Marry a man your own age; as your beauty fades, so will his eyesight. Phyllis Diller
Marry a man your own age; as your beauty fades, so will his eyesight. Phyllis Diller
Are married people happier ?
Technically majority of us try to forgive, but 100 % of us forget that,we have forgiven, and somewhere the unpleasantness, haunts us for sometime, after all we are human beings !!
“Forgive other,not because thy deserve forgiveness,but because you deserve peace.” Jonathan Lockwood Huie
“It’s not an easy journey, to get to a place where you forgive people.But it is such a powerful place,because it frees you” Tyler Perry
Forgiveness releases the burden of a heavy heart Mathew 6:14-15
“Forgiveness is a funny thing. It warms the heart and cools the sting.” William Arthur Ward
“As long as you don’t forgive, who and whatever it is will occupy a rent-free space in your mind.” Isabelle Holland
When you forgive,you do not erase the memory.You simply choose to forgive to free yourself from the bitterness.
Prayer is connecting with God,uploading your love,requests and thanks, downloading His love and answers.
Do you make an attempt to connect to God everyday or you are too busy and try to connect him only when you face troubles in your life ?
It is such a waste, when people are alienated (friends, relatives, wife & husband,Couples or business partners etc.) from each other for days, months or even years,….all over some misunderstanding…that could have been sorted out sooner or even one of the parties had shown more Humility or Understanding.
We all know that Life is not a fairytale that ends Happily ever after.
Life is composed of ups and downs.
There are several situations where we plan to the precision but when our wish is not coming true, we as humans get devastated.
And in some situations just reverse-what ever you wished can happen to your surprise.
“Life has many ways of testing a persons’ will.either by having nothing happen at all or by having everything happen all at once Paulo Coelho
Every day your life keeps you challenging at the drop of a hat ! But remember not to allow these challenges to put you down.
Never make comparisons.You don’t know the difficulties faced by the other person before he became successful.
“You aren’t going to find anybody that’s going to be successful without making a sacrifice and without perseverance.” Lou Holtz
Make best use of life,take everything that is offered to you ,because you know pretty well at the end something good is going to happen.
“If you can’t fly then run, if you can’t run then walk, if you can’t walk then crawl, but whatever you do you have to keep moving forward.” Martin Luther King, Jr.
If you want to soar high in the life,you have to give up the things and people that weigh you down. Rashida Rowe quotes
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Life is a thing of many stages and moving parts,
What we do with ease at one time of life we can hardly manage at another.
What we could not fathom doing when we were young,we find great joy in when we are old.
Like the season through which we move,life itself is a never-ending series of harvests,a different fruit for every time.
Joan D Chittister
For if we did not learn a lot to-day,
At least we learned a little,
And if we did not learn a little,
At least we did not get sick,
And if we got sick,
At least we didn’t die,
So be thankful.
What is International Day of Happiness ?
It’s a day to be happy, of course!
Of course ,as humans we try our level best to be happy through out our lives.
But have we at any time remember somebody,who keep us happy most of the times?
Do we even make an attempt to recognize such people ? The moment your happiness is over…you tend to forget those responsible for your happiness !
I am fortunate that there is somebody who makes me happy,smile & laugh and I recognize this fact and I am thankful to this person .Of course these things can’t happen without Almighty’s blessings.
Since 2013, the United Nations has celebrated the International Day of Happiness as a way to recognize the importance of happiness in the lives of people around the world.
The United Nations invites each person of any age,plus every classroom,business and government to join in celebration of the International Day of Happiness
Suppose no body is there for you to achieve happiness…what would you do ?
The formula is simple !!
“Happiness equals to reality minus expectations” Tom Magliozzi
All us have same 24 hours,but then each one of us react to the same available time based on our mood.It’s really funny !
Time is Slow-When you wait !
Time is Fast-When you are late!
Time is Deadly-When you are sad!
Time is Short-When you are happy !
Time is Endless-When you are in pain!
Time is Long-When you feel bored!
Every time ‘Time’ is determined by your feelings and your psychological conditions and not by Clocks.
So have a ‘NICE TIME’ always.
