19 thoughts on “Can you answer this ? ( Question series No-19 )”
Woooooooooooooooooooooooooo. Loaded question.
The most miserable I had ever been was in my first marriage. There are all kinds of studies over the years that cite numerous mental and physical health benefits to being in an actual good marriage though.
So I guess the bottom line is it depends on how well they use their power of choice. 😉
In my never to be humble opinion (lol) most people who are unhappy in relationships – marriage or otherwise – are unhappy because they went in with unrealistic expectations. Most commonly that the other person is only there for their needs, or they expect them to conform to their beliefs and goals for the relationship. Lets not also forget women expecting men to be mind readers as well.
That’s what I meant by choosing wisely. Don’t settle and expect to mold the other person. Even the perfect person will have differences also. Learn to appreciate them, not condemn them, folks. 🙂 And above all, open & calm communication is vital to make a relationship work.
I think you know it and I know it.
Marriage takes a lot of energy and time, but it requires to be spent thoughtfully and together, otherwise is useless.
Just like a house, you need to build your relationship, brick by brick, learning to love, to forget and to hold.
It is more than the word says… and statistics might show that not all the people are made for marriage.
There is no ‘ Happily Ever After’ in any marriage.
But as David Redpath said It depends who you are married to. If you are married to someone whom you can call as your best friend then you are much blessed than the rest.
Because even if the love fades off … your friendship still remains.
But as Bible says…
1 Corinthians 7 : Now for the matters you wrote about: It is good for a man or a woman not to marry. But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband.
Marriage is boring, frankly speaking. It’s the same, monotonous dialogues between both of you. The spark eventually fizzles off after a certain number of years. Love or arranged it’s the same! Nothing new about it.
Yes Savitha
You are perfectly right
Familiarity breeds contempt.
And we are bored of things and look for new avenues,defeating the very purpose of the purpose of sacred marriage
Thank you for your insight.
You are brutally frank .
Woooooooooooooooooooooooooo. Loaded question.
The most miserable I had ever been was in my first marriage. There are all kinds of studies over the years that cite numerous mental and physical health benefits to being in an actual good marriage though.
So I guess the bottom line is it depends on how well they use their power of choice. 😉
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Thank u Silk Cords.
My guess is most married people are unhappy .May be this is the way of life.
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In my never to be humble opinion (lol) most people who are unhappy in relationships – marriage or otherwise – are unhappy because they went in with unrealistic expectations. Most commonly that the other person is only there for their needs, or they expect them to conform to their beliefs and goals for the relationship. Lets not also forget women expecting men to be mind readers as well.
That’s what I meant by choosing wisely. Don’t settle and expect to mold the other person. Even the perfect person will have differences also. Learn to appreciate them, not condemn them, folks. 🙂 And above all, open & calm communication is vital to make a relationship work.
OK, I’ll shut up now, LOL
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I see great thoughts there and nice helpful tips.
Thank u Silk Cords
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They should be.
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Thank you Katherine.Yes they should be But statistics say otherwise I don’t have an answer why majority are
( 70 to 80 % ) not happy
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I think you know it and I know it.
Marriage takes a lot of energy and time, but it requires to be spent thoughtfully and together, otherwise is useless.
Just like a house, you need to build your relationship, brick by brick, learning to love, to forget and to hold.
It is more than the word says… and statistics might show that not all the people are made for marriage.
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True what usaid
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Agree David Redpath
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What do you think?
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I think majority are are not happy as their post married life is progressing,and I have no answer as to why?
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Thank you, the jury is out for me
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It all depends who you’re married to 🤔
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True what u said David Redpath
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There is no ‘ Happily Ever After’ in any marriage.
But as David Redpath said It depends who you are married to. If you are married to someone whom you can call as your best friend then you are much blessed than the rest.
Because even if the love fades off … your friendship still remains.
But as Bible says…
1 Corinthians 7 : Now for the matters you wrote about: It is good for a man or a woman not to marry. But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband.
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OMG,Ana are u a philosopher by any chance ?
Love every sentence of yours.
Thank you.
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No way Sri… Just a seeker of knowledge and Truth…😊
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Marriage is boring, frankly speaking. It’s the same, monotonous dialogues between both of you. The spark eventually fizzles off after a certain number of years. Love or arranged it’s the same! Nothing new about it.
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Yes Savitha
You are perfectly right
Familiarity breeds contempt.
And we are bored of things and look for new avenues,defeating the very purpose of the purpose of sacred marriage
Thank you for your insight.
You are brutally frank .
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