Which face you will wear to day ?

This is a 3 minute read,

“Everyone is a moon, and has a dark side which he never shows to anybody.”Mark Twain

I am not talking of the personality disorder which we come across in the Medical World…..I am talking about the normal,perfect down to earth gentlemen and gentlewomen, who invariably have two faces,sometimes many faces ( multifaceted indeed! )

“Everyone  has two faces but often we see only one side of them,so never judge anyone by their looks,because ,truth might surprise you” !    ‘unknown’

Have you any time seriously gazed your soul ?

I think we are all not just actors but great actors.Some examples,

1.You agree with me that wives hide (secrets) things from husbands, and husbands hide things from wives,but each will be talking to other sweetly and kindly.

2.All Men talk differently when they are with wives,and when the wives are not around.(men there… ..you know what I mean )

3. We preach our kids,but practice quite opposite.

4.Young boys and girls as lovers,constantly lie to each other which suits the situation.

5.We shout at our children and wives for no fault of theirs,but show sweet face to the boss,in spite of getting abused.

6.Married men ,when they come across a single woman, try,to attract her attention,but when wives are with them…it is a different behavior !

7.Our offline behavior is in contrast to our online behavior.You may be a beggar in real life ,but on social media you flaunt all your richness from nowhere !

8. You can see ,Professional child kidnapper/killer is a dedicated father to his kids.

I can go on and on…..

We all wear masks.

Let us be frank.And that is the way of life ! And we have to live that life if we want to survive in this wretched world.

And the worst part,you know…..even with God we play our duality !

“There’s a duality of a guy calling on God: ‘Where are you when I need you’ and the,at the same time .’God helps those who helps themselves.’…I think that contradiction does exist in all of us ,those of faith and those who profess to have no faith.  ‘JoeCornahan’

Now that we realized that all of us have two faces( dual personalities)….now it becomes even more scary.

“It’s not about who’s real to your face,

It’s about who’s real behind your back”   unknown

So be busy checking your back frequently !

And wishing and praying that, let 2019 bring just the single and original face of ours all the time !

Thank you  Philosophy through photography

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Have you ever hugged a troll ??

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How to win war on internet trolls?

This article is a 2.5 minute read.

This post is in response to my experience with a reader,who is from non-English speaking country, who mistook my English,and became angry.I fully understand this situation in this particular scenario.I even had to take help of fellow readers(English Pundits)

But many times we are not that fortunate( I mean language problem) and are abused by trolls.

Internet troll can become sometimes nasty and the person affected may lose sleep forever.

You can call Internet Troll as a polished version of mythical creatures in Scandinavian folklore.

Trolling is done by cowardly people,and they do because,they oppose somebody’s point of view or they derive pleasure by causing mental agony ( sadist ), or they hurt the feelings out of ignorance of the topic being discussed.They troll because they think that nobody knows their identity.

If you think trolls are after you…..what to do ?

Very simple.

Just Image You are hugging them…that’s all…. and move on by ignoring them.Don’t even respond,however strong the urge to react!

There are two kinds of Hugs.( my version)

1. Distant Hug-reach out to the person,when the occasion arises and hug in your imagination and you get peace of mind.

2.Physical hug-this you can call it as healing hug.

Time to Hug

Hugs are one of the reasons God gave us arms.So stretch out your arm to some one today.Reach out to those you love or do not love…it will warm the heart of the giver and give light to the soul of the recipients.

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Healing Hug

Hugging is a good medicine.Scientists say that hugging is a form of communication because it can say things you don’t have words for.

And the nicest thing about a hug is that you usually can’t give one without getting one

‘Unknown’

We are fortunate in WP since we are surrounded mostly by Gentlemen & Gentlewomen,who either agree or disagree…and there the matter ends !

How do you manage your trolls ?

Did anybody troll you ? lease share your experiences.

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Forgotten hygiene

“Take care of your body.

It’s the only place you have to live”

Jim Rohn

Good health is not just regular exercise or eating healthy food….

This topic is a 4 minute read.

So read this post completely , in case you got  just that much time.

Otherwise take your own time whenever you are free to read.

Some of my regular friends in WP wondered as to why I am not contributing some useful medical stuff,being in the Medical profession.

I understand,but as you already know there is a wealth of information already available on the net, and my wish, not to crowd the space further.But still I try to add one or two helpful topics.This is my 2 nd post, and the earlier post being,

Something we have been doing wrong all along

Everyone of us…I am sure ,aware of importance of Hygiene.