Remember ‘another time‘ known as ‘Free Time‘ ! because
“Free time is the most expensive time you have, because nobody pays for it but you. But that also makes it the most valuable time you have, as you alone stand to reap the profits from spending it wisely”. Jarod Kintz
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Buddhas teaching and science,Pixabay
“Warm weather fosters growth.Cold weather destroys it.Thus a man with an unsympathetic temperament has scanty joy:But a man with a warm and friendly heart is overflowing with blessings,and his beneficence will extend to posterity.” Hung Tzu-Ch’Eng
“Even more important than the warmth and affection we receive,is the warmth and affection we give,It is by giving warmth and affection,by having a genuine sense of concern for others,in other words through compassion,that we gain the conditions for genuine happiness.More important than being loved,therefore is to love.” Dalai Lama
“A woman at 20 is like ice, at 30 she is warm and at 40 she is hot.” Gina Lollobrigida
Though life is fair to us,always we feel we are missing something and we are unhappy most of the times.
Less said better especially about love.
“The only thing we never get enough of is love; and the only thing we
never give enough of is love”.
If you feel the Love, I think, that is, the most beautiful thing to happen in the world and you are lucky !
Suppose if you want to make somebody feel the love …that is even a memorable !
What makes YOU feel most loved ?
Please see this video clip and tell your version.( worthy 4 minutes )
Thank you philosophy Through Photography
Pixabay, google images
It’s a 3.4 minute read
The other day one of our exceptionally brilliant readers wondered, how the time is running so fast,we are in the middle of January,still we are dreaming….as if we celebrated new year just yesterday…is this not scarring? Life is moving so fast, refusing to wait !
I felt … it’s true
And shortly…the spring will run into summer and Summer chasing Fall and Fall merging with Winter in no time and soon we celebrate Christmas and eagerly waiting for the safe delivery of 2020 and in between many will be in touch with the Creator…
Then the thought of why can’t we live longer lingered in my mind!
Yes.Why not ?
All of you know life is awesome !
If you ask ,each one gives their own many reasons as to why they love to live longer.Very few say they want to die earlier.
Don’t you think there is so much of unfulfilled wishes to be full filled?
There is so much to do,so much to see,so much to enjoy,so much to learn,so much to discuss,so many new People to meet,new friends,new thoughts,new experiences….
…..oh my life ! My dear life…..and you think just 70-80 yrs of life is sufficient ?
There won’t be negative feelings or sadness or sorrow if one were to live forever.Of course ones health should be good,but this is possible as science is advancing and most probably in 2100 death can be delayed indefinitely.
But why you don’t want to die ?
It’s very simple my friend.Death means, all your taste for enjoying the good life gone.You miss the beauty of universe.You miss your near and dear.you miss unfinished jobs.you miss, loving your sweetheart.
OK.But Why do you wish to live forever ?
I have an answer.
Modern age is better than Iron age.Iron age was better than bronze age.Bronze age was better than stone age.
As things become better and better ,we wish to live longer.We starts inventing things where in death can be delayed.As technology advances,they day may not be far,where death can become optional.
What is the present scenario ?
If you want to live longer – watch this clip. ( 3 minute Video )
Thank you Philosophy Through Photography
Why this happens ?
We all think that, Love means romance.But it is not so.
There are 7 types of love.
( source Psychologytoday.com, Quora)
My discussion is limited to the married couple.
Think for a second.
Can you tell the difference between ‘school and life‘ ?
” In school you are taught a lesson and then given a test.
In life,you are given a test,that teaches you the lesson” Tom Bodett
So what I am trying to tell is Life gives an opportunity to learn lessons from our experience, in this situation….. day to day problems faced by the couple,thus making them more accommodating,understanding and helpful to each other.
Thus we can become wiser by experiencing these experiences.
But here is the hitch.
The problem comes in the unknown form of ‘E G O ‘ nullifying all the benefits of life’s lessons,which we learn over the course of time.
Why can’t we make an attempt to look into this ? Why can not we prevent this disease before it strikes us ?
When we are able to manage life style diseases with sugar-free,fat-free,salt free,gluten-free etc. etc….why can’t we give a try for Ego- free ?
Another aspect is ,to be able to differentiate, the difference between love & Possession.Don’t think ,just because you love the person…you got right to possess the person.( as if the person is a property)
Remember love is selfless,coming from the bottom of the heart with total dedication,sincerity and commitment to lead a supportive life together.
We make our life miserable because we never make an attempt to understand the full potential of true love,and thus we make ‘love’ scarce in spite of its abundance.
True Love gives you, the real experience of what all you dream and
Ego gives you, all the heartache.
