Accept it.We all indulge in ‘Blame Game’

Blame game

Blame is a beautiful thing, baby. Blame keeps this whole planet spinning. You can point your finger at the next man, you can shift the weight onto him, you don’t have to carry that shit around yourself. You can slide into bed and get a good night’s nap. Yeah, right.

Narrator-Augustus Hill ( played by Harold Perrineau) from Oz tv series
Remember,

Blame is fascinating – it shapes our lives. It can be a benign way of positioning ourselves, a gentle joust or banter, or it can be poisonous, hurtful or devastating for its victims. It can tear apart marriages and fracture work relationships; it can disable major social programmes; it can inflict damage on powerful corporations; it can bring down governments; it can start wars and justify genocides.
Stephen Fineman, The Blame Business: The Uses and Misuses of Accountability

Don’t forget,

“All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with another, and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not change you. The only thing blame does is to keep the focus off you when you are looking for external reasons to explain your unhappiness or frustration. You may succeed in making another feel guilty about something by blaming him, but you won’t succeed in changing whatever it is about you that is making you unhappy.” Wayne Dyer
Any thoughts on how not to get trapped by the Blame game ?
Please share your views.

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    • Thank you so much bittomlesscofee007.I gone through the link.Your articlation the ‘blame game’ is excellent.The telephone message concept is interesting and the truth is,how a simple message can get twisted into a complex one and reaches the level sufficient enough to start a blame game.
      I could not agree more with the quote,followed by your statement “The idiot sees the world as Good vs Evil. The cynic sees the world as Evil vs Evil. The truth that no one seems able to see is that the world is, and always has been, a battle of Good vs. Good.

      — Norm Macdonald (@normmacdonald) June 25, 2018

      I think Norm Macdonald summed it up very accurately. On both sides we believe that only our aspect is the right one, in the meantime, we demand that the other side is forced into compliance with our values and beliefs.”

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  1. Blame seems to be a subset of accountability. The difference being, blame involves moral judgment — you’re bad because you’re to blame. Accountability is simply fact oriented, without the moralism. “You are in a position to do something about this, so you are at least partly accountable for the situation.”

    I don’t think blame is of much use. I tend to think you and Bottomlesscoffee are usually right in that it’s good vs. good most often in life.

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    • Thank you Paul Sunstone. I liked your analysis of blame with two components one being moral,where in one can be true to oneself and the other being accountability,which takes care of the responsibility.Alas we live in this world,where everybody has to be right,never wrong!!
      Ref .the following universal rule
      Rule No 1.King is always right
      Rule No 2 If the King is wrong,then follow the rule no 1,ie ,the King is always right.

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  2. I like this. I studied Wayne Dyer too and he was one of the best.

    This seems to be so appropriate for today for me. I was attempting to call the office of the owners of the low-income mobile home park where I live, and a woman answered the phone with “What the ‘f . . .k’ do you want?” She did not say the name of the business, or anything to identify herself. Nor did she have any clue as to who I was as I have never spoken to her before or even to anyone at that office. This was just how it was answered. I was taken aback. I have been trying to get my contract credited for when it actually started (vs what they are showing) for more than a year now without success. So far they had just ignored every request though I ask every month in writing to the manager of the park, who always gives excuses. I have evidence from my bank for every single payment made, a number which are missing in their accounting.

    Now am I playing the blame game? I don’t think so. I am requesting something I have a right to, a legal issue. This woman and her husband, owners of this park, are attorneys, and apparently some of the nastiest. When she answered the phone, she had no clue who she was talking to. I did not get an opportunity to even ask, but after being so shocked, I did finally ask if I was speaking to the office of the owners of the park. Every word that came out of her mouth was nasty to the point where even someone who does not care to play the blame game would be tempted.

    I am not the person that they are apparently used to dealing with. I am formally educated and at 76 years young, I have had many successful careers and my own businesses, and I have been a teacher and paraeducator for special needs children for more than 15 years. I have started a nonprofit to assist physically challenged artists and ran that for 15 years too. Now the fact that I am low-income is my choice, not necessity. I have always elected first to assist others in this world where I am best able.

    I am wondering if this is the blame game. I think that there are times like this when things happen for which we have no rhyme or reason, and then it is difficult to know how to respond. I am not blaming anyone in my mind, but I AM shocked at this kind of behavior. I just want what I believe I have a right to have. I thought of responding to her kindly, for I don’t like to play the threat game, etc. either. I really don’t like to play any game, and for the moment at least, I just have to get my senses together again and try to figure out how to deal with this.

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    • Hi,Anne Copeland,Thanks for the visit and taking time to express your feelings.It looks like the world is not for senior citizens.Everywhere we find such type of behavious from younger generations who never hesitate to take pride ininsulting the seniors. I fully sympathise with your cause.Hope things will settle amicably.You are not playing any blame game,but they want you to trap in the blame game.Since you have the proof,technically it should not be difficult.I have noticed in many TV series and Hollywood movies,the lawers are always shown intimidating.Thank you for the detailes response and glad you liked the post and the quote.

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