All of us are busy teaching our young ,the importance of not just hygiene,but also personal hygiene.

Some examples of personal hygiene include

Regular bath,Regular brushing the teeth along with flossing,Trimming the nails,Regular washing of the hands,Regular shaving of arm pit and pubic hair,trimming the nostril hair,women maintaining hygiene during menstrual time(just washing with fresh water),for men in non circumcision cases thoroughly removing the smegma,anal hygiene (washing with fresh water after defecation),keeping our nostrils clean,cleaning the external ear pits regularly etc.etc

But surprisingly our teaching to the kid  never includes HYGIENE of the Belly Button or Navel which in the medical world it is known by the name umbilicus.

How many of you stand in front of the mirror and just have a look at the belly button on a regular basis ? (Navel gazing literally !! )

Belly button,as you all know is the scar left behind by the umbilical cord Which gets removed after birth.

OK, as you are aware as the stump of the umbilical cord gets dried up it forms a pit during the process of healing.

Is there any purpose of the belly button after birth ?

Yes.

1.Medically

It helps in dividing the abdomen into quadrants,1.helping the physician to identify the cause of the symptom,2. can be used for blood transfusion in the new-born,3.Helpful for having laparoscopic ports.4.Any bulge of the navel indicates intra abdominal pathology.

2.Fashion ,society and culture

includes Midriff,

Crop-top

Navel-piercing

Belly Dance

Why Hygiene of belly button important ?

1. Belly button (pit) is a source of 2,368 different species of bacteria/fungi ,waiting to strike at the next available opportunity.

2. If you are male and hairy, or a person with belly button piercing,or you are a person in the habit of liberally spraying  talcum powder on your body, you can notice over the time collection of the lint or fluff ( a mixture of cloth fibers,hair follicles) and over the time it becomes smelly and ripe for bacterial/fungal infection and later pus formation.

3. The deeper your belly button pit,the greater the collection of dirt and germs, and just like these germs make your armpit smelly, here also the germs along with dirt collection give a foul smell and soon you can notice redness of the surrounding skin,pain and even pus discharge.

Notice above how the Lint/Fluff appears.The example above is large enough to be visualised.Intially it is small in size difficult to visualise.

Fortunately hygiene aspect of belly button is easy,only if we care to follow on a regular basis.

Just watch this video and learn how to clean the belly button. ( 1 mt-40 seconds clip)

Thank you for your patient reading !

My post is incomplete if I don’t mention One Australian Gentleman by name Graham Barkers,who holds the world record for collecting his own navel fluff stuff (lint) every day for 26 years.Check the following link.

Librarian enters Guinness book of world records for collecting belly button fluff

Navel fluff/lint

Navel fluff/lint source -feargod.net/fluff

 

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Merry Christmas

Merry Christmas

The journey of life is with many twists & turns

But with faith & courage

No obstacle can stop you from reaching the goal,

Keep faith,peace and kindness in your heart,

and you shall always shine.

Merry Christmas

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It has always been you and it will always be you….

Loyalty

“When you get married, your loyalty, first and foremost, is to your spouse, and to the family that you create together.”                                                                                                                         – Phil McGraw, quoteambition.com

 

When you feel that every person in this world has deserted you,

You are never truly alone,

I am still there for you

Take a moment,right here ,right now,

and thank them for that

No mater how bad your day is,

there is always a happy face

waiting for you

to get home.

‘unknown’

 

 

 

To me ‘drink responsibly’ means don’t spill it!!

Responbile drinking

When you make tough choices,try to imagine if you will regret it in 10 years ‘pinterest’

 

Life is a series of choices.The choices we make now affect the options

avaiable for the next round of choices.T.J.Taylor

 

You say it’s your life,therefore your decisions,but are you aware that your

choices will not affect only you,but also those around you,who care and

love you dearly even if you aren’t aware of that.So make the right decision

and choices in life to make not only yourself proud and happy but also

those around you. Unknown

 

We all make choices,But in the end our choices make usRitu Ghatourey

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Love is scarce- Really ?

The only thing we never get enough of is love; and the only thing we

never give enough of is love.

Henry Miller

Why this happens ?

We all  think that, Love means romance.But it is not so.

There are 7 types of love.

  1. Storge- Familial love
  2. Phila-friendship ( shared goodwill)
  3. Eros-Sexual or passionate love
  4. Agape-Universal love ( unconditional love)
  5. Ludus-Playful or uncommitted love
  6. Pragma- Long term love ( married people)
  7. Philautia-self love ( healthy or unhealthy)

( source Psychologytoday.com, Quora)

My discussion is limited to the married couple.