“A flower cannot blossom without sunshine, and man cannot live without love”. – Max Muller
If you are a wife or husband and on many occasions you think you are disappointed because of the other…..and think the other is the ‘difficult spouse’…. then this article is for you.
I am thankful to you if you felt there is something wrong in either of the parties and the mistake can be rectified easily.
There are two types of marriages.( Marriages are made in heaven.Is itn’t ?)
2.Arranged marriage ( In most of the eastern countries )
Irrespective of the type of marriage,both the man and the woman of his love have to adjust with each other in order to be compatible.
In fact, post marriage life is full of challenges and it exposes the couple to myriads of issues.
But we all know the truth.
One day or other both the man & the woman have to face unpleasant situation of opposing & different opinions and views, in matters of their day-to-day ‘living together’
The reality of the so-called colourful future has to show its fangs,since it is waiting to strike first !
Once the misunderstanding happens and prolongs….There are two options available
Why to quarrel at all in the first place ?
Now it’s time to think.
1.Realize that ‘ married happily ever after ‘ is an illusion ( Maya )
2.Understand that Wife & Husband belong to the same team and they have to work
together for the success of their married life.
“Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor. For if either of them falls, the one will lift up his companion. But woe to the one who falls when there is not another to lift him up.
3.We often hurt our spouse knowingly or unknowingly.Do you know the solution ? Ask for ‘forgiveness’ whole heartedly.
4.When Anger or Helplessness happens to one of you…just take a deep breath and allow the heated moment to pass.Don’t forget.. time’s the greatest healer.
5.Remember marriage is a vow,before God.
Now it’s time to put the following into action.
Don’t allow discord to remain ,not more than one minute,and your anger not more than a second.
Don’t be bossy and do not take one another for granted.
Respect individual feelings & make mutual adjustments
Make sincere effort to avoid jealousy and Ego & revenge,be the first to make the other win the argument.( small trick I tell you…remember whoever does most talking is the one at fault )
Don’t deprive each other of your needs just to take the revenge
Keep communicating,by which I mean try to find where exactly things are going wrong.
Constantly tell to yourself….
Forget & forgive,
I can go also wrong,
live & let live,
let us make best,out of the difficult situation,
I trust you.
I asked an old man “which is more important? To love or to be loved?”
Old man replied “which is more important to a bird, the left wing or the right wing?” – MarriageHumor, Instagram
A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers – Robert Quillen
A perfect marriage is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.-yourtango.com
A marriage is a like a house. When a light bulb goes out, you do not go and buy a new house, you fix the light bulb. – Happy Wives Club
Marriage is meant to keep people together, not just when things are good, but particularly when they are not. That’s why we take marriage vows, not wishes. – Ngina Otiende
Any thoughts on being the Difficult Spouse ?
which of the above quotes ,you thing sends the perfect message ?
Thanks for being a patient reader and reaching this point.
While we try to teach our children all about life, our children teach us what life is all about.
United Nations Universal Children’s Day was established in 1954 and is celebrated on November 20th each year to promote international togetherness, awareness among children worldwide, and improving children’s welfare.
The theme is #Goblue
Letters start with A-B-C
Numbers start with 1-2-3
Music starts with Do-Re-Mi
And Friendship starts with u & I
Wishing all the best to all of you my friends and may all your wishes be fulfilled.
First let us talk about ‘Wanting’ personalities-
More money ,more popularity,more pleasure,more likes in social media,more than 1000 friends/follows in social media,more achievements ( though positive ),more power one can go on… and remember, we are never tired of ‘wanting’ more.This has become a human trait.
Why you want more and more …..and even more ?
Probably you fear the ‘uncertain’ future, probably you are ‘greedy’.
These things make you develop desire, lust and finally,frustration if not successful and you may go into a dejection/depression/revengeful mode.
As the ‘ wanting’ personality,you are always obsessed with more and more demands and quick & positive outcome.
You are restless.
Can you survive a good relationship?( Wife,relatives and friends ).
The relationship can go sour since you are not getting what you wanted and when you get,it becomes incomplete since you have newer demands cropping up.
You are unhappy all the time.Neither you make people around you happy.
So you make yours and other’s lives miserable.
The point I am stressing is that you lost your commonsense and fail to know the difference between ‘love’ and ‘desire‘
“Love lasts a longtime but burning desire lasts two to three weeks” Carla Bruni
At the end who is happy?
Now let us talk of ‘Giving’ personalities…
Let us say, now that you, the ‘giving’ type,and we all know naturally,you are the happiest person on the earth.
