Love vs Attachment vs Possessiveness in human relationships.
It’s a 2.5 minute read.
Love has single or multiple meanings ?
Love has only one meaning,that is GIVE.
It is unconditional without expectations and given with total dedication.
Love is finding yourself in the happiness of the others.Love is you, knowing what other person needs rather than what you feel the other person needs.
Love is shown by deeds ,not just by saying ‘I Love you’ whole day and night.
You must love in such a way that the person you love feels free.
Love & Attachment ….are they similar ?
Attachment is the feeling being ‘happy’to have the other person in your life,irrespective of the other persons feelings.
Actually attachment is nothing but fear of being alone while Love opens your heart and soul to another person.
You are attached to a person because you are selfish in that you need to run the ‘show’ of your life.Whereas True love continues even if there is detachment.
Love empowers you while attachment tells who is dominating.
Love is selfless while attachment is selfish.
In attachment,you hold so tight because you don’t like to lose the person
In love you hold the person gently caring softly with comforting words.
Jetsunma Tenzin Palmo’s quote is apt for an easy understanding.
Attachment says:I love you,therefore you need to make me happy.
Genuine Love says : I love you,therefore I want you to be happy.
What about Possessiveness ?
In relationship,it is defined as ,demanding someone’s total attention and love.
Possession is all about control.
Being possessive is OK in sense you are worried about the well being of your kith and kin but any excess of this….virtually takes away the freedom of your loved ones and remember each individual need some personal space.
Just for your idea the following is suffice,though this is in extreme form.