the finding of another person who made the entire lonely world seem somehow less lonely

Hanya Yanagihara

Moving together  and interacting with our  friends in our circle ( offline ) ….at least we know each other by face,by real name,our habits,our nature,our jobs,our commitments etc.etc. and it’s an altogether different, in online friendship.

What about online friendship that too with an unknown person ?

what is your experience ??

I always wonder how these unknown online friends who know nothing of the other,but still keep in touch with each other as if they are the long-lost friends and they are also aware that they are separated by thousands of miles in this beautiful world….I don’t know what makes these two to gel so well  !!

I even read somewhere that in one such case,the friendship continued even  beyond 10 yrs !!

You never regret for making such a strong bond over the time with friends especially unknown….irrespective of the age,background,looks,status,liabilities,their individual responsibilities…….

Just read these beautiful quotes regarding’friendship’ by Hanya Yanagihara

Friendship is the most underrated relationship in our lives. It remains the one relation not bound by law, blood, or money — but an unspoken agreement of love.

Hanya Yanagihara

Why wasn’t friendship as good as a relationship? Why wasn’t it even better? It was two people who remained together, day after day, bound not by sex or physical attraction or money or children or property, but only by the shared agreement to keep going, the mutual dedication to a union that could never be codified.

Hanya Yanagihara

You won’t understand what I mean now, but someday you will: the only trick of friendship, I think, is to find people who are better than you are—not smarter, not cooler, but kinder, and more generous, and more forgiving—and then to appreciate them for what they can teach you, and to try to listen to them when they tell you something about yourself, no matter how bad—or good—it might be, and to trust them, which is the hardest thing of all. But the best, as well.

Hanya Yanagihara
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Can you answer this ? (Questions series No-8)

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Once you develop Romantic Friendship ,( click the link for  the definition of Romantic friendship)…….

How often you look at the mobile for status update of your Friend and have you at any time counted ?

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International Day of Happiness March 20 th

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International Day of Happiness

What is International Day of Happiness ?

It’s a day to be happy, of course!

Of course ,as humans we try our level best to be happy through out our lives.

But have we at any time remember somebody,who keep us happy most of the times?

Do we even make an attempt to recognize such people ? The moment your happiness is over…you tend to forget those responsible for your happiness !

I am fortunate that there is somebody who makes me happy,smile & laugh and I recognize this fact and I am thankful to this person .Of course these things can’t happen without Almighty’s blessings.

Since 2013, the United Nations has celebrated the International Day of Happiness as a way to recognize the importance of happiness in the lives of people around the world.

The United Nations invites each person of any age,plus every classroom,business and government to join in celebration of the International Day of Happiness

Suppose no body is there for you to achieve happiness…what would you do ?

The formula is  simple !!

“Happiness equals to reality minus expectations”  Tom Magliozzi

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Stressed? Think of Romantic Friendship !

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Romantic Friendship

There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement and acceptance.” John Lennon

This is a 2.7 minute read.Please proceed if you can spare this much time.

Before I start the discussion,it’s better we know the definition of ‘Romantic Friendship’.

According to ‘Wikipedia’

“A romantic friendship, passionate friendship, or affectionate friendship is a very close but typically non-sexual relationship between friends,often involving a degree of physical closeness beyond that which is common in the contemporary Western Societies. It may include for example holding hands,cuddling,hugging,kissing,giving massages,  and sharing a bed, or  co-sleeping, without sexual intercourse or other physical sexual expression”

Yourdictionary.com says

“An intensely emotional love relationship between two unrelated people, in which sexuality  is unimportant and typically absent, but there is greater physical affection or poetic communication than is typical for friendship”

Can we include online Friendship ( since we are into the digital revolution with social media,online-video/chat,making new online friends etc ) into the above definitions ? I am not sure.

How nice it’s when the truly understanding relationship takes a vow, as said below !

“The best love is the kind that awakens the soul and makes us reach more,that plants a fire in our hearts and brings peace to our minds.And that’s what you’ve given me.That’s what I’d hoped to give you forever”  Nicholas Sparks

But then….all are not fortunate and there has to be a kind of ‘vibe’ or as some one brilliantly  coined the term ‘ Familiar vibe’,  or  Mutual ‘resonance’ between the partners or friends or relationships.Plato’s quote is apt.

“Every heart sings a song, incomplete, until another heart whispers back. Those who wish to sing always find a song. At the touch of a lover, everyone becomes a poet.” Plato.

True friends really make a big influence on their individual lives in times of stress.

And What did John Lennon Say about friendship and its impact on Life and how this true friendship keeps you smiling ?

“Count your age by friends, not years. Count your life by smiles, not tears”.

A recent study published in the journal Psychophysiology suggests that simply imagining love & support from your significant other can boost your stress management skills.Check this link.

Thinking About Partners Reduces Stress-Study

Please share your thoughts on this subject .

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200 posts

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Hello my friends,

I am extremely thankful to all of you,but for your support…me posting  200  articles just not possible.

I am grateful to you for following me,reading my articles,encouraging me,giving your suggestions & comments, and most importantly taking  your valuable time in visiting my blog.

