Keeping secrets in marriage/relationship

Keeping secrets in marriage/relationship
What is your opinion readers ?
Thank you ‘My unsaid thoughts’ for this thought provoking post.

My Unsaid Thoughts

Hey readers,

I am back with another tale about relationships and stumbling block.
“Sometimes we keep secrets in our relationship, because we don’t want to hurt our partner, But what should we do when he/she get to know about that and feel cheated and hurt because we kept secret from them????????”

plenty of questions started floating in my mind after this , and i want to discuss here about some of them.

  1. How should we Justify our action?
  2. How he/she should react?
  3. Is it justified to keep a secrets for the sake of being in good books and pretending/faking in relations??
  4. After all these issues, how to save your relationship or how to restore faith of your partner in you and relationship?

Recital:-

Story started in 2012, when they got married. Maya was simple, sweet , kind and innocent girl, she was full of life, full of love, adventurous. She…

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11 Comments »

  1. I read the original post. A bit disappointed that one of the replies there justified cheating also.

    What immediately struck me was the false duality decisions all through the escapade.

    First, Maya didn’t HAVE to go with the job. She could have said no, and taken a different position with her current company or a new one. Depending on his job, Aryan could have followed her to the new city or the could have decided that their marriage was worth the effort to keep traveling to see each other more often.

    There are ALWAYS more than two options, and at any point, they could have stopped and made the above adjustments.

    Now in terms of the seeing the other guy, Maya was wrong. The fact that she kept seeing the guy and kept pictures of them of her phone shows that she was doing this just as much to hurt Aryan as to have somebody close. Somebody who saw anything wrong with what she did would have deleted the evidence. Marriage vows are supposed to be a commitment; for better or worse, etc… NOT just when it’s convenient and gives you warm fuzzies to respect your vows and partner.

    This is a great example of why so many spiritual systems say avoid even the appearance of evil. It’s too easy to give into temptation, and even if you don’t, people will make assumptions and gossip.

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  2. It is not okay to keep secrets away from your partner.
    At some point, they will come out and it will hurt maybe more than if you told them the first time.
    And also, why should you pick a job that keeps you away from your family?
    Communication must be the shelter of the family and always be respected.

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