How long online friendship lasts ?

How long online frienship lasts ?

One of the most beautiful qualities of true friendship is to understand and to be understood. Lucius Annaeus Seneca

It’s a 4.5 minute read,if you have patience proceed..

Before we proceed further let us understand ‘friendship’.

“Friendship is a best ship which can lead you on world tour”   unknown

It takes roughly 200 hours to become best friends with someone,    according to science. Can you sustain it afterwards ?

Say 6 months ? 1 yr…..3 yrs…..7 yrs…. Or till one of them decides to knock the Heavens door ?

Don’t you think… friendship is a complicated relationship among people ?

It can last from one day to…. life long !

“Friendship isn’t about whom you have known the longest…it’s about who came, and never left your side” unknown.

It is said that true friendship is possible,having similar wavelengths,and  the two sharing their true feelings, whether a happy or sad situation in an honest way,at the same time maintaining the confidentiality,helpful to each other whenever possible and not interfering unnecessarily into their personal matters.

with the invention of internet and followed by online chat facilities…..both distant & near friendship became ONLINE

What is online friendship ?( Unknown to each other initially )

It is communication between two unknown friends exclusively via internet.With the advent of social media,video chats etc,it became easier, simpler and importantly faster to develop online friendship.

What is great about online friendship ?

1.You can develop confidence in yourself.  2. Get support in times of depression (morally). 3.Emotional bond.  4.Can add value to your life.

Is it necessary for online friends to interact face to face  ?

Depends on the parties concerned. It is said that for friendship to be real,better they have face to face interaction and be honest with each other.

Can one trust online friendship ?

How sure are you that the other side person is true to what he or she,as they describe themselves ?

But remember,It is not all that easy to find right kind of person and probably you should think twice and must be lucky !

Initially it may be touch and go ,but make sure you listen to your sixth sense.Suspicions apart,I think if both of them are on the same wavelengths,the friendship can boost and lasts longer.

Can online friendship between man and woman possible ?

If the friends happens to be man and woman,it all the more imperative that they know their limits and keep things cool.We also come across many examples of people falling in love and taking the friendship to next level and break up later.Ultimately it is up to them to decide how to maintain the relationship to be long-lasting.

If both parties intend to have fun ( online ),share the moments,having jokes,exchanging the ideas,making recommendations,suggestions, even helping each other’s in difficult situations,(need not be financial),and may or may not be serious in taking the friendship to next level…..it can still be a lot of fun!

What about age factor?

I  am not sure.For teenagers the relationship is obvious. For Middle aged people it can be different meaning.For older people they are in need of affection & some body to talk to.

What if friends happen to be young & aged?

It is up to the individuals concerned to continue or stop depending upon the individual feelings and priorities.I am not able to guess really and internet search giving different opinions.

And the secret of lasting online friendship ?

In order to achieve lasting friendship,I think a continuous communication is important.I feel it should be on a daily basis at regular intervals.

The beauty of online friendship is that you don’t know the other person, personally and your imaginations run wild !( if you are not into video mode the fun is much greater)You are in your own virtual world,enjoying every minute ! The discussion can even be a deep personal conversation !

My take…long-lasting online friendship is possible, provided

1.If the parties develop mutual TRUST and be HONEST (not exploiting).Don’t overdo  chats or get addicted.

2.Be frank and have an open communication.Have a regular chat schedule  ( timing is important,both the parties must allot mutually convenient time) and keep in touch,know each other even better.

3. Be a good listener and appreciate the other party when the person deserves the same.

4.Give importance to the common bond.

5.Don’t be possessive.Tune down your ego to ZERO

6.If possible turn online friend into a real life True friend.

What is your experience with unknown online friends ?

Would you like to add any more suggestions ? please go ahead.

Thank you . Philosophy Through Photography

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Let’s not meet by accident !!

let's not meet by accident !

Donate blood ! But not on the roads

let's not meet by accident !

If you don’t have traffic sense,you will find yourself in an ambulance

Have you visited India ? or planning to visit India ? Amazing traffic co-ordination among the Road users ! If you are really interested to know the traffic sense in India,read the  hilarious post.Click the link.  Funny article on Indian Traffic

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Are you listening ?

Are you listening ?
You can agree with me or you can be wrong.              etcy.com

It’s natural to think that you are right.But

experience should teach you that sometimes you are

not and that is wise to listen to others

Thank you  Philosophy Through Photography

 

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What makes people feel most loved ?

Though life is fair to us,always we feel we are missing something and we are unhappy most of the times.

Less said better especially about love.

“The only thing we never get enough of is love; and the only thing we

never give enough of is love”.

Henry Miller

If you feel the Love, I think, that is, the most beautiful thing to happen in the world and you are lucky !

Suppose if you want to make somebody feel the love …that is even a memorable !