The funny thing in this virtual world is that,most of us from near and far away places knew nothing about each other,but still we communicate,react,respond and encourage each other like a real true friends.It’s amazing!

Once again I express my sincere thanks to all of you my friends .

“Friendship is unnecessary,like philosophy.like arts….It has no survival value;Rather it is one of those things that give value to survival”    C.S.Lewis

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Life isn’t perfect,but it has perfect moments

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Life is n't perfect,but it has perfect moments

It is not the years in your life but the life in your years that counts  Adlai stevensony 

We all know that Life can never be ‘Instagram Perfect’.

But still,why we all make our life miserable ?

1.Because we worry about future which is unknown.

2..We quarrel among ourselves for what happened yesterday,who is responsible etc and trying to blame others or ourselves in the process.Yesterday is past….and nothing can be done,but still we worry for the things that happened.

3. We forget to be happy  today conveniently because we have something or other priorities to attend.

Things don’t happen as per our wish,not readily waiting for us on the silver platter.

Do you remember the quote”Good things come to those who wait” It is nothing but rubbish.Life is never kind and it owes us nothing.There is no such thing called ‘Happy Life’ and my point is that you have to ‘live’  in the moment and make your life ‘Happy’

“It’s not a case of finding the meaning of the moments,but giving the moments meaning”. Steven Redhe

This life is our own and it resonates how you want it to live.If you want it to be miserable ..it’s the way it’s going to be for you.

“you can frame a moment,But you can’t frame life”    Armin Houman

‘Hope’ is good,no doubt it sustains us but then we should make attempts to make that hope a reality by living in the ‘moment’

Then how not to feel miserable in life ? My thoughts are simple.

1.Stop over thinking.

2.Stop judging others.

3.Remember,nothing under your control.Just move along the flow

4.Avoid the mentality of perfectionist.

5.Stop criticizing.You know only part of the story.

6.Avoid negative thoughts .

7.Most importantly stop comparing yourself.

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? Gossip ? Conversation

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What is your take ?

Are these two gossiping or conversing ?

World is the Wonderful place to live in … with a lot of problems disappearing….

If only we TALK to each other instead of ABOUT each other.

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Long distance talk

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Long distance talk

                                   Distance doesn’t separate people.Silence does.                                                                                          Jeff Hood

This leads me to a Question,which I am unable to decide !

Long distance relationship or short distance relationship……which is better & why ?  (couples & Friends)

Share your thoughts.

Thank you .  Philosophy Through Photography

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Life is short….but you can live longer👍

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Life is short...but you can live longer,long life
It’s a 3.4 minute read

The other day one of our exceptionally brilliant readers wondered, how the time is running so fast,we are in the middle of January,still we are dreaming….as if we celebrated new year just yesterday…is this not scarring? Life is moving so fast, refusing to wait !
I felt … it’s true

And shortly…the spring will run into summer and Summer chasing Fall and Fall merging with Winter in no time and soon we celebrate Christmas and eagerly waiting for the safe delivery of 2020 and in between many will be in touch with the Creator…
Then the thought of why can’t we live longer lingered in my mind!
Yes.Why not ?
All of you know life is awesome !

If you ask ,each one gives their own many reasons as to why they love to live longer.Very few say they want to die earlier.

Don’t you think there is so much of unfulfilled wishes to be full filled?
There is so much to do,so much to see,so much to enjoy,so much to learn,so much to discuss,so many new People to meet,new friends,new thoughts,new experiences….
…..oh my life ! My dear life…..and you think just 70-80 yrs of life is sufficient ?

There won’t be negative feelings or sadness or sorrow if one were to live forever.Of course ones health should be good,but this is possible as science is advancing and most probably in 2100 death can be delayed indefinitely.

But why you don’t want to die ?

It’s very simple my friend.Death means, all your taste for enjoying the good life gone.You miss the beauty of universe.You miss your near and dear.you miss unfinished jobs.you miss, loving your sweetheart.

OK.But Why do you wish to live forever ?

I have an answer.

Modern age is better than Iron age.Iron age was better than bronze age.Bronze age was better than stone age.
As things become better and better ,we wish to live longer.We starts inventing things where in death can be delayed.As technology advances,they day may not be far,where death can become optional.

What is the present scenario ?

  1. Living forever is not possible, but living longer is possible (quora)
  2. Eat & Drink Healthy
  3. Have sound mind and you can take correct decisions.
  4. Have a good social life.Have limited number of friends,who value the meaning of life just like you.
  5. Remember not to possess anger & Ego
  6. When you get up in the morning,first thing you do is to remember God and express your gratitude ,since you are breathing and lucky to be alive. 153,424 people won’t see another tomorrow ( WHO)

If you want to live longer – watch this clip. (  3 minute Video )

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Have you ever hugged a troll ??

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Troll

How to win war on internet trolls?

This article is a 2.5 minute read.

