Are you the ‘Difficult Spouse’ ?

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Real relationships are not perfect and perfect relationships are not real !!

 

It’s 5.4 minute read.

If you are a wife or husband and on many occasions you think you are disappointed because of the other…..and think the other is the ‘difficult spouse’…. then this article is for you.

I am thankful to you if you felt there is something wrong in either of the parties and the mistake can be rectified easily.

There are two types of marriages.( Marriages are made in heaven.Is itn’t ?)

1.Love marriage

2.Arranged marriage ( In most of the eastern countries )

Irrespective of the type of marriage,both the man and the woman of his love have to adjust with each other in order to be compatible.

In fact, post marriage life is full of challenges and it exposes the couple to myriads of issues.

But we all know the truth.

One day or other both the man & the woman have to face unpleasant situation of opposing & different opinions and views, in matters of their day-to-day ‘living together’

The reality of the so-called colorful future has to show its fangs,since it is waiting to strike first !

Once the misunderstanding happens and prolongs….There are two options available

  1. You decided you are not going to adjust at all…then Apply for divorce and probably matter can come to end to the mutual satisfaction,and thus ending the very discussion I am trying to make.
  2. If the above choice is not the option due to so many other pressing matters,( which is a bit lengthy topic, for some other time discussion ) and you both have to live together,and you have to go along with the spouse….thus making the ‘misunderstanding part’ useless and even unnecessary.

Why to quarrel at all in the first place ?

Now it’s time to think.

1.Realize that ‘ married happily ever after ‘ is an illusion ( Maya )
2.Understand that Wife & Husband belong to the same team and they have to work

together for the success of their married life.

“Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor. For if either of them falls, the one will lift up his companion. But woe to the one who falls when there is not another to lift him up.

Ecclesiastes4.9-10

3.We often hurt our spouse knowingly or unknowingly.Do you know the solution ? Ask for ‘forgiveness’ whole heartedly.

4.When Anger or Helplessness happens to one of you…just take a deep breath and allow the heated moment to pass.Don’t forget.. time’s the greatest healer.

5.Remember marriage is a vow,before God.

Now it’s time to put the following into action.

Don’t allow discord to remain ,not more than one minute,and your anger not more than a second.

Don’t be bossy and do not take one another for granted.

Respect individual feelings & make mutual adjustments

Make sincere effort to avoid jealousy and Ego & revenge,be the first to make the other win the argument.( small trick I tell you…remember whoever does most talking is the one at fault )

Don’t deprive each other of your needs just to take the revenge

Keep communicating,by which I mean try to find where exactly things are going wrong.

Constantly tell to yourself….

  • Forget & forgive,
  • I can go also wrong,
  • live & let live,
  • let us make best,out of the difficult situation,
  • I trust you.

Finally

I asked an old man “which is more important? To love or to be loved?”
Old man replied “which is more important to a bird, the left wing or the right wing?” – MarriageHumor, Instagram

A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers – Robert Quillen

A perfect marriage is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.-yourtango.com

A marriage is a like a house. When a light bulb goes out, you do not go and buy a new house, you fix the light bulb. – Happy Wives Club

Marriage is meant to keep people together, not just when things are good, but particularly when they are not. That’s why we take marriage vows, not wishes. – Ngina Otiende

 

Any thoughts on being the Difficult Spouse ?

which of the above quotes ,you think sends the perfect message ?

Thanks for being a patient reader and reaching this point.

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Secret of long married life !

Marry a man your own age; as your beauty fades, so will his eyesight. Phyllis Diller

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Sharing the feelings

Is Sharing feelings to a known friend ( offline ) or unknown friend ( online ) a healthy idea ?

Can you help me coming to a conclusion ?

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Don’t wait for the ‘Perfect Moment’ Take the moment & make it perfect

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Are you becoming, of late sick of Photography ? Are you loosing interest in photography?What is the percentage of Keepers you have when you take tons of shots ?

Have you ever tried crystal ball photography ? I bet you enjoy it.

Check below link also to know more.

Life is not perfect,but it has perfect moments

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“Do not take life too seriously. You will never get out of it alive”. Elbert Hubbard

Life Under pressure

“If the problem can be solved why worry? 

If the problem cannot be solved worrying will do you no good.” 

Santideva.

Why you think there is a constant pressure on your life ?

Is it possible to let the steam out and lead a better  peaceful and contended  life ?

What are all the ways you think you are getting pressure even on your routine day-to-day life ? Let us discuss.

Family pressure

You want to do something you like but the family members advising you otherwise.You have two choices,either go ahead and do what you wanted to do or listen to your family.

The emotional tactic adopted by family members is crucial in influencing your thoughts.

Solution– Since you are grown up ,you can take your own well-meant decisions.

I feel emotional pressure by the family members is a kind of  ‘blackmail’.

Social pressure

It is defined as the influence that is exerted on a person or groups.It can be argument,persuasion and conformity and demands.

Solution- Develop self confidence and mingle with people who accept you as you are.  ( Like minded )

Peer Pressure

Peer pressure is the direct influence on people by peers, or the effect on an individual who gets encouraged to follow their peers by changing their attitudes, values or behaviors to conform to those of the influencing group or individual.

You will fall prey to peer pressure because you want to fit in .The peer can be your friend,classmate or colleague.

Solution– Be bold,think of the consequences,say a polite ‘thank you’ and be selective.

Our own tendencies

Author Gretchen Rubin has built a model called Four Tendencies Framework namely

1.Upholders.

2.Questioners.

3.Obligers.

4.Rebels.

She says that the four tendencies are responsible as to why we act and why we don’t act.

These tendencies can create pressure on oneself.

Solution– Change your tendencies.As simple as that.

You can even take the quiz of Gretchen Rubin here to know what personality you belong and how much pressure you are facing in your life.Click the link

4 tendencies quiz

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Lifes Way of solving problems

Life is very complicated.

Don’t try to find Answers.

Because when you find answers,

Life changes the Questions.

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Ego=bubble

Ego bubble


Your ego may be just a soap bubble.May be for a few seconds it will remain,rising higher in the air.

Perhaps for a few seconds it may have a rainbow,but is only for a few seconds.In this infinite & eternal existence your egos go on bursting every moment.

It is better not to have any attachment with soap bubbles

Rajneesh

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Anger is one letter short of Danger

Anger

You will not be punished for your anger,you will be punished by your anger                                                                                  Buddha                                                                                          

Anger is defined as “a string feeling of annoyance,displeasure or hostility.”

Holding on to Anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. Buddha

I am not  here giving  the various reasons as to why one becomes angry or the types of anger.

All that I wish is to follow the following quote whenever  you become angry.

“Anger is like a ball of fire,

but if you swallow it,

It’s sweeter than Honey.”

Imam Ali ( AS )

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Right Connections

Prayer is connecting with God,uploading your love,requests and thanks, downloading His love and answers.

Do you make an attempt to connect to God everyday or you are too busy and try to connect him only when you face troubles in your life ?

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Setting the example

If you set the right example for your children during their formative years,those bonds of love and respect will be unbreakable. And your children will grow into adults,whom you can be proud of.

Are you grateful to your parents ?

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The gift Of Friendship

It’s 3.3 minute read.

