Are you a Non-stop ( Big ) Talker or a Patient Listener?

Big talkerIf you’re one of those, fortunate to watch any of the news channels ( especially English news channels) in India, where participants number can almost reach magic No 10, it won’t take much time to realize how noisy and chaotic it is. ( I am not sure why in the first place, so many people are invited to participate, instead of two to three  )

1. Here every participant including the anchor talks loudly.
2. All talk simultaneously,
3. All screaming and
4. Shouting,
5. Participants even abused each other.

The viewer is confused regarding the topic, and not sure why participants are arguing.

The issue on which the discussion is happening becomes irrelevant due to digression, everybody going crazy, and the viewer’s Blood Pressure rising at the end and helplessly the viewer moves to the next channel.

Here instead of debate, there is a competition as to whose decibel is strongest.

Maybe it is the way of  Civilized Debate sans debate.

I started wondering whether one has to be a Big Talker or a good Listener.

Ask anybody, whether they are good listeners, invariably they say  ‘YES’ , contrary to the fact. The majority Love talking endlessly about themselves ( I talk-you Listen to syndrome ) till the other becomes restless.

Loud Talker

“Some people believe that being the loudest in the room makes them look strong. It may appear that way to a few uninformed individuals. What they don’t know is the more they talk, the more information they reveal about themselves (directly and indirectly). They become an easy target, and it makes them very vulnerable to attacks. Do not underestimate the power of silence.”
Izey Victoria Odiase

One has to pay attention to the topic, about which the discussion is happening and also the content of the talk of the other person explaining.

How can one become a good listener?

  • Stop talking.
  • Concentrate on what is said.
  • Be patient.Don’t overspeak on the other
  • Ask relevant questions
  • Don’t change the subject.
  • Think before responding.                                                                                                    Big talker vs Good listener                                                                                                                                                                Big talker vs Silent Listener                    Finally ‘Destroying the Ego‘ of the individual makes all the difference.

Thank You

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