Category: Attachment

Everyone is going to hurt you

Pavement Discussion

“The truth is everyone is going to hurt you.You just got to find the ones worth suffering for”  Bob Marley.

Life is another name for misery

Even if you are

  • Good,kind,compassionate,generous,understanding,sincere
  • Truthful,helpful,virtuous,up to the mark,right minded
  • Right thinking,principles,satisfying,exceptional
  • Wonderful,sweet,marvelous,honest,valuable
  • Positive and acceptable

I can go on and on…..remember this…..

Everybody whom ever you come across in your life is going to hurt you one way or another and at one time or another.This is the rule.

There is no getting around it.

If you claim, you are never hurt, simply it means you are lying.

How close are you to your people ?

Another rule of life is, the more you are closer to a person….the greater the intensity of ‘Hurt’.

What you think, brings you the maximum happiness & joy….is the one which hurts you the most.

Nature is our teacher and never fails us by its very nature, but we fail to notice it.

You are aware of the idiom ‘There’s no rose without a thorn’. If you want to love someone, you must be willing to accept the’hurt’

Why everybody hurts everybody?

This is because we misunderstand the meaning of ‘Love’.

“Love is beyond sex and physical touch. Love is kind words, a reassuring smile, one that is not jealous or keeps a record of wrongdoings. Love is knowing without a shadow of a doubt that you will always be there for that person and they will always be there for you”.   unknown 

Also It reminded me of R.E.M’s song ‘EVERYBODY HURTS’.

This post is part of Debbie Smyth’s     Six words Saturday

Thank you, Debbie Smyth, for the inspiration.

Thank you. Namaste🙏🙏🙏

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Is friendship a ‘fraud’ on people ?

Fooling oneself on Friendship

” I asked God to protect me from my enemies and I started losing my friends ” unknown          Duy Pham   unsplash

Can friendship be forever ?

Friendship is said to be one of the best things to happen in ones life.

Every time you think  of your friends, you  remember the saying ‘A friend in need is a friend indeed’

There are many similar quotes & sayings about worthiness of being a Friend & how to maintain the friendship etc and the BFF philosophy.

Some even said friends are an extended family.

Do you really think friendship lasts life long ?

But what actually happens ?

Well…….We all have two worlds….Dream world & Real world.

In the Dream World

“Death is possible any time,
Love is possible some time,
Marriage is possible one time,
But real friend like you is possible once in a life time.”   Unknown

Exaggeration at its peak ! Take it easy.

In the real world

The truth is

“I didn’t lose a friend.I just realized I never had one”    Unknown

It’s hard to find a genuine friend in this world.Mark my word.

Why don’t you realize that friendship changes from time to time and year to year ? Best friends you had previous year may not be the same this year.

The best friend you have this year won’t be true friend in real sense.

The so called bond between the friends too changes in intensity as times flies.Friends owe you nothing.All of them are judgmental.

Then why you feel bad if you don’t have a permanent friend ?

You are better off as an introvert rather than disappointed and getting depressed and pondering what went wrong by whom,who broke the friendship first  etc. etc.

Majority of your friends ignore your view point.Your friends make use of you to the extent you are useful to them.You are easily dispensable and thrown into the dust bin.

My feeling is 99% of the friendship is just show off ! Doesn’t serve any purpose and somewhere you feel good without friends.At least you can be at peace.

Friends don’t bring you the’Feel good’ instead bring you anger,hatred,jealous,frustration  and depression.

“There is some self interest behind every friendship.There is no friendship without self interest.This is a bitter truth“. Chanakya.

What is your experience, my friend ?

Don’t you agree that the idea of friend and friendship is rubbish since soon we all get disappointed as majority show their true colors and we have to fend ourselves.

So true friendship is a myth ?

Yes .Believe in me.

Friendship is a toxic waste of time.Friendship is an illusion ( Maya )

So who can be your best friend in the end ?

Just look into the mirror.

“I myself am the only friend I have.” Terence

Please share your views whether friendship is a fraud on people.I appreciate.

Thank you.

Philosophy Through Photography

29 reasons to hate’Love’

Reasons to hate 'love'

It’s a 2.1 minute read.

Plato said

“Love is a great mental disease”

Why it is so ?

You can’t see flaws in the person.

you lose focus and distracted.

Love makes you lose sleep.

Love strangulates you

What is Love

Relationships are ropes,Love is a noose    Durzo Blint

Love increases your heart rate.Heart pounds without reasoning.

