Getting offended ?

Getting Offended ?

To be offended is a choice we make; it is not a condition inflicted or imposed upon us by someone or something else. David a bednar apostle

The other day , a good friend of mine got offended ( not because of me ! ) but due to certain happenings on that particular day resulting in total loss of mood for the entire day.

It seem present generation getting offended quickly.

Feeling offended is a natural reaction when one is subject to criticism or made fun of or one mis interprets what being said.

As one starts the day ,one is sure of being getting angry or tensed or even offended, as the day progresses.

And you may come across situations,where you know that you are right but circumstances will make others look at you making fun comments!

Here you have two choices.

  1. Get upset,lose your moods and sulk quietly,wasting entire God’s given day !
  2. Ignore,move on and see to that these things can’t take an upper hand in depriving you of your happy moods.

Yes, many times close relatives and friends may take advantage of your sincerity by taking you for granted and on many such occasions you feel offended.

And don’t you think ,the feeling of ‘ I am offended ‘ itself can lead to some kind of emotional harm.

One can get offended by anyone,by any thing and for unknown number of reasons.

And of course,the very thought of ‘getting offended ‘ depends on one’s point of view.

Ok do you know how the feeling of ‘ I am offended ‘ can influence your body health?

 Not a good news.

Your heart rate changes.

Your BP rises

All bad hormones are active that time.

And your ‘Happiness immune system’ starts crumbling.

How to stop the thoughts of being offended ?

  1. Don’t be egoistic
  2. Be humble
  3. Put yourself in the offender shoes and realise why it is so ..
  4. Try to appreciate the constructive criticism.
  5. Apologize,when you are wrong.Keep your ‘pride’ aside for a moment.
  6. Remember every action, not necessarily have to have a reaction.
  7. You can’t change the world the way you want

Thanking you

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Marriage Blues

Marriage Blues

Marriage is give and take. You’d better give it to her or she’ll take it anyway. Joey Adams

1.They lived happily until they got married

2.I asked my wife what she wanted for Christmas.She said to me “nothing would make her happier than a diamond necklace “So I bought her nothing.

3.Marriage is like a public toilet.Those waiting outside are desperate to get in.Those inside are desperate to get out. Stephanie Robinson

4.A good wife always forgives her husband when she’s wrong. Milton Berle

5.Women marry because they believe that he will change one day. Men marry because they believe she’ll never change. Both are mistaken.

6.The best way to remember your wife’s birthday is to forget it once.

7.You should argue with your wife only when she’s not around.

8.A woman worries about the future until she gets a husband. A man never worries about the future until he gets a wife.

9.Love is blind, only marriage opens your eyes.

10.There are 2 times when a man doesn’t understand a woman – before marriage and after marriage.

11.A little boy asked his father, “Daddy, how much does it cost to get married?” Father replied, “I don’t know son, I’m still paying.”

12.The secret of a happy marriage remains a secret.
Henny Youngman

13.Marriage is the main reason for divorce.

Ok my friends,the point I would like to ask is, why most of  these humor are one sided ?

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Life always throws a curve ball !!

Lifes curve balls

Life throws many curve balls, and if you don’t swing… you’re never going to hit any ! Taylor Hicks

“You can not change how others treat you.( sometimes they won’t be so loving ).But you can change how you react to it all.( Be sure how you respond in a way which shows love for yourself-and don’t beat yourself upover how they are beating upon you ). Be good to yourself -even when others aren’t.( Especially when others aren’t)” Karen Salmansohn

“Your life is a reflection of the choices you make.Even events you don’t control reflect your choice in how you respond.If you want to improve your life,improve how you make choices.Try to mindfully make decisions which are inspired by open-mindedness,high integrity,and long-term thinking.”    Karen Salmansohn

“Be a gift to everyone who enters your life.Be careful not to enter another’s life if you can not be a gift.You always are the gift-Yet sometimes you don’t let yourself know that .When some one enters your life unexpectedly,look for the gift that person brings.”  Neal Donald Walsch

“You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated. In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats, so you can know who you are, what you can rise from, and how you can still come out of it.”  Maya Angelou.

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“Eat your food like your medicines or else you will eat your medicines like food”.

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When diet is wrong,Medicine is of no use .When Diet is correct, there is no need of Medicine.

Ayurveda Proverb

But sadly, many times we love to over eat, eat wrong food,and express lack of time for daily exercises. Many other  excuses are readily available.

Some of my friends who are diabetic,regularly eat sweets ( which is forbidden),and they come up with statements saying that their sugar is under control since they take their diabetic medicines regularly ,as if the diabetic medicines give them the license to over eat the sweets.