Don’t you agree with me that True friendship is difficult since finding a true friend is the hardest.

” A friend is some one who understands your past,believe in your future….accepts you to-day the way you are “. Unknown

We may not realize the value of friendship until the time it is given when it is badly needed,so we have to cultivate and cherish the friendship .

Make aware to your friends how much they mean to you and how well they contribute to your happiness from your routine boring life.

Don’t ask me how to pick up a true friend or how to know,that the other person can be a good and even a true friend.

This is a difficult subject and can be discussed on another day.

The following quote is my feeling ,whenever one interacts with one’s true friends.

Friendship is a treasured gift,and every time I talk with you I feel as if I’m getting richer and richer “. Unknown

Friends can even become Besties.

True friendship is ‘Magical’ !!

“Friendship is not about whom you have known the longest,it’s about who walked into your life and said “I’m here for you” and proved it.  Unknown

The true friend helps me being a counselor in times of distress ,

Can be my confidant when the situation demands,most importantly gives all the strength I need when I am the weakest at some point of time of my life.

Now you will ask me…What is the secret of sustaining this friendship ??

Certain things come to my mind,which can further the bond.

1. Be frank.Accept the drawbacks or short fall either of you may possess.
No body is perfect in this world and everybody has some story to tell and as a true friend you are willing to listen.Provide the much-needed leaning shoulder.Respect the individuality.Even if situation demands call spade a spade and explain the realities.Never thrust your opinions.When you tell the truth let the other person accept this rather than doubting and vice versa.

2. Develop the principle of ‘forget and forgive’ since we know we are never free of committing the mistakes and it’s human to do mistakes.

3.Try to recollect the fun moments or joyous moments you both had while spending time together or enjoying the jokes during your chat times.

4.Share the happiness together.

The happiness ,one can feel only when one is able to share with the other.

Remember you can never enjoy happiness all alone.

Thank you my friends for patiently reading.

Now please share your personal experience on ‘Gift of Friendship’ be on-line or off-line.

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Lock Up Mentalities


It is such a waste, when people are alienated (friends, relatives, wife & husband,Couples or business partners etc.) from each other for days, months or even years,….all over some misunderstanding…that could have been sorted out sooner or even one of the parties had shown more Humility or Understanding.

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Soar High

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The wings of Hope carry us,soaring high above the driving winds of Life Ana Jacob

We all know that Life is not a fairytale that ends Happily ever after.

Life is composed of ups and downs.

There are several situations where we plan to the precision but when our wish is not coming true, we as humans get devastated.

And in some situations just reverse-what ever you wished can happen to your surprise.

“Life has many ways of testing a persons’ will.either by having nothing happen at all or by having everything happen all at once Paulo Coelho

Every day your life keeps you challenging at the drop of a hat ! But remember not to allow these challenges to put you down.

Never make comparisons.You don’t know the difficulties faced by the other person before he became successful.

“You aren’t going to find anybody that’s going to be successful without making a sacrifice and without perseverance.” Lou Holtz

Make best use of life,take everything that is offered to you ,because you know pretty well at the end something good is going to happen.

“If you can’t fly then run, if you can’t run then walk, if you can’t walk then crawl, but whatever you do you have to keep moving forward.” Martin Luther King, Jr.

If you want to soar high in the life,you have to give up the things and people that weigh you down. Rashida Rowe quotes

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Friendship vs Love…which triumps ?

It’s 2.2 minute read

“Sometimes,in life there really are bonds formed that can never be broken.

Sometimes you really can find that one person who will stand by you no matter what.

May be you will find it in a spouse and celebrate it with your dream wedding.

But there’s also the chance that the person you can count on for a life time, the person who knows you sometimes better than you know yourself, is the same person who’s been standing beside you all along”.      Bride wars

Let us see who triumphs at the end.

LOVE

L is the 12 th letter of alphabets

O is the 15 th letter of alphabets

V is the 22 nd letter of alphabets

E is the 05 th  letter  of alphabets

Total of Love is = 54.

FRIENDSHIP

F is the 06 th letter of alphabets

R is the 18 th letter of alphabets

I is the 09 th letter of alphabets

E is the 05 th letter of alphabets

N is the 14 th letter of alphabets

D is the 04 th letter of alphabets

S is the 19 th letter of alphabets

H is the 08 th letter of alphabets

I is the   09 th letter of alphabets

P is the 16 th letter of alphabets

Total of Friendship is = 108

Exactly twice of 54

So the FRIENDSHIP is twice the value of LOVE.

Do you agree ??

Now time for some fun

One day Love met Friendship.Love asked,why did you exist when I already exist?

Friendship replied..to put a smile where you’ve left tears.

And

“There are friends,there is family,And then there are friends that become family.”

What is your take ? Friendship or Love ? Check this link

Wife & Husband-can’t they be best friends for life ?

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Can you survive loneliness ? ?

Friendship

Great friendship enhances the quality of life.

Deep and lasting friendships don’t  just happen.They require focus,energy,patience,and skill to form and maintain.

Good friends will enhance your journey through life in more ways than you can imagine.

Invest in a few. You don’t need a lot. This is one of those cases when quality is more important than quantity.

unknown

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Miracle

Both of them were uncertain; both of them were trying as much as they could; both of them would doubt themselves, would progress and recede. But they would both keep trying, because they trusted the other, and because the other person was the only other person who ever be worth such hardships, such difficulties, such insecurities and exposure. ‘Hanya Yanagihara’

Do you believe in , that true friendship is possible in the real life ??

Wasn’t friendship its own miracle,the finding of another person who made the entire lonely world seem somehow less lonely

Hanya Yanagihara

Moving together  and interacting with our  friends in our circle ( offline ) ….at least we know each other by face,by real name,our habits,our nature,our jobs,our commitments etc.etc. and it’s an altogether different, in online friendship.

What about online friendship that too with an unknown person ?

what is your experience ??

I always wonder how these unknown online friends who know nothing of the other,but still keep in touch with each other as if they are the long-lost friends and they are also aware that they are separated by thousands of miles in this beautiful world….I don’t know what makes these two to gel so well  !!

I even read somewhere that in one such case,the friendship continued even  beyond 10 yrs !!

You never regret for making such a strong bond over the time with friends especially unknown….irrespective of the age,background,looks,status,liabilities,their individual responsibilities…….

Just read these beautiful quotes regarding’friendship’ by Hanya Yanagihara

Friendship is the most underrated relationship in our lives. It remains the one relation not bound by law, blood, or money — but an unspoken agreement of love.

Hanya Yanagihara

Why wasn’t friendship as good as a relationship? Why wasn’t it even better? It was two people who remained together, day after day, bound not by sex or physical attraction or money or children or property, but only by the shared agreement to keep going, the mutual dedication to a union that could never be codified.

Hanya Yanagihara

You won’t understand what I mean now, but someday you will: the only trick of friendship, I think, is to find people who are better than you are—not smarter, not cooler, but kinder, and more generous, and more forgiving—and then to appreciate them for what they can teach you, and to try to listen to them when they tell you something about yourself, no matter how bad—or good—it might be, and to trust them, which is the hardest thing of all. But the best, as well.

Hanya Yanagihara
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Don’t regret even a single minute of your life !

Life is a thing of many stages and moving parts,

What we do with ease at one time of life we can hardly manage at another.