This post is in response to my experience with a reader,who is from non-English speaking country, who mistook my English,and became angry.I fully understand this situation in this particular scenario.I even had to take help of fellow readers(English Pundits)

But many times we are not that fortunate( I mean language problem) and are abused by trolls.

Internet troll can become sometimes nasty and the person affected may lose sleep forever.

You can call Internet Troll as a polished version of mythical creatures in Scandinavian folklore.

Trolling is done by cowardly people,and they do because,they oppose somebody’s point of view or they derive pleasure by causing mental agony ( sadist ), or they hurt the feelings out of ignorance of the topic being discussed.They troll because they think that nobody knows their identity.

If you think trolls are after you…..what to do ?

Very simple.

Just Image You are hugging them…that’s all…. and move on by ignoring them.Don’t even respond,however strong the urge to react!

There are two kinds of Hugs.( my version)

1. Distant Hug-reach out to the person,when the occasion arises and hug in your imagination and you get peace of mind.

2.Physical hug-this you can call it as healing hug.

Time to Hug

Hugs are one of the reasons God gave us arms.So stretch out your arm to some one today.Reach out to those you love or do not love…it will warm the heart of the giver and give light to the soul of the recipients.

‘unknown’

Healing Hug

Hugging is a good medicine.Scientists say that hugging is a form of communication because it can say things you don’t have words for.

And the nicest thing about a hug is that you usually can’t give one without getting one

‘Unknown’

We are fortunate in WP since we are surrounded mostly by Gentlemen & Gentlewomen,who either agree or disagree…and there the matter ends !

How do you manage your trolls ?

Did anybody troll you ? lease share your experiences.

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U & I

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You & I,Friendship.friends

To have this life,I need a heart beat, To have a heart beat ,I need a heart, To have a heart.I need happiness. To have happiness,I need You

U & I

Letters start with A-B-C

Numbers start with 1-2-3

Music starts with Do-Re-Mi

And Friendship starts with u & I

 

Wishing all the best to all of you my friends and may all your wishes be fulfilled.

 

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Do You Friendly-walk ?

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Friendly walk

Hand to shoulder

Always wonder what makes the INDIVIDUAL to put hand on other’s shoulder !
What is the feeling that makes one to do like this ?

Does this indicate closeness or even comfort level or a kind of assurance….I am not sure.
I am curious whether this kind of behavior seen in Western countries.

Westerners can give more insight into this aspect of human behaviour.

Wife & Husband -Can’t they be best friends for life ?

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Best friends

Marriages are made in Heaven ,that is the quote. Do you agree ? or it’s a Myth ?

Those who believe in this, say that,

 

1. There is a Cosmic Power that is responsible for the actions of people and marriage is decided even before one is born. 2 .Marriage is 100 % destined since it is under the influence of the Almighty.

3. Whether it is arranged marriage or Love marriage,the same Cosmic power is deciding the events to be unfolded for the perfect Date of the marriage

Those who don’t believe in the proverb have plenty of explanations,as to where Almighty has utterly failed.

 

1.If the proverb is true,why there are so many Divorces,so frequently ?

Divorce happening at the drop of a hat.Causes extending from silly reasons to financial problems to infidelity to substances of abuse…….you name it..it’s there and can lead to divorce.

2 .Domestic violence

Less said better,since these things are happening in so called developed world,developing world and underdeveloped world.

3. Couple Incompatibility. What is couple incompatibility ?

No two persons are the same.even if you think that they are same in their interests and personalities ,still their individual reactions to the demanding situations vastly vary.

4. Ego clash

Marriages are made in Heaven

“I have never yet met with anything that was dearer to any one than his own self” — -Buddha

No body can help if one is not able to avoid Egoistic attitude

5. Couple in illusion mode.

Marriages are made in Heaven

Many of us believe in Hollywood or Bollywood version of romance,passion,sex,hero kissing the heroine,lots of colourful fireworks in the background,decorated Horse cart,waiting for the couple,forever romance and happy endings.There is enormous difference between living ‘Happily ever after ‘ and ‘Happily ever before ‘

“So they were married ,to be the more together and found that they were never again so much together Divided by the morning tea, By the evening paper,By children and tradesmen’s bills”.      English poet Louis MacNiece

One has to face the reality . Things are different-,like arrival of children,loans,dealing with in laws,unnecessary fighting’,controlling anger etc.etc.

6.Extra Marital Affairs

Marriages are made in Heaven

Call it middle age crisis or fun and after a few years of married life ,people get bored,loose passion for love and start searching for new ways to get boost to their sexual need.These are occasions when one needs self control.

Ultimately Who are we to question the Wisdom of the God ?

My feeling is to let wife & husband recognise all their strengths and Weaknesses and be helpful to each other and their family at the same time knowing and even realising the Greatness of what is known as Institution of Marriage.

Marriages are made in Heaven
A Happy relationship is made up of two good Forgivers

Behind every happy couple, lies two people who have fought hard to overcome all obstacles and interference to be that way .Why ?? Because it’s what they wanted. ‘ unknown’

Marriages are made in Heaven

Glad,You reached this point .Kindly share your views and ideas on ‘Institution of Marriage’

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