Think for a second.

Can you tell  the difference between ‘school and life‘ ?

” In school you are taught a lesson and then given a test.

  In life,you are given a test,that teaches you the lesson” Tom Bodett

So what I am trying to tell is Life gives an opportunity to learn lessons  from our experience, in this situation….. day to day problems faced by the couple,thus making them more accommodating,understanding and helpful to each other.

Thus we can become wiser by experiencing these experiences.

But here is the hitch.

The problem comes in the unknown form of ‘E G O nullifying all the benefits of life’s lessons,which we learn over the course of time.

Why can’t we make an attempt to look into this ? Why can not we prevent this disease before it strikes us ?

When we are able to manage life style diseases with sugar-free,fat-free,salt free,gluten-free etc. etc….why can’t we give a try for Ego- free ?

The only way to achieve peace and harmony is becoming ‘EGO LESS’,

and this should be the  ultimate outcome of your life’s lessons,if you

are willing to learn.

Another aspect is ,to be able to differentiate, the difference between love & Possession.Don’t think ,just because you love the person…you got right to possess the person.( as if the person is a property)

Remember love is selfless,coming from the bottom of the heart with total dedication,sincerity and commitment to lead a supportive life together.

And so…..

We make our life miserable because we never make an attempt to understand the full potential of true love,and thus we make ‘love’ scarce in spite of its abundance.

True Love gives you, the real experience of what all you dream and

Ego gives you, all the heartache.

“A flower cannot blossom without sunshine, and man cannot live without love”. – Max Muller

 

Thirsty Thursday

Thirsty Thursday

To go with coffee or……..

 

Thirsty Thursday

……….to go with good spirit

My life is 50% wondering

If it’s  too late to drink Coffee

And 50% wondering

If it’s is too early to drink Alcohol

What is your advice my friends?……..I remember a proverb in English ‘A Friend in need is A friend indeed’

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What Consumes Your Mind, Controls Your Life

SUCCESS INSPIRERS' WORLD

Guy in a train looking outside.

Ten years ago, if someone told me to think positive, I would break eye contact and walk away. Whenever I found myself in a tough situation, either at work, college or in social life, I would be in a bad mood and push people away. My whole mindset became dark and I could only hear were my own negative thoughts. I didn’t realise the damage I was doing to myself and others around me. When I do realise, that’s when my life started to change. I wanted to change the way I think and more importantly, the way I live my life.

In those ten years, I started to read books and blogs on self-improvement and dealing with challenges. From everything that I’ve read, there is one sentence that stayed with me:

“What consumes your mind, controls yourlife.”

That’s when everything made sense to me.I know now that my negative attitude…

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Are you the ‘Difficult Spouse’ ?

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Real relationships are not perfect and perfect relationships are not real !!

If you are a wife or husband and on many occasions you think you are disappointed because of the other…..and think the other is the ‘difficult spouse’…. then this article is for you.

I am thankful to you if you felt there is something wrong in either of the parties and the mistake can be rectified easily.

There are two types of marriages.( Marriages are made in heaven.Is itn’t ?)

1.Love marriage

2.Arranged marriage ( In most of the eastern countries )

Irrespective of the type of marriage,both the man and the woman of his love have to adjust with each other in order to be compatible.

In fact, post marriage life is full of challenges and it exposes the couple to myriads of issues.

But we all know the truth.

One day or other both the man & the woman have to face unpleasant situation of opposing & different opinions and views, in matters of their day-to-day ‘living together’

The reality of the so-called colourful future has to show its fangs,since it is waiting to strike first !

Once the misunderstanding happens and prolongs….There are two options available

  1. You decided you are not going to adjust at all...then Apply for divorce and probably matter can come to end to the mutual satisfaction,and thus ending the very discussion I am trying to make.
  2. If the above choice is not the option due to so many other pressing matters,( which is a bit lengthy topic, for some other time discussion ) and you both have to live together,and you have to go along with the spouse….thus making the ‘misunderstanding part’ useless and even unnecessary.

Why to quarrel at all in the first place ?

Now it’s time to think.

1.Realize that ‘ married happily ever after ‘ is an illusion ( Maya )
2.Understand that Wife & Husband belong to the same team and they have to work

together for the success of their married life.

“Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor. For if either of them falls, the one will lift up his companion. But woe to the one who falls when there is not another to lift him up.