What we could not fathom doing when we were young,we find great joy in when we are old.

Like the season through which we move,life itself is a never-ending series of harvests,a different fruit for every time.

Joan D Chittister

So thankful

Be thankful,

For if we did not learn a lot to-day,

At least we learned a little,

And if we did not learn a little,

At least we did not get sick,

And if we got sick,

At least we didn’t die,

So be thankful.

Gautama Buddha

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The Closer….. the Better

Closer the better

Toughest job on Earth

What is the toughest job on earth ?

Guess and tell me.

I am sure you can not.

Googling gives you billion answers in nanosecond !

Nothing to compare as to what I am going to tell !!!

If you are eager to know , just answer the following question.

How to tell some one that their breath stinks without hurting their feelings ?

1. When. 2. Where and 3. how to say nice words at the same time stressing the point.

Many times we have seen relationship getting worse when somebody is frank.

Sadly we even avoid the person while in conversation.

And even dread meeting the person.

Or you think it is rude even to give hints etc.

Or just forget everything and continue conversation with the person and just move on….

And quite a few with bad breath go into depression and tend to avoid people or remain in isolation.

Any members ,aware of any Etiquette…if at all it is there ??

Is the ‘Mint’ only solution to overcome this problem ?

That is the reason the World celebrates ‘World Oral Health day’ March 20 and to-day is that day !

Who doesn’t love sparkling smile with lovely set of teeth ?

Why not each and every one of us see the Dentist regularly (once in 6 months) as required.

World Oral Health Day

What are the minimum things we are supposed to do regularly ?

1.Start the dental care for the kids as soon as teeth start forming.2.Brush twice a day,by using proper technique and never forget flossing daily.If you are not aware of flossing take help of you tube or yourDentist.3.Change the tooth-brush once in 3 or 4 months.4.Before going to bed rinse the mouth with anti bacterial solution.5.Forget smoking,tobacco and all other related stuff.6.Eat healthy diet and I need not stress how important this is.7.Consult Dentist once in 6 months.

Ok.Now I come to some common dental problems we face because of our irresponsible habits.

Of course ,these things you already know.

1.BAD breath….this is how I started my topic. 2.Tooth decay.3.Gum disease,4.Tooth sensitivity.5.Oral cancer.6.Of course who enjoys your unpleasant & un-attractive smile ?

Members suggestions/ opinions appreciated.

Healthy teeth & Gums

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World Oral Health Day is celebrated every year on 20 March. It is an international day to celebrate the benefits of a healthy mouth and to promote worldwide awareness of the issues around oral health and the importance of oral hygiene to looking after everyone old and young. source-World Dental Federation-FDI

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How you are going to sleep to night ?

Simple.Empty your mind !

How you are going to sleep to-night ?

Is it a sound sleep or disturbed sleep or deep sleep because of sedatives/tranquilizer/excess alcohol ?

“The best way to keep ourselves and our lives in good shape is to empty our minds of all worries, anxieties, tensions and negative thoughts before we retire for the night.We can then begin the new day with energy,vigour and freshness”.

Dada JP Vaswani

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Love the unlovely

Love the unlovely.

There is no greatness in you if you show your love only to the lovely .

Let your love be uniform, both to the lovely & unlovely.

Let love overlook other’s faults and shortcomings, always believe the best about them,and never lose hope for them.

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Can you answer this ? (Questions series No-5)

“The heart does things for reasons that reason can’t understand.”

Jacques Benigne Bossel

Why,reason is helpless to understand the feelings of the heart ?

Why heart is overtaking  and dominating everything ?

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Are you sad ?

Are yu sad ?

Some days are just bad days,that’s all.You have to experience sadness to know happiness,and I remind myself that not every day is going to be a good day,that’s just the way it is !  Dita Von Teese     

“It is popularly believed that sadness is due to certain things that happens to us. The cause of sadness is often traced to misfortune,hardship or humiliation

In truth all sadness is from within.

Sadness is the result of our inner attitude towards outer happenings”.

Dada J P Vaswani

The reasons for sadness are many. And all of you know.

Reaction to sadness varies from person to person and depends on how sensitive the person is.

Sadness can break the person completely and even push into suicidal tendencies.

Some cry to get relief,some indulge in self harming,some manage the show by fake smile,but still many are unable to come out of the feelings.

We all should realise that nothing is permanent in this life. Change is the way of life.

Whether it is sadness or happiness it won’t last forever and comes alternatively and this is nature’s law. Every thing changes over the time and time is the greatest healer!

Whatever may be the reason for sadness…never keep the emotions inside. Remember it’s like a time bomb.

What is the solution ?

Yes solution available.

A sad person needs another person who understands him/her 100%

The sad person just needs this person on whom he/she can lean on and cry their hearts out. Believe me the relief is instant !

Dear friends,please share your thoughts.

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Stressed? Think of Romantic Friendship !

Romantic Friendship

There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement and acceptance.” John Lennon

This is a 2.7 minute read.Please proceed if you can spare this much time.

Before I start the discussion,it’s better we know the definition of ‘Romantic Friendship’.

According to ‘Wikipedia’

“A romantic friendship, passionate friendship, or affectionate friendship is a very close but typically non-sexual relationship between friends,often involving a degree of physical closeness beyond that which is common in the contemporary Western Societies. It may include for example holding hands,cuddling,hugging,kissing,giving massages,  and sharing a bed, or  co-sleeping, without sexual intercourse or other physical sexual expression”

Yourdictionary.com says

“An intensely emotional love relationship between two unrelated people, in which sexuality  is unimportant and typically absent, but there is greater physical affection or poetic communication than is typical for friendship”

Can we include online Friendship ( since we are into the digital revolution with social media,online-video/chat,making new online friends etc ) into the above definitions ? I am not sure.

How nice it’s when the truly understanding relationship takes a vow, as said below !

“The best love is the kind that awakens the soul and makes us reach more,that plants a fire in our hearts and brings peace to our minds.And that’s what you’ve given me.That’s what I’d hoped to give you forever”  Nicholas Sparks

But then….all are not fortunate and there has to be a kind of ‘vibe’ or as some one brilliantly  coined the term ‘ Familiar vibe’,  or  Mutual ‘resonance’ between the partners or friends or relationships.Plato’s quote is apt.

“Every heart sings a song, incomplete, until another heart whispers back. Those who wish to sing always find a song. At the touch of a lover, everyone becomes a poet.” Plato.

True friends really make a big influence on their individual lives in times of stress.

And What did John Lennon Say about friendship and its impact on Life and how this true friendship keeps you smiling ?

“Count your age by friends, not years. Count your life by smiles, not tears”.

A recent study published in the journal Psychophysiology suggests that simply imagining love & support from your significant other can boost your stress management skills.Check this link.

Thinking About Partners Reduces Stress-Study

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“We don’t laugh because we’re happy, we are happy because we laugh”. William James

“Laugh and the world laughs with you,snore and you sleep alone”         Anthony Burgess

Always smile

Keep laughing whenever it is possible.

Make your surroundings lighter with your laughter.

Spend time with people who bring joy and happiness along with laughter !

