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Marriages are made in Heaven 

Do you agree ? or it’s a Myth ?

Those who believe in this, say that,

It was God himself, who united a man and a woman in marriage ( Gen 2:24 ) Marriage therefore is a divine institution, not a human one ( Mat 19:6 ).Consequently God, not man, has the right to define, the terms of the institution.   Jay Adams

And the explanations given are……

1. There is a Cosmic Power that is responsible for the actions of people and marriage is decided even before one is born.

2 .Marriage is 100 % destined since it is under the influence of the Almighty.

3. Whether it is arranged marriage or Love marriage, the same Cosmic power is deciding the events to be unfolded for the perfect Date of the marriage

Those who don’t believe in the proverb have plenty of explanations, as to where the Almighty has utterly failed.

Some of the important questions put by them…

1.If the proverb is true, why there are so many Divorces, so frequently ?

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Divorce happening at the drop of a hat. Causes extending from silly reasons to financial problems to infidelity to substances of abuse…….you name it, it’s there and can lead to divorce.

2 .Domestic violence

  • Physical Violence
  • throwing
  • Beating
  • Slapping
  • Hitting
  • Biting
  • Kicking
  • Punching
  • Pushing
  • Shoving
  • Causing body injury or pain in any other manner

Less said better, since these things are happening in so called developed world,developing world and underdeveloped world.

3.Couple incompatibility

“Are you a compatible couple ?

Compatibility comes from Latin Compati, meaning ‘to suffer with’. If you are not willing to suffer with someone until death do you part. Then you are not compatible”  @Jasonevert

No two persons are the same. Even if you think that they are same in their interests and personalities ,still their individual reactions to the demanding situations vastly vary.

4. Ego clash

“I have never yet met with anything that was dearer to any one than his own self”  Buddha

“The only person I’ll marry is myself. Believe me, my ego is that big ”   

No body can help if one is not able to avoid Egoistic attitude

5. Couple in illusion mode

Don’t rush to fall in love, because even in fairy tales, the happy ending takes place in the last page   Jarofquotes.com

Many of us believe in Hollywood or Bollywood version of romance, passion, sex, hero kissing the heroine, lots of colorful fireworks in the background, decorated Horse, waiting for the couple, forever romance and happy endings.

There is enormous difference between living ‘Happily ever after andHappily ever before ‘

“So they were married ,to be the more together and found that they were never again so much together Divided by the morning tea, By the  evening paper, By children and tradesmen’s bills”. Louis MacNeice   

One has to face the reality . Things are different-,like arrival of children, loans, dealing with in laws, unnecessary fighting’, controlling anger etc .etc.

6.Extra Marital Affairs

Call it middle age crisis or fun and after a few years of married life ,people get bored, loose passion for love and start searching for new ways to get boost to their sexual need. These are occasions when one needs self control.

Ultimately Who are we to question the Wisdom of the God ?

My feeling is, to let wife & husband recognize all their strengths and Weaknesses and be helpful to each other and their family at the same time knowing and even realizing the Greatness of what is known as Institution of Marriage

“It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.” Friedrich Nietzsche

Happy couples
A Happy relationship is made up of two good Forgivers

Behind every happy couple, lies two people who have fought hard to overcome all obstacles and interference be that way .Why ?? Because it’s what they wanted. ‘  unknown


Marriages are made in Heaven, but maintained here.

Wedding is an occasion but marriage is for life,

Are you maintaining yours?

There is a difference between  a well maintained car and that never goes for service!”

Kugume Karori

Glad, You reached this point .Kindly share your views and ideas on ‘Institution of Marriage’

Thank you. Namaste  🙏🙏🙏

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