Just do it

“You have your way. I have my way. As for the right way, the correct way, and the only way, it does not exist.”  Friedrich Nietzsche “As long as everything is exactly the way i want it ,I am totally flexible”. unknown “Fine,we will compromise,I will get my way and you will find a way to be ok with that” […]

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Love is not complicated, people are

  How individual lives are changing ,relationships are thrown into the dust bin,people forgetting the meaning and value & sacredness of ‘LOVE’, Thanks to addiction to social media & smart phones ! Relationships are harder now! “Conversations became texting, Arguments became phone calls, Feelings became subliminal messages, Sex became easy, The word ‘love’ is used out of context., Insecurities became a way of thinking, Getting jealous became a habit, Trust is hard to come by, Being hurt became natural. Leaving became the only option, Sad but true, So if you have something…that is worth it,..don’t take it for granted, Fight for it,don’t let it go”       pinterest Summary – Be selfish,thanks to the inventions. indulge in your liking,Drink till you drop dead,fight without any reason,Ego is your life,jealousy is your partner, Greedy is your nature,Killing innocents is your taste,care not anybody,you owe the happiness you deserve,forget about dieting & exercises which are all money-making machines,,cheating is your mantra,money is everything and enjoy dying your own death,you owe nothing to anybody! Is this the lesson modern-day life style teaching us ? Is this the meaning of advancement in human life ? Is this what all about relationships ? And what about ethics,values,respect,responsibilities ,family relationship ? Please share your thoughts. Thank you. Philosophy Through Photography IS Pixabay

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Ego=bubble

Ego bubble

Your ego may be just a soap bubble.May be for a few seconds it will remain,rising higher in the air. Perhaps for a few seconds it may have a rainbow,but is only for a few seconds.In this infinite & eternal existence your egos go on bursting every moment. It is better not to have any attachment with soap bubbles ‘ […]

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Are you listening ?

Are you listening ?

You can agree with me or you can be wrong.              etcy.com It’s natural to think that you are right.But experience should teach you that sometimes you are not and that is wise to listen to others Thank you  Philosophy Through Photography   IS pixabay ,auroraproduction.com

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Are you listening ?

Are you listening ?

You can agree with me or you can be wrong          etcy.com It’s natural to think that you are right.But experience should teach you that sometimes you are not and that is wise to listen to others Thank you  Philosophy Through Photography   IS pixabay ,auroraproduction.com

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Family Quarrel

Definition :To quarrel is to fight — but usually not physically. Quarreling is a fact of life, occurring between the best of friends, in the happiest of marriages, and between parents and their children. vocabulary.com It is a disagreement about something. Why we quarrel in the very first place ? Somewhere I read ( I am not able to recollect the source) what is known as BIG 5 causing friction, leading to argument. 1.Money, 2.sex, 3.raising kids, 4.in-laws and 5.house/office work.Of course one can broaden the BIG 5 into various sub-classes. Disagreement can lead from just anger to outburst of pent-up feelings. The quarrels can stretch from very few initially to increased frequency over the time. The reasons can be from silly to far serious issues. The whole problem is because none is willing to admit their mistakes, continue the arguments,even competing with each other, with ego factor playing an active role. Whenever there is dispute remember, “Family problems come in all sizes and shapes.Some are short-lived,easily managed,while others are more chronic and difficult to handle” unknown What I am trying to tell is that it takes time to deal the problems and one must be patient.One must realize that, “Families and their problems go on and they are not solved….they are dealt with”. Roger Ebert, When we are friendly with the entire world ( don’t say…. this is because of survival instinct ),why can’t we show same friendliness to […]

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Love is scarce- Really ?

The only thing we never get enough of is love; and the only thing we never give enough of is love. ― Henry Miller Why this happens ? We all  think that, Love means romance.But it is not so. There are 7 types of love. Storge- Familial love Phila-friendship ( shared goodwill) Eros-Sexual or passionate love Agape-Universal love ( unconditional love) Ludus-Playful or uncommitted love Pragma- Long term love ( married people) Philautia-self love ( healthy or unhealthy) ( source Psychologytoday.com, Quora) My discussion is limited to the married couple. Think for a second. Can you tell  the difference between ‘school and life‘ ? ” In school you are taught a lesson and then given a test.   In life,you are given a test,that teaches you the lesson” Tom Bodett So what I am trying to tell is Life gives an opportunity to learn lessons  from our experience, in this situation….. day to day problems faced by the couple,thus making them more accommodating,understanding and helpful to each other. Thus we can become wiser by experiencing these experiences. But here is the hitch. The problem comes in the unknown form of ‘E G O ‘ nullifying all the benefits of life’s lessons,which we learn over the course of time. Why can’t we make an attempt to look into this ? Why can not we prevent this disease before it strikes us ? When we are able to manage life style diseases […]

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Are you the ‘Difficult Spouse’ ?