What makes YOU feel most loved ?

what makes you feel most loved

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Please see this video clip and tell your version.( worthy 4 minutes )

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Long distance talk

Long distance talk

                                   Distance doesn’t separate people.Silence does.                                                                                          Jeff Hood

This leads me to a Question,which I am unable to decide !

Long distance relationship or short distance relationship……which is better & why ?  (couples & Friends)

Share your thoughts.

Thank you .  Philosophy Through Photography

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Tomorrow……Real or just a perception ??

Tomorrow....real or just perception??

“This to-day of yours is the precious tomorrow of someone who passed away yesterday”– Diva

Note-We all Live in Hope, but as you know Hope can have  either positive or negative outcome.Instead why can’t we just pray  that everything will end well and complete the day with a positive note?I request the readers to read the following with a positive orientation.

Don’t  we live in permanent illusion of ‘Tomorrow’ ?

Is not your mind telling lies constantly about your tomorrow ?

Is it not a fact that you can’t see tomorrow,and none of us know or sure of its existence or even how it looks !

Then why you say ,tomorrow…I do this..I do that.. etc ?

Since none of us know anything about this extraordinary tomorrow, is it not meaningful to spend time today, to the best of our ability,living in every second,helping each other whatever way it is possible.

Now that you realized that there is no ‘tomorrow’,you can stop demanding things from God and start having faith in GOD and just start the day (ie today) by saying  ‘what ever happens to-day is for my good and rest God will take care’ and develop the philosophy ‘there is no other time better than this moment’.By this thought don’t you think you are liberated from all your tensions,anxieties and worries forever ?

Are we depriving the joy of  ‘today’ for the sake of ‘tomorrow’? Think that to-day belongs to you and you are  here to spread your faith & love.

Listen to some of the wise thoughts.

“There is no tomorrow.There is only a planet turning on its axis,and a creature given to optimistic fancies”. Robert Brault,rbrault.blogspot.com

 

“Tomorrow may never come to us. We do not live in tomorrow. We cannot find it in any of our title-deeds. The man who owns whole blocks of real estate, and great ships on the sea, does not own a single minute of tomorrow. Tomorrow! It is a mysterious possibility, not yet born. It lies under the seal of midnight–behind the veil of glittering constellations”.  E.H.Chaplin,Living words,notablequotes.com

 

“This day was yesterday tomorrow nam’d:
Tomorrow shall be yesterday proclaimed:
Tomorrow not yet come, not far away,
What shall tomorrow then be call’d? Today”.      Robert Owen,Today and Tomorrow,notablequotes.com

 

“People were always getting ready for tomorrow. I didn’t believe in that. Tomorrow wasn’t getting ready for them. It didn’t even know they were there”.    Cormac Mccarthy,The road,Notablequotes.com.  

What are your thoughts ?

Thank you.Philosophy Through Photography

 

Life is short….but you can live longer👍

Life is short...but you can live longer,long life
It’s a 3.4 minute read

The other day one of our exceptionally brilliant readers wondered, how the time is running so fast,we are in the middle of January,still we are dreaming….as if we celebrated new year just yesterday…is this not scarring? Life is moving so fast, refusing to wait !
I felt … it’s true

And shortly…the spring will run into summer and Summer chasing Fall and Fall merging with Winter in no time and soon we celebrate Christmas and eagerly waiting for the safe delivery of 2020 and in between many will be in touch with the Creator…
Then the thought of why can’t we live longer lingered in my mind!
Yes.Why not ?
All of you know life is awesome !

If you ask ,each one gives their own many reasons as to why they love to live longer.Very few say they want to die earlier.

Don’t you think there is so much of unfulfilled wishes to be full filled?
There is so much to do,so much to see,so much to enjoy,so much to learn,so much to discuss,so many new People to meet,new friends,new thoughts,new experiences….
…..oh my life ! My dear life…..and you think just 70-80 yrs of life is sufficient ?

There won’t be negative feelings or sadness or sorrow if one were to live forever.Of course ones health should be good,but this is possible as science is advancing and most probably in 2100 death can be delayed indefinitely.

But why you don’t want to die ?

It’s very simple my friend.Death means, all your taste for enjoying the good life gone.You miss the beauty of universe.You miss your near and dear.you miss unfinished jobs.you miss, loving your sweetheart.

OK.But Why do you wish to live forever ?

I have an answer.

Modern age is better than Iron age.Iron age was better than bronze age.Bronze age was better than stone age.
As things become better and better ,we wish to live longer.We starts inventing things where in death can be delayed.As technology advances,they day may not be far,where death can become optional.

What is the present scenario ?