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Booze Blues

 

 

Alcohol

“A bottle of wine contains more philosophy than all the books in the world.” Louis Pasteur

I told my wife that a husband is like a fine wine; he gets better with age. The next day, she locked me in the cellar.coolfunnyquotes.com

 

A glass of beer shortens your life by one minute, a glass of wine by two minutes, and a day of work by seven to ten hours.

 

When I read about the evils of drinking, I gave up reading. Henny Young man

 

The first glass is for myself,the second for my friends,the third for good humor,and the fourth for my enemiesWilliam Temple

 

The present and the past walked into a bar. Things got a little tense. onlinefun.com

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“You have to treat ‘death’ like any other part of your life”- Tom Sneva

You have to treat 'death' like any other part of your life- Tom Sneva

Death is not important. As long we are here, there is no death. And when death is there, we will not be here anymoreEpicurus

Don’t get scared of death !

True !

Embrace your life,do the best you can with your life because when it’s over..it’s really over.There is no afterlife or paradise.

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A good laugh and a long sleep are the best cures in the doctor’s book. – Irish proverb

But then who cares !

Seven days without laughter makes one weak. Mort Walker

It’s a 3.4 minute read.

Have you studied the facial expressions in the above photos ?

They are all laughing…their heads off ! This is happening irrespective of their age.This laugh is spontaneous and heartful.Since you are smart, you know that it is not a fake laugh.

Being intelligent, you also noticed that, some of them have closed their eyes,indicating total involvement and contentment of the situation they are in and the life they are living at that moment !

“A smile is the beginning of laughter,and laughter is the feeling of being happy,which we all need every day” ! Byron Pulsifer

Don’ take life seriously,start having fun ,what ever way you wish and have at least one good laugh every day !

Have a hearty laugh at every available situations be amusing or funny.Even recollect something funny that happened in your life and laugh and laugh and laugh.

I love friends who make us happy by their laughter and who are also jovial.

And I am lucky to have lovely online friends,who make my life burden lighter with their humour.

Advantages of Laughter –brings down the stress level,Reduces the Blood pressure,Your worries gone for sometime,You are also spending the calories,even improve the immune system

A hearty laugh gives one a dry cleaning, while a good cry is a wet wash.
Puzant Kevork Thomajan

And talking about sound sleep ……. Lack of sleep is common in modern society.

From the interactions I had with a few WP readers,I realised that some of them are able to respond/reply/comment mostly during past midnight ( people from my part of the Indian Subcontinent ). I am not here for any judgment,since I know nothing of their schedule etc,but I wonder what is the mood like during that time, and how their next day is going to be and also the consequences on their health status in the long run.

Reduced sleep

Disturbed sleep ( insomnia) or Lack of sleep ( Sleep deprivation).

1.Insomnia is a sleep disorder due to psychological or health problems and one has to consult the physician for the cure.

2.Lack of sleep is human making.You get ready answer as to why one is not able to sleep enough.

Lack of sleep affects your immune system.( I don’t want to go into medical /scientific details).If you want your immune system to work at its best…then get the needed amount of sleep every night Don’t give excuses of stress etc.

On the contrary,good sleep reduces your stress level !

Don’t depend on sedatives or tranquilizers ! Remember lack of sleep makes you depressed.

“Sometimes it is difficult to remember, but other times it is very easy to remember. Sleep deprivation is the killer”. Andy Samberg

Please share your thoughts and views
Thank you

Life isn’t perfect,but it has perfect moments

Life is n't perfect,but it has perfect moments

It is not the years in your life but the life in your years that counts  Adlai stevensony 

We all know that Life can never be ‘Instagram Perfect’.

But still,why we all make our life miserable ?

1.Because we worry about future which is unknown.

2..We quarrel among ourselves for what happened yesterday,who is responsible etc and trying to blame others or ourselves in the process.Yesterday is past….and nothing can be done,but still we worry for the things that happened.

3. We forget to be happy  today conveniently because we have something or other priorities to attend.

Things don’t happen as per our wish,not readily waiting for us on the silver platter.

Do you remember the quote”Good things come to those who wait” It is nothing but rubbish.Life is never kind and it owes us nothing.There is no such thing called ‘Happy Life’ and my point is that you have to ‘live’  in the moment and make your life ‘Happy’

“It’s not a case of finding the meaning of the moments,but giving the moments meaning”. Steven Redhe

This life is our own and it resonates how you want it to live.If you want it to be miserable ..it’s the way it’s going to be for you.

“you can frame a moment,But you can’t frame life”    Armin Houman

‘Hope’ is good,no doubt it sustains us but then we should make attempts to make that hope a reality by living in the ‘moment’

Then how not to feel miserable in life ? My thoughts are simple.

1.Stop over thinking.

2.Stop judging others.

3.Remember,nothing under your control.Just move along the flow

4.Avoid the mentality of perfectionist.

5.Stop criticizing.You know only part of the story.

6.Avoid negative thoughts .

7.Most importantly stop comparing yourself.

Thank you

Philosophy Through Photography

 

 

Hardest thing in this world is……

Hardest thing in the world is ...

I know you are tempted to say ‘Diamond’ !

True to some extent.Diamonds symbolize Status,Love,strength( hardness), beauty and Prosperity.

It’s also interesting to know why  60 th wedding anniversary is called ‘Diamond Anniversary’ ?.It’s because of longevity of the couple’s relationship both in times of happiness and difficulties and the marriage surviving this long of 60 yrs without break up in relationship, a toughest job indeed in the modern day philosophy of ‘divorce’ at the drop of a hat.

Do you want to know which is tougher than Diamond ?

“True Love and Loyal Friends are two of the toughest things to find.”   Unknown

Whichever part of the world you are in ,remember,never underestimate the power of true love and loyal friends.

Be a true lover & don’t lose loyal friends.

To all my WP friends…

Happy Valentine’s Day 

Thank you

Philosophy Through Photography

 

Can you answer this?(Question series- N0-1)

can you answer this? soulmate

Hello friends, I take this opportunity to express my sincere thanks and gratitude for all the encouragement you have been giving.

I intend to start, in  some of my posts with question series,whenever such questions crop up in my mind ( courtesy one inspiring soul ), where in your expert opinion counts.

Kindly guide me.My sincere advance thanks.

Does the age difference count for the soul-mates ? if so …How much age difference can be appropriate between the soul-mates. according to you ?

Thank you

Philosophy through Photography

Image- pixabay

How are you celebrating the Valentine’s day,this time ?

Valentines day

Valentine’s day is the day,when all over the world,LOVE is celebrated.

It’s celebrated on 14 th February of every year.

Just think for a second.Are we true to the spirit of Valentine’s day ?

Is it necessary to wait for this day to express love ?

Instead we can  show this love in every day of our life.

Don’t you think true love is the one,which is beyond conditions ?

True love should be forever supportive.

Love should be constant both in times of happiness and sorrow.

Of late, we have become busy in  showing off love ,instead of taking solemn pledge of Love !

And on the Valentine’s day,funnily we exaggerate our Love !

To show love you must buy something and this is  where industries are making a kill on this day,defeating the very purpose of Valentina day.

I guess we are over rating the day !

Money, money,money,it’s so funny !

My take, Love never fails,instead people fail on love.