Love makes you lose commonsense.

Love  can make  you lose track of your time.

Love can make  you sad.

Love can hurt you.

Love can waste your life’s time.

Love can destroy you.

Love can make you a rebel.

Love can turn ugly.

Love can betray you.

Pure love concept is a fraud on people.

Unconditional love utterly disappoints you since all of us have expectations.

Love can be costly.

Love is one side in most of the situations and you go into depression.

Love can make you lose support from your near and dear.

Love can make you possessive.

Love makes you jealous.

Love makes you a cheat.

Love can be challenging.

Love can be tiring.

Love can make you lose your identity.

Love can make you float in the air making you a stupid soul.

Love converts you into an idiotic poet for no reason.

Love makes you dance to its tunes.

Love exhausts you.

I can go on and on…..

Still……..

‘Love’ is a mesmerizing feeling & Life without Love is not possible.

Love is loved,adored and admired !!

That is the ‘charm’ of love !

Some interesting quotes on Love & Romance and which one is true ?

1.”Love is an exploding cigar we willingly smoke”    Lynda Barry

2.”Deceiving others.That is what the world calls a romance”   Oscar Wilde

Please share your views on love.

Thank you. Namaste  🙏🙏🙏

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Are you longing to live long ?

Why you wish to live longer ?

Old people are just young people who have been living for a long time unknown

Why you wish to live so long ?

Why not ?

What is wrong in wishing, to live Longer ?

Who does not want to juice their life beyond the required commitments ?

God has given this one life to be enjoyed as long as it is possible.And God knows this.

If you ask anybody,each one comes out with an explanation,as to why they wish to live longer.

“Old age is not a crime. It is the answer to our request for long life. As far as this old system exists, you must get old and feeble if you will live long.”
Vincent Okay Nwachukwu

What do I think of living longer ?

My feeling is living longer,no doubt gives those wonderful memories.

Nothing like spending time with grand children and great grand children and other dear ones.

Love and romance can continue.

The only requirement is maintaining good health,which in turn can make the person enjoy the quality time with people closer to you. (If the near & dear have time to spare !)

Read this 

“The privilege of living a long life comes at a price -the increasing loss of those we know and love around us.” Stewart Stafford

The above quote is really scarring and sounding a real tragedy to see your younger and loved ones knocking the Heaven doors much earlier……….in front of your eyes.

So at the end, is it worth living longer ?

The supreme irony of life is that hardly anyone gets out of it alive Robert Heinlein

Please share your thoughts.

Thank you.
Philosophy Through Photography

Love vs Attachment vs Possessiveness in human relationships.

It’s a 2.5 minute read.

Love has single or multiple meanings ?

Love has only one meaning,that is GIVE.

It is unconditional without expectations and given with total dedication.

Love is finding yourself in the happiness of the others.Love is you, knowing what other person needs rather than what you feel the other person needs.

Love is shown by deeds ,not just by saying ‘I Love you’ whole day and night.

You must love in such a way that the person you love feels free.

Possessiveness vs attachment

If you love some one,set them free.If they come back they are yours;If the don’t they never were ” Richard Bach

Love & Attachment ….are they similar ?

Attachment is the feeling being ‘happy’to have the other person in your life,irrespective of the other persons feelings.

Love,attachment and possessiveness in relationship

“Drop the idea that attachment and love are one thing. They are enemies. It is attachment that destroys all love.” Rajneesh

Actually attachment is nothing but fear of being alone while Love opens your heart and soul to another person.

You are attached to a person because you are selfish in that you need to run the ‘show’ of your life.Whereas True love continues even if there is detachment.

Love empowers you while attachment tells who is dominating.

Love is selfless while attachment is selfish.

In attachment,you hold so tight because you don’t like to lose the person

In love you hold the person gently caring softly with comforting words.

Jetsunma Tenzin Palmo’s quote is apt for an easy understanding.

Attachment says:I love you,therefore you need to make me happy.

Genuine Love says : I love you,therefore I want you to be happy.

What about Possessiveness ?

In relationship,it is defined as ,demanding someone’s total attention and love.

Possession is all about control.

Being possessive is OK in sense you are worried about the well being of your kith and kin but any excess of this….virtually takes away the freedom of your loved ones and remember each individual need some personal space.

Just for your idea the following is suffice,though this is in extreme form.

Thanking you.

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