  1. Living forever is not possible, but living longer is possible (quora)
  2. Eat & Drink Healthy
  3. Have sound mind and you can take correct decisions.
  4. Have a good social life.Have limited number of friends,who value the meaning of life just like you.
  5. Remember not to possess anger & Ego
  6. When you get up in the morning,first thing you do is to remember God and express your gratitude ,since you are breathing and lucky to be alive. 153,424 people won’t see another tomorrow ( WHO)

If you want to live longer – watch this clip. (  3 minute Video )

Thank you    Philosophy Through Photography

I have no Self-ie Control

I don't have self-ie control

With the selfies, a photographer has finally found his place in a photograph. Amit Kalantri

Professional Photographers can make a real kill,because of selfies.

As an amateur photographer,I realized that selfie makes one’s life miserable.

1.Selfies distort your face by 30 % .The truth is you look ugly.people are dejected for this and try to avoid the world.

2.Selfie face distortion making people do nose jobs and plastic surgeons have become busy .Some body even inventing app( commercialization),which is supposed to correct the distortion

3. People becoming obsessed and in the process getting depressed.

4. As a medical professional,I can tell you that regular usage of selfie can give you SELFIE WRIST, an emerging hazard in this digital era.Selfie wrist causes pain,numbness and tingling sensation in the hand.( carpal tunnel syndrome)
Doctor warns-rise in cases of selfie wrist

5.Hundreds and thousands are getting killed while trying to take selfies with India in the lead,followed by Russia.USA and Pakistan.
List of selfie related injuries and deaths ( Oct 2011-Jan 2019)

I conclude..

“The inventor of the mirror poisoned the human heart”.

Fernando Pessoa wiseoldsayings.com

How long will you be remembered after you die?

We all leave legacy be good are bad.And if you think you will be remembered for that,you are sadly mistaken.

That is what happens in life.

But once you are dead,do you really care whether any body remembers you at all !

Don’t be shocked to the fact that even your kith and kin forget you over the time.Don’t blame them !

My guess is if you leave a legacy of kindness may be you will be remembered for sometime.

Occasionally children may recollect what their dad or mom told them.
Wife or husband surely miss the other person and cherish the shared bonds from time to time.

What I am trying to tell is,the frequency of thinking of that person will be less and less as time moves on,though memories remain.( Memories can not fade)

Instead

Don’t you think it is a great feeling when people who are associated with you, remember you,when you are alive ?

I conclude…..

To strive to be remembered after death is a vain attempt to achieve immortality

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There is quiz too….to know how you will be remembered after you die ! ( just for Fun don’t take it seriously.)
how you will be remembered after death

Bullshit In the guise of True Love !

Bullshit in the guise of true love.

The most common lie uttered without thought, sincerity, resolve, or guilt: I love you. ‘unknown’

See this clip(117 seconds) before you proceed further.

Does true love exist? I dare !

Rabbi Dr.Abraham calls’Love out of selfishness’ is a Fish Love.He

says”Fish love is poisoning marriages,damaging homes and breaking

hearts”.

Sex,money or power will decide the intensity of the so-called true love.

you may blast me that ….I am,atrocious,stone-hearted, silly, crazy, cruel,disgusting and disappointing but I am not dejected,because one day you realize that none can show the true love without expecting something in return. And that day,you are sure to remember me!The love what you expect / or given is nothing but ‘fake love !

In this world no body is willing to give unconditional love,though they can, if really they want,but they won’t because of the inherent selfishness.

I shall give just 2 examples.My discussion is limited to so called ‘unbreakable human love’

1.Romanticizing love.(couples)

‘I love you beyond eternity’,

‘If loving is wrong,then I don’t want to be right ‘

‘My love for you is a journey starting at forever & ending never.

‘You’re the first boy I ever kissed Jake,and I want you to be the last'(hollywood dialogue-movie-sweet home Alabama)

‘I think I’d miss you even if we’d never met'( movie-wedding date)

If these things are true….Why you see so many cases of divorces?

2.If true love were there( parents vs children)…

Why there are so many old age homes and homes for destitute ? And what about.. Orphanage,Children homes ?

Ron Leighman in Quora (on love is bullshit)
“Because love is a fraudulent emotion, it doesn’t exist. They say the love you Blah blah blah. Then once you get/give them what they want they kick you to the curb like yesterdays garbage. You may as well expect it because it will happen. Expect it then you feel no pain when it happens”.

Are we into the ‘Fantasy Love’?

“Of all the lies you told me….’I love you’ was my favorite”.
Unknown

True love is possible only when the people concerned are mature enough ( this happens as they age ) to see both sides of the point of view.

Finally,the difference between True Love & Pure Love.

True Love may not be possible all the time ,but Pure Love is possible.

 

Loving what you get is compromise.

Getting what you love is Success.

Loving without caring whether you will get it or not is true love.

Loving even after you knowing that you won’t get it..is pure love.

Unknown

 

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Are you listening ?