Ecclesiastes4.9-10

3.We often hurt our spouse knowingly or unknowingly.Do you know the solution ? Ask for ‘forgiveness’ whole heartedly.

4.When Anger or Helplessness happens to one of you…just take a deep breath and allow the heated moment to pass.Don’t forget.. time’s the greatest healer.

5.Remember marriage is a vow,before God.

Now it’s time to put the following into action.

Don’t allow discord to remain ,not more than one minute,and your anger not more than a second.

Don’t be bossy and do not take one another for granted.

Respect individual feelings & make mutual adjustments

Make sincere effort to avoid jealousy and Ego & revenge,be the first to make the other win the argument.( small trick I tell you…remember whoever does most talking is the one at fault )

Don’t deprive each other of your needs just to take the revenge

Keep communicating,by which I mean try to find where exactly things are going wrong.

Constantly tell to yourself….

Forget & forgive,

I can go also wrong,

live & let live,

let us make best,out of the difficult situation,

I trust you.

Finally

I asked an old man “which is more important? To love or to be loved?”
Old man replied “which is more important to a bird, the left wing or the right wing?” – MarriageHumor, Instagram

A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers – Robert Quillen

A perfect marriage is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.-yourtango.com

A marriage is a like a house. When a light bulb goes out, you do not go and buy a new house, you fix the light bulb. – Happy Wives Club

Marriage is meant to keep people together, not just when things are good, but particularly when they are not. That’s why we take marriage vows, not wishes. – Ngina Otiende

 

Any thoughts on being the Difficult Spouse ?

which of the above quotes ,you thing sends the perfect message ?

Thanks for being a patient reader and reaching this point.

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O bed! O bed! delicious bed! That heaven upon earth to the weary head. -Thomas Hood

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Lion never loses sleep over the opinions of Sheep

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LIFE GOES ON……..

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just don’t care.Let me grab some sleep !

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Keep calm & let me have a peaceful sleep!

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Tiresome journey,Please ignore us !

“Now, blessings light on him that first invented sleep!

It covers a man all over, thoughts and all, like a cloak;

it is meat for the hungry,

drink for the thirsty,

heat for the cold,

and cold for the hot.

It is the current coin that purchases all the pleasures of the world

cheap, and the balance that sets the king and the shepherd, the fool

and the wise man, even”.

~Miguel de Cervantes, Don Quixote, 1605

The Happiness Of Your Life Depends On The Quality Of Your Thoughts!!

 

The most dangerous thief is unwholesome thought.
GAUTAMA BUDDHA, The Gospel of Buddha

Destiny……

A person’s destiny is everything that  happens to them during their life,

including what will  happen in the future, especially when it is considered to be

controlled  by someone or something else.

Collins dictionary

Destiny…..I believe, it is because of our thoughts

Thought process is the cause & Effect of which is Destiny.

I am sure you would have never given a thought or two about this !

Be careful of your thoughts, for your thoughts become your words.

Be careful of your words, for your words become your actions.

Be careful of your actions, for your actions become your habits.

Be careful of your habits, for your habits become your character.

Be careful of your character, for your character becomes your destiny.
– Chinese proverb, author unknown

Once you are aware of the destiny...take the challenge

“When we least expect it, life sets us a challenge to test our courage and

willingness to change; at such a moment, there is no point in pretending that

nothing has happened or in saying that we are not ready. The challenge will not

wait. Life does not look back. A week is more than enough time for us to decide

whether or not to accept our destiny.”

– Paulo Coelho, Quotes from The Devil and Miss Prym

Now coming to Fate……

Fate is a power that some people believe controls and decides everything that happens,in a way that cannot be prevented or changed.

Collins Dictionary 

“Fate doesn’t ask you what you want,fate knows what is best,even if you don’t know”

‘Quotegram.com’

“Accept the things to which fate binds you, and love the people with whom fate
brings you together, but do so with all your heart”.
Marcus Aurelius

What is your take on this ?

I believe that my destiny depends on my fate !  Do you agree with me ?

 

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You wanna know… who you’re to me ?

You are my life

One day you will ask me which is more important? My life or yours? I will say mine and you will walk away not knowing that you are my life.
Khalil Gibran

Never waste your time trying to explain who you are to people who are committed to misunderstanding you

Dream Hampton

Men are actually the weaker sex.Shocked ?

“Men are actually the weaker sex” George Weinberg
Woman stronger than man

Never underestimate the power of a woman’s intuition. Some women can recognize a game before you even play it. ‘Strong woman quote’

If you are confused  check this link
1.A man does what he can; a woman does what a man cannot.