Some other friends with Hypertension ( High blood Pressure ) eat food rich in salt, like pickles,salt laced chips etc.( salt is restricted for hypertensive patients).

They happily tell me that they are care free since medicines they take to control the BP, will also take care of their salt in the food.

What is your type ? Do You eat food and medicine also like my friends ?

If you ask me, yes,I find many times difficult to resist the food,over eat some times and take pancreatic enzyme tablets for better digestion,whenever I felt I overindulged.

What are your thoughts on this subject ?

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Can you define Love ?

Why on Earth each person gives a contradictory meaning to such a  simple word called ‘ L O V E ‘  

Some negative thoughts 

“Love sucks.Sometimes it feels good.Sometimes it’s just another way to bleed”. Laurell K Hamilton

“Love is a trap,when it appears we only see its light,not its shadows”. Paul Coelho

Love is the word used to label the sexual excitement of the young, the habituation of the middle-aged, and the mutual dependence of the old.”
John Ciardi

Romantic love is an illusion. Most of us discover this truth at the end of a love affair or else when the sweet emotions of love lead us into marriage and then turn down their flames.”
Thomas Moore

When one is in love, one always begins by deceiving one’s self, and one always ends by deceiving others. That is what the world calls a romance.”
Oscar Wilde

Some positive thoughts 

“Once the realization is accepted that even between the closest human beings infinite distances continue, a wonderful living side by side can grow, if they succeed in loving the distance between them which makes it possible for each to see the other whole against the sky.” Rainer Maria Rilke

“Love is a friendship set to music.”  Joseph Campbell

“Love recognizes no barriers. It jumps hurdles, leaps fences, penetrates walls to arrive at its destination full of hope.” Maya Angelou

“Love is of all passions the strongest, for it attacks simultaneously the head, the heart and the senses.”  Lao Tzu

“At the touch of love everyone becomes a poet.”  Plato

“The only thing we never get enough of is love; and the only thing we never give  enough of is love.”  Henry Miller 

“A healthy self-love means we have no compulsion to justify to ourselves or others why we take vacations, why we sleep late, why we buy new shoes, why we spoil ourselves from time to time. We feel comfortable doing things which add quality and beauty to life.”   Andrew Mathews 

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Is your friendship is just an’Artificial Friendship’ ?

Artificial friendship

Does your friendship forge an emotional bond ?

 

Do you not long for that particular friendship which completes you ?

What is the definition of friendship ?

Voluntary relationship between people that lasts a long time and those involved are concerned about each other. It develops from shared interests and experiences and is mutually gratifying. source Psychology dictionary.com

Friendship is not based on sex,or age or other reasons

What is the best part in friendship ?

Don’t you think friendship in the form of shared interests and shared experiences which become memories over the time.

Are you not,the happiest when you cherish these wonderful memories of life,at the time of stress ?

Not just that,even when you both chat or speak to each other,recollecting some of the shared moments,shared jokes,even wondering how the time moving unusually fast,even making that moment wonderful !

What I am stressing is,the shared memories become a life’s Treasure.

Don’t you agree this is the best part in friendship ?

What happens,when friendship is forged ?

Definitely,the concern for each other increases.

Shared interest further strengthens the bond.

These two can happen only when you make a sincere effort to develop an emotional bond,by opening up,since you both are connected by mutual trust’ by this time.

How to make an emotional bond ? (somebody may even call this emotional link or cosmic link)

here I wish to make it clear that there is a difference between physical attraction and emotional attraction and physical attraction is a different subject for some other time discussion.

The efforts for emotional connection must come from both the friends,willing to make sincere efforts.

Four things are extremely important

1. Trust

2. Honesty

3. Sacrifice

4. Zero Ego

If these things are achieved from both sides,automatically emotional link is evolved

Trust – should be 100% .You can share your personal stories of mutual interest, and start bonding,and be sincere and frank.communicate regularly and develop mutual confidence

Honesty –  should be 100%.Be honest in your communications.Prevent miscommunications.

Sacrifice – should be 100%.If Friends happen to be in the same place ,make yourself available Never avoid or give excuses.If you both happen to be in different cities,provide moral support as much as possible constantly.

Ego – Here there is only one solution.. Destroy the ego feelings instantly.
Finally
No one is rich than a person who has a true friend

Just two interesting quotes

How many slams in an old screen door? Depends how loud you shut it. How many slices in a bread? Depends how thin you cut it. How much good inside a day? Depends how good you live ’em. How much love inside a friend? Depends how much you give ’em.”  Shell Silverstein

 

To the world you may be just one person, but to one person you may be the world.” Brandy Snyder

 

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