Wife & Husband -Can’t they be best friends for life ?
Marriages are made in Heaven ,that is the quote. Do you agree ? or it’s a Myth ?
Those who believe in this, say that,
1. There is a Cosmic Power that is responsible for the actions of people and marriage is decided even before one is born. 2 .Marriage is 100 % destined since it is under the influence of the Almighty.
3. Whether it is arranged marriage or Love marriage,the same Cosmic power is deciding the events to be unfolded for the perfect Date of the marriage
Those who don’t believe in the proverb have plenty of explanations,as to where Almighty has utterly failed.
1.If the proverb is true,why there are so many Divorces,so frequently ?
Divorce happening at the drop of a hat.Causes extending from silly reasons to financial problems to infidelity to substances of abuse…….you name it..it’s there and can lead to divorce.
2 .Domestic violence
Less said better,since these things are happening in so called developed world,developing world and underdeveloped world.
3. Couple Incompatibility. What is couple incompatibility ?
No two persons are the same.even if you think that they are same in their interests and personalities ,still their individual reactions to the demanding situations vastly vary.
4. Ego clash
“I have never yet met with anything that was dearer to any one than his own self” — -Buddha
No body can help if one is not able to avoid Egoistic attitude
5. Couple in illusion mode.
Many of us believe in Hollywood or Bollywood version of romance,passion,sex,hero kissing the heroine,lots of colourful fireworks in the background,decorated Horse cart,waiting for the couple,forever romance and happy endings.There is enormous difference between living ‘Happily ever after ‘ and ‘Happily ever before ‘
“So they were married ,to be the more together and found that they were never again so much together Divided by the morning tea, By the evening paper,By children and tradesmen’s bills”. English poet Louis MacNiece
One has to face the reality . Things are different-,like arrival of children,loans,dealing with in laws,unnecessary fighting’,controlling anger etc.etc.
6.Extra Marital Affairs
Call it middle age crisis or fun and after a few years of married life ,people get bored,loose passion for love and start searching for new ways to get boost to their sexual need.These are occasions when one needs self control.
Ultimately Who are we to question the Wisdom of the God ?
My feeling is to let wife & husband recognise all their strengths and Weaknesses and be helpful to each other and their family at the same time knowing and even realising the Greatness of what is known as Institution of Marriage.
Behind every happy couple, lies two people who have fought hard to overcome all obstacles and interference to be that way .Why ?? Because it’s what they wanted. ‘ unknown’
Glad,You reached this point .Kindly share your views and ideas on ‘Institution of Marriage’
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