“Love never dies a natural death.It dies because we don’t know how to replenish its source.It dies of blindness and errors and betrayals.It dies if illness and wounds,It dies of weariness,of witherings,or tarnishings.” Anais Nin

Thank you

Philosophy Through Photography

Credits-Pixabay,thoughtcatalog.com

Global warming of different kind

Global warming of different kind

Don’t hesitate to spread the warmth whatever may be your situation ! 

“Warm weather fosters growth.Cold weather destroys it.Thus a man with an unsympathetic temperament has scanty joy:But a man with a warm and friendly heart is overflowing with blessings,and his beneficence will extend to posterity.” Hung Tzu-Ch’Eng

 

“Even more important than the warmth and affection we receive,is the warmth and affection we give,It is by giving warmth and affection,by having a genuine sense of concern for others,in other words through compassion,that we gain the conditions for genuine happiness.More important than being loved,therefore is to love.” Dalai Lama

 

“Each of us is responsible for creating an environment of warmth and consideration for those we love.I have always tried to define a good day not in terms of one in which all things were made right and comfortable for me but rather,as a day in which I have been able to make another’s day more loving,and special for them.We must treat each other  with dignity.Not because we merit it,but because we grow best in thoughtfulness.” Leo Buscaglia

 

Finally

“A woman at 20 is like ice, at 30 she is warm and at 40 she is hot.” Gina Lollobrigida

Thank you

Credits-Pixabay.A-z quotes

World Cancer day 4 th Feb

 

World cancer day

There is ‘CAN‘ in cancer,because we CAN beat it

World cancer day is a day we should remember,It’s a day for taking action !

Cancer is a word.Not a sentence

John Diamond

This day is celebrated as World Cancer day,where in, the world becomes one,united to fight cancer epidemic.

This day is a reminder and an attempt to bring an awareness of cancer,in terms of prevention,detection and treatment.

If you come across a person with cancer,make your self available, listen to the person,make the person cheer, with all your might.

We can talk to them with constant encouraging words.

“At any given moment you have the power to say, this is NOT how the story is going to end” unknown

What are the early warning signs of cancer ,you should not ignore ? (Irish cancer society)

  1. New lumps or growths on your skin.
  2. A sore or bruise that does not heal.
  3. A mole that changes in shape, size or colour or bleeds in unusual circumstances.
  4. An ongoing cough or hoarseness that last longer than three weeks.
  5. Indigestion or difficulty in swallowing.
  6. A change in bowel or bladder habits for no good reason.
  7. Shortness of breath.
  8. Loss of appetite.
  9. Unexplained weight loss or tiredness.
  10. Blood anywhere it normally should not be – in urine, bowel motions, or from spitting.

Finally

“Feed your faith and your fears will starve to death” unknown

Thank you
Philosophy Through Photography

Credits pixabay,everydayhealth.com,Irish cancer society,bestslogans

Tongue-tasteic!

Can you reign in your tongue ?

The tongue is a fantastic organ!

You Use it for speech, taste and decorative/culture ( tongue piercing)

It’s a strong arsenal in your body

Tongue is a blessing and also your nemesis

It can make the difference between life & death, joy & sorrow

Can make or break the relationship

Can sooth you or hurt you.

With the same tongue we praise the Lord and curse the people.

It can easily put one’s foot in one’s mouth !

Is your tongue ruining your life ?

Relax…it is possible to keep tongue under check !

1.speak less.2.speak with sincerity.3.speak with grace.4.speak kindly.5.don’t gossip.

Listen to what wise men said……

“For every kind of beasts,and of birds,and of serpents,and of things in the sea,is tamed.and hath been tamed of mankind.But the tongue can no man tame.It is an unruly evil,full of deadly poison.” JAMES3: 7-8

“The tongue is like a sharp knife….kills without drawing a blood.” Buddha.

“Better slip with foot,than tongue.”    Benjamin Franklin

“Whatever is in the heart will come up to the tongue”.  Persian Proverb

” At table keep a short hand,in company keep a short tongue”  Turkish Proverb.

“It is better to bite your tongue than to eat your words”.  Frank Sonnenberg

“Talk with your mind before you talk with your tongue”. Anonymous

“The tongue is but a small sot flesh.Yet it is capable of breaking the strongest bonds and destroying the most powerful relationships”.  Yasir Quadhi

Thank you

Philosophy Through Photography

Credits-pixabay,Quotes from net.

? Gossip ? Conversation

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What is your take ?

Are these two gossiping or conversing ?

World is the Wonderful place to live in … with a lot of problems disappearing….

If only we TALK to each other instead of ABOUT each other.

Thank you  Philosophy Through Photography

Image source © Dr.Sridhar,2019 All Rights Reserved

 

How long online friendship lasts ?

How long online frienship lasts ?

One of the most beautiful qualities of true friendship is to understand and to be understood. Lucius Annaeus Seneca

It’s a 4.5 minute read,if you have patience proceed..

Before we proceed further let us understand ‘friendship’.

“Friendship is a best ship which can lead you on world tour”   unknown

It takes roughly 200 hours to become best friends with someone,    according to science. Can you sustain it afterwards ?

Say 6 months ? 1 yr…..3 yrs…..7 yrs…. Or till one of them decides to knock the Heavens door ?

Don’t you think… friendship is a complicated relationship among people ?

It can last from one day to…. life long !

“Friendship isn’t about whom you have known the longest…it’s about who came, and never left your side” unknown.

It is said that true friendship is possible,having similar wavelengths,and  the two sharing their true feelings, whether a happy or sad situation in an honest way,at the same time maintaining the confidentiality,helpful to each other whenever possible and not interfering unnecessarily into their personal matters.

with the invention of internet and followed by online chat facilities…..both distant & near friendship became ONLINE

What is online friendship ?( Unknown to each other initially )

It is communication between two unknown friends exclusively via internet.With the advent of social media,video chats etc,it became easier, simpler and importantly faster to develop online friendship.

What is great about online friendship ?

1.You can develop confidence in yourself.  2. Get support in times of depression (morally). 3.Emotional bond.  4.Can add value to your life.

Is it necessary for online friends to interact face to face  ?

Depends on the parties concerned. It is said that for friendship to be real,better they have face to face interaction and be honest with each other.

Can one trust online friendship ?

How sure are you that the other side person is true to what he or she,as they describe themselves ?

But remember,It is not all that easy to find right kind of person and probably you should think twice and must be lucky !

Initially it may be touch and go ,but make sure you listen to your sixth sense.Suspicions apart,I think if both of them are on the same wavelengths,the friendship can boost and lasts longer.

Can online friendship between man and woman possible ?

If the friends happens to be man and woman,it all the more imperative that they know their limits and keep things cool.We also come across many examples of people falling in love and taking the friendship to next level and break up later.Ultimately it is up to them to decide how to maintain the relationship to be long-lasting.

If both parties intend to have fun ( online ),share the moments,having jokes,exchanging the ideas,making recommendations,suggestions, even helping each other’s in difficult situations,(need not be financial),and may or may not be serious in taking the friendship to next level…..it can still be a lot of fun!

What about age factor?

I  am not sure.For teenagers the relationship is obvious. For Middle aged people it can be different meaning.For older people they are in need of affection & some body to talk to.

What if friends happen to be young & aged?