—Isabel Allende

2.A woman has the last word in any argument. Anything a man says after that is the
beginning of a new argument.

—Anonymous

3.Here’s all you have to know about men and women: women are crazy, men are
stupid. And the main reason women are crazy is that men are stupid.

—Hussein Nishah

4.Sure God created man before woman, but then again you always make a rough
draft before creating the final masterpiece.

—Anonymous

5.It takes one woman twenty years to make a man of her son—and another woman
twenty minutes to make a fool of him.

—Helen Rowland

6.Men have grown embarrassingly weak, but only through observation. Their
resolve can easily be broken by a woman. Their emotions can be easily manipulated
by a woman. Their power can be easily taken by a woman. Their pride can be easily
stripped by a woman. Their entire life can easily be ruined by a woman. While
physically stronger, their manipulative prowess can be wittingly outclassed by a
woman. And while their dreams are stronger, the realities of women are stronger.

—Lionel Suggs

Men over there……. simply accept the fate and keep quite…Shh…tell not anybody,specially your girl friends !!


Love pain-how strong you are ?

Love pain

The most beautiful line is ” But I love you ” The most painful line is “I love you ,but..”

“Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn’t it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up.”
― Neil Gaiman, The Kindly Ones

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Universal rules- Rule No 1.King is always right Rule No 2 If the King is wrong,then follow the rule no 1,(ie,the King is always right).

Blame game

A man can fail many times, but he isn’t a failure until he begins to blame somebody else. John Burroughs

Blame Game

Be frank.We all indulge in blame game,whatever may be the nature of the problem we face, because we don’t wish to take the responsibility .We even argue that we are always correct,and the other is at fault.( remember the rules…the king is always correct ! )

Very rare to find people,who blame themselves.

The  unlaid rule is  I can never go wrong !

Why it is so ? Let us think.

We all lie,and learnt the art during childhood and fine tune it as we grow, and to escape the situation,’lie’ comes handy.

By blaming others, you are in a defensive mood,and can pass the buck easily.

“Blame is a beautiful thing, baby. Blame keeps this whole planet spinning. You can point your finger at the next man, you can shift the weight onto him, you don’t have to carry that shit around yourself. You can slide into bed and get a good night’s nap. Yeah, right”.

Narrator Augustus Hill ( played by Harold Perrineau) from Oz tv series

Remember,

Blame is fascinating –

“it shapes our lives. It can be a benign way of positioning ourselves, a gentle joust or banter, or it can be poisonous, hurtful or devastating for its victims. It can tear apart marriages and fracture work relationships; it can disable major social programmes; it can inflict damage on powerful corporations; it can bring down governments; it can start wars and justify genocides”.

Stephen Fineman, The Blame Business: The Uses and Misuses of Accountability

Don’t forget,

“All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with another, and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not change you. The only thing blame does is to keep the focus off you when you are looking for external reasons to explain your unhappiness or frustration. You may succeed in making another feel guilty about something by blaming him, but you won’t succeed in changing whatever it is about you that is making you unhappy.”       Wayne Dyer

Any thoughts on how not to get trapped by the Blame game ?

Please share your views.

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That precious time……between life and death…What can happen ?

That precious time between life & death

There is a time for departure even when there’s no certain place to go.                     Tennessee Williams

“There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven:

a time to be born and a time to die,

a time to plant and a time to uproot,

a time to kill and a time to heal,

a time to tear down and a time to build,

a time to weep and a time to laugh,

a time to mourn and a time to dance,

a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them,

a time to embrace and a time to refrain,

a time to search and a time to give up,

a time to keep and a time to throw away,

a time to tear and a time to mend,

a time to be silent and a time to speak,

a time to love and a time to hate,

a time for war and a time for peace.

Ecclesiastes 3:1-8

Don’t you agree that,We have to leave things to the decision of the Almighty instead of questioning His wisdom ?

“What have you lost that you cry for?

What did you bring, that you have lost?

What did you create that was destroyed?

What you have taken has been from here, what you gave has been given here.

What belongs to you today belonged to someone yesterday and will be someone else’s tomorrow.

Change is the law of the universe”.

Bhagavad-Gita

What has to happen will happen for good or bad and let us accept things with folded hands by surrendering to His wishes. And His Wishes can not be explained or questioned  or analyzed as to the logic. I mean if something bad/good  happening……just leave things to His wisdom.

Just let things  go ….as it happens !

If you think I am  crazy….it’s OK

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