But note down.’Giving’ personalities are of different types because their ‘giving’ pattern depends on factors like faith,Fear,self serving and spontaneous
If you are a ‘giving’ person,you are said to be guy with a kind heart,you enjoy the ‘feel good’ factor,you have a fulfillment and finally total satisfaction .Wait…….
Are you sure whom to give,when to give and how much to give ?
My feeling is…. the ‘giver’ must be judicious.
1.If you belong to too much ‘giving’ type-people may take advantage and even misuse your kindness.
2. Your continuous ‘giving’ habit can bring down motivation among the ‘takers’ and they may become lazy.
3.If you happen to be ‘giving’ to the ‘wanting’ personalities,then you are doing a great harm to your philosophy.
So there is some ‘ART’ which you have to follow if you belong to ‘giving’ trait.
Thank you so much for taking your time to reach this point.
Do you agree that most of us belong to both categories with variation in intensity?
Please share your thoughts on this.
Inspiration- Swami Sukhabodhananda,Michele, Roya Rad,Guy Hatcher,pixabay
In India,August 2, Dada Vaswani’s birthday, is observed as Global Forgiveness Day.
Life is like a roller coaster.
You can either scream every time there is a bump or
You can throw your hands up and enjoy the ride.
As you are busy with fast paced life , you are left with lots of tension,anxiety resulting in stress.you start thinking as if all the problems happening to you only.
Just relax.All of are undergoing the same, at one time or the other.You can neither run away from the problems, nor start dreaming of positive thoughts,The two popular advices..easier said than followed…
Just listen to the quotes by unknown and known wise souls.
If a problem can be solved, no need to worry about it. If a problem cannot be solved what is the use of worrying?
Worries and tensions are like birds , We cannot stop them from flying near us, But we can certainly stop them from making a nest in our mind.
The tension you feel from one person may be the tension you are causing for another.
Worrying does not take away tomorrow’s troubles. It takes away today’s peace.
Stress is the trash of modern life we all generate it, but if you don’t dispose of it properly, it will pile up and overtake your life.
Maturity is achieved when a person accepts life as full of tension. – Joshua L. Liebman
Stress is caused by being ‘here’ but wanting to be ‘there.’
– Eckhart Tolle
How beautiful it is to do nothing, and then to rest afterward.
– Spanish proverb
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1.Keep Smiling ( In other words Be Happy ).
Remember Bob Marleys song Don’t worry ,be happy ?
2.Think Positively ( in other words Lift yourself )
Both according to me are Myths.
Now let us analyse these two in the Real Life
Keep Smiling & Be Happy :
Happiness is a kind of Magnet, we get attracted .
we are used to believe that Happiness is achieved when we get things what we wished for and one can see the smile on our faces.
How long the happiness stays ? One minute,one day,one month,one year or through out our life ?
The demand for happiness is never ending.And the irony is ,you cann’t be happy all the time, since your wishes are unending.
Just think that
1.We can not control our thoughts,created at the time of unplesant happenings in our life.
2.You cann’t pretend to be happy when the results are not as per your plans.
3.What ever happens to you for whatever reason….You & I know that it’s only time being and life goes on with newer challenges to face.
4.When you are unhappy, consciously( outer world) you may give broad smile to others,but you cann’t defeat the thought of unhappiness,since discontent at subconscious ( inner world ) level is waiting to exploit the situation to further sadness..
5.Happily ever after happens only in ‘Fairy tales’ and in ‘Reel Life’ (Hollywood,Bollywood) rather than in ‘Real Life ‘
My take is ….. If you are Unhappy,Accept it,bear it and simply move on , rather than keeping the Fake Smile or acting brave etc.
It is the single most influencing stuff ,storming the entire world and 21 century version of ‘Be happy’ model.
Think positively – is a kind of ‘Reassuring’ yourself that nothing is going to be wrong and the problems get solved themselves.Nothing more dangerous than this attitutde.
Remember your problem is yours alone,it is going to be there,and mere positive thinking not going to help and you alone have to solve the problem to get peace of mind.
So your mindset is more powerful than the routine ‘Be positive’ psyche. It is OK not to be positive at times,since the situation you are facing not necessary end in happiness.
My take is…..
If you have time and patience you can go through this link and realize why positive thinking is a waste of time and not practicle……… Don’t miss reading Steve Neale tells about the scandal of ‘Positive Thinking’
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