It is up to the individuals concerned to continue or stop depending upon the individual feelings and priorities.I am not able to guess really and internet search giving different opinions.

And the secret of lasting online friendship ?

In order to achieve lasting friendship,I think a continuous communication is important.I feel it should be on a daily basis at regular intervals.

The beauty of online friendship is that you don’t know the other person, personally and your imaginations run wild !( if you are not into video mode the fun is much greater)You are in your own virtual world,enjoying every minute ! The discussion can even be a deep personal conversation !

My take…long-lasting online friendship is possible, provided

1.If the parties develop mutual TRUST and be HONEST (not exploiting).Don’t overdo  chats or get addicted.

2.Be frank and have an open communication.Have a regular chat schedule  ( timing is important,both the parties must allot mutually convenient time) and keep in touch,know each other even better.

3. Be a good listener and appreciate the other party when the person deserves the same.

4.Give importance to the common bond.

5.Don’t be possessive.Tune down your ego to ZERO

6.If possible turn online friend into a real life True friend.

What is your experience with unknown online friends ?

Would you like to add any more suggestions ? please go ahead.

Thank you . Philosophy Through Photography

Pixabay,quotesgram,a-z quotes

Let’s not meet by accident !!

let's not meet by accident !

Donate blood ! But not on the roads

let's not meet by accident !

If you don’t have traffic sense,you will find yourself in an ambulance

Have you visited India ? or planning to visit India ? Amazing traffic co-ordination among the Road users ! If you are really interested to know the traffic sense in India,read the  hilarious post.Click the link.  Funny article on Indian Traffic

Thank you  philosophy Through Photography

Image source © Dr.Sridhar,2019 All Rights Reserved

Are you listening ?

Are you listening ?
You can agree with me or you can be wrong.              etcy.com

It’s natural to think that you are right.But

experience should teach you that sometimes you are

not and that is wise to listen to others

Thank you  Philosophy Through Photography

 

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Tomorrow……Real or just a perception ??

Tomorrow....real or just perception??

“This to-day of yours is the precious tomorrow of someone who passed away yesterday”– Diva

Note-We all Live in Hope, but as you know Hope can have  either positive or negative outcome.Instead why can’t we just pray  that everything will end well and complete the day with a positive note?I request the readers to read the following with a positive orientation.

Don’t  we live in permanent illusion of ‘Tomorrow’ ?

Is not your mind telling lies constantly about your tomorrow ?

Is it not a fact that you can’t see tomorrow,and none of us know or sure of its existence or even how it looks !

Then why you say ,tomorrow…I do this..I do that.. etc ?

Since none of us know anything about this extraordinary tomorrow, is it not meaningful to spend time today, to the best of our ability,living in every second,helping each other whatever way it is possible.

Now that you realized that there is no ‘tomorrow’,you can stop demanding things from God and start having faith in GOD and just start the day (ie today) by saying  ‘what ever happens to-day is for my good and rest God will take care’ and develop the philosophy ‘there is no other time better than this moment’.By this thought don’t you think you are liberated from all your tensions,anxieties and worries forever ?

Are we depriving the joy of  ‘today’ for the sake of ‘tomorrow’? Think that to-day belongs to you and you are  here to spread your faith & love.

Listen to some of the wise thoughts.

“There is no tomorrow.There is only a planet turning on its axis,and a creature given to optimistic fancies”. Robert Brault,rbrault.blogspot.com

 

“Tomorrow may never come to us. We do not live in tomorrow. We cannot find it in any of our title-deeds. The man who owns whole blocks of real estate, and great ships on the sea, does not own a single minute of tomorrow. Tomorrow! It is a mysterious possibility, not yet born. It lies under the seal of midnight–behind the veil of glittering constellations”.  E.H.Chaplin,Living words,notablequotes.com

 

“This day was yesterday tomorrow nam’d:
Tomorrow shall be yesterday proclaimed:
Tomorrow not yet come, not far away,
What shall tomorrow then be call’d? Today”.      Robert Owen,Today and Tomorrow,notablequotes.com

 

“People were always getting ready for tomorrow. I didn’t believe in that. Tomorrow wasn’t getting ready for them. It didn’t even know they were there”.    Cormac Mccarthy,The road,Notablequotes.com.  

What are your thoughts ?

Thank you.Philosophy Through Photography

 

Life is short….but you can live longer👍

Life is short...but you can live longer,long life
It’s a 3.4 minute read

The other day one of our exceptionally brilliant readers wondered, how the time is running so fast,we are in the middle of January,still we are dreaming….as if we celebrated new year just yesterday…is this not scarring? Life is moving so fast, refusing to wait !
I felt … it’s true

And shortly…the spring will run into summer and Summer chasing Fall and Fall merging with Winter in no time and soon we celebrate Christmas and eagerly waiting for the safe delivery of 2020 and in between many will be in touch with the Creator…
Then the thought of why can’t we live longer lingered in my mind!
Yes.Why not ?
All of you know life is awesome !

If you ask ,each one gives their own many reasons as to why they love to live longer.Very few say they want to die earlier.

Don’t you think there is so much of unfulfilled wishes to be full filled?
There is so much to do,so much to see,so much to enjoy,so much to learn,so much to discuss,so many new People to meet,new friends,new thoughts,new experiences….
…..oh my life ! My dear life…..and you think just 70-80 yrs of life is sufficient ?

There won’t be negative feelings or sadness or sorrow if one were to live forever.Of course ones health should be good,but this is possible as science is advancing and most probably in 2100 death can be delayed indefinitely.

But why you don’t want to die ?

It’s very simple my friend.Death means, all your taste for enjoying the good life gone.You miss the beauty of universe.You miss your near and dear.you miss unfinished jobs.you miss, loving your sweetheart.

OK.But Why do you wish to live forever ?

I have an answer.

Modern age is better than Iron age.Iron age was better than bronze age.Bronze age was better than stone age.
As things become better and better ,we wish to live longer.We starts inventing things where in death can be delayed.As technology advances,they day may not be far,where death can become optional.

What is the present scenario ?

  1. Living forever is not possible, but living longer is possible (quora)
  2. Eat & Drink Healthy
  3. Have sound mind and you can take correct decisions.
  4. Have a good social life.Have limited number of friends,who value the meaning of life just like you.
  5. Remember not to possess anger & Ego
  6. When you get up in the morning,first thing you do is to remember God and express your gratitude ,since you are breathing and lucky to be alive. 153,424 people won’t see another tomorrow ( WHO)

If you want to live longer – watch this clip. (  3 minute Video )

Thank you    Philosophy Through Photography

I have no Self-ie Control

I don't have self-ie control

With the selfies, a photographer has finally found his place in a photograph. Amit Kalantri

Professional Photographers can make a real kill,because of selfies.

As an amateur photographer,I realized that selfie makes one’s life miserable.

1.Selfies distort your face by 30 % .The truth is you look ugly.people are dejected for this and try to avoid the world.

2.Selfie face distortion making people do nose jobs and plastic surgeons have become busy .Some body even inventing app( commercialization),which is supposed to correct the distortion

3. People becoming obsessed and in the process getting depressed.

4. As a medical professional,I can tell you that regular usage of selfie can give you SELFIE WRIST, an emerging hazard in this digital era.Selfie wrist causes pain,numbness and tingling sensation in the hand.( carpal tunnel syndrome)
Doctor warns-rise in cases of selfie wrist

5.Hundreds and thousands are getting killed while trying to take selfies with India in the lead,followed by Russia.USA and Pakistan.
List of selfie related injuries and deaths ( Oct 2011-Jan 2019)

I conclude..

