The relation between a woman and her mother in law is a tricky one.
Hope you would have watched ” Everybody Loves Raymond” an American tv sitcom.Its worth watching especially the relationship between Debra ( daughter in law ) and Marie ( mother in law ) as to how Debra was intimidated by Marie at every opportunity Marie gets,laced with with sarcasm.
I can talk only in the Indian context,in particular about the insensitive mother in law.Still one can come across lovable mother in law but rarely.
- Majority of the mothers in law expect to be given all the importance after their son is married.They claim that they have given life to the boy and girl’s side people should listen to them in all decisions they take in the married life of the couple is concerned ( Kind of interference at every stage )
- Tendency to treat daughter in law as a domestic helper.
- Can not tolerate if the daughter in law is more educated or earning higher than her son and at every opportunity she goes on insulting or using harsh words on the daughter in law.
- Mother in law loves to interfere whenever there is a fight between son and daughter in law.Invariably she sides with the son.
- Dowry system still prevailing in most part of the country .(Dowry system in India) .If the daughter in law is not bringing enough dowry,she is subjected to cruelty,harassment,domestic violence even emotional blackmail.
- Mother in law does not like daughter in law taking control of the household expenses and day to day maintenance.
- Husband always finds tricky to balance between mother and wife and at one stage loses his cool with his wife more than his mother.
- Mother in law being possessive,always feels that her daughter in law is going to snatch away her son to a far off place.So she tries to poison her son’s mind against the daughter in law.
- If the daughter in law is not able to conceive,hell scenes are created by mother in law on a daily basis.
- If her son goes stray,mother in law blames the daughter in law !
- Any thing goes wrong,mother in law is ready to pounce on the daughter in law for all the wrongs happening as if some evil soul has entered the house.
- Mother in law is always busy gossiping about her daughter in law flaws.
- Mother in law having a tendency that,daughter in law is inexperienced in raising kids,taking care of son,house etc,so needs help,forgetting that she is interfering in daughter in laws daily household jobs
“Sometimes walking away has nothing to do weakness.And everything to do with strength”. Unknown
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