Are married people happy forever?

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How many reasons you can come out as to why a married person is not happy?

“A good wife always forgives her husband when she’s wrong”   Milton Berle

Jokes apart, as a married person have you ever felt ‘unhappiness’?

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There is a sea of differences between being married & being committed.

‘Being married’  is for the consumption of the outside world.

‘Being committed’ is for you both.

Now that you know the difference… it’s easy for you to dig further to analyse why, unhappiness creeps …now and then.

Ask yourself

“When marrying ask yourself these questions: Do you believe that you will be able to converse well with this person into your old age? Everything else in marriage is transitory.” Friedrich Nietzsche

These are some of my thoughts

1. Freedom

 After the initial euphoria died down, you start feeling that your freedom is slowly getting disturbed. You can’t do whatever you want to do because the other person in your life also has to have a say in your decisions. So you feel you have lost your Personal Space and have to wait for the better half’s green signal.

2. Additions to the family

This causes a great burden on both of you. Lady is busy taking care of kids and has reduced time to spare for her man. Both of you should take care of the children properly to give the kids a better future, rather than arguing and fighting in front of children.

3. Interference of in-laws

Less said better.

4. Sexual needs/demands

It should be natural. It should be adjusted. Sex should be more for love rather than a necessity.

5. Differences in opinions

It happens in every family. Try to sort it out in an amicable way. You be the first one to respect the other’s opinion and both of you think together how best to conclude/decision.

6. Ego tendencies

It destroys otherwise happy relationships. Both of you should avoid this with sincere efforts. Remember neither your spouse nor you, are superior. Both are equal partners. Always think of the bigger problems to be faced rather than losing peace of mind for that silly argument of a minor mistake. Have ever fought over non-disclosing passwords? This is where the Trust factor comes in.

7. Lack of flexibility

Don’t be rigid. Otherwise, the situation becomes worse. Let go of attachments and be willing to accept if you are wrong. Don’t have either superiority or inferiority complex.

8. Over expectations

This is a cause for concern. Remember never to expect anything, otherwise, it leads to disappointment and anger.

9. Extramarital relationship

I need not elaborate further. I can stress the importance of emotional intimacy with your spouse.

10. Money

This can result in a heated argument. I know money plays an important role. Adjustments in ‘spending habits can resolve the issue.

11. Lack of communication

Lack of communication results in frustration. and results in misunderstanding.

12. Abuse

Can be Physical (hitting)  or mental (by hurtful words). Please don’t do either. It’s wrong.

Message

“Remember that marriage is a partnership. Work together to overcome challenges and find solutions.” Unknown

Thank you for your visit.

Take care, my friend.

Namaste 🙏🙏🙏

Mr Philo

Photo by Keenan Constance: Pexels 

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32 thoughts on “Are married people happy forever?”

  1. I like the Nietzsche quote. I think its important to have your own space and still have your own interests etc, but communication is paramount. I think its easy to fall into a trap of second guessing what your partner is thinking and making decisions or adjusting your own behaviour etc to accommodate your thinking, rather than talking openly

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  3. Are single people unhappy forever? No, of course not. If you ask me, marriage is not a solution to all the problems I have accumulated over the last 40 years. Singles can be happy, and married folks can be unhappy and vice versa. It’s not a panacea, it’s rather a need or a lack of it.

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  4. “Forever” is a very long time, my friend! Jokes aside, I was very fortunate to have observed my grandparents who had been married for 59 years and still held hands and smiled at each other like two love-stricken teenagers. NIetzsche was a misogynist and an avowed misantrope who used to call his dog “mensch” (man) when the dog misbehaved.

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      1. I agree that present generation has less tolerance and also less empathy for others. I think that the feeling of entitlement is the culprit. They are convinced that others must understand them, no matter what.

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  5. I believe that we gradually learn to be happy. We’re not entirely habitual beings, so supporting one person for a lifetime might be difficult, but we’re growing together and learning to be each other’s gift along the way. It’s a two-way dance! ♡

    You’ve made some great points, and I value your opinions. Have a wonderful week! 🙌

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  9. sometimes I wish it did and most times I’m sort off happy been divorced for 23 years and live a quiet life but one that is mine, it has it’s up and downs but it is what it is and we make it that way married or not.

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