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Cambridge Dictionary defines secret as ‘ a piece of information that is only known by a person or a few people and should not be told to others ‘
It is said secret is one of the forms of leading one’s life.
Every one has three lives: a public life,a private life and a secret life Gabriel Garcia Marquez
Public life– for public consumption .
Private Life– for family and friends and lovers. ” Three things to keep private.Love life,Income,next move”. Unknown
Secret life– for own consumption. ” The biggest Guru-mantra is: never share your secrets with anybody.It will destroy you”. Chankaya
There are many reasons for keeping secret and my discussion is limited to individual relationships.
Every one has at least one secret. Yes,you read it right,and strangely we don’t admit even to ourselves !
And irony is the people whom we know and trust most…. like parents,children and friends,are the ones who hide secrets from us.
Psychologists say everyone is keeping 13 secrets !
Why you keep secrets ?
1.You are scared of humiliation in case secret becomes open.(shame)
2.You are terrified by the judgement people make.(fear)
Are there any secrets which you should always keep to yourself ? (Power of silence)
I am not sure about this aspect.But I feel it depends on the person concerned.
- Love Life with better half
- Your income
- Future plans
- Personal problems
- Family fights
- Your fears/weakness
- Life style
- Your beliefs
- Someone’s dark secrets
“If I maintain silence about my secret it is my prisoner.If I let it slip from my tongue,I am its prisoner”. Arthur Schopenhauer
Should you keep a secret,secret ?
It depends on you only.
If you want to let know the secrets,then weigh the options that can affect you or the person or persons who are part of this, physically,mentally or financially.
If you reveal your secrets to the wind,you should not blame the wind for revealing them to the trees. Khaleel Gibran
Who is responsible for leaking the secrets ?
” I can totally keep secrets.It’s the people I tell them to that can’t ” unknown
On a lighter note….
Who are good at keeping the secrets ?
We women talk too much,but even then we don’t tell half what we know. Nancy Astor
Does keeping the secrets hurt us ?
Yes.Hiding secrets can accentuate the anxiety with guilt feeling. The fact that you have to live with it makes you more insecure and isolated.
Please share your views.