Are you listening ?
You can agree with me or you can be wrong          etcy.com

It’s natural to think that you are right.But

experience should teach you that sometimes you are

not and that is wise to listen to others

Thank you  Philosophy Through Photography

 

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Family Quarrel

family quarrel

No family is perfect ! We argue,we fight,we even stop talking to each other at times,but in the end family is family….the love will always be there. quoteslover.com

Definition :To quarrel is to fight — but usually not physically.

Quarreling is a fact of life, occurring between the best of friends, in the happiest of marriages, and between parents and their children. vocabulary.com

It is a disagreement about something.

Why we quarrel in the very first place ?

Somewhere I read ( I am not able to recollect the source) what is known as BIG 5 causing friction, leading to argument. 1.Money, 2.sex, 3.raising kids, 4.in-laws and 5.house/office work.Of course one can broaden the BIG 5 into various sub-classes.

Disagreement can lead from just anger to outburst of pent-up feelings.

The quarrels can stretch from very few initially to increased frequency over the time.

The reasons can be from silly to far serious issues.

The whole problem is because none is willing to admit their mistakes, continue the arguments,even competing with each other, with ego factor playing an active role.

Whenever there is dispute remember,

“Family problems come in all sizes and shapes.Some are short-lived,easily managed,while others are more chronic and difficult to handle” unknown

What I am trying to tell is that it takes time to deal the problems and one must be patient.One must realize that,

“Families and their problems go on and they are not solved….they are dealt with”. Roger Ebert,

When we are friendly with the entire world ( don’t say…. this is because of survival instinct ),why can’t we show same friendliness to our family members?

You know the old adage

“You can choose the friends,but you can’t choose the family”

In other words,since blood is thicker than water, all the more you can’t afford to quarrel with your family members.

How best to avoid family quarrels ?

Some tips which I think,can help! ( My 12 commandments )

1.Stay calm in spite of the urge to respond angrily.Never raise your voice.

2.Be a good listener.

3.Reduce your emotional scale to zero.

4.Let there not be communication gap.Make it clear as to what the other person is saying and meaning.

5.Impress the other person,what actually you meant or intended to do.

6.Never bring the past or unrelated issues.

7.Try to solve the problem and not to win the argument.

8.Put yourself in the others shoes.

9.Don’t stockpile your issues and vent at a stretch irrelevantly.

10.forget & forgive

11.Take it easy.

12.Have faith in the Lord.

“Problems are like washing machines,they twist us,spin us,knock us around but in the end,we come out cleaner,brighter and better than before” – unknown

What are your thoughts ?

Thank you.   Philosophy through photography

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Does your mind wander during prayers ?

grayscale photography of man sitting on grass field

 

Are you able to concentrate on God and Just God alone and pray without any thoughts interfering the prayers ?

1.Are you the one doing just lip movements while praying,but wander in a different world full of one thought jumping over to the next?

2.This split second intrusion of your thoughts (whether negative or positive) during prayers really haunting you ? Is this making you guilty ?
If it is so, believe me …..you are not alone.

Is it because our brains have multiple components,each doing different jobs in quick succession, thus making us, difficult to concentrate ?

Are these intrusive thoughts, a basic human nature ? ( since we can not stop thoughts from the brain)

Can you control your mind when you are already burdened with your ‘Life’ ? (burden of life is a reality for all of us).

Is it possible to override these thoughts ?

How to solve this problem ?

So many questions…..but I am finding very difficult to get one perfect answer (though plenty of answers are available on the net,which I am not convinced) which helps to really concentrate on God nothing but God .
I don’t have an answer.Do you have one ? Please guide me.

Some say Meditation helps

“The goal of meditation is not to control your thoughts,it is to stop letting them control you”

theageofenlightement

Again I am not sure of Meditation and how it can help control ones’ mind,since mind sprouts the thoughts continuously.Mind won’t keep quite Even during the sleep, we are troubled by the thoughts in the form of Dreams!

My guess is just ignore them.And Pray God to put an end to these interfering thoughts.Or appeal to God for forgiveness and say “I trust you and I surrender”

Once we surrender with sincerity,God will appreciate.
Please share your thoughts and any solution ( I mean based on your experience), if at all available.Thank you in advance.

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My goal for 2019 !

Happy new year

My goal for 2019 is

To accomplish the goals of 2018,

Which I should have done in 2017,

Because I promised them in 2015,

And planned them in 2014……..

Jokes apart….

Let us be frank…..Most of us fail to achieve what we plan for the new year ! It’s alright ! Take a deep breath.Relax….

It is said 80% people fail to stick to their new year resolutions longer than six Weeks.Can you believe this ? Yes it’s true.

Sometimes failure is a motivation for achieving our task.Don’t get disappointed.I am one among you !

“Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try Again. Fail again. Fail better.”
Samuel Beckett 

I loved Samuel Beckett’s above quote…Fail better….

10 reasons why new year’s resolutions fail

To all the WP population there, Happy new year !

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