Why most of you have a negative attitude towards ‘People Pleasing’?

People Pleasing

Pleasing others spreads the fragrance of Love & Happiness around you

It’s a 3.4 minute read.

Cambridge dictionary says,

People pleaser is someone who cares a lot about whether other people like them,and always wants others to approve of their actions.

To be frank,that is the one of the ways of getting satisfaction and peace of mind.

Read the following famous quotes

“If you live for people’s acceptance,you will die from their rejection”. LekRae

“People pleasing pleases everyone but the pleaser”.Reshma Saujani, goodreads

“I can’t tell you the key to success,but the key to failure is trying to please every one”. Bill Cosby

The only thing wrong with trying to please everyone is that there is always at least one person who will remain unhappy.You. Elizabeth Parker

“The art of pleasing is the art of deceiving”. French proverb

Such above quotes are abundant,but

Don’t you think,there is nothing wrong in being a people’s pleaser ?

Is not a fact that all of us are, ‘people’s pleaser’ at one time or other ? Then why have a double standard ?

“I have learned that pleasing everyone is too hard,but pissing every one is a piece of cake” 🍰 unknown

Why do you want to ‘piss off’ others and increase the number of your enemies ?

Why not say ‘ YES’ ?

People-pleasing is considered a negative trait and liability.

Why can’t you say ‘yes’ and be a people’s pleaser for a change ?

If saying ‘yes’ works to your advantage….why not be a people pleaser ?

People’s pleasing is necessary on occasions.

When is ‘people’s Pleasing’ bad ?

  • When you are ‘addicted’ to it.
  • When you have a hidden agenda.


1.Pleasing should not be at the cost of somebody.No scope for hypocrisy.

2.Too much of pleasing is also unwarranted.

3.Have a balanced view and regarding this you are the deciding authority.

The Power of Pleasing ( genuine ) and know what you are missing !

  • You can always make the other people happy.So happiness abound wherever you go.The atmosphere is pleasant. In fact you are benefited by developing contacts,relationships, getting helped in times of distress.
  • People are ready to dish out things in your favor.
  • You are liked and loved by everybody.
  • On a Personal level your marriage bond is enhanced with your spouse. No arguments.
  • Pleasing converts an unhappy persons to a happy person.
  • You are a pleasant person all the time.
  • You help avoid conflict.
  • It’s a feel good factor for all.
  • It’s a win win situation for both the parties.
  • You become compassionate over the time.
  • You become trusted and dependable and loved by all.

Why should you be a People Pleaser ?

It’s for your own benefit.

You don’t call it selfishness,but a survival instinct and you are the ultimate beneficiary.

We may call it “people pleasing,” but it is entirely self-serving because it is really all about keeping myself comfortable. Boiled down, it could be more accurately called “me pleasing. Emily P. Freeman, Goodreads

Please share your views on this subject.

Thank you.
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  4 comments for “Why most of you have a negative attitude towards ‘People Pleasing’?

  1. January 31, 2020 at 6:37 pm

    I think for some people, it’s a reaction to the political correctness situation where some people will find a reason to be offended by ANYTHING. There’s a knee jerk reaction to just say why even try at all.

    The trouble is, the counter-movement to that is taking “love yourself” to the extreme and producing a bunch of narcissists.

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    • January 31, 2020 at 7:09 pm

      Thank you Silk Cords.What is the best one can do ?


      • January 31, 2020 at 7:12 pm

        I’d say (as I often do, lol) it’s all about balance.

        Respect is earned but everyone is due courtesy. That, in turn has to be balanced by respect for yourself. Don’t be a doormat or a narcissist. 🙂 😉

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