“The inventor of the mirror poisoned the human heart”.

Fernando Pessoa wiseoldsayings.com

Bullshit In the guise of True Love !

Bullshit in the guise of true love.

The most common lie uttered without thought, sincerity, resolve, or guilt: I love you. ‘unknown’

See this clip(117 seconds) before you proceed further.

Does true love exist? I dare !

Rabbi Dr.Abraham calls’Love out of selfishness’ is a Fish Love.He

says”Fish love is poisoning marriages,damaging homes and breaking

hearts”.

Sex,money or power will decide the intensity of the so-called true love.

you may blast me that ….I am,atrocious,stone-hearted, silly, crazy, cruel,disgusting and disappointing but I am not dejected,because one day you realize that none can show the true love without expecting something in return. And that day,you are sure to remember me!The love what you expect / or given is nothing but ‘fake love !

In this world no body is willing to give unconditional love,though they can, if really they want,but they won’t because of the inherent selfishness.

I shall give just 2 examples.My discussion is limited to so called ‘unbreakable human love’

1.Romanticizing love.(couples)

‘I love you beyond eternity’,

‘If loving is wrong,then I don’t want to be right ‘

‘My love for you is a journey starting at forever & ending never.

‘You’re the first boy I ever kissed Jake,and I want you to be the last'(hollywood dialogue-movie-sweet home Alabama)

‘I think I’d miss you even if we’d never met'( movie-wedding date)

If these things are true….Why you see so many cases of divorces?

2.If true love were there( parents vs children)…

Why there are so many old age homes and homes for destitute ? And what about.. Orphanage,Children homes ?

Ron Leighman in Quora (on love is bullshit)
“Because love is a fraudulent emotion, it doesn’t exist. They say the love you Blah blah blah. Then once you get/give them what they want they kick you to the curb like yesterdays garbage. You may as well expect it because it will happen. Expect it then you feel no pain when it happens”.

Are we into the ‘Fantasy Love’?

“Of all the lies you told me….’I love you’ was my favorite”.
Unknown

True love is possible only when the people concerned are mature enough ( this happens as they age ) to see both sides of the point of view.

Finally,the difference between True Love & Pure Love.

True Love may not be possible all the time ,but Pure Love is possible.

 

Loving what you get is compromise.

Getting what you love is Success.

Loving without caring whether you will get it or not is true love.

Loving even after you knowing that you won’t get it..is pure love.

Unknown

 

credits& inspiration-Pixabay,hubspages, pinterest,quora,net

Are you listening ?

Are you listening ?
You can agree with me or you can be wrong          etcy.com

It’s natural to think that you are right.But

experience should teach you that sometimes you are

not and that is wise to listen to others

Thank you  Philosophy Through Photography

 

IS pixabay ,auroraproduction.com

Family Quarrel

family quarrel

No family is perfect ! We argue,we fight,we even stop talking to each other at times,but in the end family is family….the love will always be there. quoteslover.com

Definition :To quarrel is to fight — but usually not physically.

Quarreling is a fact of life, occurring between the best of friends, in the happiest of marriages, and between parents and their children. vocabulary.com

It is a disagreement about something.

Why we quarrel in the very first place ?

Somewhere I read ( I am not able to recollect the source) what is known as BIG 5 causing friction, leading to argument. 1.Money, 2.sex, 3.raising kids, 4.in-laws and 5.house/office work.Of course one can broaden the BIG 5 into various sub-classes.

Disagreement can lead from just anger to outburst of pent-up feelings.

The quarrels can stretch from very few initially to increased frequency over the time.

The reasons can be from silly to far serious issues.

The whole problem is because none is willing to admit their mistakes, continue the arguments,even competing with each other, with ego factor playing an active role.

Whenever there is dispute remember,

“Family problems come in all sizes and shapes.Some are short-lived,easily managed,while others are more chronic and difficult to handle” unknown

What I am trying to tell is that it takes time to deal the problems and one must be patient.One must realize that,

“Families and their problems go on and they are not solved….they are dealt with”. Roger Ebert,

When we are friendly with the entire world ( don’t say…. this is because of survival instinct ),why can’t we show same friendliness to our family members?

You know the old adage

“You can choose the friends,but you can’t choose the family”

In other words,since blood is thicker than water, all the more you can’t afford to quarrel with your family members.

How best to avoid family quarrels ?

Some tips which I think,can help! ( My 12 commandments )

1.Stay calm in spite of the urge to respond angrily.Never raise your voice.

2.Be a good listener.

3.Reduce your emotional scale to zero.

4.Let there not be communication gap.Make it clear as to what the other person is saying and meaning.

5.Impress the other person,what actually you meant or intended to do.

6.Never bring the past or unrelated issues.

7.Try to solve the problem and not to win the argument.

8.Put yourself in the others shoes.

9.Don’t stockpile your issues and vent at a stretch irrelevantly.

10.forget & forgive

11.Take it easy.

12.Have faith in the Lord.

“Problems are like washing machines,they twist us,spin us,knock us around but in the end,we come out cleaner,brighter and better than before” – unknown

What are your thoughts ?

Thank you.   Philosophy through photography

image credits-pixabay, -quoteswiseoldsayings.com

Forgotten hygiene

“Take care of your body.

It’s the only place you have to live”

Jim Rohn

Good health is not just regular exercise or eating healthy food….

This topic is a 4 minute read.

So read this post completely , in case you got  just that much time.

Otherwise take your own time whenever you are free to read.

Some of my regular friends in WP wondered as to why I am not contributing some useful medical stuff,being in the Medical profession.

I understand,but as you already know there is a wealth of information already available on the net, and my wish, not to crowd the space further.But still I try to add one or two helpful topics.This is my 2 nd post, and the earlier post being,

Something we have been doing wrong all along

Everyone of us…I am sure ,aware of importance of Hygiene.

All of us are busy teaching our young ,the importance of not just hygiene,but also personal hygiene.

Some examples of personal hygiene include

Regular bath,Regular brushing the teeth along with flossing,Trimming the nails,Regular washing of the hands,Regular shaving of arm pit and pubic hair,trimming the nostril hair,women maintaining hygiene during menstrual time(just washing with fresh water),for men in non circumcision cases thoroughly removing the smegma,anal hygiene (washing with fresh water after defecation),keeping our nostrils clean,cleaning the external ear pits regularly etc.etc

But surprisingly our teaching to the kid  never includes HYGIENE of the Belly Button or Navel which in the medical world it is known by the name umbilicus.

How many of you stand in front of the mirror and just have a look at the belly button on a regular basis ? (Navel gazing literally !! )

Belly button,as you all know is the scar left behind by the umbilical cord Which gets removed after birth.

OK, as you are aware as the stump of the umbilical cord gets dried up it forms a pit during the process of healing.

Is there any purpose of the belly button after birth ?

Yes.