Real relationships are not perfect and perfect relationships are not real !! If you are a wife or husband and on many occasions you think you are disappointed because of the other…..and think the other is the ‘difficult spouse’…. then this article is for you. I am thankful to you if you felt there is something wrong in either of the parties and the mistake can be rectified easily. There are two types of marriages.( Marriages are made in heaven.Is itn’t ?) 1.Love marriage 2.Arranged marriage ( In most of the eastern countries ) Irrespective of the type of marriage,both the man and the woman of his love have to adjust with each other in order to be compatible. In fact, post marriage life is full of challenges and it exposes the couple to myriads of issues. But we all know the truth. One day or other both the man & the woman have to face unpleasant situation of opposing & different opinions and views, in matters of their day-to-day ‘living together’ The reality of the so-called colourful future has to show its fangs,since it is waiting to strike first ! Once the misunderstanding happens and prolongs….There are two options available You decided you are not going to adjust at all...then Apply for divorce and probably matter can come to end to the mutual satisfaction,and thus ending the very discussion I am trying to make. If the above choice is […]

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Universal rules- Rule No 1.King is always right Rule No 2 If the King is wrong,then follow the rule no 1,(ie,the King is always right).

Blame Game Be frank.We all indulge in blame game,whatever may be the nature of the problem we face, because we don’t wish to take the responsibility .We even argue that we are always correct,and the other is at fault.( remember the rules…the king is always correct ! ) Very rare to find people,who blame themselves. The  unlaid rule is  I can never go wrong ! Why it is so ? Let us think. We all lie,and learnt the art during childhood and fine tune it as we grow, and to escape the situation,’lie’ comes handy. By blaming others, you are in a defensive mood,and can pass the buck easily. “Blame is a beautiful thing, baby. Blame keeps this whole planet spinning. You can point your finger at the next man, you can shift the weight onto him, you don’t have to carry that shit around yourself. You can slide into bed and get a good night’s nap. Yeah, right”. Narrator Augustus Hill ( played by Harold Perrineau) from Oz tv series Remember, Blame is fascinating – “it shapes our lives. It can be a benign way of positioning ourselves, a gentle joust or banter, or it can be poisonous, hurtful or devastating for its victims. It can tear apart marriages and fracture work relationships; it can disable major social programmes; it can inflict damage on powerful corporations; it can bring down governments; it can start wars and justify genocides”. Stephen Fineman, […]

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Ignore the ‘Agressive World’

When an obnoxious and aggressive world displays its nuttiness just say to yourself, “I have nothing to say to that.”   The world cries, “Give me your agreement or your disagreement but whatever you do, don’t ignore me!”   Intelligently notice both outer and inner darkness then quietly ignore it. Switch your attention back to the present moment with this powerful self-talk statement. You have higher things to think about and darkness’s anguish is not your concern. Every “success” darkness has is based on convincing you that its anguish is your concern. It wants you involved with it, fighting it, trying to help it. Dare to reply instead, “I have nothing to say to that!”   As The Daily Guru said once, “The resistance to the disturbance IS the disturbance.” Work with this exercise this week. Notice how good you start to feel as you cease throwing fuel on the initial disturbances – all those tiny little outer and inner fires that are very significant until you react to them. creditsThe Daily Guru Image Ashish_Choudhary,Pixabay.

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Accept it.We all indulge in ‘Blame Game’

Blame is a beautiful thing, baby. Blame keeps this whole planet spinning. You can point your finger at the next man, you can shift the weight onto him, you don’t have to carry that shit around yourself. You can slide into bed and get a good night’s nap. Yeah, right. Narrator-Augustus Hill ( played by Harold Perrineau) from Oz tv series Remember, Blame is fascinating – it shapes our lives. It can be a benign way of positioning ourselves, a gentle joust or banter, or it can be poisonous, hurtful or devastating for its victims. It can tear apart marriages and fracture work relationships; it can disable major social programmes; it can inflict damage on powerful corporations; it can bring down governments; it can start wars and justify genocides. Stephen Fineman, The Blame Business: The Uses and Misuses of Accountability Don’t forget, “All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with another, and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not change you. The only thing blame does is to keep the focus off you when you are looking for external reasons to explain your unhappiness or frustration. You may succeed in making another feel guilty about something by blaming him, but you won’t succeed in changing whatever it is about you that is making you unhappy.” Wayne Dyer Any thoughts on how not to get trapped by the Blame game ? […]

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Can one survive without EGO ?

Ego, n. “A person’s sense of self-esteem or self-importance” Everyone of us have some amount of ego,it’s a fact. Let us accept it. And if somebody claims that he or she is does not have ego,it’s certain that this person is lying. Anyone who’s successful, whatever way it has been achieved has a certain amount of ego and it is the truth. Ego is the illusion created by our thoughts and none of us are immune from it. Even persons with humility,on occassion succumbs to Ego. “True humility is not thinking less of yourself; it is thinking of yourself less.” – C.S. Lewis Dear friends what is your take on EGO ? Talent is God-given, be humble.                                                                                           Fame is man-given, be thankful.                                                                                   Conceit is self-given, be careful. John Wooden

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Happiness is……….

1.The secret of happiness is not in doing what one likes,but in liking what one does. ‘James M. Barrie’ 2.Doing what you like is freedom.Liking what you do is happiness. ‘Frank Tyger’ 3.There is no way to happiness.Happiness is the way. ‘Thich Nhat Nanh’ 4. People are just as happy as they make up their minds to be. ‘Abraham Lincoln’. […]

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