1.Medically

It helps in dividing the abdomen into quadrants,1.helping the physician to identify the cause of the symptom,2. can be used for blood transfusion in the new-born,3.Helpful for having laparoscopic ports.4.Any bulge of the navel indicates intra abdominal pathology.

2.Fashion ,society and culture

includes Midriff,

Crop-top

Navel-piercing

Belly Dance

Why Hygiene of belly button important ?

1. Belly button (pit) is a source of 2,368 different species of bacteria/fungi ,waiting to strike at the next available opportunity.

2. If you are male and hairy, or a person with belly button piercing,or you are a person in the habit of liberally spraying  talcum powder on your body, you can notice over the time collection of the lint or fluff ( a mixture of cloth fibers,hair follicles) and over the time it becomes smelly and ripe for bacterial/fungal infection and later pus formation.

3. The deeper your belly button pit,the greater the collection of dirt and germs, and just like these germs make your armpit smelly, here also the germs along with dirt collection give a foul smell and soon you can notice redness of the surrounding skin,pain and even pus discharge.

Notice above how the Lint/Fluff appears.The example above is large enough to be visualised.Intially it is small in size difficult to visualise.

Fortunately hygiene aspect of belly button is easy,only if we care to follow on a regular basis.

Just watch this video and learn how to clean the belly button. ( 1 mt-40 seconds clip)

Thank you for your patient reading !

My post is incomplete if I don’t mention One Australian Gentleman by name Graham Barkers,who holds the world record for collecting his own navel fluff stuff (lint) every day for 26 years.Check the following link.

Librarian enters Guinness book of world records for collecting belly button fluff

Navel fluff/lint

Navel fluff/lint source -feargod.net/fluff

 

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Are you the ‘Difficult Spouse’ ?

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Real relationships are not perfect and perfect relationships are not real !!

If you are a wife or husband and on many occasions you think you are disappointed because of the other…..and think the other is the ‘difficult spouse’…. then this article is for you.

I am thankful to you if you felt there is something wrong in either of the parties and the mistake can be rectified easily.

There are two types of marriages.( Marriages are made in heaven.Is itn’t ?)

1.Love marriage

2.Arranged marriage ( In most of the eastern countries )

Irrespective of the type of marriage,both the man and the woman of his love have to adjust with each other in order to be compatible.

In fact, post marriage life is full of challenges and it exposes the couple to myriads of issues.

But we all know the truth.

One day or other both the man & the woman have to face unpleasant situation of opposing & different opinions and views, in matters of their day-to-day ‘living together’

The reality of the so-called colourful future has to show its fangs,since it is waiting to strike first !

Once the misunderstanding happens and prolongs….There are two options available

  1. You decided you are not going to adjust at all...then Apply for divorce and probably matter can come to end to the mutual satisfaction,and thus ending the very discussion I am trying to make.
  2. If the above choice is not the option due to so many other pressing matters,( which is a bit lengthy topic, for some other time discussion ) and you both have to live together,and you have to go along with the spouse….thus making the ‘misunderstanding part’ useless and even unnecessary.

Why to quarrel at all in the first place ?

Now it’s time to think.

1.Realize that ‘ married happily ever after ‘ is an illusion ( Maya )
2.Understand that Wife & Husband belong to the same team and they have to work

together for the success of their married life.

“Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor. For if either of them falls, the one will lift up his companion. But woe to the one who falls when there is not another to lift him up.

Ecclesiastes4.9-10

3.We often hurt our spouse knowingly or unknowingly.Do you know the solution ? Ask for ‘forgiveness’ whole heartedly.

4.When Anger or Helplessness happens to one of you…just take a deep breath and allow the heated moment to pass.Don’t forget.. time’s the greatest healer.

5.Remember marriage is a vow,before God.

Now it’s time to put the following into action.

Don’t allow discord to remain ,not more than one minute,and your anger not more than a second.

Don’t be bossy and do not take one another for granted.

Respect individual feelings & make mutual adjustments

Make sincere effort to avoid jealousy and Ego & revenge,be the first to make the other win the argument.( small trick I tell you…remember whoever does most talking is the one at fault )

Don’t deprive each other of your needs just to take the revenge

Keep communicating,by which I mean try to find where exactly things are going wrong.

Constantly tell to yourself….

Forget & forgive,

I can go also wrong,

live & let live,

let us make best,out of the difficult situation,

I trust you.

Finally

I asked an old man “which is more important? To love or to be loved?”
Old man replied “which is more important to a bird, the left wing or the right wing?” – MarriageHumor, Instagram

A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers – Robert Quillen

A perfect marriage is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.-yourtango.com

A marriage is a like a house. When a light bulb goes out, you do not go and buy a new house, you fix the light bulb. – Happy Wives Club

Marriage is meant to keep people together, not just when things are good, but particularly when they are not. That’s why we take marriage vows, not wishes. – Ngina Otiende

 

Any thoughts on being the Difficult Spouse ?

which of the above quotes ,you thing sends the perfect message ?

Thanks for being a patient reader and reaching this point.

Pixabay,Curiano.com

Ignore the ‘Agressive World’

Agressive world

When an obnoxious and aggressive world displays its nuttiness just say to yourself, “I have

nothing to say to that.”

 

The world cries, “Give me your agreement or your disagreement but

whatever you do, don’t ignore me!”

 

Intelligently notice both outer and inner darkness then quietly ignore it. Switch your

attention back to the present moment with this powerful self-talk statement. You have

higher things to think about and darkness’s anguish is not your concern. Every “success”

darkness has is based on convincing you that its anguish is your concern. It wants you

involved with it, fighting it, trying to help it. Dare to reply instead, “I have nothing to say to

that!”

 

As The Daily Guru said once, “The resistance to the disturbance IS the disturbance.” Work

with this exercise this week. Notice how good you start to feel as you cease throwing fuel

on the initial disturbances – all those tiny little outer and inner fires that are very

significant until you react to them.

creditsThe Daily Guru

Image Ashish_Choudhary,Pixabay.

Just remember, there’s a right way and a wrong way to do everything and the wrong way is to keep trying to make everybody else do it the right way.  -M*A*S*H*, Colonel Potter

Right & Wrong

I want to correct you since you are wrong,but you say,I am to be corrected first.Who is right? and who will decide ?

 

1.‘I think there is a tendency for people to get rigid and caught up in their beliefs of what is right and wrong, and they lose sight of humanity. Being human has to come first before right or wrong”. –Matisyahu

2.The opposite of a correct statement is a false statement.  But the opposite of a profound truth may well be another profound truth.  –Niels Bohr

3.When I’m right no one remembers,When ‘m wrong,no one forgets.-source-blogspot

4.Do or Do not.There is no try –Dumbledore

5.Revenge converts a little right into a great wrong- Proverb

6.There are two sides to every issue:One sie is right and the otheris wrong,but the middle is always evil-Ayn Rand

7.Love keeps no record of wrongs-picturequotes.com

8.Nature does not make mistakes,right & wrong are human categories-Frank Herbert,picturequotes.com

9.We have to live today by what truth we can get today and be ready tomorrow to call it falsehood. William James

 

 

 

‘Observations’ of Beer Holder

Beer

‘There are two reasons for drinking.

One is ,when you are thirsty,to cure it.

The other when you are not thirsty, to prevent it ……’

alcoholsayings.com